In real life, sometimes people don't know when to NOT TALK when someone they care about is hurting. Instead of saying things out loud and forcing / expecting the person who's hurting to engage, the friend / family member / significant other can still find non-verbal ways to be supportive.
Such is the case with Ep 18, when Zan is crying after earlier experiencing horrific flashbacks at the company team-building event.
Ran comes out of the bedroom where she had been waiting for Zan, and walks into the room where he is sitting on the couch, wiping his face because he doesn't want her to see him upset. But the viewer (and she) can still clearly see some tears on his cheeks. Plus Ran had seen him crying before she walked into the room.
But instead of sitting down next to him and just holding his hand, or wrapping her arms around him, or maybe even just sitting close but not touching......and not talking....... just letting him process his thoughts and calm down while she's there quietly being supportive........she - knowing FULL WELL that his trauma is MUCH deeper than hers especially since his friend died, and knowing full well (since she talked to the therapist at the hospital) that he has severe PTSD - decides to verbally engage while he's still very upset.
Having been through some trauma of my own and needing to be with someone who understood that some things just cannot be talked about right away........that scene was SO freaking disappointing. I am seriously not happy with the writing.
But that's just me.
I have the feeling viewers would have absolutely understood the scene if she did not talk, but instead just sat quietly with him. SILENCE is not a story-killer, if it's used effectively and fits into the story well.
WHY THE F can't Asian dramas show women who are TIRED of the parental bullsh!t?
WHY THE F can't Asian dramas show women that STAND UP for themselves when people around them - ESPECIALLY PARENTS - are screaming at them, telling them they need to be a certain way or act a certain way??
WHY THE F didn't Song Ran just POUND HER FIST on a table and tell her mother to SHUT UP???
I am SO ANGRY with this RELENTLESS drama trope that Asian women have to put up with that kind of crap throughout their lives.
NO. THEY. DON'T!!!!
They DO NOT have to be the "good daughter" if they don't want to.
They DO NOT have to marry if they won't want to.
They DO NOT have to live their lives according to the parents' wishes.
They DO NOT have to be bullied at work by a-hole bosses and bitchy co-workers.
WHEN THE F are Asian dramas going to join the 21st century?????
It's not bad, it's even quite interesting because that's not a subject you can often see represented in a drama…
"they should stop with this silly cliché that some manly man will fall in love and is suddenly physically attracted to only one man"
I personally, in real life, know a guy that exact thing happened to.
He was married for 19 years, then got divorced. He and his wife had two children. They were 18 and 17 at the time of the divorce.
He was alone for several years.
He met a guy - he had never been in a relationship with or even had a crush on another guy before - and they fell in love.
They were together for just under 5 years when his partner was diagnosed with cancer and died less than a year later.
He is now 62 years old and has been alone again for almost 8 years. He says he's not attracted to, or even thinks about, other guys. The only man he was ever attracted to and fell in love with was his late partner.
Somehow I missed this series. Just started watching it, and....while somewhat cute....it's got one ANNOYING AF quality that is hard to get past.
I don't understand when writers create characters that are DELIBERATELY written as stupid and clueless about reading a room, understanding social protocols in everyday situations such as the "first day at work" situation, etc.
The character of Cher is written that way ^^^^ and I almost didn't make it through the first episode. MY GOD his character is a huge turnoff.
From the first few seconds of the first episode, it started.
And it just got worse.
And then I got to the part with the employee meeting. Holy crap.
Cher (an intern at a gaming company) stands outside the meeting room, shouting "KNOCK KNOCK KNOCK" because he can't be bothered to put down the bag of coffees he has brought and **actually** knock on the door.
Then he walks into the middle of the employee meeting, hands out the coffees to everyone, and interrupts the meeting by blurting something out. Then his "friend" (who helped him get the internship) silently mouths at him to leave.
Cher stands there IN THE MIDDLE OF THE MEETING acting like he doesn't understand what his friend is trying to tell him, loudly blurting out "HUH???" and "WHAT ARE YOU SAYING?" DURING THE MEETING.
It this just laziness on the part of the writers? They needed a clueless, ANNOYING AF character foil to the handsome-but-cold boss?
I honestly don't know if I even want to go on to the second episode, if it's just going to be like this. Geez.
they went all out with the overt advertisements on ep 8
MANY K-dramas and Thai dramas do that. It's annoying AF and stands out like a store thumb because they always have to repeat a short script for the product. And the script ALWAYS stands out as a obvious advertisement. It never fits into the scene seamlessly.
Question - is it possible that the girlfriend and the roommate are secretly seeing each other? They seem to be "at work" or "with a late client" or "away on business" or "staying with family" at the same time.
As others have said, "The Day I Loved You" is a hidden gem. It's a sweet, heartwrenching story, so be prepared to cry a few times. The ending is both sad and hopeful.
What gets me most about this series is the ACTING. It's SO natural and comfortable. I'm floored. Seriously, some of the best young actors I've ever seen.
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In real life, sometimes people don't know when to NOT TALK when someone they care about is hurting. Instead of saying things out loud and forcing / expecting the person who's hurting to engage, the friend / family member / significant other can still find non-verbal ways to be supportive.
Such is the case with Ep 18, when Zan is crying after earlier experiencing horrific flashbacks at the company team-building event.
Ran comes out of the bedroom where she had been waiting for Zan, and walks into the room where he is sitting on the couch, wiping his face because he doesn't want her to see him upset. But the viewer (and she) can still clearly see some tears on his cheeks. Plus Ran had seen him crying before she walked into the room.
But instead of sitting down next to him and just holding his hand, or wrapping her arms around him, or maybe even just sitting close but not touching......and not talking....... just letting him process his thoughts and calm down while she's there quietly being supportive........she - knowing FULL WELL that his trauma is MUCH deeper than hers especially since his friend died, and knowing full well (since she talked to the therapist at the hospital) that he has severe PTSD - decides to verbally engage while he's still very upset.
Having been through some trauma of my own and needing to be with someone who understood that some things just cannot be talked about right away........that scene was SO freaking disappointing. I am seriously not happy with the writing.
But that's just me.
I have the feeling viewers would have absolutely understood the scene if she did not talk, but instead just sat quietly with him. SILENCE is not a story-killer, if it's used effectively and fits into the story well.
https://kisskh.at/765955-this-love-doesn-t-have-long-beans
They were a couple in Pit Babe, too.
From my post:
"WHY THE F can't Asian dramas show women ...."
WHY THE F can't Asian dramas show women who are TIRED of the parental bullsh!t?
WHY THE F can't Asian dramas show women that STAND UP for themselves when people around them - ESPECIALLY PARENTS - are screaming at them, telling them they need to be a certain way or act a certain way??
WHY THE F didn't Song Ran just POUND HER FIST on a table and tell her mother to SHUT UP???
I am SO ANGRY with this RELENTLESS drama trope that Asian women have to put up with that kind of crap throughout their lives.
NO. THEY. DON'T!!!!
They DO NOT have to be the "good daughter" if they don't want to.
They DO NOT have to marry if they won't want to.
They DO NOT have to live their lives according to the parents' wishes.
They DO NOT have to be bullied at work by a-hole bosses and bitchy co-workers.
WHEN THE F are Asian dramas going to join the 21st century?????
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It's annoying beyond description. EVERY freaking GMMTV production is like that.
PLEASE just let them speak NORMALLY.
But yes, it absolutely sounded like she was propositioning him.
I personally, in real life, know a guy that exact thing happened to.
He was married for 19 years, then got divorced. He and his wife had two children. They were 18 and 17 at the time of the divorce.
He was alone for several years.
He met a guy - he had never been in a relationship with or even had a crush on another guy before - and they fell in love.
They were together for just under 5 years when his partner was diagnosed with cancer and died less than a year later.
He is now 62 years old and has been alone again for almost 8 years. He says he's not attracted to, or even thinks about, other guys. The only man he was ever attracted to and fell in love with was his late partner.
I don't understand when writers create characters that are DELIBERATELY written as stupid and clueless about reading a room, understanding social protocols in everyday situations such as the "first day at work" situation, etc.
The character of Cher is written that way ^^^^ and I almost didn't make it through the first episode. MY GOD his character is a huge turnoff.
From the first few seconds of the first episode, it started.
And it just got worse.
And then I got to the part with the employee meeting. Holy crap.
Cher (an intern at a gaming company) stands outside the meeting room, shouting "KNOCK KNOCK KNOCK" because he can't be bothered to put down the bag of coffees he has brought and **actually** knock on the door.
Then he walks into the middle of the employee meeting, hands out the coffees to everyone, and interrupts the meeting by blurting something out. Then his "friend" (who helped him get the internship) silently mouths at him to leave.
Cher stands there IN THE MIDDLE OF THE MEETING acting like he doesn't understand what his friend is trying to tell him, loudly blurting out "HUH???" and "WHAT ARE YOU SAYING?" DURING THE MEETING.
It this just laziness on the part of the writers? They needed a clueless, ANNOYING AF character foil to the handsome-but-cold boss?
I honestly don't know if I even want to go on to the second episode, if it's just going to be like this. Geez.
"This coffee tablet gives me energy!"
"It quenches my thirst!"
UGH. I freaking hate it.
If you go back to that scene, you will recognize Dennis' eyes over the mask that was covering the lower half of his face.
Maybe I'm just imagining that.
I honestly don't know anything about the policies regarding placement of co-criminals in prisons. But it makes sense to keep them separated.
Still, we are talking about a work of fiction, so perhaps the writers sortof bent the rule about that.
What gets me most about this series is the ACTING. It's SO natural and comfortable. I'm floored. Seriously, some of the best young actors I've ever seen.