What is the degree of "making someone think they are the reason their first love died in front of their eyes"?…
No, to meet equally. He has already made the connections that it is all her. If interested I wrote up in episode reviews my thoughts. Read and see what you think.
The litmus test I hope the writer is successful with is having TQ press to the degree pressed. He is neither bully nor bullied. The result ultimately being mutual respect for their prospective partner. The one we are best suited for is usually the one that tests our boundaries and biases the most.