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Is family more important than anything ?
I put this title because I sensed while watching this drama that the writer wanted to try, try is the best word for this, to tell us to forgive our parents whatever they do, for that they put 3 differents family drama focusing on one particularly.
The most important one : Qiao Qingyu and her awful family. All of her family members are awful. From her grand-father to her little brother. I personally hated, HATED, her mom. And listen carefully to me, no... read me carefully, it's not based on the famous thought that "mom should love her kids so if there are some conflicts she's at fault", no no no nothing like that. I hated her because she knew from the beginning that her in-laws were crazy, she understood how much of a coward her husband was when they took her daughter and he said nothing but she stayed. She stayed and added kids until she had a boy to satisty her monstruous in-laws, but when the story begins she's making the whole story about her, her feelings, and what she can bare for that moment : nothing. She's an awful mom, i don't even have an atom of empathy for her, i really hated all her shmilbliks about how her daughters were wronging her or whatever. I'm most probably too harsh but all the scenes when she's on the rooftop looking down at the street i was hoping she jumps so we could be relieved from her presence. The moment my hate for her went through the roof was when she offered money to the guy responsible for her daughter's misery, i was appalled. If you read this after watching it you'll think i'm wrongly directing my anger on her instead of directing it on the dad or his family, but i have to tell you you can't and don't have to engage with crazy people, but if you choose to and let them walk all over you and let them bully someone you care for because of you, you are to blame. We can't change crazy people but we can distance ourselves from them. The mom should've divorced a while ago and took her daughter back but she chose not to for what ? Nothing but tragedy. The scene when the little bro blamed his sister for their parents possible divorce is when i decided that poor Qingyu had no one on her side except her friends Ming Sheng and Mumu. I'm letting all out i hope it's readable at least, but i had to say that the mom is more certainly a victim of a system she put herself in but she's the bully of her daughters, so i can't empathise with her, she deserve every bit of guilt she's feeling. I'm just sad they didn't divorce finally because why have enemies when you have this husband.
The second one : Ming Sheng and his full misunderstanding family. I have to admit i skipped most of his scenes with his mom, but this family was the only one which was redeemable. He hated his dad all his life thinking he was the cause of his mom's departure so we watch him navigate through his feelings of care for his dad while hating him, because his dad never wanted to explain the situation to him, until his mom (who abandoned him) told him what really happened. It's the only acceptable family, both parents love Sheng and it shows.
The last one : Mumu and her Stockholm addicted family. Her alcoholic dad hits her and her mom everynight, but one day it's gone too far and Mumu is sent to hospital and miraculously her dad decided to stop drinking. However, to our shock --', he's diagnosed with last stage of liver cancer. he apologised and Mumu decides that enough for her to forgive him and try to pay for a surgery.
My take on these pov and the ending of all family dramas is the writer wanted so bad to pass a message of "whatever your parents did you have to forgive them and between family members too" we see it between Qingyu and her parents, her dad ans his parents, Ming Sheng and his dad and Mumu and her dad. However the only understandable one is Ming Sheng and his dad cuz his dad never did anything bad to him. You don't know how much frustration i felt watching Qingyu being held responsible for adults' faults, and how much i hate this kind of messages because that's not true we don't have to forgive our parents if they're awful, they chose to be awful no-one is forcing them. That's also why the writer chose that era of china to write his story so they can force the parents of Qingyu to stay together even if they should've split up long before the beginning of the story.
The only tearful moments i had were the teacher and the earthquake and Qiao Beiyu's video. Oh that poor girl ! She's the only one i pitied and empathised with. I was so sad for her. I don't have the words to describe how much i felt her pain and her distress.
BUT ! I can't say the acting wasn't on point ! Qingyu's Mom is an incredible actress same for the dad and Beiyu, the leads were rightly chosen nothing felt wrong in the story acting wise.
Romance wise i think they should've introduced it earlier slowly instead of puting it in the end like when you forgot to put salt in your meal so you add it at the end, but the taste isn't right.
The most important one : Qiao Qingyu and her awful family. All of her family members are awful. From her grand-father to her little brother. I personally hated, HATED, her mom. And listen carefully to me, no... read me carefully, it's not based on the famous thought that "mom should love her kids so if there are some conflicts she's at fault", no no no nothing like that. I hated her because she knew from the beginning that her in-laws were crazy, she understood how much of a coward her husband was when they took her daughter and he said nothing but she stayed. She stayed and added kids until she had a boy to satisty her monstruous in-laws, but when the story begins she's making the whole story about her, her feelings, and what she can bare for that moment : nothing. She's an awful mom, i don't even have an atom of empathy for her, i really hated all her shmilbliks about how her daughters were wronging her or whatever. I'm most probably too harsh but all the scenes when she's on the rooftop looking down at the street i was hoping she jumps so we could be relieved from her presence. The moment my hate for her went through the roof was when she offered money to the guy responsible for her daughter's misery, i was appalled. If you read this after watching it you'll think i'm wrongly directing my anger on her instead of directing it on the dad or his family, but i have to tell you you can't and don't have to engage with crazy people, but if you choose to and let them walk all over you and let them bully someone you care for because of you, you are to blame. We can't change crazy people but we can distance ourselves from them. The mom should've divorced a while ago and took her daughter back but she chose not to for what ? Nothing but tragedy. The scene when the little bro blamed his sister for their parents possible divorce is when i decided that poor Qingyu had no one on her side except her friends Ming Sheng and Mumu. I'm letting all out i hope it's readable at least, but i had to say that the mom is more certainly a victim of a system she put herself in but she's the bully of her daughters, so i can't empathise with her, she deserve every bit of guilt she's feeling. I'm just sad they didn't divorce finally because why have enemies when you have this husband.
The second one : Ming Sheng and his full misunderstanding family. I have to admit i skipped most of his scenes with his mom, but this family was the only one which was redeemable. He hated his dad all his life thinking he was the cause of his mom's departure so we watch him navigate through his feelings of care for his dad while hating him, because his dad never wanted to explain the situation to him, until his mom (who abandoned him) told him what really happened. It's the only acceptable family, both parents love Sheng and it shows.
The last one : Mumu and her Stockholm addicted family. Her alcoholic dad hits her and her mom everynight, but one day it's gone too far and Mumu is sent to hospital and miraculously her dad decided to stop drinking. However, to our shock --', he's diagnosed with last stage of liver cancer. he apologised and Mumu decides that enough for her to forgive him and try to pay for a surgery.
My take on these pov and the ending of all family dramas is the writer wanted so bad to pass a message of "whatever your parents did you have to forgive them and between family members too" we see it between Qingyu and her parents, her dad ans his parents, Ming Sheng and his dad and Mumu and her dad. However the only understandable one is Ming Sheng and his dad cuz his dad never did anything bad to him. You don't know how much frustration i felt watching Qingyu being held responsible for adults' faults, and how much i hate this kind of messages because that's not true we don't have to forgive our parents if they're awful, they chose to be awful no-one is forcing them. That's also why the writer chose that era of china to write his story so they can force the parents of Qingyu to stay together even if they should've split up long before the beginning of the story.
The only tearful moments i had were the teacher and the earthquake and Qiao Beiyu's video. Oh that poor girl ! She's the only one i pitied and empathised with. I was so sad for her. I don't have the words to describe how much i felt her pain and her distress.
BUT ! I can't say the acting wasn't on point ! Qingyu's Mom is an incredible actress same for the dad and Beiyu, the leads were rightly chosen nothing felt wrong in the story acting wise.
Romance wise i think they should've introduced it earlier slowly instead of puting it in the end like when you forgot to put salt in your meal so you add it at the end, but the taste isn't right.
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