Marshapod

Are you trying to say bc she has long hair (longer than men hair) she looks like a girl. There are many shows where men and women hair are roughly the same length. Yes men do put it in a bun but they also wear it down a lot

What happened was her brother (actually cousin) was born to he eldest son of the He family she was born to the second son. They were born at the same time, but the son was born sick. The He family was facing decline and they needed a son to (idk how to explain that part but remember its historical and men were preferred over women) in order to keep their family status they sent their son away to get treatment and had He Yan take his place. They told everyone that He Yan was born sick and sent to a temple to live. She was raised in the Eldest son's house btw. And they made her where a mask to hide the true bc one day the son (I forgot his name) will come back. When she was 15 they planned a marriage between He Refui (who is actually He Yan) she though this was not fair to the girl. being tricked into marrying another woman so she ran away and joined the army. she made great contributions and was given a title. when she returned to the capital her brother took her place. her brother was set to come back to the capital for the marriage but she did not know that. it was not bc they need military achievements. they needed a son to stay in the capital and He Yan was that son bc their actually son was sick. after her military achievements they used that to stay. making He Refui (I really idr his name) take her place and so that their family can live in glory. He Yan had never shown her real face btw.

I heard they cut out some scene due to censorship

And they would never expect a woman to go to war willing. Apart from nurse shen I think that's her name. But He Yan will be on the battle field.

It was said that she (who they think is a man) has some kind of defect. And that's why she is so small compared to the others in the garrison.

I think Bei Ming is from Haiya. And the General took him in and raised him as his own. But I wonder who is Xueman mother, it was said that she wasn't born as yet in the 36th year of Ningtai.

I think it tells something about what happened in Haiya