Meglanding

I find it unlikely this was his first affair, just the first time he was caught. But I'm happy you feel confident crucifying what was practically a child on social media... I genuinely hope it helps you feel better... I guess? I for one know people aren't perfect and they do terrible things some times. And there are forgivable and unforgivable terrible things. This isn't even close to what I deem unforgivable. Murder, assault, abuse, violence; absolutely. This? Considering all the terrible people getting away with atrocious things these days, this doesn't matter in the scheme of things at all.

Your reply doesn't really say anything about the unfairness of treatment between them. My point though was more that he has money and isn't facing consequences. She likely had very little money and had barely started her career and is facing most of them. But that really wasn't the case when I originally posted my comment a year ago. It might be now (Idk I haven't kept up with anyones opinion of either of these actors) because we can see he easily bounced back but it wasn't then.

I find it weird that people would bother to come on to her page (when she wasn't married) to shame her for this indiscretion anyway. She wasn't in a committed relationship and can't be held responsible for stepping out on her partner because she didn't have one. That's on him. People do stupid things when they think their career rides on it. I highly doubt his age, industry experience, and/or authority didn't play some part in their relationship. But Japan/Korea are notoriously toxic for publicly shaming celebrities. They expect a perfect public image and human beings are not perfect. We should be criticizing media for airing news such as this that basically gives the whole world an opportunity to drive someone to suicide but instead people are practicing what is reminiscent of some medieval witch hunt every time some idol they put on a pedestal falls from grace.

Yeah. I watched those too. They kind of made it seem like it was going to be much more exciting than it actually was

Did you go condemn Higashide? You know, the MARRIED one? Cause he's got about a half dozen upcoming acting roles coming up. I personally am more offended by a 30 year old man having an affair with, what? A 19 year old during the time of filming and keeping his career while she gets shamed into exile. But hey, that's just me.

The public eye doesn't know if someone was manipulated, felt pressured to continue, was blackmailed, etc. Which are things you hear about happening a lot in the entertainment industry everywhere. For every issue that comes to light I'm sure there's a dozen more that never do. It's not our place to take surface level information about people in the public eye and condemn them for a decision that sure, they absolutely should not have made. The whole #MeToo thing is another matter entirely. Cheating vs harassment/assault aren't on the same level AT ALL to me. And again, you don't know enough about this situation to judge anyone over it. People in Korea/Japan/the US for that matter don't face consequences for that behavior rarely if at all. It has nothing to do with my opinion, it has to do with me realizing that if I don't know the whole story I shouldn't speak on it.

I'd also like to point out that Karata wasn't the one married and started acting in 2015 and has no upcoming roles. Meanwhile, Higashide on the other hand, has roles going in to 2022. So, do explain how people with 'money' and 'power' got punished here? Oh, he lost a few endorsement deals. Poor him. Meanwhile the 19/20 year old he cheated on his wife with (when he was 10 years older than her), has seemingly no career choices and a tarnished reputation. So sure, justice was really served here.

Miss Fisher? YEESSSS!

I don't think the public should side with her I think it's none of my business. The irony is he'll probably wind up still getting work in the future (even though he was the married one) while she'll be blacklisted because people seem to judge women more harshly then men and because he's an established actor. My point is there are so many Asian celebrities who have committed suicide because of public backlash, especially in a society where your image is more important than your own wants/desires. In Japan people are taught that when you introduce yourself your job/school comes first, followed by family name and then your own because you represent those people and should always put the communities needs before your own. Though in some ways I think this is great because America kind of sucks at putting others before themselves, it's also horrendously unhealthy to put that pressure on an individual and then publicly shame them for screwing up. I get it, what they did was wrong, but their self involved decisions don't make me think, "I hope they never get work again. They deserve everything they get. Home-wrecker. Etc". The public doesn't get to be jury, judge, and executioner every time a celebrity f's up. You're supposed to judge their talents, not their personal lives. Now if they were caught in a scandal such as physical/sexual assault or murder, yeah, I'm all for it. Punish them as harshly as possible. But this? No.

Cheating hurts people but it's not the end of the world. Life will go on. It's definitely not reason for people to wish the end of someone's whole career and/or livelihood. She may have asked him to leave his wife. She may have felt pressured to stay with him because he's got important connections in their shared line of work and she was young and worried he'd ruin her career. Or, she may have thought he'd help her career. Who knows. We'll probably never have the full story. I just don't like the weird mob mentality that happens in Asia where strangers want to punish/judge celebrities for wrongdoings that happen in their personal lives. They're fallible. We all are.

Maybe it's just me but I genuinely don't understand the backlash people in Asian entertainment receive from the public. It's disturbing. To consider what it feels like to perceive the whole world is against/judging you. The fact is people make bad decisions. People make bad decisions their entire lives sometimes. It doesn't mean they're solely bad people.

One of the things that always weirds me out about asian dramas is the romantic scenes. There's always a guy initiating intimate acts which are never really outwardly seen as reciprocated by the female. I'm just supposed to assume she's in to it I guess. I think hearing Kanoko's inner curiosities and how attracted she was to the male lead made me appreciate this drama so much more. Plus, her overactive imagination and hand gestures were hilarious. All in all throughout their scenes I got the impression that their relationship, if they ever got around to having one, would have been kind and respectful. And I always have a soft spot for leads that treat each other well.

To be fair, the only things anyone knows about the two is what they want to show (the Dispatch messages were likely meant to paint one party in a good light so they weren't going to highlight her good points or his bad). People often get resentful at the end of marriages. It doesn't mean they were always that way towards each other. I'm sure there were good times as well. I think we just have pieces to this puzzle. Which, to be fair, we shouldn't have. Having a messy divorce in front of your family and friends is one thing, airing your dirty laundry to social media is another. Korea is such an unforgiving country when it comes to celebrities. I really hope both can heal from the situation and move on.

Do we really know anything about what went on in their marriage...? Neither are likely completely guilty/innocent because we're all flawed humans who don't always manage to be our best selves.

I don't know if I'd say if a marriage fails both parties are to blame. I have no clue about this divorce or who did what (I just saw the title for the show and thought it was fun lol) and I also have no clue what the initial comment said since it's been deleted, but I do think sometimes one party tries while the other moves on. However, I'm all for the belief that it takes both parties to make a lasting marriage work.

The scene from the movie poster isn't even IN the movie...

My Lovely Sam Soon was so enjoyable because the female lead wasn't exactly what media beauty standards would see as perfect. I loved it so much because of that.I have a feeling the remake is going to completely ignore that aspect of the original, and that kinda just makes me sad.

If I don't hear someone say "there's something wrong with you" or "it's a very distinct sound" in this I'm gonna be real sad.

I'm fine with them dressing like trashcans lol but if you start off with a poor fashion sense I don't want some kind of transformation halfway through. You commit.

I personally find the whole love triangle annoying but one could argue if the female lead wasn't interested in the main lead (which I mean, she usually doesn't seem to be at the beginning) this could be said for them as well. And they're usually domineering jerks to top it off. I enjoy Asian dramas and the ideal man is getting better but most of them come off cold and toxic tbh. I wouldn't recommend anyone I care about dating someone like that.

Thank you!

I'm glad I'm not the only one who found him immature. He completely lacks integrity and I can't see passed it.