Kim NaBi

Refreshing to see a Vilified female get the guy

Everlasting Longing gave us drama, angst, and maybe not a lot of longing (shocker, given the title). But what it also gave us was a princess who became the fandom’s favourite punching bag. And honestly? I’m tired of it. Let’s talk about why this princess deserves more love—or at least less hate—and why the double standards in how we judge male and female characters need to go.


The Princess: Messy, Flawed, and Human

Let’s start by acknowledging the obvious: the princess was not perfect. She was obsessive, possessive, and made some seriously questionable choices. But here’s the thing: she wasn’t evil. Her actions came from a place of genuine love and insecurity, not malice. She wanted the guy, she thought being a princess meant she could have him, and when it didn’t work out, she spiralled. Haven’t we all been there? (Okay, maybe not the princess part, but you get what I mean.)

What I appreciated about her character was that she wasn’t one-dimensional. She wasn’t just the “crazy ex” or the “villainous rival.” She had depth. She was flawed, yes, but she was also relatable. And isn’t that what makes a character interesting?


The Double Standard: Brooding Hero vs. “Crazy” Princess

Here’s where I get heated. If the princess were a prince—let’s say, a cold, brooding, possessive prince who locked his love interest in a palace and declared, “You’re mine, and no one else can have you”—the fandom would be obsessed. He’d be the dark, tormented hero of a thousand fanfics. People would be like, “Oh, he’s so protective! He’s so passionate! He just loves her too much!” But because it’s a princess doing the same thing? Suddenly she’s “crazy,” “toxic,” and “the worst.”
Excuse me, where is the consistency?

This isn’t just about Everlasting Longing—it’s a pattern in storytelling. Male characters get away with murder (sometimes literally) in dramas, and we’re like, “Oh, he’s flawed, but he’s so dreamy.” But when a female character breathes too hard in the direction of her love interest, she’s labelled a villain. It’s giving… internalised misogyny. And I’m not here for it.


Why the Hate?

I get it—the princess wasn’t always likeable (she sometimes pissed me off too). She made mistakes, she crossed lines, and she definitely went about things the wrong way. But can we at least appreciate her complexity? She wasn’t just a plot device to create drama. She was a fully realised character with her own motivations and struggles. And yet, she got more hate than male characters who did far worse. Why? Because she’s a woman who dared to be messy.

Final Thoughts: Let’s Do Better

To the writers: can we please give female characters the same grace and complexity you give male characters? Flawed women can be just as compelling as flawed men.
And to the audience: let’s check our biases. If we’re going to stan male characters who are possessive and problematic, we need to extend the same understanding to female characters who exhibit the same traits.

The princess in Everlasting Longing was a vibe. Was she a chaotic vibe? Absolutely. But she deserved better—from the(I so wanted her to end with her man)

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