Your comment is extra, and as a Community Manager, you should know better. The tactful and graceful way to say…
Thank you for your respectful response.
I agree with you that on the internet, people have no knowledge of the other person's tone, and that can lead to misunderstandings. However, I still not understand how saying I'm generally not attracted to some women can be offensive to anyone.
I never said anything negative about Chinese women and never implied anything negative about them. I just said they are generally not my type. Chinese women are not owed attraction. Neither am I. No one is.
"We really shouldn't use the "my friends don't take offence to this, so you shouldn't too""
Agreed. Nevertheless it's absurd to take offense for an innocent online comment that doesn't even have to do with your nationality, especially when people from that country don't. If there's a misunderstanding, which I believe it's highly unlikely when it comes to my original comment (especially if you have read my previous posts), just ask for clarification.
"I'm usually not into European boys, but I gotta admit, he is really cute."
As a European, I'd not be offended at all if someone said that. There's absolutely nothing wrong with saying you're usually not attracted to people from a particular country or region. Everyone has their own preferences. It seems you're looking for reasons to be offended. Chill out!
Yes. The female lead is really cute. She can be embarrassing too though lol. On a side note: I think your comment…
I think I will watch the drama. The plot is simple yet interesting and the female lead is indeed really cute. This article is very convincing :) Regarding my comment, thank you!
Your comment is extra, and as a Community Manager, you should know better. The tactful and graceful way to say…
I just commented casually, the same way I would talk to a friend. I could have been more "tactful" and "graceful", yes, but this community is a peaceful and friendly place with a good atmosphere in which people often unwind and talk about how cute their "oppa" is. Nothing wrong with that as long as it's done respectfully. In this context, I don't think there's anything wrong with what I said.
I honestly see no real difference between what I said and your suggestion. The only difference is that I stated the reason why she's not my type while you just didn't specify. I was never disrespectful to Chinese women. In fact, I have two Chinese female friends, and they have never taken offense at me saying I'm not usually attracted to women from their country.
For the record, I don't think Chinese women are worse or better, or worth less or more, than women from any other country, and have never implied that. It's just my personal preference. Moreover, I'd never reject a woman based on her nationality. People are simply not defined by their nationality. I'm sure you also have your preferences. We all do.
Just don't take my comments too seriously. There are no bad intentions behind them.
Baek Ho Rang is a textbook narcissist with sociopathic traits. It's fun to watch, but how so many people applaud her behavior is beyond me. There's nothing praiseworthy about her. She's just toxic.
Things I've learned from this (and other) show(s): - the military everywhere really, REALLY likes their greens…
- True! - Not really... But they are sometimes visited for advice if they have been senior officers or had tons of experience in a particular field. No classified information is disclosed to them, usually. - Nah, it's not that complicated. - True... - LOL.
"The typical female lead in current K-dramas is usually an unfeminine mean woman with narcissistic traits who…
"Your comment of the "cute" female police officer is a tad problematic."
How is it wrong to acknowledge and appreciate a young woman's cuteness? Since when is that considered to be "problematic"?
"If it was a male officer... would you have come to the same conclusion?"
If I were gay or a girl, and the officer was cute then... yes? I don't see anything wrong with that, either.
"Women enter the police field not to be considered cute by men and other people."
Women enter the police field to serve the people and catch criminals, just like their male counterparts. How does that have anything to do with being or not being cute? Your occupation doesn't determine whether you're cute or not.
Her behavior and attitude towards me were cute. Should have she been mean to me then?
"Besides, the women you know in your lives who work in all those fields aren't the only women in the world"
I never claimed or inferred they were. I just used them as an example to illustrate how absurd it is to regard women in those fields as masculine, loud, mean or aggressive just because of their careers or occupations.
"Many women are multi-faceted and exist as "masculine" and "feminine" entities in those roles."
My point all along was that women can be masculine or feminine regardless of their career or occupation, and that it's absurd and not fair to paint all or most women in law or law enforcement fields as espousing such negative traits. I don't see how that contradicts your point.
""feminine = quiet and sweet and nice" and "masculine = mean, loud, aggressive, etc." I call BS on that."
Which traits are feminine and which traits are masculine then?
Sure, women and female characters don't have to be likable or ask permission of men (or other women), but that was not my point. No one is entitled to be rude or disrespectful to others. Those are not quirks but awful traits that are utterly incompatible with positive interactions and a healthy relationship.
"Human beings are way more complex than how I think you are portraying them to be here."
I never denied the complexity of human beings. I just said that the aforesaid traits are negative and far from the reality they purport to portray.
"And who says that only "lowly men" are mean and loud and aggressive? Who gets to decide that? "
Being loud, rude and and aggressive is low behavior. If your behavior towards others is low, then you're a low person. It's as simple as that.
"The typical female lead in current K-dramas is usually an unfeminine mean woman with narcissistic traits who…
Yes, she was cute. I'm talking about her attitude and behavior towards me. I'm not talking about her physical appearance, but I can say the same about it as well.
"The typical female lead in current K-dramas is usually an unfeminine mean woman with narcissistic traits who…
I'm not saying those are the only options. But it seems they are to writers, and it seems being masculine and espousing the aforementioned traits is according to you the only realistic option for women who are prosecutors or police officers. Please correct me if I'm wrong.
"The typical female lead in current K-dramas is usually an unfeminine mean woman with narcissistic traits who…
One of my best friends is a judge in a criminal court and she's really feminine. I also know other women who are criminal lawyers, a prosecutor and a police officer. They are more or less feminine, but none of them is masculine, rude, loud or aggressive.
In the only experience I had with a female police officer in Korea, she was really feminine, and even cute. Sure, she will not be cute to criminals, but still, I couldn't find an ounce of masculinity or aggressiveness in her.
Where does it say that if you're a female prosecutor or police officer you need to be masculine, rude, loud or aggressive?
I agree with you that on the internet, people have no knowledge of the other person's tone, and that can lead to misunderstandings. However, I still not understand how saying I'm generally not attracted to some women can be offensive to anyone.
I never said anything negative about Chinese women and never implied anything negative about them. I just said they are generally not my type. Chinese women are not owed attraction. Neither am I. No one is.
"We really shouldn't use the "my friends don't take offence to this, so you shouldn't too""
Agreed. Nevertheless it's absurd to take offense for an innocent online comment that doesn't even have to do with your nationality, especially when people from that country don't. If there's a misunderstanding, which I believe it's highly unlikely when it comes to my original comment (especially if you have read my previous posts), just ask for clarification.
As a European, I'd not be offended at all if someone said that. There's absolutely nothing wrong with saying you're usually not attracted to people from a particular country or region. Everyone has their own preferences. It seems you're looking for reasons to be offended. Chill out!
I honestly see no real difference between what I said and your suggestion. The only difference is that I stated the reason why she's not my type while you just didn't specify. I was never disrespectful to Chinese women. In fact, I have two Chinese female friends, and they have never taken offense at me saying I'm not usually attracted to women from their country.
For the record, I don't think Chinese women are worse or better, or worth less or more, than women from any other country, and have never implied that. It's just my personal preference. Moreover, I'd never reject a woman based on her nationality. People are simply not defined by their nationality. I'm sure you also have your preferences. We all do.
Just don't take my comments too seriously. There are no bad intentions behind them.
- Not really... But they are sometimes visited for advice if they have been senior officers or had tons of experience in a particular field. No classified information is disclosed to them, usually.
- Nah, it's not that complicated.
- True...
- LOL.
How is it wrong to acknowledge and appreciate a young woman's cuteness? Since when is that considered to be "problematic"?
"If it was a male officer... would you have come to the same conclusion?"
If I were gay or a girl, and the officer was cute then... yes? I don't see anything wrong with that, either.
"Women enter the police field not to be considered cute by men and other people."
Women enter the police field to serve the people and catch criminals, just like their male counterparts. How does that have anything to do with being or not being cute? Your occupation doesn't determine whether you're cute or not.
Her behavior and attitude towards me were cute. Should have she been mean to me then?
"Besides, the women you know in your lives who work in all those fields aren't the only women in the world"
I never claimed or inferred they were. I just used them as an example to illustrate how absurd it is to regard women in those fields as masculine, loud, mean or aggressive just because of their careers or occupations.
"Many women are multi-faceted and exist as "masculine" and "feminine" entities in those roles."
My point all along was that women can be masculine or feminine regardless of their career or occupation, and that it's absurd and not fair to paint all or most women in law or law enforcement fields as espousing such negative traits. I don't see how that contradicts your point.
Which traits are feminine and which traits are masculine then?
Sure, women and female characters don't have to be likable or ask permission of men (or other women), but that was not my point. No one is entitled to be rude or disrespectful to others. Those are not quirks but awful traits that are utterly incompatible with positive interactions and a healthy relationship.
"Human beings are way more complex than how I think you are portraying them to be here."
I never denied the complexity of human beings. I just said that the aforesaid traits are negative and far from the reality they purport to portray.
"And who says that only "lowly men" are mean and loud and aggressive? Who gets to decide that? "
Being loud, rude and and aggressive is low behavior. If your behavior towards others is low, then you're a low person. It's as simple as that.
In the only experience I had with a female police officer in Korea, she was really feminine, and even cute. Sure, she will not be cute to criminals, but still, I couldn't find an ounce of masculinity or aggressiveness in her.
Where does it say that if you're a female prosecutor or police officer you need to be masculine, rude, loud or aggressive?