UnaSpenser

It’s a common problem flaw with rom-coms that they lose comedy aspect along the way, which was where all the charm was. Again, Lion’s Secret had that problem.

It’s especially true if the comedy is coming from some overly-contrived schtick which gets old fast.

Whenever it happens, it feels like a bait and switch. I feel defrauded. lol

Also was totally disappointed with that ending, for all the reasons you mentions plus....

I wish writers would stop using the trope about partners/parents/friends patronizingly determining that their partner/child/friend can't handle the trauma they have actually lived through and, instead, further traumatize them with lies and abandonment or whatever. (I'm thinking about this after having just watched "The Lion's Secret", where almost the entire dynamic of the story is based on the idea that a young girl nearly drowned. Her dear friend saved her, but she simply can't face the fact that she nearly drowned, so she forgets that he even ever existed. And everyone around them tells him to disappear from her life (he was all of 10 or so and he has to just leave) and for the rest of her life, no one is ever going to tell her that she nearly drowned once. Or, when she meets him again, that he's not the horrible person she thinks he is and he's not a stranger. He knows her well and once saved her life. it was infuriating. Good actors, stupidest story line.)

If we take this story on its face, then Mdm Jin committed suicide, just at the moment that her son was finally happy with his life. She's a practically sociopathically bad mother, who not only killed her husband, but traumatized her son, once again. Yet, see seemed so warm and nice for every second of her life, up until that point! Qui Yan has so little faith in the internal strength of her so-called partner - or so little willingness to actually, you know, provide care for someone other than herself - that she determines he can't handle the truth. So, as he loses faces the loss of mother, his lover tells him she murdered her and that she never loved him and she abandons him; leaving him with no one to live life with. And, this, after he's also lost his lifelong companion.

And, why would anyone want these two to get together again? I hated her character for doing that. She already had displayed a pathological inability to bond by wanting to just go off on her own after everything they'd been through together. As a fictional story, I could kinda get the device of her needing to go away to realize that the reason she dreamt about seeing the world was because she had never had a loving home. And that, now, she would find out that the loving home he provided was more valuable that travel, if it meant being separated. Ok. She was damaged from her childhood and had to work some things out. But, that last bit, with the lies and the abandonment was too much. It wasn't some noble self-sacrifice for a greater good. It was gaslighting. It was patronizing. It was cruel.

Because, why? Somehow, its better that he thinks his lover murdered his mother and that the woman he thought was a treasured life partner never actually cared for him? and that he can never trust his own judgement about love? and that he's all alone in the world? Because, why? His political scumbag of a mom killed her own husband, but its better to preserve her reputation than to be there for him as he grieves and processes?

Also, he's a master investigator and other people figured out that there were supposedly huge holes in the story of what happened, but not him? Could we have some consistency of character, please?

What was the point of any of that ending? Why not just let the past murder be solved and let the characters go on with their lives? This isn't how it ever goes in real life. People have traumas. Long-term impacts come from not being given the support to process them properly; not necessarily from the event itself. Stortellers need to stop promoting this idea that its somehow compassionate to enable "amnesia" or false scenarios. Gaslighting is gaslighting and its very psychologically harmful.

In this story, gaslighting is an issue that the Qiu Yan character has all the way through. Its one thing to not disabuse people of misconceptions, but with her sister, instead of taking the time to explain what she was really about, or to help her sister get the nurturing she needed, she actively reinforced misconceptions as she watched her sister plummet into darkness. Partly understandable - and, frankly, the sister didn't have it bad enough to have become the psychopath she became, so that characters story was very poorly written. But, she too often relies on the crutch of "yes, I'm being this horrible person doing these horrible things!" defense, to the point that why wouldn't the other person believe her? (also, all it would have taken to rebut her sister's nonsense of "I'm just doing what you do" was to make the argument "No. I don't trample over other people and cause them harm." Again, the writers want us to believe that no one would have pointed that out?)

Ugh.... sorry, this got long. In the beginning, I was enjoying the story and the fun dynamic between the leads, but as it went along I was getting more and more frustrated and found myself wholly disliking the FL and the relationship between the leads and being angry that stories are told with these horrible messages way too often..

Also, the story about the mission which left him with PTSD was confusing. It seemed that they were mercenaries. It was unclear if their mission had any moral compass or was just a paid assignment. It was hard, then, to have any emotional attachment to the outcomes and lost lives.

Flawed but watchable.

However, I found myself wanting Liu Qing to go find a better life for himself. His love for her was all about self-sacrifice. And regardless of whether she came around, the fact is that, whenever push came to shove, she was willing to sacrifice him.

It makes no sense whatsoever that her psyche would erase the entirety of a person who rescued her, simply to avoid remembering that she nearly drowned. Nor that everyone would force him to disappear from her life so that she never had process her trauma. They basically all told him that he was expendable. Something she constantly told him.

He became so identified with self-sacrifice and erasure that he couldn’t bring himself to disabuse her of all her terrible notions of him. It was so full of pathos that I wanted him to get psychiatric care.

I wanted him to value himself and find someone who would never do that to him.

agreed. smdh

The actors in this are good and the dynamic between the leads is top-notch. But....

40 f'ing episodes that could've been 3, if the FL would just tell someone her actual story. There was no good reason for her not to just state what her marital/pregnancy situation was.

Sooooo many toxic characters - like every toxic trope out there tossed into one sludge salad.

It gets so absolutely nauseatingly tedious.

If I start with the vapid doctor/brother/rich son/friend character, it'll be a deep dive into why I can't muster empathy for any of them. I mean, wtf? He knowingly courts two sisters without telling either of them that he's doing so or that he knows of their relationship? And we're supposed to feel bad for him, when that goes south into the murkiest swamp of emotional coercion enabled by a mildewed doormat of a sister?

If you like the leads' scenes, just skip everything else. There is no real storytelling value there. Nothing new. Nothing with any profound meaning. No mesmerizing acting. A null set.

It often boggles me that people spend big chunks of time and resources to produce something like this.

I can go with that. (though I don't know why the football buy in particular wouldn't be gay. we've seen nothing from any of them to indicate their specific sexuality.)

If you're replying to me, I wasn't referring to anything romantic. You don't have to have romance to not be lonely. Akk and his two sisters are totally there for him. Why is he telling Akk that he feels lonely? Its like an erasure of their friendship.

and, hey, all 4 ambassadors of the university are gay?

this always cracks me up. the exaggerated over-representation.

Agreed that the one line just isn't enough to care about.

Also, he's talking to his best friend, who's been there for him since the moment he arrived back in Thailand and he tells him that he's lonely. Rude. Which is strange from a character who opened the story by saying he didn't like being with other people.

Lastly, someone says you can talk to them. Okay. Cool. A potential friend. Why does it have to be romantic? Its weird that that's the assumption being offered up for the viewer.

I want to support the representation of BL/GL/non-binary/trans/poly productions, but they make it hard to sit through them which such weak storytelling (and, often, subpar acting - though, I get that they basically have to draft their own lineup of actors because mainstream actors and production companies won't take it on. especially with all the fan service BS, actors must be super wary.)

A problem here is that the character Theo needs some, well, character. He seems to only exist as a rather spoiled rich boy who is considered attractive. Does he have any interests? Passions about how he wants to spend his time? What makes life worth living for him? Okay, he likes to read. But, we don't see that translate into wanting to be a writer or an editor; which is fine. But, what does he want to be? At least Akk has a pursuit. He's going to college to further that pursuit. What about Theo? If you had to spend a weekend with Theo, what you end up talking about that is anything other than shallow and vapid?

I’m impressed.

I have been watching these Thai BLs for years now, wanting to be supportive of the representation. Sometimes, it’s been a tough haul, with horribly written stories. (Rape as the beginning of a relationship. So many female characters depicted as neurotic and toxic as hell, e.g.) To date, my favorite was one of the earliest ones; the BL cut of Lovesick. The central pair had such a genuinely sweet, mutually respectful, and patient relationship, and the people around them were generally supportive, once the boys came out.

When all the GMMTV crew of actors were so young and new to acting, there were a lot of not great performances to sit through.

I’ve watched as the stories have evolved and the actors have grown. All the fan obsession of CPs, etc. Some of them definitely had chemistry together, but still the acting was not stellar.

Bad Buddy has the best pair of actors as the leads. They are both quite good and draw you right into their characters. They feel like they pretty naturally inhabit their characters. Though I don’t speak Thai, I can hear that the lines are delivered more fluidly.

It’s also great to start seeing the focus of a story not necessarily be about the fact that there is a same sex relationship. That’s almost a non-subject. As it should be. We need to normalize having all kinds of relationships and gender presentations just existing within a story. (Also nice to see the inclusion of a lesbian relationship, with no fuss.)

Here, the core of the story is the family feud, what really happened, and how that feud has affected the young men. It gives us so much more to latch onto emotionally. We aren’t just rooting for them to be accepted for their sexuality (still a very real struggle, I know. But, normalizing means not necessarily centering it. Make is matter-of-fact.) We are curious about what the history really is and heartbroken at how the boys have been tools for the parents’ enmity. We relate to them as we would any other character, having nothing to do with their sexuality.

Also, we see how the toxic environment they grew up in actually bonded them. Who else could ever understand what they’ve experienced? There is no one else they could turn to as they try to find their way to healing. Remnants of the forced rivalry in their dynamic are turned playful, as they grow into something more healthy. They are simply lovely together.

This is good storytelling.

This is the first of the Thai BL dramas that I would heartily recommend to friends who ask. Some aspects - the college campus setting and the weird “faculty” dynamics - could still use some improvement, but, overall, this is a solid story with solid acting. So refreshing. May these productions continue to evolve and, hopefully, help normalize representation beyond the cis hetero forced narrative we’ve all been subjected to for so long,

That’s silly, since so many people become parents after abortions. Its the reality of life. People abort pregnancies for any number of reasons. It doesn’t mean they won’t be good parents, once they choose to take on that role.

Perhaps his situation is an opportunity for Korean society to come to terms with this. But, then, he may not want to be at the center of that public discourse. His choice.

She should be insecure. He did not want to marry her and she used their families to force him. She has no right to be in his life against his will. He needs to dump her.

So…. I really like so much about this drama. But, Infind myself avoiding it because the Liu Ran character and the clear indication that the writers are going to have Hongyi “fall for her”.

She’s a not-so-bright spoiled brat who coerces him into an unwanted marriage. She assumes she knows how he feels better than he does. She ignores his feelings and all of his boundaries and forces herself into his activities. She is supposed to come off as cute, but what’s she’s really doing is grooming him.

There is no way that such an intellectual man, who gets completely drawn into puzzle-solving and designing things, would want someone like her in his life. He couldn’t ever have quality conversations with her about the things that interest him.

Mostly, though, you can never trust someone who coerced you into a relationship and who ignores the way you feel. That’s not something you get over. And because she’s been successful at getting whatever she wants (regardless of how others feel or how it impacts them), she isn’t going to become someone who operates any differently. She’ll always be narcissistic and insisting on having her way. That’s not a relationship. The other person is just an object t be used for her own ends.

I can’t stomach it. I don’t find it amusing and I wish writers would stop couching toxic relationships as comedy.

They are neighbors, who end up having encounters where they help each other. The girl is not a teenager. She is repeating her senior year, which would make her 20 or 21 (students graduate HS at 19 or 20 in much if SE Asia.) They get to know one another and she falls for him and asks him to wait for her to finish her education to become a doctor.

The series ends here. The WEBTOON skips to when she’s an adult and they meet again.

To be clear, he’s not pursuing her, at all. Not in the least.

What? Is he lying to her? He wanted their relationship to be out in the open. She’s forcing him to hide it. I’ve been away from this for awhile, so I don’t remember much now, but if you’re going to claim that being as bad, you need to back that up with examples of what he’s doing.

For me, it’s that he agreed to the secretive arrangement. He should have seen that as a huge red flag and said, “no. I deserve more respect.”

It’s a slog getting through this, in the second half. I have not seen the last 2 eps, yet.

I wanted to like it. The actress for the FL was great in Back Street Rookie. I enjoy fantasy and thought this would be fun. But, here, she’s wasted on a character that has zero character development. She never learns, never behaves in ways which match the supposed deathly seriousness of the situation. Screaming during a stealth rescue. Falling for obvious traps, etc. Not respecting the wishes if the person she supposedly oves, in regards to his own body and fate. She has the least info about what is going on than anybody, but always ignores their plans and does whatever she feels like. It gets tedious.

All of the characters are monochromatic, giving the actors not much to do with them. Almost all of them don pretty much one facial expression throughout.

Way too much sappy internal dialogue. The love story is just boring. I’m not feeling it. One ornithology interactions in childhood doesn’t make a relationship. They have so little synchronicity and their personal agendas conflict. I find myself not caring and feeling that no character in this is suited for romantic partnership. Which is okay, so just leave it out!

Needless supporting character death. It didn’t make sense and felt like some kind of forced “dramatic moment”. Meanwhile, the character had the most potential to be interesting, because there was a sense of a story to his past , but they just dropped it.

One thing writers really need to be careful about with costume dramas that have a palace or ruler aspect: monarchy and authoritarianism aren’t actually desirable things. For viewers to care about vies for the top position, they must make at least one of them look like a compelling option for compassionate leadership. That’s lacking here. The antagonist is the only potential heir to the throne who seems competent at administering a government. The other option is more hapless. He’s known all along that his brother covets power, but has never done much to make it look like he’s a meaningful option. Has only been interested in the arts. Not paid attention to state management. So, what is the viewer supposed to have any vested interest in?

I’ll see it through because I’ve come this far. The only hope for interest is that the antagonist doesn’t actually have bad intentions. That he’s doing what he’s doing out if personal need and has a plan to settle things well, once his need is addressed. Otherwise, a rather lackluster, mundane story, with nothing new and no really memorable performances. So sad. A lot of wasted potential.

I'll check that out. Thank you.