Wellimjusthere

You made some really good points. I enjoyed reading that.

I honestly don’t think we disagree, I think we just express the notions differently

By nature the upper crust way is entitled and spoiled. There thoughts and opinions and rights are treated as having more value. In his defense the things I’ve seen that were entitled and spoiled appeared to come across naturally to me. And saying he does good things and bad things is simply a fact of human life. Many times we do grey things as well. He has done many good things, he’s done bad things. He’s allowed good and he’s ignored bad. It’s all part of what makes this story realistic.

I didn’t mean to imply there was any pretense in his behavior. Just that I saw those things in his behavior.

The male leads flaws are easy to see, and the female leads are harder to see. Hers are so closely linked to her strengths that they can be easy for me to miss. She’s strong and deliberate, which sometimes becomes stubbornness. Shes decisive and acts for good, but sometimes she decisively acts on feelings even when it might be safer or wiser to swallow emotions. I like that her imperfections are so human. I was wondering if I got the female lead right? Do you guys have any thoughts on her? I also think she’s got an immense amount of trauma she’s going through and a lot of her behaviors are trauma responses. Like her silence when she met the elders .

I think this is her human side. His flaws are easy to see and yet he’s so human it’s easy to accept that it’s just the way a rich man would be. Her flaws are also her strengths. Her determination is sometimes stubbornness. Her ability to act decisively for good can also be used on her desires and feelings. Peoples who’s flaws are also their strengths can sometimes be frustrating, we want their strength to always be a strength. but i like how human it makes her. They’re both written as so believably human.

We do have to take the good with the bad, I feel like she just hasn’t accepted taking him yet. I think I would struggle to. I’m awfully stubborn.

I’m wondering if she would feel she had the right to speak up. She was his slave, and the way he treated her later proves that to some degree she is still just property in his eyes. I don’t know if I would feel I had a voice in that situation. Also I think when she married trauma rose up in her. When he lifted her veil the family seal was just staring at her in the face. She was suddenly forced into the relationship his family had once abandoned. I think it explains why she blanked out for a few days. I think for her it was like going back into a prison she had worked so hard to escape. I think her behavior was supposed to express her emotionally and mentally both breaking down and barely holding herself together.

It’s so refreshing. He’s not a good man, and he’s not a bad man. He is just a man living his life. It somehow makes him one of the most believable nobles I’ve seen in a drama.

I like that it hasn’t pretended he’s a good man, it shows that he’s sometimes good, and sometimes bad. He’s sometimes entitled and spoiled, and sometimes thoughtful and caring. I like that they don’t pretend he’s one way or the other, he’s simply himself.

I have another question, does anyone know when he discovers her past?

I can tell you what I liked. There’s a lot that happens in the first episode. It’s highly emotional, delivered in a believable way, filmed well, and doesn’t drag out unimportant plot points

Thank you so much! viki posts it tomorrow! I’m so impatient. Is it satisfying? Does their dynamic shift at all?

I was wondering if anyone knew if there was a clip of it on yourube

If they stick the ending this is one of my favorites of all time.

I’ve read that she scolds him pretty strongly either in the way to the capital or after they get there. Could anyone spoil when, I just finished episode 29

The emotional rollercoaster that show put me through. I still get hurt for them everytime I rewatch it.

Ooooh I’ll have to remember that for next time I get IQIYI. I’m currently on Viki and it’s not playing in my country.

The red sleeve, love like the galaxy, go ahead, moon lovers scarlet heart reyo, guardian…those are the first that come to mind.

I’m considering watching one of the other shows that have affected me strongly….but can I handle both?

I was just thinking about the red sleeve. About how I wouldn’t mind if the romance didn’t progress past that sort of sad acceptance.