I was also the same. Almost wanted to quit but I held strong and got to understand what had happened in the first…
If someone has to say I *think* they didn't mind, that's already sexual assault. The absence of a no is the foundation of what makes something sexual assault. And the fact that Kataoka's brother sexually assaulted him, too (and probably over a long period of time), only makes it worse. We're shown the villain doing this to Odajima as one of the worst moments in his life, and then he gets to replay that with the person who's supposed to be his love interest? Like what the actual f*ck. Said another way, one of the worst things that the worst character does to him, the main character also does to him. It makes us want to vomit when the villain does it, but we cheer when the main character does the same thing?
And if you take it from a mental health perspective, having been sexually assaulted in the past by the brother actually explains his lack of reaction and makes everything worse. Trauma like that f*cks with your brain, and it makes you more vulnerable to sexual assault later. If you're used to being treated like absolute shit, you begin to expect it or resign yourself to it. Just like in the immediate event of sexual assault, if the victim stops struggling, this isn't them saying yes. In a long-term abusive situation, if the victim stops fighting back, it isn't all of a sudden a "I'm ok with you sexually assaulting me now." It's a survival mechanism, it's a trauma response, and it's the mind and body shutting down to protect itself. So his not reacting to Kataoka is literally a survival response to a current traumatic experience solicited by a past, or in this case, a long history of similar traumatic events.
Is the first scene Kataoka sexually assaulting Odajima? It looks like he's either getting his rocks off on a sleeping Odajima while he straddles him, Or he's raping him, which seems highly improbable to sleep through unless roofied)
OK , towards the end it was really cute. Most of the time it felt like a series of missed opportunities, especially with regards to acting and storyline (sometime, I found myself stopping and fixing the storypoint, just to make it a little better in my head), but it was really really wholesome. Especially at the end. And that really just warms my heart, I'm glad I watched it.
I 100% agree! Thank you for this comment. You said it much better than I.
You know, I would have liked to know more about her mysterious brother and the father could have been such a good plot point, they're stories were rushed and could have helped more with her back story/given more context for her growth. Too quick a "redemption" arch for everyone in her family except the awesome little brother.
Ok, how does Li Shuang’s blood end up in Ao Dung’s mouth? He was in the middle of a forest and all of a sudden he’s a little kid in the middle of a battlefield that is also in the middle of a meadow? I’m so confused. Help
I 100% agree! Thank you for this comment. You said it much better than I.
If anything, her character in the last episode was so healed/recovered/confident and self-loving, I was needing to suspend a lot of belief to appreciate it. Some might say for that there should have been more episodes because of how extreme or fast this transformation was, but I am thankful there wasn't. I Think it was a perfect length (I couldn't have suspended much more belief for much longer).
I just want to add a counter message to all the people who say they don't like the main female character. She is dealing with all the quintessential effects of low self-confidence and psychologically abusive parents. The fact that she isn't worse off is frankly surprising considering her mother and father's treatment of her. And even if she hadn't had such psychologically abusive parents, self-confidence that low is completely valid and not to be looked down upon. Her feelings of inadequacy and skepticism of his feelings towards her are completely natural and understandable for someone in her position, especially if you've been told all your life by those who "should" love you most that you are worthless and that love is contingent on perfection. If her constant debasement of herself and her self-worth, as well as her questioning of his feelings for her is frustrating to certain viewers, that's understandable. However, it doesn't mean it's a wrong or innacruate depiction of someone's feelings or reactions to the situation she finds herself in. And for others, it is HIGHLY RELATABLE and a wonderful story to watch because of her gorgeous character transformation, especially because it's not thanks to a guy (or mostly not thanks to a guy) but through her finding her own self-confidence and self-love
If you’re only interested in the second couple I don’t recommend you watch, the focus of this story are the…
I'd be interested in potentially getting the ending for the second couple spoiled. I've watched a lot of clips and I know how I would want it to end... I think that's part of why I keep considering it.
If you’re only interested in the second couple I don’t recommend you watch, the focus of this story are the…
Oh damn. That just completely shifted my perspective. none of the four wanted that to happen. Thank you sharing that. I'm going to have to sit with this for a bit.
And if you take it from a mental health perspective, having been sexually assaulted in the past by the brother actually explains his lack of reaction and makes everything worse. Trauma like that f*cks with your brain, and it makes you more vulnerable to sexual assault later. If you're used to being treated like absolute shit, you begin to expect it or resign yourself to it. Just like in the immediate event of sexual assault, if the victim stops struggling, this isn't them saying yes. In a long-term abusive situation, if the victim stops fighting back, it isn't all of a sudden a "I'm ok with you sexually assaulting me now." It's a survival mechanism, it's a trauma response, and it's the mind and body shutting down to protect itself. So his not reacting to Kataoka is literally a survival response to a current traumatic experience solicited by a past, or in this case, a long history of similar traumatic events.