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I'm more delusional than you, I like su been with hee sun(my top pick), but I also really like su been with min gee and even liked him with mina sue.... well at this point maybe I just like su been

I'm surprised by this, I didn't actually find any of min gees actions to be over the top. I'm just curious which actions did you find aggressive?

I don't know man, I for one like that they are seasoned, they are selling a fantasy that many people are still willing to buy. You mentioned that you enjoyed theory of love when you were younger, I loved that show too. it still makes me nostalgic and that was only what less than 5 years ago.
I wouldn't say the plot and acting is Oscar worthy, but I don't think that's what anyone was going for. BL ships are for young people that want the fantasy, there's nothing wrong with it as long as everyone is having fun .
Just remember that the whole world doesn't move at your pace, after you there are still people experiencing things for the first time. Let them enjoy it.
It's okay if you're over it, people grow and change, you don't have to be bitter about it.
Actually it's kind of sad. You remind me of those adults that insist on hanging out with high school kids because that is the only way they can feel superior.

no she just said she hopes that Jiwon won't come to comfort her when she was feeling so fragile, She said that because she knows that Ji Won is nice but getting comfort from her in this situation won't help. Jiwon understands this as well that's why when she heard her crying she went back.

Not to get too serious but that was the norm for a long time, there's already a lot of negative history between too large an age gap between older men and younger women than the other way around.
This is interesting because it's new. For the situation to be comparable women will have to socially oppress men for at least another 500 years 😂 before they film the show .

I don't think she is blaming JW, she's hurt and embarrassed and she knows seeing JW will make her feel worse that's why she doesn't want to see her. I can totally understand that, I just wish she could treat the situation lighter. It's no one's fault. I don't even blame SW so much, he's just not that into both of JW and YE and the time is so short.

Just a passing African dropping my two cents, it doesn't come across as racist to me, just a in bad taste. But I can see why it would bother black people outside Africa more, as they usually live in racially charged situations.
This could all have been avoided if they just called it West Nile virus, which is the name I've heard it called on American shows.
I'm not mad at anyone that wants to stop watching, the writers need to do more due diligence on things like this

I suspect you just don't like this genre, there's a whole sub-genre of Chinese BL that is known for its toxicity (look up the 188 series).
It's not meant to be romantic in the usual sense, remember this is a fantasy, it's kinda f-uped and toxic on purpose. It's a different taste, like people who are into bdsm. And preferences have nuance, again its a fantasy, no one actually wants that in real life

lol I loved everything you said, except I'm a staunch Seongmin defender, he obviously wasn't expecting all this attention and didn't know what to do with it, I know he said he wanted a stable relationship but I feel like my baby needs a hoe phase.
Lighting a candle for Hwi and Jaesung - my spicy ghost ship that never was.
I'd totally be Minseon if I was on the show, MK is so hot and lost I'd be like come let me take care of you lol.
YJ liking Hanmin more ... I really didn't see that coming, I feel like there's more depth to Hanmin than we've seen on the show.
SJ is my #1, we could be besties, I just want him to be happy.

Even if the couples don't last, this is my favourite season, I love all the guys, they were very open and it touched me, I hope we get a lot of interactions after it ends

no offence but there you go again using words like trapping and manipulative like it wasn't that deep, you're making a mountain out of a molehill. There is no need to cast a villain
Maybe it's just me but I don't think 3 or max 4 days of flirting equal some sort of deep/painful relationship.
Now I'm also getting too into this, so yeah agree to disagree

The fact that this a an edited reality show that lasts only one week means you can't draw those conclusions. SM met a cute guy and was flirting with him for 3 days then realized he might like someone else better. THAT'S ALL
Those are the facts, anything else is your assumption, you are not in his mind, you cannot decide his motives. You do not know this man and shouldn't judge his character based on edited clips from a TV show

okay then, condemn the behaviour not the persons character, why not say 'he shouldn't have done that 'or say 'His actions hurt that person'
When you say "he's a scheming, manipulative guy" that's a conclusion you're coming to based on almost nothing, surely you see the difference

yes manipulative is strong, that word has very negative connotations, using words like that in this frankly tame situation is not just expressing your opinion. I mean we're all watching a reality show but if sounds like you're trying to cast a villain

oh I definitely think he would have done it, most likely after he actually went on a date with JS, which still hasn't happened

you're right, I just prefer the longer formats, so much more comes out, and the participants all get to know each other better. I don't think a week is enough to drop a public persona enough to decide you know the person

Avoiding him doesn't exactly equal a made up mind, he was thinking about it and feeling guilty about wavering. I think if the show wasn't so short there would have still been the possibility that he would pick Hwi, because like he said their personalities match better

really? which k dating show is 5days, I thought they were usually longer like exchange or heart signal. K shows like to go for the feels, even singles inferno is 8 days

I feel I'm turning into a SM defender but it bothers me when people use really strong words like manipulative to describe him.
He's just being himself, he can cry if he wants to why are you shaming him for that, it's a stressful situation for everyone. I mean SH cried even more in S2 when he was deciding between JS and SW.
As for isolating Hwi, I'm not saying it's fair but it was an understandable decision as their relationship was different then. Even Hwi was happy to hear him say that when it happened. So it didn't work out, there's no point being offended by how they were flirting before things fell apart

Not really, I think he definitely would have told him, we've seen SM have difficult conversations before. Like the night he asked JS on a date and immediately went to tell Hwi. My theory is he still hadn't decided yet, but when Hwi came to ask him because he still wasn't sure, he felt it was better to let him go.
Because of the weekly episodes viewers don't really understand the timeline, it wasn't even 24hrs between these two events, how fast can he be expected to decide

Mostly young people think age gaps are not a big deal, but for older ones it's definitely a big deal and I imagine they'd feel a lot of responsibility to not mess it up. You want different things depending on where you are in life, most young people don't get that yet.

That's something that can't be helped since most older people know what it's like to be that young while most younger people can't really understand how you change as you get older.

I can't imagine being 30 and dating a 21yr old after knowing them for 1 week, no matter how mature they seem