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hey hey hope you don't mind just wanted to share a bit of a different perspective. i do agree it was kinda rushed but i put it mostly on their limited time since its a short series, but i don't think it would have been easy for yiwa and lom to tell their parents from the beginning.

the coming out and "acceptance" is hinted to have only worked because yiwa ran away. in ep 6 when lom shared about his past to nuea, he said that yiwa's and his mum were both homophobic when witnessing the two women kiss on their trip to Europe. Yiwa's mum is clearly still quite homophobic the last that we see her, and Lom's mum said "it may be hard for me to accept but it's better than losing you" basically stating she may not be very happily ready to accept it but she doesn't want lom to leave her like yiwa left her mum. plus yiwa is the big mastermind behind everything from the wedding plan as disguise for her and marine to the runaway plan XD i dont think she'll be losing out on much

without yiwa being the runaway bride
1. lom's mum may not know that they could go to the extent of being left (and quite in an embarrassing manner) or how that may feel
2. lom's mum would not have seen lom's 'heartbreak' sob story of being dumped and wish for 'someone, just anyone' who could make things better for him. (this is more of inference but perhaps she may feel guilty since shes the one who pushed for marriage and asked him to love only 1 person)
3. yiwa and marine would still have conflicts with her mum
4. if yiwa and lom got married, i suspect things would have been messier when things get unravelled
5. lom and nuea's 'he comforted me when i was heartbroken by my lesbian runaway bride, i'll never marry another woman i'll marry a man instead' story would not have worked and would not have helped lom's mum or others accept them either

like ep 1-4 had some wavering points but ep 5-7 wrapped everything (if not most) up really nicely, i think it made the show more complete and really solidified why i like it

im actually gonna miss them quite a bit;-;

i mean to be fair 7 is a very commonly done thing, it's kind of like 'we're in the present truly falling in love but our fate started in the past kind'. i dont think lom is crafty enough to have planned from his younger years of gay awakening, it would have been interesting if he did tho XD
next week's to-be mother-in-laws fight at the wedding will be a sight to behold HAHAHAH, i hope they still tie it all down and resolve it well enough though, or maybe it'll be more complete after the special ep, we'll have to see :)

plus! i think the progression of nuea finding out from yiwa and marine, to the confession, to lom opening up about his past, to nuea willing to make it official with lom, is done well because it helps frame why nuea ultimately chose to walk down this road by having him realise lom's past and also the fact that they both clearly like each other without hurting anyone else. i also liked how rine mentioned to nuea that 'i won't convince you to get involved in this whole mess' because i mean, clearly not everyone would be willing to walk that path.

lom's past + the scene of him crying i think is a way of explaining why it was so hard for him to just tell nuea cause 1. he has never told anyone 2. he doesn't want to lose whatever he had in the moment with nuea. it doesn't necessarily make it right but it sheds some like on his perspective.

i'm only a bit confused cause i thought yiwa had a divorce plan but i guess not HAHAH the marriage plan works in some foundational theory way but honestly it aint the smartest way to go about it sksks BUT HEY RUNNING AWAY ON THE WEDDING SOUNDS GOOD TOO, we're going wedding crash plan instead!

i said it before and it still remains the same, the controlling and suffocating parents hit too close to home sometimes...maybe that's why i empathise with them a bit more;-; if pressure is built up for too long, we're all bound to buckle some day no matter how hard we try to 'keep the peace'.

EP 6 MY BELOVED <3
it's my favourite ep so far and ughhh i just love it so much??? there's so many of my favourite scenes in this ep and i think ep 5 and ep 6 helps to tie a lot of loose ends, even if it's not like 'perfectly' tied.

1. nuea talking yiwa and esp marine...i think he needed a view outside of him and lom, and yiwa and marine gave just that while helping to explain lom's struggles as well. and talking to marine who is in a very similar position as him probably gave him some courage and comfort.

2. nuea twisting the creep's hand and telling him off, idk why i love nuea as a character so much but i do and gave me an energy boost when he told the guy off meanwhile lom got cut off while trying to step in...i love romcoms

3. LOM'S JEALOUSY + COLD HANDS REVEAL + HAND PINCHING SCENE ALL IN ONE??? fr i think its in my top 3 fav scenes from this show. i melted and died and got revived or sth SKSKKS the scene is full of teasing and push and pull and the vibes are saur good...probably helped that i wanted to see it since the first time i saw it in the ending montage

4. lom & yiwa's struggles in realising they were gay when they were young. (the parts on this in this ep rips my heart out) i think we really get to see the depth of how conditioned yiwa and lom are to their parents, him talking about their trip to europe and how his 15 year old self cried together with 13 year old yiwa because they realised their parents wouldn't accept them is so terribly heartbreaking. for the past 15 (?) years they've kept it, they've shared this secret from everyone, only revealing it to their partners finally. i cannot imagine the amount of pressure and the amount of words they've swallowed just to keep up the image.

5. lom crying after nuea said he would like to join the secret
6. rine's breakdown after confronting yiwa's mom, like goodness that hurt :( marine has always been known as the character who sucks it up and cries on her own, this is the one time we rly see it happen. when she said yiwa can lose her but not her family it just hurt a whole lot ;-;

7. KABOOM EXTRA SCENE OF NUEA BEING LOM'S GAY AWAKENING/POSSIBLE FIRST CRUSH???? okay i saw it coming the moment he said he went to the place when he was younger but im forever a sucker for meant to be trope and i will eat it up everytime even if its cliche

I might be in a high because im sleep deprived and ep 6 has scratched all my itches and given me a dopamine boost but i really do like it. i know the points that others make but even if its a guilty pleasure, i can't help but enjoy it. it's like my weekly high these days and when some days are harder than others its just nice to enjoy something nice and fun. i am very biased because ep 6 was like everything i liked and wanted packed into a perfectly tuned package HAHAHH incoming essay don't mind me

EP 6 SOLIDIFIES IT, I LOVE THIS SHOW IDC ANYMORE

frrrr, honestly i've seen worse sponsor ads that are more out of place i feel like they're doing a relatively okay job in incorporating it into the plot?

i think i end up saying this every week but sunnypak are doing such a great job...esp pak with this being his first series. GO BBS I'M CHEERING FOR YOU!!

from what i saw on twt i think sunny got sunburnt filming the scene when he's at the back of the truck...looks painful ngl T-T and also them bugs esp at the extra scene with nuea...they rly put in effort for it, they deserve some praise! <3

i'm actually fine with the mcd scenes?? they're a sponsor and plus i'm pretty sure it's become a special concept for lomnuea? it's like when couples associate special things into their relationship? like when you first meet at a certain place so this random and possibly ordinary place becomes special for you?

i'm pretty sure lom associates mcd with nuea, and nuea clearly seems to like it? is it rly so wrong to like mcd? XD

I JUST KNEW THERE WAS A DIVORCE PLAN!!! LETS GOO!!

on a more serious note ep 5 clears up a lot of things, i rly like it

nuea running away back home and confessing to his mother about his wrong really clears the ambiguous air of questioning his moral compass. on top of that, he seems to have already guessed that the wedding and everything was fake in some way. he just misunderstood that this was sailom's plan and that yiwa actually loves sailom/they love each other. he is aware of it being fake but does not want to be a third party anyway and get involved in the mess.

plus sailom admits he's been a coward who's afraid to tell nuea which lead to this mess, which helps in explains why my guy never opened his mouth. love me some self awareness HAHAHHA

i loved how we rly see nuea's support system this ep, from his friends to his family, they're all super protective of him and ready to fight. i love how understanding his mother is, we all make mistakes and do wrongs it doesn't make it right but knowing your wrong and making up for it helps you become a better person.

i saw someone say this ep was mopey (?) [i might rmb wrong so don't mind me] and i do agree it's much slower as comapred to the prev eps but i think it's what adds onto the plot progression. we need this low as a reflection of how nuea feels he's done wrong and for sailom to make up for not saying anything sooner.

P.S. I LOVE J'IM and also sun being on team sailom AHHAHA glad he has at least 1 person on his side

NEXT EP MIGHT BECOME MY FAV CAUSE: 1. jealous sailom 2. the hand pinching scene from the ending song that i've been waiting forever for 3. possible cute date and pinning!! wdym i have to wait a week

OKAY I LOVE EP 5 AND I CAN TELL IM GONNA LOVE EP 6 EVEN MORE

omg this is so well-written love it, thank you for your rant XD
and i totally agree, i love me my green flags but i'd eat up well-thought out flawed characters anyday! there comes a certain joy in analysing and trying to understand more complex characters, even when we don't necessarily agree with them or their actions

OH! I was just looking through the cast list again and omg there's a child actor for young sailom...I SMELL TRAUMA NGL looks like we may be getting some backstory >_<

i'm inclined to believe more people in the recent generations do try to break the cycle, especially those who are aware how they were treated was not right. in fact i believe those who realise are more likely to want to be different to their own children. i think the ones who are unable to really break the cycle of intergenerational trauma either do so because they don't realise how bad it was/they think that that is the right way to parent or they have the desire to try but don't really do well in breaking it. i think in the animation 'turing red' there's a part on this (but don't take my word for it it's been a while) and also discussed in 'everything everywhere all at once'.

when we're young/still in the eye of our parent, it's hard to live in their control. and when we're older, it's hard to gain control of ourselves to be a good parent. (at times, this is even caused by being controlled when you're young, does some long-term damage) to be fair, there's no direct manual in raising a child even if there may be some guidelines, parenting isn't easy and i suspect might be harder if you're someone whose inner child didn't get the love/childhood you deserved as an example.

it's not really revealed yet about the details but as of now what i feel is the real parental pressure (so far) is less of financials but more of mental and emotional pressure. it's kind of like the expectation of a child to 'respect' the wishes of the parent, having to juggle with loving your parent and disagreeing with them. arguing with them could become being 'rude' and 'ungrateful', esp in asian culture ;-; lom looks like he's grown under his mum's control since young so there could be conditioning as he grew up, unless there's further revealed to be other reasons why he can't seem to refuse/go against her. the pressure is to maintain the peace in the family (or even personal peace) by avoiding the possible issue/conflict though this often leads to a build up and explosive fight eventually... (i could be projecting and overthinking so take this with a grain of salt)

i'm not sure if they'll dive deep into the issue (esp into like generational trauma or homophobia, etc) since its a short romcom but i think it'd be interesting if they do!

I mean it's def not an easy feat for him to come out to his parents but i so so so agree!! i just think trying to convince your lover 'hey be my side chick for the rest of my life cuz my parents suck<3' is hella whack AHHAHAH which is why i always thought there was more to yiwa and lom's wedding plans (rmb when marine said to lom 'you're doing this for us too'?) i might be overthinking it but i'd love to see what happens if it was true (what if there was some wedding crash plan or divorce plan lolol)

i feel it depends on your growing conditions and culture, esp in asian culture where respecting parents is highly regarded, anything you say will become 'rude' and 'talking back' even if you're trying to convince them nicely of an opposite idea. and it feels like lom has been under this 'control' thing since young, it's like loving and respecting your parents but still disagreeing with them. it's honestly sad but sometimes we just grow to give in and adapt to them because of emotional exhausion from trying to argue :( it's kind of like protecting the peace in your family and takes a whole lot of courage to try and get out of...
sometimes its like knowing they love you in their own way while having to deal with the same love that is suffocating you.

tho i'm mostly speaking from personal experience and interpretation, not sure if things may change in upcoming eps. i theorise he might really speak up after he settles things with nuea but i guess we'll have to see

okay but sunnypak are doing a great job frfr i can't help but adore them