This comedy is not to be taken seriously. It is nutty, illogical at times, improbable and impossible at others. It gives you a good laugh while touching on a few serious topics.
Never ending circles of miscommunication, no communication, deliberate avoidance of communication and on and on and on. Secrets piled on secrets. Spoiled, dictatorial ML who can't actually say what he means because he doesn't know what he feels and an FL who should have stopped catering to him long before she did. There were some funny parts, some illogical and unrealistic parts, then I just skipped through the last three or four episodes as it was all just getting too much. Not bad, not that great either.
I have no idea how they got the synopsis as none of that was mentioned in the 'movie' or why they finished it like it did but it wasn't bad. Complete to a point but also felt like a letdown. They needed more; maybe this was an unsuccessful pilot? Not bad, greatly dislike one thing about it, but not bad in general.
"Learn to forgive and let go. Your life will be much better in the long run if you forgive and let go"Healing…
May I say that closure is different to forgiveness. Some people forgive without ever knowing.
Forgiveness works for everybody. It is a choice, feelings often come later and takes the Creator's help.
May I also suggest the following two movies: 1. I Can Only Imagine - Based on a true story. 2. Redeeming Love - Based on a book, very loosely based on a true story.
"Learn to forgive and let go. Your life will be much better in the long run if you forgive and let go"Healing…
1. Forgetting was never mentioned. Healing takes time and yes recognition of harm is needed. People will be held accountable for their actions, even if it is not seen by the ones harmed. 2. True, but you will be more at ease with yourself and not bring emotional or mental harm to yourself. You can still be angry. Anger is not bad, used correctly it can be healthy. Healthy, anger is a response to trespassed boundaries. Holding onto anger and allowing hate and bitterness to grow, allowing it to rule your thoughts and actions, that is really unhealthy and will turn you into a perpetrator (see drama I Hear Your Voice with Lee Jong Suk, not all the reasoning in their is great but it makes a good point). 3. Revenge ≠ justice. Yes the human legal system is flawed and can prove ineffective, frustrating and disheartening, Yes it will SEEM like they have gotten away with it, but they haven't. True, lasting justice will happen. Revenge is blinding, debilitating and turns the one pursuing it, into a perpetrator. Did you know that sometimes forgiveness and letting go is much more disturbing to the perpetrator than seeking their punishment or revenge? Forgiveness is about self-healing, not letting the perpetrator continue to rule over you mentally, long after they have forgotten or dismissed what they have done. A lot of the violence in the world today is revenge for a small thing done. A family has two sons by two mothers, one is favoured, one is not. The unfavoured one is driven from home, holds a grudge, tells bad stories about the other to his family and they hold anger and hate in their hearts, wanting to seek revenge on the other brother and his family. Both families grow bigger, the stories are passed down and one day a chance comes so unfavoured family captures and enslaves the favoured family's descendants, lots of bad, explicit things happen. Sometime later the slaves are freed and allowed to go back to their homeland. Fast forward thousands of years later, few people remember or care about the original story and we are left with two people groups who hate each other for something that if one had forgiven, let go and gone on to live his life, the atrocities we see today and how that affects the choices of people in other countries, may not have happened.
Check out the story of Corrie Ten Boom.
On a very personal level, I too have suffered unpleasantness, not to the depths of suffering as others but it has had long lasting, negative affects on my life.No, I have not forgotten what happened (although some of it yes as a protective, childhood, psychological response) but it doesn't rule over me any more, doesn't send me spiralling into depression any more, doesn't hurt any more. I still see a psychologist for help with tools to rework thinking patterns and negative, self-damaging actions. I have done and said things that I need forgiveness for and I have needed to forgive myself for some pretty big things. It all still comes back to haunt me at times but I have the ONE who has enabled me to forgive, I couldn't do it on my own, it took years and a LOT of wrestling and prayer. I have let go, I am at peace, I can leave the end result to HIM Who gives me peace beyond comprehension.
Interesting article, I have only seen two of the dramas listed. Two points I would like to add:
1. Nobody starts out truly evil. More often than not, it is one decision, one compromise at at time over time. Read the book Ordinary Men by Christopher R. Browning.
2. Learn to forgive and let go. Your life will be much better in the long run if you forgive and let go. You can pursue justice and have forgiven at the same time. Revenge ≠ justice. The consequences of actions will still exist even after forgiveness is achieved. You may not see them, the wrongdoer may not fully notice but will never be truly at ease until they repent. Unforgiveness hurts the you more than the wrongdoer who doesn't know to care. Leave that with and to them. There is a day coming when all the 'little' lies, the compromises, the slander, the "you should go die" comments on the internet, that thing you did that you know you shouldn't have, ALL will be revealed and justice and punishment will come, too late for repentance, too late for "I promise to do better". That day will be much worse (fully JUST and RIGHT) than anything human vengeance can contemplate or carry out, at no risk or cost to the one who has themselves repented, forgiven and turned to the ONE Who is LIGHT, LOVE and LIFE.
Wow, finally a drama with mature adults in it. No infantile games, no revenge, no one-up-manship (much), stupid misunderstandings and so on. A mostly realistic progression of events...
ML acted like a man (strong, supportive, kept promises, stepped up and shielded when needed, no arrogance or chest beating...), FL was strong yet no "I'm a female, let me put one over those stupid males, man bash and treat them like dirt" rubbish. They were both respectful, communicated well, supported each other, encouraged each other's growth and stayed honest and upright the whole way through.
Watching again and dislike how one person makes a series of bad choices and those around blame another for them. The truth is the truth (John 18:36-38, 17:17), reality is reality and if someone's thinking is outside of that then, with love, guide them towards truth. It may hurt them in the short term but will make them healthier in the long - that is kindness. Stop enabling bad behaviour with excuses "oh that is their personality", "that's just how they are", "let them be themselves", "they were born that way", "that is how they identify themselves" - that is a disservice to them and those around them.
Jeremiah 17:9 - "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?" Ephesians 4:31-32 - "Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you."
Well, it had some good moments and it had some very disappointing ones. I am all for forgiveness and letting things go, but brushing it off is a no. Family doesn't use you, manipulate you and favour one over the other. "B/c of [X] I thought you would understand" so it is okay that I favoured your siblings over you, why I blamed you for everything... Sorry, dodgy reasoning and not okay. Forgive YES, but with it needs to come with acknowledgement. I am deeply hurt by this, I don't like this, I am not okay with this... Yes I forgive you and I am not going to allow you to do this to me again, just "because we are family".
Forgiveness works for everybody. It is a choice, feelings often come later and takes the Creator's help.
May I also suggest the following two movies:
1. I Can Only Imagine - Based on a true story.
2. Redeeming Love - Based on a book, very loosely based on a true story.
2. True, but you will be more at ease with yourself and not bring emotional or mental harm to yourself. You can still be angry. Anger is not bad, used correctly it can be healthy. Healthy, anger is a response to trespassed boundaries. Holding onto anger and allowing hate and bitterness to grow, allowing it to rule your thoughts and actions, that is really unhealthy and will turn you into a perpetrator (see drama I Hear Your Voice with Lee Jong Suk, not all the reasoning in their is great but it makes a good point).
3. Revenge ≠ justice. Yes the human legal system is flawed and can prove ineffective, frustrating and disheartening, Yes it will SEEM like they have gotten away with it, but they haven't. True, lasting justice will happen. Revenge is blinding, debilitating and turns the one pursuing it, into a perpetrator. Did you know that sometimes forgiveness and letting go is much more disturbing to the perpetrator than seeking their punishment or revenge? Forgiveness is about self-healing, not letting the perpetrator continue to rule over you mentally, long after they have forgotten or dismissed what they have done. A lot of the violence in the world today is revenge for a small thing done. A family has two sons by two mothers, one is favoured, one is not. The unfavoured one is driven from home, holds a grudge, tells bad stories about the other to his family and they hold anger and hate in their hearts, wanting to seek revenge on the other brother and his family. Both families grow bigger, the stories are passed down and one day a chance comes so unfavoured family captures and enslaves the favoured family's descendants, lots of bad, explicit things happen. Sometime later the slaves are freed and allowed to go back to their homeland. Fast forward thousands of years later, few people remember or care about the original story and we are left with two people groups who hate each other for something that if one had forgiven, let go and gone on to live his life, the atrocities we see today and how that affects the choices of people in other countries, may not have happened.
Check out the story of Corrie Ten Boom.
On a very personal level, I too have suffered unpleasantness, not to the depths of suffering as others but it has had long lasting, negative affects on my life.No, I have not forgotten what happened (although some of it yes as a protective, childhood, psychological response) but it doesn't rule over me any more, doesn't send me spiralling into depression any more, doesn't hurt any more. I still see a psychologist for help with tools to rework thinking patterns and negative, self-damaging actions. I have done and said things that I need forgiveness for and I have needed to forgive myself for some pretty big things. It all still comes back to haunt me at times but I have the ONE who has enabled me to forgive, I couldn't do it on my own, it took years and a LOT of wrestling and prayer. I have let go, I am at peace, I can leave the end result to HIM Who gives me peace beyond comprehension.
1. Nobody starts out truly evil. More often than not, it is one decision, one compromise at at time over time. Read the book Ordinary Men by Christopher R. Browning.
2. Learn to forgive and let go. Your life will be much better in the long run if you forgive and let go. You can pursue justice and have forgiven at the same time. Revenge ≠ justice. The consequences of actions will still exist even after forgiveness is achieved. You may not see them, the wrongdoer may not fully notice but will never be truly at ease until they repent. Unforgiveness hurts the you more than the wrongdoer who doesn't know to care. Leave that with and to them. There is a day coming when all the 'little' lies, the compromises, the slander, the "you should go die" comments on the internet, that thing you did that you know you shouldn't have, ALL will be revealed and justice and punishment will come, too late for repentance, too late for "I promise to do better". That day will be much worse (fully JUST and RIGHT) than anything human vengeance can contemplate or carry out, at no risk or cost to the one who has themselves repented, forgiven and turned to the ONE Who is LIGHT, LOVE and LIFE.
ML acted like a man (strong, supportive, kept promises, stepped up and shielded when needed, no arrogance or chest beating...), FL was strong yet no "I'm a female, let me put one over those stupid males, man bash and treat them like dirt" rubbish. They were both respectful, communicated well, supported each other, encouraged each other's growth and stayed honest and upright the whole way through.
Jeremiah 17:9 - "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?"
Ephesians 4:31-32 - "Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you."