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a big thanks to Hwang Da Seul for bringing such gems in our life...starting with where your eyes linger to to my star 1 and then blueming( my absolute fav Kdrama ) and finally giving us this poignant story..can't wait to see what u give us next !!

thanks bestie !!watching with intention - my new motto 😂😂

For example you're a woman and don't want children. Then you meet a guy who wants a family badly. You think, he will say "F*ck it, I love her"? ....yes this can happen... u can meet people with very different ideals and ambitions and then find a common ground if u really love them ..that is not "being ideal" that is how loving someone works..its to care for the other persons happiness ..its not about finding the best fit !!! so according to u u should first hold meetings and match requirements and then fall in love knowing that u both will not have conflicting interests in future??

nd coming to d other part yes forgiving someone instantly irl is realistic...in dramas it shows character taking time and going through a process etc but in real life thats how it is ..the love of ur life comes back asking for forgiveness for hurting u, u obviously forgive them ( mind u there are things for which u cannot forgive ...JW did not take advantage of SJ or cheat on him or decieve him or something like that )... ...logic cannot explain everything ..if u have to go by logic then why did SJ waste a year looking for JW ...even that was unrealistic then right ??? but it doesn't work that way ..u do things which make no sense when ur in love with someone !!

yes his actions were horible and yes he treated SJ very badly but that is what this drama is trying to portray...flawed relationships ..not every couple u meet has roses growing in their backyard !!accepting someone back in ur life is not the same as forgiving someone ...the forgiveness which I agree will come with time but it does not mean that u have to keep that person away from u for that amount of time in order to forgive them..u can work on whatever issues plagued u both togehter ..forgiveness is all about seeing that the person has learnt from their mistake and how is SJ going to see whether JW is actually sorry by keeping him away ????

Thisssssss !!!! thank you for this !!!!

same...im gonna do that exactly tonight ...i think Il understand Ji Woo a lot more if i watch again !!

exactly forgiving someone and then working on things which should be corrected together is so much better than unnecessarily cutting that person out of ur life for some more time and then again remaining miserable just so u can fulfill the quota of forgiveness time !!

thats what he did ..in his own JW way he demanded from SJ in that end scene while crying like a baby things he would like SJ to do from now on...that was his way of indirectly apologizing...his way of saying that these were the things that slowly bottled up in him and made him so insecure..that was him telling that he was a coward that instead of telling all this back then he decided to run away...i dont understand why are people expecting these leads to go out of their character and do things which would negate their personality traits....u want Ji Woo a person who ran away instead of talking things out to come upfront and apologize directly for things by saying sorry..if he was capable of such expression u think he would have run away in d first place ...he is someone who says can you forgive me by saying can you hug me...that was such a nice gesture of asking for forgiveness without directly saying can you forgive me ... he apologized in his own way which SJ and so many others in the audience understood !!!

ok the last part of your comment just puts into perspective what I have vbeen trying to say ..."At the end of the day, everyone can like what they want. In real life, some people would forgive JW after all he's done, and others, while understanding his actions, wouldn't take him back or would make him work for it.".....so u agree that in real life people would take back a person like JW who comes back and asks for a chance ..then how is that ending unrealistic?? since there are people who would do that ...why are u all expecting the finale of a relationship between two flawed characters to be by the book? as for JW not apologizing ....i have already said this in so many comments JW apologizing directly by saying sorry would be very out of character for him...but that entire end scene is a big indirect apology from JW if u know how to read between lines ...bad writing is when u make people do stuff completely opposite of their character traits just to give a sanitized ending !!

first of all im not claiming i know everything about life ...my entire point is that forgiving someone can be a process but that process doesn't have to be isolating the other person from u till u forgive them....u can go through the process of forgiving someone while continuing to be together with them...to see everyday through their actions that yes they are trying !!

s1 did not have enough time to explore JWs character but we do see a lot of traits of him from s2 in s1..first and foremost being his habit of lashing out ...he did so when he blamed SJ on their first dinner togehter ...and then on numerous other occasions...then when they come back after dealing with the money extracting friend JW first reaction is completely opposite of what he is feeling ..he asks SW to leave immedieetly and SW does so in the beginning and then he comes back and sees a crying JW..so thats his nature ..in a situation of fight or flight JWs first reaction is of flight !!!

imagine waiting for something to happen for a year ...imagine going through so much pain for thaat thing to happen ...imagine losing ur pride and giving in ur everything to make something happen ...and now that thing finally happens ur like wait now is the time for me to show my self respect n pride??

i'm asking for ur solution? so waiting while being miserable is better than getting together and then making amends for what happened ??

when did an apology become a debt ? that u need to pay how much u borrowed..what is a proportional apology ? so u want Ji Woo to suffer for lets say not a year but atleast 8 months before Seo Joon should forgive him?

poor screenwriting is when u make characters do things that are completely outside their chatracter traits just to make it look sanitized and ideal !!

that entire end scene of them reconciling is a big apology if not anything else ...Ji Woo is not someone who will directly come and apologize for what he did...that will be so out of charcater for him...if he was so capable of expressing his feelings he wouldn't have had the need to run away in the first place ...he bared himself in front of Seo Joon in the end ...the things he demanded from him while crying like a baby where his way of saying this is what made me uncomfortable and this is what Im requesting from u...him asking for a hug from Seo Joon is his way of apologizing ....thats who he is as a character ...can u hug me=can u forgive me ...what happened to reading between the lines ???

i'm sorry thats exactly how it is in real life ..maybe I come from a very backward place where we give importance to emotions more than following the protocol for forgiveness ..i really don't understand this part of waiting to forgive ...as so many people have agreed with me when did forgiveness become a waiting game ..u either care enough for someone to rise above what they did and forgiver them if they are asking for a chance or u dont....there's no middle ground of waiting ...especially when ur in love with that person..at least thats what i would do ..whether it works later or not is a completely different topic !!!..so u all want Seo Joon to take revenge now and make Ji Woo suffer just so he can be even and then forgive him???.

as you said just becoz u got into a relationship and u love each other doesn't mean it will all be a garden full of roses ...people in real life are weak, coward, selfish ..basically flawed..name one person u know who can resemble any perfect character from a drama ..we do shitty things without reasons ..we end up hurting the people who love us the most through our words and actions on a regular basis ...who here can say that they were the perfect partners in a relationship? yes some people are more flawed than others
coming to Ji Woo..his character has been like that since the starting ..he was never the one to open up or talk ..he showed his emotions through acting rash ( first season so many instances when he lashes out as Seo Joon)..now these people want him to go out of character and do things which would suit an ideal person but not the character he his...
coming to the most important part...the apology ...i think i might be missing out on recent chnages in the world but since when did forgiveness = revenge...so just becoz u unintentionlly put me through so much pain now that u have come to ask for forgiveness i should put u through the same misery so that once we become even I can forgive u !!
are ppl insane ?? u either forgive someone or u dont ..u dont ask them to do tasks to earn forgiveness ...

infact I will reply to every aspect of your explanation !!