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I'm not sure what it meant either. I looked it up, but still not sure what it means in this context:

"Skibidi widely appears in reference to the show Skibidi Toilet, and other content it has inspired, from memes to merchandise. Due to its sudden and extensive popularity, it also comes up in mainstream discussions of so-called “brain rot,” or mindless content and slang associated with Generation Alpha’s perceived unhealthy digital lifestyles. In fact, the effects of such content, specifically the grim absurdity of Skibidi Toilet, have prompted a fictional ailment dubbed Skibidi Toilet Syndrome.

Outside of these contexts, skibidi is mainly used for humorous, expressive, and ironic effect. It can mimic the grammatical versatility of expletives, as in “Oh my skibidi! I didn’t expect this game to be so skibidi hard.” (We could get more technical about its grammar, but in the name of all that’s skibidi, we won’t.) While it doesn’t have a set meaning, its connotation can skew negative, due to its association with nefarious sentient plumbing, and frequent appearance in skibidi Ohio rizz, a mostly joking insult for someone thought of as bizarre or awkward."

This is from Meriam-Webster dictionary on slang.

Thank you so much. This drama hits home so close to me. I was in a relationship with someone like Quin. And, believe it or not, I was someone like Duang but with Quin's parent's (and my partner still had the same bad parents like Quin's as well). I always tried to be comical - he used to call me a clown, but it's because he was always so depressed. I take care of my mom because she's in her 80's, but she's never learned to be a good parent (my father has passed away). She's still like the mom in this show, and it's really impossible to ever change her. My partner passed away of HIV, but his personality is so close to Quin, that I see him in this show every time I watch it. Good luck finding friends, and a good relationship. I'm in the mental health business and I would suggest finding a counselor. I know they can help.

I'm in the same boat as you. I grew up with terrible parents - they were just like these guys in the drama, but worse. Parents don't change, so this drama is a little unrealistic. I'm giving it a pass because it's a drama, but those parents need 10 more years of rehabilitation. Most parents would never admit their mistakes, and Asian parents even less than those in the west.

I like how Quin says that he's still recovering, and how he's still unsure of himself at the Jazz festival. That at least keeps things a little more realistic.

This show does offer some good modeling for me as well as others. It's healing to just watch a person like Duang help out a troubled kid like Quin.

Let's all hope for a Season 2.

Wow, what an amazing show! I just love how we have avoided the fake drama of an episode 11. Again this show demonstrates such great emotional intelligence that we steer clear of the crazy misunderstandings. Instead of Quin’s family having a heated feud for the whole episode, it lasts only a few minutes. I think they played it just right. Quin finally expresses his long-pent up frustration at being ignored, and his parents don’t get it at first. That’s good that they didn’t because it would have been unrealistic – they’ve been oblivious for years, and they also thought they were doing great as parents. I like how Duang didn’t interrupt them as they were talking to help Quin out at first. The show really did well to let it build up first before Duang finally intervenes – that really played a lot better than if Duang had jumped in there early. The parents didn’t blame Duang either, even as they said Quin had changed. I think it is implied here that the change was due to Duang, but it was really good that they didn’t launch into an attack on him, avoiding melodrama and keeping things real. I think that the moment that Duang finally does intervene was done perfectly because he gives Quin the hug that the parents have never given him and demonstrates to them, visually, what the problem with their parenting is. The parents see it clearly at that point, and their hugging Quin was a real cathartic moment that I felt was done brilliantly.

This is how you do an episode 11. Don’t change the whole flow of the show but integrate it with everything that has come before. You can have a lot of drama, and I believe the confrontation with the parents was definitely enough, but you don’t have to change the whole course of the show to do it.

I like how in the rest of the episode we continue to have great communication, like when they buy clothes together. Quin’s gift of the slippers was really done well because he explains how it is different than when Duang bought him his camera – his gift won’t break his bank, and he tells Duang that he should be allowed to buy him nice presents if he wants to as an expression of his love for him.

Another highlight of this episode was the jazz festival. It’s really important that Duang encourages Quin whenever he falters. It continues to demonstrate the title of the series Duang With You, because Quin really still struggles with low self-esteem. Duang always supports him and he tells Quin to imagine him being there with him, and to make that even more clear he shouts out to him and positions himself right in front of him. He’s training Quin to know that he will always back him up, and with that support he can perform without fear of humiliation. I love, love that song because it was all about them, and how they repeated that refrain at the end so many times, finally changing the last phrase was just brilliant.

So much happens in these episodes, and they don’t waste a moment. The show ends with the great contrast between Duang’s family and Quin’s. Duang’s family is very supportive and is such a breath of fresh air compared to Quin’s. You can feel how Quin would benefit enormously from being around them. It’s so different in tone to the rest of this episode which is so brooding. They also provide more background as to how Duang grew up, and you see how parents should behave. Duang’s mom was always supportive and never tried to force him into something he didn’t want to do. The brother is also helpful and gives Duang a lot of good relationship advice. These people are light years ahead of Quin’s family. Even if Quin’s family is wealthy, Duang’s family is the real success story.

This series is one of the best I’ve ever seen and will become iconic in the BL genre. Every episode is good individually and builds on the last one which is a difficult feat. My compliments for everyone involved – the crew, the director, the actors, the screenplay writers, and even the cinematographers. This is a series with strengths in every area – it’s really made with heart and dedication.

Here it is https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w3h2GsZ_8wE. I haven't watched too many of these videos, but I'm can't see that there's an icy chill between Por and TeeTee. They do so many videos together where they are very comfortable with each other. Maybe, I'm missing something. I didn't watch the whole video, but let me know what you think.

These parents are horrifying as portrayed. There is no coming back from what they have done without some "extreme" acts of contrition which will not happen given what I have seen so far. The mom, in particular, is treated as someone that is angelic. Just replay the scene where she is telling Duang about Quin. It's like someone that is completely rehabilitated, and the ball is now in Qin's court. No, it's not his turn to fix this family. The parents need to have many sessions with therapists without Quin to learn their role as parents, and what their role is in fixing Quin's past trauma. Never hugging him once is indicative of poor parenting that would lead to things like throwing him to the wolves, like the nanny, when given the chance. This whole situation is their fault, and the nanny isn't wrong though she's only saying it out of selfishness.

It's just as bad that after that, they ignored him for years. These guys are the real villains of this series. I don't think that is the intention of the writers, but I can't understand why they thought that leaving this kid alone for years afterwards WITH NO ONE wasn't just beyond neglectful. In this this context, it was very abusive. This is a big flaw in the plot. The parents should be treated like periah's in this series, but just look at the sympathetic portrayal of them, especially the mom, whenever they're onscreen. Well the father is portrayed as being a little neglectful, but the mom almost seems angelic the way she's depicted. Love this show, but even the best shows can have drawbacks.

I know, lol, but they need more. It's like that psychiatrist disappeared after 1 session. They were so close, and kudos for that little bit, but he needs a therapist for a couple of years

I love this episode, and Duang with You is continuing its winning streak. Every episode is really excellent and the story is always progressing and getting better. The relationship is actually starting and not with a whole bunch of artificial fluff, but going on to real issues that gay couples face. Finally a show brave enough to get to the relationship phase without ending the show – most of these dramas have 12 episodes of “the chase”, where like a Tantalus, the gay couple is hopelessly pursuing each other while facing a bizarre and endless set of obstacles, that roll them back down to the foot of Relationship Hill. It’s one of the regressive aspects of BL’s that I’ve always disliked, and even after the chase is over, and the couple is together, along comes episode 11 with just another artificial barrier to the relationship – like gay people have to be cursed by the fates. It’s similar to the regressive ideas of the 50’s where the gay has to die tragically at the end of the drama.

Yet this show went even further in the latest episode, because people are actually communicating, and it feels like at such a break-neck pace compared to other BL’s that I’m having whiplash. Yes, we started with some lovey-dovey scenes with the mains, but they quickly got into a dispute where both partners, and their friends have to discuss things, and feel each other out, and come to a somewhat mature resolution. No endless drama over some petty slight that remains unspoken and misunderstood for 3 or more episodes just irritating the heck out of the viewers and leaving the impression that gays are mutes that like to wallow in their own self-inflicted misery. Why not have more episodes where we get to see the couple we like, not just in NC scenes, but living together, and making cute moments together. Is this a revolutionary idea? I don’t think it is, and I could really watch BL’s with more of this than just NC scenes, or the endless fighting and bickering that make up the rest of a couple's screentime together.

I like how Duang and Quin’s dynamic works. Quin is the practical one, and Duang is the golden retriever that will lick you to death. Quin isn’t so damaged that he can’t take care of himself like Duang thinks. Quin also sees how Duang is totally clueless about how to take care of him without ruining himself in the process. Quin was right in taking a tough stance with Duang because 55,000 baht (about $1700 US dollars) is a ridiculous sum for a Thai youngster who has no job to be spending for just one gift. How Quin tells him to give him presents like before that were made with heart was so appropriate, even if it was cliché. It was done so well when they brought back the flashback of the candy Duang had made in one of the first episodes, it felt like the first time I’ve ever heard that advice. It’s great how Duang reciprocates later, taking care of Quin, telling him that he would take on all his pain. The plot was totally on point here, offering a clever parallel. It felt as if Quin was at a breaking point taking care of Duang having used up all his reserves of compassion. It’s hard for people that have been so abused like he was to take care of others. It was the point that he needed some compassion in return. Por is such a good actor – he had those sad-puppy dog eyes to reflect just a remembrance of a sad memory when he was playing the guitar, and it was done so persuasively. This moved on to a full ugly cry later on when Quin retold the whole story of the abusive nanny. It wasn’t ugly, though - Por is always beautiful, and no more handsome than in this scene. It's also muted because he can't really get himself to cry like normal people (Por nails that in this portrayal). I’ve seen few BL actors that cried in such a moving way – just perfectly done.

But please bring back the psychiatrist. Duang can’t even take care of himself, so he’s not going to solve Quin’s mental health issues. Quin needs more therapy, and I’m just asking for that one favor from Domundi – you guys are doing incredible things but I need to see Quin get some help, and you’ll have created a perfect 10 BL for me. As it is I’m giving you a 9.9. Great job, all around! Even the second couple was ok this episode. Whenever those guys came on I was like Yuck, time to hit the FF, but they were pretty good this time around.

I think what is probably one of the greatest strengths of this series is its perceptive exploration of psychology, especially between these seemingly polar opposite personality types. I say seemingly opposite because they do share a lot in common. They both are people that are sincere and authentic, but Qin is just more damaged and defensive. I think sometimes, because of his defensiveness he bullies Duang a little bit, but it isn’t extreme. It feels like he is just playing with him, and Duang likes to make him angry enough to just get a reaction out of him (for attention). Even though Qin is a little damaged, it’s not that bad. He can bully Duang because Duang is a super nice guy, and Qin likes that sense of control. He didn’t have that with Taew at all – you can see his whole demeanor and facial expressions are totally different with his former boyfriend. Taew wasn’t someone whom he could be in charge of at all. I’m not saying that he needs to dominate Duang, but it’s a natural inclination. Duang cheerfully indulges Qin, and Qin really isn’t a bully. It’s a subtle psychological portrait that the series does so well. These aren’t extreme characters, but people we can all relate to. I think Qin still needs a therapist because that trauma he experienced from his parents isn’t dissipating, and Duang is not the remedy. His parents might improve, and Duang might offer the affection and attention that he had been lacking, but that is just not enough. It looks like he’s been tortured as a young kid, and ignored as a teenager and young adult. That’s something that needs professional help, but it probably won’t be depicted in this series. It’s just not presented in virtually every BL I’ve seen. It seems to perpetuate the idea that love cures all ills, but that simply isn’t the case. Nonetheless, this series is doing an incredible job presenting a detailed and realistic portrait of these fascinating characters, and the actors have done an extraordinary job bringing complex personality traits out in a very natural way. I think people ignore how Por bring’s out Qin’s despair with just his eyes when he’s listening to Taew, or how he show’s how much in love he is with Duang in various scenes just with a slight softening of his facial expression, and those sultry looks in the NC scenes are unparalleled. Everyone already knows how Teetee is really excellent at comedic acting, but he can depict a much more serious character like in his love scenes, or when Duang was upset over Qin’s possible reattachment with Taew. I remember someone saying that they couldn’t imagine Duang in a love scene (that it would be like pedophilia), but they didn’t realize that Teetee was not only fully capable of it, but brought out some of the best love scenes I’ve ever seen in a BL. It might not be a complex script, but it’s the psychological exploration in this series, and the amazing acting that I’m watching this for.

Episodes 7,8,9 are actually different and Duang is less hyper, but I understand- I drop series if I can’t get into it by episode 4-5. It’s that this one does change a little bit to make it more palatable. I think episode 9 was amazing, and episode 8 shows a totally different side of Duang.

I've never seen it, lol. I'm not into bromance - that's too tame for me (bad pun there 😊)

I know, I just saw that. That is actually rare. They don't change that much at all normally after several months. Untamed has been at 9.0 for years

I mean the ratings would fall back down. Like they would go to an 8.1. Maybe crash is too dramatic a word there, but it felt like a crash to anyone in the comment section. Just imagine at this episode, Duang with You suddenly dropped to an 8.5. You would be like, but this was the best episode ever and where did those thousands of negative ratings come from - and it would have to be thousands when these drops occurred. No BL would ever make it beyond 8.5 before and it seemed to be some artificial ceiling.

A technical note on ratings. I've been researching their system on here for years, and I've noticed how BL's were always underrated. I do think there was some bias in their system. Any BL that got a rating that was above 8.5 always crashed a few years back. It wasn't just me that was thinking this but everyone else in the comment sections. We never understood the cause, but believe me, it had something to do with the administration back then. That just seems to have changed recently with shows like Khemjira, and Me and Thee. I think this one will definitely make it out fine. I don't care about the ratings, per se. I watch a show and enjoy it whatever the ratings, etc (this is what everyone says), but I think a good rating does help draw in more people that are just scanning MDL for a good show and are just starting their BL journey. I'm more likely to see a 9 and want to check it out. I hope when people see a 9 for this show it will get more people to see this excellent series. Even for the rest of us, rating systems are useful when hundreds of people are involved and come to the same conclusion. I've seen some weird ratings, though, so don't make it your exclusive criteria. If you are interested in rankings it's under top shows under the explore tab. You might notice that some shows have different rankings despite having the same ratings - talking to staff at MDL, there are decimal points that they don't show you on there so it more like a show is rated something like 9.01432... , than a straight 9.0.

A note about ratings. This is currently the highest rated BL of an ongoing series, and would be the highest completed BL series if it ends on a 9. Congratulations to all involved, and you deserve it! This show has been getting progressively better till the point it has become iconic. It seriously has moved to a new level that I haven't seen in a university BL before. It is one of the most intense BL 's that doesn't even need the prop of seismic events for its intensity. It's the most carefree drama while still being totally serious about the issues it presents. It's totally unique and over-the-top with its comedy without collapsing into absurdity. It really is astonishingly good, and will be one of the best BL's ever made wherever it lands with its ending.

Beautiful comment. Duang's parents were just like mine, and you nailed it. Duang's parents were nicer than mine, and you have a difficult time opening up to people when parents teach you that nobody care's for you. I've always said that these shows lack the depiction of therapy. I've only seen it on one show which happens to be Bed Friends (where Por's bandmate James is depicting someone with very abusive parents). Qin will be helped by Duang, but he needs to see a therapist as well. I loved that scene with Ordinary People. I'm guessing that Por plays piano because those hands moved perfectly, and that scene was just gripping in its intensity for me, and you said it - it was beyond romance.

I love oddsare's comments. I find them to be very original and well thought out. I wouldn't jump to this conclusion, at all. She also responds to comments in a very constructive way. You should avoid these kind of accusations because they are very hurtful and nearly impossible to prove. I've never used ChatGPT so I don't know what you're talking about, it's preferred mode of expressing itself, but I can't imagine it can construct long, original paragraphs, and follow them up with more thoughtful commentary that make sense.

This BL is just brilliant. I think what is remarkable about it is that it is the probably the best BL that is just pure BL. There isn’t much of the melodrama found in the others like toxic female leads, psychopathic parents, etc. which offer nothing but distractions from the enjoyable part of the BL that most of us enjoy. I have never heard anyone tell me they really enjoyed the segment where a psychopathic former girlfriend of one of the mains decides to destroy the relationship through some inane witchcraft of the most diabolically irritating variety. And no one likes mafiosi parents that want to dismember their son’s gay lover. I watch BL’s for the passion, tenderness, and love of one man for another, and this drama delivers that like no other. It’s well acted and always entertaining. There are no dead spaces where someone stares meaninglessly at the wall for an hour. They have made use of almost every moment in a constructive way, and even the silliness is always appropriate. There is a muted drama that is more akin to the real world than the melodrama found in most BL’s . Tiw, the former boyfriend, isn’t totally out for blood, and Duang and Qin get over the disruption he causes very quickly. Qin’s parents are not obsessive control-freaks, but people who are looking out for Qin while still trying to get him to listen to them about his future career, and they understand that they've made mistakes in how they raised him. Yet the drama when it does occur is more impactful to me because it feels sincere and realistic. I think Duang’s crying was just very natural because it was built up so well with the story-telling, and with Duang’s acting. It felt like something that was so “alive”, like I was secretly watching something in the real world. The natural angst built up by Duang’s complete devotion to Qin was let out in such a cathartic way, and it felt totally necessary – it was one of the most heartfelt scenes I’ve seen in a BL. When you have a lot of artificial events like in these other dramas, this can never happen. I just love Duang and Qin’s romantic scenes. They seem to execute them with such tenderness, while conveying a heightened sense of passion that few BL’s ever convey because they can never get their actors to be like real lovers – they’re too stiff to convey a sense of two people being totally into each other. It’s the nose cuddling, and the comfortableness with which Qin sits in Duang’s lap. Finally, we have a BL that isn’t ashamed of itself in the smallest bit. I think the sense of connection that Duang and Qin have is remarkable, and is perhaps the best I’ve ever seen – it feels effortless and flawless. I think the director is doing an amazing job. She’s handling everything with real heart, and I mean that. You can feel her empathy for every character, and her ability to let the drama unfold as naturally as possible, like a slowly blooming flower. She has excellent pacing. It seemed just perfect that Duang asks him to be his boyfriend after Qin plays Ordinary People for him on the piano. I think she’s helped to fully realize a BL the way it should always have been done.

Thank you. I wrote this comment because I cared about this series and I thought it was sad how they went after that one actor after every episode. It was all just group-think in the worst way. I think the series was so thoughtful, poignant, and uplifting (in the end), and was just treated so unfairly by the reviewers ln here. The series reviews are especially thoughtless and insensitive. There are so few good series out there and they deserve recognition, not vapid criticism.