I had a different understanding of the conversation with the parents and the conversation Sun Hao.
First, the mom tells him that it's okay to slow down, and live his life, and that there are people all around that love him. Later she and his father say they like Phoebe, BUT if he doesn't like her he should let her know soon so he doesn't waste her time. Basically, they are saying that if he wants to move on with her they'll support it and he should go ahead and get married, but acknowledging that he doesn't seem happy and that he doesn't have to get married he just has to be fair to the person he's with. They aren't telling him what to do, instead they are telling him that they want him to find happiness. While there's nothing to suggest the dad is completely over his homophobia, I think that taken with the overall character development in the show, it's fair to read that as them having come to terms with supporting whatever their son decides.
The translation that I watched (on Viki) for the Sun Bo conversation was a bit confusing. I went back and carefully rewatched it and I think that it wasn't generally about "are you gay"... it was specifically a question "now that you've met someone who reminds you so much of the person you're missing, is it that you don't have feelings for him or that you don't want to have feelings for him."
Earlier at the cafe, we saw how very different the doppleganger was in personality from Xe Gu. Hao Ting was maybe considering whether he had feelings for this person at various points and this was maybe one last wistful try before he left... he told the joke that Xe Gu had told him to make him happy long ago and the guy was completely oblivious to it.
So, when Hao Ting says that no one can replace Xe Gu, I don't think he's saying "so I'll never be attracted to a man again," I think he's saying "so I'm not going to chase someone who looks like him, because looking like him isn't enough to make me love a person who isn't him." Which, while it doesn't exactly answer the question of whether he is attracted to other guys, does confirm that his *love* for Xe Gu wasn't a simple matter of lust (which is, I think, one of the interpretations of the "it's just a phase" concept).
And I felt like Hao Ting saying he wanted to see the world and meet more people was a statement about wanting to figure himself out a little more, which to me actually made it a bit ambiguous about whether he's going to stay with his girlfriend, or explore who he is in relation to people *as themselves* and not as ways to forget (girlfriend) or remember (doppleganger) Xe Gu. Now, I do agree with another reviewer who said that his comment about seeing the Himalayas sounded a bit like he was going to go commit suicide there, and not at all (to me) like he was going to get over Xe Gu.
All in all, I think that they tried to cram way too much into the last episode for how much that plot twist needed, and so they didn't fully develop what deserved to be developed. I think they did the time skip so that we could have the resolution of the second couple, but it did make for a weird discontinuity in the Hao Ting's story, and the stuff you point out I agree wasn't written very well. There are certainly multiple readings of it (I mean, read through the comments and you'll see a number of people who think Xe Gu lived but lost his memory!)
But I actually think that when you take the *parents* storylines, as backgrounded as they are, there is a completely different interpretation than the one you had. As a parent (and as a child with difficult parents), I noticed that from the New Year's episode on they were paralleling the older second lead's past with Hao Ting's present in terms of the choices that parents make. They used that to show that the pain Hao Ting's parents were putting him in doesn't end... Zhi Gang experiences ongoing pain because of his parents' choices.
Hao Ting's mother sees the possibility of loosing her son and makes it clear to his father that that is where they are headed if they don't accept Xe Gu. The fact that they are coming to dinner on the night that Xe Gu dies shows that they are willing to acknowledge Xe Gu... it's not just that they won't forbid the relationship, but that he has a place in their family as a person officially dating their son. I feel like, especially given the context of legalized same sex marriage in Taiwan, that's a pretty big deal and it's one of the reasons that I don't think they were pushing him into a heterosexual marriage, but genuinely telling him that they support his choices.
In the context of the background parent storylines, the "Make Our Days Count" message and Xu Gu death take on another layer in terms of showing that there are many ways to loose your child, but not all of those ways are inevitable. I felt it had a strong message to parents to accept their children, because rejecting them is painful but also because we never know how much longer we have with anyone.
Anyway, clearly it provoked a lot of thoughts. I wanted to engage your comment because you noticed some of the same things that I did, but with a different interpretation, which makes it interesting. I hope my comment was interesting for you :)
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First, the mom tells him that it's okay to slow down, and live his life, and that there are people all around that love him. Later she and his father say they like Phoebe, BUT if he doesn't like her he should let her know soon so he doesn't waste her time. Basically, they are saying that if he wants to move on with her they'll support it and he should go ahead and get married, but acknowledging that he doesn't seem happy and that he doesn't have to get married he just has to be fair to the person he's with. They aren't telling him what to do, instead they are telling him that they want him to find happiness. While there's nothing to suggest the dad is completely over his homophobia, I think that taken with the overall character development in the show, it's fair to read that as them having come to terms with supporting whatever their son decides.
The translation that I watched (on Viki) for the Sun Bo conversation was a bit confusing. I went back and carefully rewatched it and I think that it wasn't generally about "are you gay"... it was specifically a question "now that you've met someone who reminds you so much of the person you're missing, is it that you don't have feelings for him or that you don't want to have feelings for him."
Earlier at the cafe, we saw how very different the doppleganger was in personality from Xe Gu. Hao Ting was maybe considering whether he had feelings for this person at various points and this was maybe one last wistful try before he left... he told the joke that Xe Gu had told him to make him happy long ago and the guy was completely oblivious to it.
So, when Hao Ting says that no one can replace Xe Gu, I don't think he's saying "so I'll never be attracted to a man again," I think he's saying "so I'm not going to chase someone who looks like him, because looking like him isn't enough to make me love a person who isn't him." Which, while it doesn't exactly answer the question of whether he is attracted to other guys, does confirm that his *love* for Xe Gu wasn't a simple matter of lust (which is, I think, one of the interpretations of the "it's just a phase" concept).
And I felt like Hao Ting saying he wanted to see the world and meet more people was a statement about wanting to figure himself out a little more, which to me actually made it a bit ambiguous about whether he's going to stay with his girlfriend, or explore who he is in relation to people *as themselves* and not as ways to forget (girlfriend) or remember (doppleganger) Xe Gu. Now, I do agree with another reviewer who said that his comment about seeing the Himalayas sounded a bit like he was going to go commit suicide there, and not at all (to me) like he was going to get over Xe Gu.
All in all, I think that they tried to cram way too much into the last episode for how much that plot twist needed, and so they didn't fully develop what deserved to be developed. I think they did the time skip so that we could have the resolution of the second couple, but it did make for a weird discontinuity in the Hao Ting's story, and the stuff you point out I agree wasn't written very well. There are certainly multiple readings of it (I mean, read through the comments and you'll see a number of people who think Xe Gu lived but lost his memory!)
But I actually think that when you take the *parents* storylines, as backgrounded as they are, there is a completely different interpretation than the one you had. As a parent (and as a child with difficult parents), I noticed that from the New Year's episode on they were paralleling the older second lead's past with Hao Ting's present in terms of the choices that parents make. They used that to show that the pain Hao Ting's parents were putting him in doesn't end... Zhi Gang experiences ongoing pain because of his parents' choices.
Hao Ting's mother sees the possibility of loosing her son and makes it clear to his father that that is where they are headed if they don't accept Xe Gu. The fact that they are coming to dinner on the night that Xe Gu dies shows that they are willing to acknowledge Xe Gu... it's not just that they won't forbid the relationship, but that he has a place in their family as a person officially dating their son. I feel like, especially given the context of legalized same sex marriage in Taiwan, that's a pretty big deal and it's one of the reasons that I don't think they were pushing him into a heterosexual marriage, but genuinely telling him that they support his choices.
In the context of the background parent storylines, the "Make Our Days Count" message and Xu Gu death take on another layer in terms of showing that there are many ways to loose your child, but not all of those ways are inevitable. I felt it had a strong message to parents to accept their children, because rejecting them is painful but also because we never know how much longer we have with anyone.
Anyway, clearly it provoked a lot of thoughts. I wanted to engage your comment because you noticed some of the same things that I did, but with a different interpretation, which makes it interesting. I hope my comment was interesting for you :)