Xiaoyu is a mature woman who from the very first day in the show knew hewen was interested in yuer and that her…
That is a beautiful and incredibly positive comment! It shows genuine appreciation for her character and stands out as a breath of fresh air. Thanks for pointing it out
This Was Never About Pursuing Harder. It Was About Basic Manners.
Hewen was called passive because he did not interrupt Yue’er with someone else. That is not weakness. It is courtesy.
When he finally invited Yue’er to talk, he apologized, made his feelings clear and said he would choose her without demanding the same.
Then what did Xilun do?
He had private time with Yue’er by the sea the night before. Yet during Hewen’s rare chance to talk, Xilun stayed nearby until Yue’er noticed. Two hours later came a note saying he had waited two hours.
If you want to say good night, say good night. It does not need a waiting-time receipt.
We cannot know his intention, but pressure does not require malicious intent. Yue’er still knew someone was waiting while she talked to Hewen.
Then she cried—and somehow she was blamed. Hewen was still called passive.
The respectful man became “passive.” The pressured woman became “indecisive.” The person occupying the space became “proactive.”
Not interrupting is not passivity. It is manners.
The irony? Hewen’s longest uninterrupted time with Yue’er came when she was seasick and asleep. Xilun left. Hewen stayed. Once she was awake, even two hours became difficult.
After Final Choice, the details became stranger. Over two months later, Yue’er’s keyword was seasickness—not one of her many activities with Xilun, but the day she was sick, slept, and Hewen stayed.
The Qixi MV also gave Hewen and Yue’er that couple framing.
None of this proves her final choice. But “Hewen did not pursue enough” becomes harder to defend.
Perhaps the wrong two people were blamed.
Wanting all the space while denying others the same courtesy is not pursuit. It is bad manners.!!
Oh look, are you crying now? Don't worry, the finale will clear everything up, so dry your tears, ok? Besides,…
That's called 'calling out another hypocrite'—since you clearly don't know the definition. Are you still crying? Lol. You're the one responding to every comment like a triggered bot. Stay mad.
so xilun posted some pics in which according to hewen fans yuer sweater is in the background and now yuer is getting…
Oh look, are you crying now? Don't worry, the finale will clear everything up, so dry your tears, ok? Besides, assuming every single hater is a Hewen fan is hilarious. Some people just don’t like what they see on their screens—kind of like how you feel reading these comments. Look at you whining. Hypocrisy at its finest.
I struggle to think of another contestant with as little self-esteem as Xiaoyu: she traveled all the way to Thailand…
She doesn't care if you struggle, she’s a sweetheart with actual high self-respect. 'Picking up the tab' just means she’s loaded and generous. Stay bitter and broke while she stays classy.
Call me crazy all you want, but you're the one assuming you know his entire character from a TV screen. Unless you know him personally, you're guessing just as much as the rest of the internet. I'm just realistic—you're just defensive.
You think they are allowed to just say whatever they want on an official promotional watch-along? Look at how you scrambled to change its tune the second Xilun was criticized. If an you can’t even sit still without trying to soften the blow, what makes you think the female cast members are free to break their contracts and call out rude behavior on a highly produced show? bobo
A happy ending? lol please. 'Blinky' is busy collecting girls in real life like Pokémon. The screenshots and videos of his chats are literally everywhere online. He needs to clarify his actual scandals before anyone treats him like a victim.
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This Was Never About Pursuing Harder. It Was About Basic Manners.
Hewen was called passive because he did not interrupt Yue’er with someone else. That is not weakness. It is courtesy.
When he finally invited Yue’er to talk, he apologized, made his feelings clear and said he would choose her without demanding the same.
Then what did Xilun do?
He had private time with Yue’er by the sea the night before. Yet during Hewen’s rare chance to talk, Xilun stayed nearby until Yue’er noticed. Two hours later came a note saying he had waited two hours.
If you want to say good night, say good night. It does not need a waiting-time receipt.
We cannot know his intention, but pressure does not require malicious intent. Yue’er still knew someone was waiting while she talked to Hewen.
Then she cried—and somehow she was blamed. Hewen was still called passive.
The respectful man became “passive.” The pressured woman became “indecisive.” The person occupying the space became “proactive.”
Not interrupting is not passivity. It is manners.
The irony? Hewen’s longest uninterrupted time with Yue’er came when she was seasick and asleep. Xilun left. Hewen stayed. Once she was awake, even two hours became difficult.
After Final Choice, the details became stranger. Over two months later, Yue’er’s keyword was seasickness—not one of her many activities with Xilun, but the day she was sick, slept, and Hewen stayed.
The Qixi MV also gave Hewen and Yue’er that couple framing.
None of this proves her final choice. But “Hewen did not pursue enough” becomes harder to defend.
Perhaps the wrong two people were blamed.
Wanting all the space while denying others the same courtesy is not pursuit. It is bad manners.!!