You and Everything Else

A friendship torn between admiration and resentment

"I could never beat her"
"I've never beaten her"

(Note: I'm not much experienced in review writing but I would try to make it as much as helpful as possible and spoiler free as well.)

Quick Summary:
This is the story between two childhood friends who have admired and resented each other. Their friendship had started with hatred for each other since their childhood. They separated their paths in their teenage, then years later reunited in their 20's. As the story goes, they again separate their ways only to meet again after a few years in their 30's. The admiration hadn't died yet died by then but neither had the resentment died which make them separate their ways again only to have their paths crossed in their 40's when the SFL was diagnosed with cancer.

Character Synopsis:
Let's start it off with the character of Ryu Eunjung, the FL of the drama. She was shown as a kind hearted person in the series but she was easily manipulated by the SFL which made her look too naive.
Her feelings for Sangyeon (SFL) started from admiration. When she first saw Sangyeon, she admired the confidence she had. She cared for the SFL a lot, even at that time when she was supposed to cuss at her, had wanted to punch her, she still cared for her deeply. She didn't believe what was true or not, she believed what she wanted to believe which made her character more realistic to me. In life, we have also had those situation where we know what's the truth but end up believing what we want to believe.

Then comes the SFL, Cheon Sangyeon. Her feelings for FL started with envy. She felt that she was never able to make her mother or her brother smile which FL was able to do. She was toxic but had still cared for the FL. She didn't want to look pathetic but cause of her high pride, she ended up loosing her everything. She was pathetic and a bitch which she knew herself. When she feels like, she leaves the people who admire her just to come back years later on again and expect them to wait for her. Which was what led to their friendship be ruined over and over again. She always played the victim card whenever she needed it to manipulate the FL.

Talking about their friendship, it seemed toxic but that was all what the SFL said she had left. Even the FL, who was done wrong by the SFL a lot of times, ended up forgiving her at the end.

Things I liked abt the show:
- The cinematography. I usually found the type of cinematography entertaining as it was shown in the drama. (the cinematography gave off the vibes of 20th century girl and soulmate)
- The show talked abt camera and photography (it's ne of my hobbies too which is why I was totally hooked in the story of the 20's of the FLs)
- The OSTs. They weren't memorable but they were pretty good.
- The acting was well done>>
- The dynamics between the FL and her mother.
- The pacing of the drama was also well done.
- Liked how they showed us that we sometimes don't know the value of those who loves us until they are gone (talking abt the SFL and her mother's relationship)

Things I disliked:
- The show lacked the depth of the SFL.
- In their 20's arc, the ML, when he found out that the SFL's brother was one of his online friends, he started to look out for her more, even more than the FL whom he was dating at that time. A lot of scenes showed us that he had romantic feelings towards the SFL which wasn't the actual case according to him.
- The FL forgave the SFL way too easily.

Overall, I liked the show. Had started it with high expectations and it didn't let down of those expectations. Although the SFL's back story was shown way later, it still hit me hard. The love triangle felt irritating and annoying sometimes but it was bearable. The dynamics shown between the two FLs would be hard to understand at first but as it keeps going, we get to know what they truly meant for each other. A person whom you can never truly resent.
If you have completed the series, I'd suggest you to go for a sweet rom-com drama as it was a heavy melo drama. Would also suggest to not select a drama whose main focus is love triangle. My suggestions would be Hometown ChaChaCha, Business Proposal, Welcome to Waikiki, etc.
If you want something similar to this, I'd recommend 20th century girl, soulmate (2023), from my watch list.

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No One Mourns the Wicked

I did not like Sang Yeon one bit, but if death is involved, and since the acting was top-notch, I could not help it: I am a crybaby at my core, I will cry if it gets sad. This show and its depiction of a female friendship that gets lost in a cycle of toxicity throughout childhood years until adulthood … aye, who did not have a toxic friendship break-up in their life? It hit hard. Sang Yeon’s reflections about her mother and brother towards the end, and how they died, also hit me on a more personal level.

SY is not a likable character. She is pathetic, self-destructive, and a saboteur. It honestly got intolerable once we entered the women’s adult years and they ended up working at the same place. She reached a point of no return there for me; at your big age you still act like a child? Her life wasn’t easy, her environment at home not as warm and loving as Eun Jungs’s, however, your circumstances are not an excuse to be a shitty person to someone else. Especially not someone who tolerates you using them as a punching bag all the time. This relationship between SY and EJ was emotionally draining, and once we got to the present bits it turned into this emotional manipulation to evoke sympathy. The “I have cancer”-card was pulled; “I know I should not be here with how I treated you”’s were said. Then leave. Genuinely, I don’t know if I could have been as strong, or forgiving, as Eun Jung. Sang Yeon, at the end of the show, was someone I gladly wanted to be gone. In her self-destruction, she took everyone down with her, ruining friendships and relationships, playing the victim, imposing herself when she knew she wasn’t liked that way, etc. Yet she complained that her life was awful, that she was alone … And whose fault is that? Of course, it’s easy to blame everyone else instead of yourself, and SY was a master at this. Playing the victim and thinking the world revolved around you final boss.

Unfortunately, I am a sensitive being, so if death is depicted, and you realize that at the end of it, they were just two girls again, it still hurt. Maybe because all this pain and loss was dumped on EJ’s shoulders in the end. She may have found some closure, somehow, but it doesn’t change the fact that it needed this drastic outcome for SY to apologize. And I am glad that EJ called her out on it, to be honest. I will never rewatch this show, because I would just get mad all over again, but also because this shit hurt… just a little! Great show, great acting, breezy OST that lightens the heaviness of the subject matter, but it’s one-time-experience.

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Agenda ruined a great drama

In short. I thought this was such a great drama, a 9.0 drama - until episode 7 finished.
I am so annoyed by political agenda being forced into every story, even when it doesn't fit AT ALL, like here.

Anything would have made sense about the dead brother - that he wasn't allowed to study photography which obviously meant the world to him, that his rich parents really didn't approve of his girldfriend and he wouldn't have wanted to live without her, that he had been forced into the military by his father and decided to die instead, I would have even bought it if they had said he was secretely gay, as his character was played like I could have imagined that.

But to force a trans story into this, reasoning it with something like 'he always played with dolls when he was little' (which means NOTHING concering your later sexuality by the way) it's just unbearable. Netflix puts this into everything these days and I won't watch anything anymore if they do it as badly as here and ruin a good drama like that for them to get the agenda box checked on their papers.

And don't get me wrong, I am old enough to have seen 'boys don't cry' in the theater in the 1990s, and it was a true story about a real trans person and it was very touching. But what they do these days from tv production giants like nextflix, pushing this into every other story forced and kind of randomly? No.
I'm dropping this after episode 7 and I give it an 'unfair' 1.0 just for this reason, ignoring the many good aspects this drama had before.

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the depiction of the ugly side of friendships

we all have a definition of toxic relationships whether may it be love or friendships and images of what a toxic relationship can be

for me I considered this as toxic

when I first saw the trailer I knew we were gonna be in for a toxic ride and I was right

in the beginning it was kinda hard to watch because it didn’t really interest me
the thing with melodramas is that it can be rather boring or super interesting for me

story wise it was decent, I did find it a shame that the guy was a pushing factor in the drama of the friendship and that once again its romance that is used as a plot tool to separate and cause drama among the two female leads
I rather wish we got more focus on the two women instead of a trio a good majority of the time

I know sang yeon was the antagonist this whole time leading to a lot of people hating on her
but I would say that the world isn’t always in black or white but maybe it’s gray
that can also apply to characters and stories

I’m not saying sangyeon deserves a redemption
she rightfully got what she deserved by the end of the series
I myself relate a lot to sangyeon cause I share that sentiment of loneliness all too well but also feeling inferior
we could see that she drove herself to the results of her life by the end of the series a.k.a that self sabotage
I felt a lot of pity for her because all she wanted was to be loved and accepted

I consider their friendship as rather mentally abusive
they both had their wrongs during their friendship and college years but ultimately it was sangyeon who choses to end it due to her jealous and envy
also if a ex friend like her reached out to me like that after what she did I would be mad

I myself went through a toxic friendship with someone I considered my best friend of 6 years
so the betrayals that hurt the most are always the people who are close to you

I think it portrayed it rather realistic on how ugly friendships between humans can be and how emotions like envy, jealousy, etc can be such a driving point to crumble that structure built

I noticed how when they met up for the third time of their lives (office) how sangyeon grew out her hair and became more social whilst eun jeong sported more a short hair and tomboyish clothes
as if sangyeon was trying to imitate her in a sense? idk if it is intentional or not but that wig was cheap as hell

I think 15 episodes were enough to tell and depicts the three stages in their lives and how their friendship impacted each others lives

to end this off it was interesting but I would not rewatch it, the acting was done really well and I saw comment about the two leading actress were not too convincing as young adults during those college years but I think otherwise cause Kim goeun looked so young

I would say to go in with an open mind if you plan to watch it cause sometimes we can have quite a lot of tunnel vision

I wish that no one like eun jeong or just people in general find themselves in these sorts of friendships that will hurt them deeply cause it is hell
I hope that people can be more kind and understanding towards one another because sometimes our worst enemies are ourselves and we fail to notice before it’s too late

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It's good, but not great.

It's an almost great drama, but several things hold it back from being great. The setup was a little bland, but it was necessary to understand why exactly Sangyeon and Eunjung had developed both their relationship and other relationships the way they did. It's actually thanks to those first few episodes that I didn't hate Sangyeon or think she didn't deserve friendship for a large part of the series.



However, things came to a point in 2nd half of the series where I found it harder and harder to understand Sangyeon's actions. I can understand why they had a friendship breakup the first time. No matter how I think about it, the story really could not have played out differently at that point, considering everyone's history between Eunjung, Sangyeon, and Kim Sanghak. But the 2nd time was very overblown on Sangyeon's end; the writer made her overreact to Eunjung in a way Eunjung hadn't done to Sangyeon. It made it harder to empathize with Sangyeon when, for more than half the series, I'd understood where Sangyeon was coming from, even if I didn't think her actions were smart. The writer should've handled their friendship breakups differently, or even given us a bigger look into how Sangyeon was feeling that 2nd time, so I could empathize more. Eunjung could've been a lot meaner, knowing everything that happened. I also did not care for how the writer handled the brother's subplot. There weren't many hints or much of a lead-up as to why he handled his situation in such a way. Once the viewer finds out, it's almost brushed over because there are so many things going on, and it's barely brought up again compared to other things that hold everyone's relationships back.

That being said, I think they have a unique relationship; you can't quite separate the two from each other, and they always end up back in each other's lives. They've come to depend on each other in ways most don't, yet they challenge each other to greater accomplishments. And most importantly, because they'd known each other for so long, they can't erase the happier moments they shared. So I understand why it ended the way it did, even if I don't agree with an illness being the reason why Eunjung had to rekindle her relationship with Sangyeon. I also really appreciate that Netflix gave us 15 episodes to really have time to sit with how their relationship formed and ended throughout 40 years. Even if the story moves a little slow, I've yet to see a series handle something like this with a shorter episode run and still answer most questions without rushing through things and skipping necessary parts.

Acting-wise, I think everyone was pretty good. But especially Kim Goeun, she has a certain level of intensity yet feels delicate when needed be. I don't think this drama would be the same without someone like Kim Goeun, who can play someone so emotionally open. I really came around to OST by the end, as well; it suits the drama. And I loved the cinematography choices the team made. Because of that, the drama is a beautiful watch.

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What a bunch of crap!

This review is more of a rant for how disappointing this story was. I kept watching hoping it would get better. But I finally skipped through much of the last two episodes cause I just wanted to be done with tragic story of a true definition of toxic love.

For me, I don’t believe someone has the right to ruin my life just because theirs is crap. That’s not friendship!! Friendship wants you to be happy, successful and all the good things life can offer. Miss me with the gaslighting and passive aggressive manipulation. No one owes you a good life . What a toxic relationship these girls had from the get go.

The most interesting part of the story could’ve been the brother’s . I had a sense that was his issue and so I give credit for the little bit this story revealed about his character .

All of these actors told this story well. They’re all fantastic in their craft! But the story for me was utter nonsense. I realize the cultural difference (I’m a self-full American🤣) when I watch these dramas. But really! “With friends like this, who needs enemies.”

I was truly looking forward to these actors in this drama. I would not watch this again and I would not recommend it to anyone. What a tremendous waste of my precious viewing time!

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It's a story of a little bit of everything

The truth is I didn't expect that much, I knew she was going to die, but it was still sad, I hated her, I loved her and I cried. At the end, it shows too many things, like first love, blurred feelings, and real pain.I recommend it even if it's sad and leaves you crying. The truth is it's sad to have to see how a person you loved and hated dies, but you could have been with them until the last moment of their life There is much more than just sadness, but it still makes you cry like a child. If you are sentimental, more than anything, I would have loved a different ending, not so painful, but it was very beautiful.

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Del amor al odio hay un paso

Esto es la crónica de una amistad.
Ryu Jung Eun y Cheon Sang Yeon se conocen desde muy pequeñas y a pesar de sus diferencias construyen una amistad que fluye a través del tiempo en un vaivén de emociones que nos muestra que del amor al odio hay un solo paso y estas dos amigas lo cruzan constantemente.
"Nos destruí a nosotras porque quería destruirte... porque quería destruirme" Este fragmento de la introspección de CSY resume perfectamente lo que fue la relación entre ella y RJE, una relación de la cual trataban de escapar pero siempre terminaban volviendo a ella.
Tanto Cheon Sang Yeon como Ryu Jung Eun son personajes que evolucionan de acuerdo a como interaccionan, cada una juega un papel importante en la vida de la otra, cada encuentro es un choque y sus personalidades se forman de los fragmentos que quedan.
Dejando de lado la historia que me parece muy refrescante en el sentido de que el el romance no es el tema central hay que marcar notablemente las actuaciones de ambas protagonistas que lo dan todo y te llevan a un espiral de emociones a lo largo de cada capítulo.

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Amizade, rivalidade e codependência: até onde podemos perdoar?

Resenha: Eu, Você e Toda uma Vida

“Eu, Você e Toda uma Vida” é um K-drama que se distancia das narrativas leves ou romances idealizados, apostando em um drama intenso, reflexivo e psicologicamente denso. A série exige paciência com seu ritmo lento e com a carga de seus temas pesados, mas recompensa o espectador com uma narrativa honesta sobre a complexidade das relações humanas.

O maior destaque está na forma como retrata uma amizade marcada pela codependência e pela toxicidade. Eun-jung e Sang-yeon são amigas, rivais e quase inimigas ao mesmo tempo — um vínculo contraditório, sustentado por admiração, inveja e dependência emocional. Essa abordagem, crua e sem filtros, levanta questões sobre perdão, reconciliação e os limites do afeto.

As atuações são outro ponto forte: Kim Go-eun entrega vulnerabilidade e dor em uma personagem que usa o humor como defesa, enquanto Park Ji-hyun equilibra arrogância e fragilidade, tornando sua personagem multidimensional. A química entre as protagonistas é o coração da série, tornando suas cenas intensas e memoráveis.

Apesar da força emocional, a produção sofre com um ritmo por vezes arrastado, personagens secundários pouco explorados e um final considerado apressado.

Pontos Fortes ✅
• Atuações poderosas de Kim Go-eun e Park Ji-hyun
• Química intensa entre as protagonistas
• Abordagem madura e realista de amizades complexas
• Uso eficiente de flashbacks

Pontos Fracos ❌
• Ritmo lento em certos episódios
• Personagens secundários subdesenvolvidos
• Repetição de conflitos
• Final acelerado

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Uma amizade que mistura amor, inveja e feridas impossíveis de cicatrizar.

Um drama pesado e reflexivo, que não suaviza suas dores nem busca finais fáceis. É sobre vínculos que oscilam entre apoio e destruição, mostrando como o afeto pode ser tão curativo quanto devastador. Só sei dizer que entre todos os sentimentos, devidamente sentidos... chorei litros.

Eun-jung (Kim Go-eun) — vulnerável e intensa, usa o humor como defesa contra a dor.

Sang-yeon (Park Ji-hyun) — arrogante, mas frágil por dentro, presa numa relação de dependência emocional.

Amizade codependente, marcada por inveja, admiração e mágoa.

Atuações memoráveis e densas das protagonistas.

Uso de flashbacks para revelar camadas do passado.

Retrato cru das contradições nos laços afetivos.

Amizades também podem ser cárceres emocionais. Saber quando ficar e quando partir é um ato de sobrevivência.

“Entre amor e rancor, às vezes a linha é fina demais para se enxergar.”

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Começo pro meio forte! Meio pro final fraquíssimo!

O começo da história me prendeu demais! estava quase considerando um dos melhores k-dramas que já vi, a cinematografia é linda, as atuações são muito naturais, os personagens são complexos, e no começo há um bom desenvolvimento deles, as tramas são de uma certa forma muito bem trabalhadas, com uma sensibilidade tremenda, me arrepiei diversas vezes, me diverti e passei muita raiva por causa da relação de "amizade" daquelas duas.
A questão que mais pesou é que a essência da série se perde completamente do meio pro final, o que era pra ser desenvolvido não foi, e alguns conflitos começam a ser repetitivos demais fazendo com que a história não evolua, só ande em círculos, e no fim, tentei, mas não consegui criar empatia nenhuma por tal personagem que me irritava pra caramba desde o início, mas é muito compreensível e realista a forma como cada personagem agia de acordo com o que eles viviam, mas confesso que foi bem cansativo assistir tais coisas nunca se resolverem ou serem corrigidas e se criar todo um drama denovo, denovo e denovo em volta disso.

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Une histoire d'amitié avec un grand A

Je viens de finir ce drama d'une traite ...et je reste sans voix la gorge nouée par l'émotion . C'était juste magnifique, l'histoire, le jeu d'acteurs, la musique.
Avec ce drama, nous comprenons la complexité de l'être humain et de ses émotions. Pour moi, il n'y a aucun méchant dans cette histoire, juste des personnes qui ont certes agit de façon limite par moment mais en creusant on finit par les comprendre.
Eun Jung grandit dans la pauvreté mais avec une mére présente et aimante ce qui lui a donné les bonnes bases pour exprimer ses émotions de manière saine contrairement à Sang Yeon qui a toujours eu tout ce qu'elle voulait en grandissant mais qui finalement était seule entre un père violent, un frère moins attentif car ayant ses propres conflits à surmonter et une mère très investie dans son travail. Sang Yeon est devenue très forte dans le fait de masquer ses émotions et donner l'illusion que tout va bien.
Ces différences de personnalités vont éclater lorsqu'elles vont se retrouver à l'université et très vite on comprends que bien que les deux amies s'aiment, elles sont aussi rivales et se détestent également par moment. Eun Jung a toujours été bienveillante envers Sang Yeon même quand cette dernière ne le méritait pas.
C'est le triangle amoureux avec Sang Hak qui a sonné le début de la fin de leur amitié. J'ai vraiment aimé le couple que formait Eun Jung et Sang Hak mais je comprenanait aussi l'affection que Sang Yeon pouvait avoir pour le jeune homme : c'est lui qui lui a permis de se relever après la perte de son frère.
Finalement Sang Yeon reconnait ses mauvaises actions et comprend que Eun Jung est la seule personne sur qui elle a toujours pu compter et c'est bien pour cela qu'elle souhaite que sa seule véritable amie soit présente lors de ses derniers moments. Je tiens à souligner le fait que Eun Jung a un grand coeur : accepter d'être présente pour son amie malgré tout ce qu'elle lui a fait subir.
Mon seul regret : que Sang Yeon ne soit pas revenue vers son amie plus tôt pour s'excuser . Je pense qu'elle en avait envie mais sa fierté l'en a empeché. Je me dit que si la situation entre les deux se serait apaisée bien plus tôt peut être que Sang Yeon ne serait pas tomber malade ? Peut-être que toute cette solitude, ces regrets et cette culpabilité l'ont rongés de l'intérieur et l'ont fait tombé malade ? Je me dit qu'elles avaient beaucoup plus de choses à vivre ensemble mais ainsi va la vie, c'est lorsqu'il nous reste plus beacoup de temps qu'on se rends compte à quel point les moments passés ensemble étaient précieux.
Finalement c'est Eun Jung qui est la dernière personne sur cette terre à avoir réellement connue Sang Yeong.
"Au revoir. Mon amie que j'ai détestée et que j'ai aimée. Cheon Sang Yeon"

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