In regards to the Ye Yi Bo character (her father): THIS IS A WARNING FOR ANYONE WHO IS DEEPLY QUESTIONING WTH IS WRONG WITH SOMEONE IN THEIR LIFE:
His character is the typical Covert Narcissist. Every bit, his being the abuser and turning it around to appear as the victim while painting the one he abused as mentally ill, crazy, disturbed, is the 'real' abuser, etc was spot on. Narcissists in public, as referenced in the scene where Hai Tang was telling Yi Xun how her father acted in public, versus how he acted in private was represented in the dialogue perfectly, leaving nothing out. Her cutting all ties with him is known as No Contact. It's the only way to completely severe from a narcissist.
They don't behave like this once in a while. It's 24/7 with them. One doesn't wake wondering IF the narcissist will be different today. They wake wondering what new behavior or tactic will they be subjected to today. If anyone is questioning someone they know, their behavior, and wondering if he or she is a narcissist all they have to do is watch any scenes referencing this character. He is a COVERT narcissist. Or research like most of us did who were practically destroyed by an Overt or Covert narcissist.
We become experts on narcissism. People who have had a personal relationship with a Covert Narcissist (like here) or Overt call them demons bc they are. These demons aren't the normal selfish arrogant type of people. It's akin to a demon actually taking over the human body and wearing human looking skin.
His scenes hit me hard. It was still painful watching after having escaped from one 7 years ago. I've had 2 Overt and 3 Covert close relationships. Yes, I was a narcissist magnet. WAS, now in my older age.
Why do I comment at length about the narcissist in this drama? So others will be WARNED these demons do NOT change their ways. They get worse over time. The only thing to do is escape. Go No Contact. They retain what tactics have worked in the past, while trying new ones. They have no empathy, no compassion, do not love (the concept alludes them), and do not care for anyone (including family members) but themselves. Everything they do and say is to benefit themselves. They lie with every breath, which describes someone so habitually dishonest that deception is constant and involuntary. There are currently no psychology and psychiatry methods that are able to treat narcissists.
The only thing I dislike about TL is the fact that the character having been written so well tells me that the bro and sis writing team knows someone personally who is a covert narcissist. It's something no one who has ever had a relationship with one would hope anyone else has to experience.....hence my warning and probably their's.
EVERY person I know who has had a relationship with a narcissist starts their journey of escape and healing by searching for the behaviors of a 'loved' one or a friend or coworker or boss when the behaviors are so outrageous to be believed , so much so you can't explain the behaviors to anyone else. Stop questioning whether you're the crazy one which the narcissist makes you believe.
