
MonEliz:
For me BL is gay drama; although majority tend to be on the lighter side. I’m waiting for the industry to view these dramas as simply dramas … that happen to have two males leads instead of a female male combo. Especially given audience trends seem to lean towards a more mature content
My feelings on all of this are very mixed. I can see how many gay men don't feel represented in BL, but also I know how narrow and cliched representation of women tends to be in any type of drama too. But when I see "mature" offerings like Only Friends, I think of all my gay male friends over the years who HATED hook up culture and that being put forward as representation of gay men. I'd like them better represented too.
I've been thinking a lot about why I never get far from BL these days. Part of it, I think, is that the more mainstream a series the more it leans into the addictive nature of stress and increasingly complicated premises in hopes of standing out amongst the glut of options. BL and youth series haven't had to do that, though I think we might be losing that with BL.
So I both want gay drama to become normalised and fear it becoming mainstream and subjected to the pressures of competing for audience. The former because being gay is normal and the latter because I don't want to lose this niche away from those pressures.
BL has been a great respite for me from the romantacised sexism in het fiction. That's why it upsets me when writers and directors bring it in to a relationship dynamic which can be free from it. Likewise with examples of non-toxic masculinity and support amongst men (like Moonlight Chicken) v red flag leads. I would be more along the lines of "happens to have two male leads" if there was less sexism in het series, but where we are now I need the respite.
Love is love and a good story is a good story but IMO there's more to it than that.