Action for the account for the defamation, monopoly, and spamming

The issue arose in the https://kisskh.at/790870-que-gu comments section monopolized by the account: https://kisskh.at/profile/Xiang83

First of all, I apologize to her for the words I composed before that she said offended her. I was overstimulated that time and I am passionately making a strong stance in my previous comments and now that I am calm, I was able to make up to it now and explain my thoughts with a steady mind. I believe this is the result of the generational gap that I now will keep in mind the moment I post again.  I wanted to make amends with her but I saw that she posted me here now. 

The accusations of harassment directed at me seem to be based more on a misunderstanding of the intention behind the words intensified with the generational gap.  It was fueled by my piled  frustrations from her many previous comments as I want her to hear me on how what she was doing shutting people up multiple times is wrong, that  people not liking the underage casting should let be voiced freely instead. My strong passion in the words are fueled with me strongly disgusted with the thought of an underage actress + adult ML starring in a romance drama and she is not letting anyone question it + her bashing under disguise of creating the illusion of civility while still managing to belittle or insult others. I am against any pairing like this as it is rampant and alarmingly normalized in my country. In the past Chinese drama, there are situations when the underage actress is kissing the adult ML lips to lips (no camera tricks or borrowed position). There are no available written guidelines till now in cdramaland about this. I lurked in chinese socmeds and saw from my research from their views and opinions that no one in there can absolutely assure that there will be no kissing scenes in this drama as it is by the arrangement of the team. 

The account exhibited problematic behavior by spamming the comment section whenever the issue of the underage FL (female lead) came up. Whenever anyone raised concerns or questioned the casting of the underage actress, she would immediately jump in, shut down the conversation. I am not a leader she is portraying me to be. I did not once tell others to attack her specifically. They all came forward on their own  because they share the same stance as me. I would never say to them to attack and instruct them about what should they do. She described me as some evil leader when I did not ask anyone to intervene but the opposite. I never instructed anyone to gang up on her. My posts was twisted by her beyond imagination.

She has used intimidating language to force others into silence, repeatedly telling users that we should not question the underage casting in a romance drama  or criticize the underage FL. This goes beyond healthy debate—it’s about controlling the conversation to only allow opinions that align with her own. This pattern of spamming the comment section with dismissive and hostile remarks can easily be seen as an attempt to stifle differing viewpoints and silence valid concerns from others in the community. She wants only positive comments that must align to her opinions and asked me why she did not see me defending the director, screenwriter or producer, I am not up to blindy praising/flattery to those public figures and I will wait for the result from the drama before I comment. I’m not against giving credit where it’s due, but I will not strongly praise the production team  before I see the final product of the drama or how they handled this romance. They have duds too and I don't take it against them as they don't have the midas touch that everything turns into gold. She is set on her own point of view and when every other perspective is dismissed by her, it stops being a conversation and turns into a one-sided broadcast. For her, it is okay to voice her opinions even though it is full of bashing under disguise but defending against her is totally unacceptable. 

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This is the observation posted by an account who I did not interact ever with my life and came forward on her own:

Credits to Thadheilly:

“Your recent responses have provided a very instructive example of the communication patterns you regularly display, which I’ve seen repeated across the threads and various interactions.

You clearly invest time and energy into crafting your comments, but it’s precisely this pattern, the long-winded, overly intellectualized replies filled with tangents and inflated language, that highlights a deeper behavioral tendency: an avoidance of direct engagement. Your style functions less as dialogue and more as a monologue designed to obscure, deflect, and provoke.

These patterns are problematic for constructive discussion

With your passive-aggressive communication rather than addressing criticism or disagreement head-on, you tend to reply through vague superiority, indirect barbs, and excessive verbiage. This creates the illusion of civility while still managing to belittle or antagonize others. The result? No real resolution, only performative clarity.

In your narcissistic presentation of ideas there is a noticeable tendency to elevate your perspective as if it were inherently more informed, more reasonable, or simply above critique. When challenged, the typical response is not openness but thinly veiled contempt — or worse, subtle manipulation that frames dissent as ignorance or bad faith.

You use deflection and gaslighting time and again, when you shift the conversation away from the issue at hand, inserting unrelated references, over-contextualized narratives, or academic-style justifications, not to support a point, but to avoid having to answer for the initial concern. This not only derails discussion but attempts to make others feel as though they misunderstood or misrepresented what was “clearly explained.”

You have verbosity and communication overload (logorrhea).

You often overload your responses with unnecessary detail, obscure references, or language that serves no clear communicative purpose beyond exhausting your interlocutor. Whether intentional or compulsive, this is not discourse, it's domination by word count.

And lastly provocation followed by victimization.

This is the most persistent and telling pattern. When responses begin to reflect frustration, quite justifiably, given the above, you pivot to victimhood. Suddenly, you are the one being attacked, misunderstood, or "bullied by groupthink." It’s a convenient switch: provoke, derail, then moralize about being targeted. This creates an emotionally manipulative loop that shields you from accountability and reframes the conversation around your hurt feelings rather than your own behavior.

These behaviors do not foster dialogue; they dismantle it under the guise of intellectual engagement. And they do not go unnoticed, not by your critics, and certainly not by the neutral observers you may believe you are winning over with performative reasoning.

Your comments speak for themselves, just as mine will. I hope at some point you’ll be willing to examine the actual impact of your approach, not just its intent or presentation.

Wishing you clarity, and a more constructive outlet for your energy.”

https://kisskh.at/790870-que-gu#comment-23320906

Another one by Miura who also I never interacted the same as above but have previous experience with the account:

“Why are getting so pissed off when a hmh fan defended him bcs of your insulting tone??? You should remember you did the same to me when I raised my opinion of Amy being under 18.

Are only Amy fans permitted to defend her in this page? The male lead fans are not permitted to defend him? Is it a Do-Not-Say-Anything-a-Amy-Fan-Will-Dislike page?”

https://kisskh.at/790870-que-gu#comment-23319768

Also another comment credited to SpringMist mentioning the account's spamming/monopoly (She replied and I did not contact her to respond here, we also did not have any interaction before even till now):

"You're here at the same time too, or am I wrong?
I don’t even know why you posted your message there, it has nothing to do with what was actually being discussed.
You always repost the same thing over and over again, everywhere!
You want conversation? Look below you, this page is a monopoly!
You can’t tell anyone not to defend the actor they like when you’re the one spamming.
Look at yourself first.
Get real, relax, do some yoga, and in the meantime, learn to respect others and give space to different opinions."

Key to the Phoenix Heart - kisskh 

Since I was “accused” by Xiang83 in her recent post, I’d like to take this opportunity to provide some context and clarification from my side on this forum too.

My comments

https://kisskh.at/790870-que-gu#comment-23312896

https://kisskh.at/790870-que-gu#comment-23313796

She claimed I was part of a “coordinated attack,” but in reality, I simply replied after seeing CC’s comment, which had just been posted. I checked Xiang83’s posts myself and was surprised by the repeated veiled insults. Out of frustration, I responded honestly, based on what I had just read.

Her response to me was mocking:
“How do I offend a ML I have never met?”

https://kisskh.at/790870-que-gu#comment-23313424

I replied once more, then blocked her to avoid further escalation. That was the full extent of my involvement.

There was no “coordination.” Later Xiang83  sent the same message as an answer to multiple users, and unsurprisingly, multiple people replied. That’s not an attack, it’s the natural result of provoking several people at once with dismissive or condescending comments.

That said, it must be acknowledged that her presence on that page has become overwhelming, and at this point, the criticism she’s received is understandable.

She frequently reposts near-identical content, often excessively long, repeating the same stats and opinions with only minor variations. This adds little value and clutters the discussion, making it difficult for others to follow or participate meaningfully. Alternative views, especially about her favorite actress, are often met with recycled, passive-aggressive, or provocative replies. This creates a toxic environment where people either fall silent or get dragged into needless arguments.

She inserts herself into nearly every conversation, whether relevant or not, and always in the same exhausting style. She has effectively monopolized the page. While her behavior may not technically violate site rules, it certainly undermines the spirit of civil discussion. Worse still, she often includes subtle jabs at others or their preferences, and when called out, denies any responsibility.

One clear example of this, is a comment aimed at HMH fans (which they chose to ignore):
“If you're a Neo Hou fan, your comments will make people wonder about the kind of 'fans' he has.”

https://kisskh.at/790870-que-gu#comment-23005952
This kind of remark isn’t just disrespectful,  it’s deliberately inflammatory. Frankly, it’s surprising that no one responded to it. 

When people did eventually reply to one of her similar provocations, she twisted the situation to portray herself as the victim and avoid accountability.

This pattern was especially clear in her overly detailed and skewed analysis of the comments on the actor’s page  , where people were expressing frustrations and supporting each other, even discussing how hard it was NOT to react. Yet she distorted those discussions: support became “instigation,” compliments were turned into attacks, and self-restraint was labeled as “harassment.”

She also singled out and demonized one user, using selective interpretations to shift all blame away from herself. Conveniently, she ignored a key statement from CC's post, one that causes her entire twisted reinterpretation of the facts to crumble from the very foundation.:
“It’s still one’s choice if they want to reply.”

https://kisskh.at/people/14831-hou-ming-hao#comment-23320456

For info: CC comment on Kttph received over 30 likes, but only two users replied to Xiang83. That speaks volumes about the fanbase’s self-control. People had the choice to engage, and they chose not to.

Xiang83 consistently reframes events to fit her version of reality, all while denying responsibility for the reactions she provokes. Her constant twisting of meaning, intrusive behavior, and repetitive, bloated commentary have made her presence disruptive to the community, and clearly at odds with this site’s goal of fostering civil discussion.

No need to take my word for it, everyone can check the page.