Bhavna

When I first read the synopsis of this show, I thought “What on earth could I possibly have in common with this story of two middle aged gay men living and cooking together? Sounds boring!” Boy was I wrong. I’m so glad I gave this J drama a chance. The J drama has plenty of “ma,” the peaceful space and stillness where the beauty of spirit lies. The storyline is light and fluffy without too much “heavy conflict,” while Shiro San takes a break every evening and goes into his kitchen and Shiro San’s kitchen theme music plays and it basically turns into an instructional cooking show. It’s just so cute and sweet to watch. It made me understand that cooking and mealtime isn’t just a “whatever” time, or indulgence, or grotesque addiction like how it’s experienced or shown in the west, it is a sacred ritual of mindfulness, precision, peace, and beauty. And it brings so much happiness and lightness to my heart to watch this show. I could watch it anytime because of its lightness and warmth. What I also loved was how Shiro san’s anxious and moody nature seemed to lift a lot at the last episode after he brought Kenji home to meet his parents- I think it took a huge burden off his mind and he was able to feel lighter and more jovial and relaxed in public as a couple with Kenji. The cafe scene at the very end was one of my favorites (other than the cooking sequences of course), because Shiro San was smiling a lot and looking light hearted, relaxed, and happy. Ah this show brings a smile to my face like a kind of sweet, innocent nostalgia.

I love how Shiro’s way of expressing love is through his cooking, and Kenji, though he is not a bad cook himself, has this sweet innocence of wanting to please Shiro and isn’t too sure of himself. He’s much more relaxed, fun-loving, and expressive compared to the formal and serious Shiro- they are quite the “odd couple,” but they are both endearing in their own way and together. I just felt like giving Kenji a much needed hug whenever he was so unsure of himself. It also made me contemplate how difficult relationships are and the emotional burden they carry, and I would much rather eat these lovely dishes alone!

I noticed that this show was very conservative in terms of showing affection- physical or emotional between the couple even within the home, and yet it felt genuine, innocent, and sweet. Almost like they were just roommates. I am hunting for season 2 now!