Bhavna

I love it when J dramas solidly move with conviction outside the “norm” and take a stand for some beyond the usual romantic ego possession “being chosen” script which is so tired and annoying. This one is a slam dunk.

I prefer Takahashi playing characters that want to be left alone- like Kishibe Rohan, Bokura wa kiseki de dekiteru, and Koisenu Futari. The characters were deeply realistic and lovable. There were no “bad guys,” just characters figuring out their own inner life. This is where J dramas really excel.

I think the reason why the main leads feel lonely is not necessarily because they’re alone (one can thoroughly enjoy one’s own company), but rather because they are so misunderstood by those around them that they feel isolated and different from everyone else. But I like the fact that they found allies in each other.

I love how they showed the dysfunction of the typical “romantic” couple of Sakuko’s sister- she was in a typical broken relationship, breeding two children and a father who cheated on her during both of her pregnancies, and yet society and the family still holds this type of relationship as the gold standard because it is what all the “normies” do even though it’s incredibly dysfunctional. It’s annoying when the “normies” in the series say things like “Even if you live without love,”- love is not equal to romance! And romance fades away in a few weeks or months, and what you’re left with is a cheating parter, affairs, scandals, lies, keeping up appearances, and more dysfunction. Dysfunction is considered normal. What Takahashi San and Sakuko have is a deeper type of love- one that doesn’t rely on hormones, lust, sweating, and grinding. That type of relationship lasts only as long as the chemistry and hormones and then leads to cheating- it’s the typical animal kingdom type of relationship- centered around breeding children, status, money, saving face, etc. It is incredibly unsatisfying and is not real happiness. But even despite the fact that Sakuko’s sister is a hot mess and comes to Takahashi San’s house dragging her kid along and stays there without even asking permission, she has the audacity to look down on Sakuko and tell her that her life is empty, even though her own husband is cheating on her and she’s dragging around two kids and will soon be a single mom. And she has the nerve to try to force Sakuko to have kids and pesters her to ask Takahashi San if he wants kids. These people are so small minded it’s scary. I’m glad that Sakuko and Takahashi San did not take that route. No kids, no marriage, no agenda, no planning, just living in the NOW. Making conscious choices instead of unrealistic ideals like “We will only love each other until we die!” Which is what regular marriages are and they never live up to that. In fact they stayed loyal even till the end- their definition of love is much higher than what Sakuko’s family and the other “normals” think of love- even if they lived apart in the end, it was to support each others’ dreams and happiness and they were still family even despite the distance. Family is in the heart, being true to each other, not just living under one roof and lying and cheating.

I love that they say they don’t have to have everything figured out, but can take one step at a time and see how things go. Making conscious decisions based on how things are in the moment. Choosing and defining one’s own happiness for themselves. I really love this mindset of the show. No agenda for romance (a lot of J dramas push the romance and breeding angle as a way to increase the population which is so off putting). This series is perfect. True love is not possession, hormones, romance, and grinding, it is the freedom to let people be as they are and to give space for true expression. This series is a breath of fresh air. True loved it. It’s worth another watch!

I loved how it ended as well- on a light note, without any of the heaviness that I often see. The perfect slice of life drama. This is why I came to love J dramas for to begin with!