Bhavna

A disempowered woman seeks a relationship dynamic where she can feel wanted, and in power. This is what the age stuff is really about- younger people tend to look up to those who are older, and she clearly had an advantage in the relationship with the boy compared to that of her boyfriend who was an abusive, ugly, angry slob. It doesn’t justify how she seduced the high school kid though- that scene in the karaoke booth was incredibly disturbing- to think that she would do that to a kid who’s never had experience with that, and it’s just taking advantage of the power dynamic- but yeah it becomes a match made in hell really. With the kid who has been traumatized by that early sexual encounter and abuse by her, he acts out the unresolved trauma of the boundary violations later. Sexual abuse always results in rage and unresolved anger in the victim, no matter how much it is denied, and the poor kid uses that same act back at her to try to regain control. His life becomes confused, as she injects her own confusion into it. It is a sad predicament- and yeah even though she seem to be together in the end, is it really a choice, or grooming by the abuser? I can understand the feelings of the disempowered, invalidated woman, but I also understand the feelings of the victim and this is not a match made in Heaven, that’s for sure. Dysfunction begets more dysfunction.