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The Rational Life chinese drama review
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The Rational Life
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by 50FiftillidideeBrain
Apr 12, 2025
35 of 35 episodes seen
Completed
Overall 7.0
Story 7.0
Acting/Cast 7.5
Music 7.5
Rewatch Value 4.0

✒ ⭐The Outlier ✴ Xin doesn't have enough Qi ☄ °good°

“I suppose it's not rational to be happy.” There's a point where that's how Xin feels.

TRL opens irrationally. First, there's an irrational client. We also meet an irrational young woman who wants to bail on her commitments so she can go live with her BF overseas. She steals the business's assets and flees from her partner.

Qin Lan (Story of Yanxi Palace) portrays “marriage-is-the-tomb-of-love” Shen Ruo “Xin”. She's an attorney. She's rational. She's calculative and precise. She comes over as cold, but she's not. She's also 33 and slipping into that middle-aged weariness since her youthful delusions are being popped one after another. She's been going out with her boyfriend (Cui) for about 3 months. Let's be precise, shall we? It's been a hundred days. She only dated him on her mom's insistence, and it's obvious that these two aren't on the same wavelength. As soon as things don't go his way, Cui shows an ugly side. Free commercial: if you're dating someone and they get testy the moment they don't get their way, do a Monty-Python-and-the-Holy-Grail and run away. Run away! Run AWAY! It's better to be solo than to be with a manipulator.

Xin has nobody in her life who understands her. Xin's BF certainly doesn't understand her. He didn't last for long. Even though her mother (Pan Hong from Yangtze Town's Springtime) divorced her father, mom is the one who is bitter and lonely. Lin Xin Yi of Drunk to Love You-7 is “Si”, her BFF, who married well enough (she doesn't have to work), but she's idle and discontented. She is going through her own changes and the two friends' lives are now nothing alike.

At work, Xin is confident but disliked over appearing inflexible. Her elevated skills seem to be threatening to others. She uncovers fraud by a client who is suing the company and manages to settle a problematic case for pennies on the dollar. She should have been promoted, but when that irrational client gets a social media campaign going against Xin, her boss seizes that opportunity to transfer her to another unit. Everybody knows she's being pushed out.

Xin gets strength from her hobby of stargazing. “In the 1990s, a space probe took a picture 4 billion miles away from Earth in space. The Earth was like a tiny blue spot in the dark. Later on, an astronomer, Sagan…said that all the happiness and sadness, all beliefs and knowledge… all of it only exists on a speck of tiny dust floating in the sunlight. So, compared to this bright starry sky, all of our troubles are insignificant.” A department change is not going to change her orbit. She will continue to go forward… Until she starts to fall for a guy over a decade younger than she, that is. Now, THAT could be a problem.

Dylan Wang (Love Between Fairy and Devil-8.9 & Meteor Garden-7.4) plays “Qi” Xiao. He excels at playing a damaged, testy, uber-masculine ML. He still makes his characters appealing; he's able to walk that line and counterbalance his characters’ deficiencies with intense sincerity. In TRL his character is more understated and supporting - with awful hair. Qi is smart, resourceful and intuitive about human psychology. He went to law school in order to make money, but his real love is designing jewelry. His business was doing well, but his partner irrationally absconded with all the money so that she could go overseas with her BF. Qi's roommate (Chen Peng from Love and Destiny is Wan Li) knew that he would need a little push, so roomie submits job applications for each of them as he is job hunting himself. This lands Qi next to Xin. The office wasn't the first place they met, however. She ended up in the middle of his pursuit of that fleeing partner, and it wasn't pretty. She refuses to interview him, at first, but as things play out, he ends up being helpful to her and she decides to hire him on a probationary basis. He's now in the administrative department with her; it's sort of like the 13th level basement. They are pariahs.

Dylan Wang is a tad out of a character playing the eager puppy type, though he does it well. He's usually the toxic male who's not /really/ toxic; underneath the prickly exterior, he's always a loving guy. Even as a puppy type, he makes this show better. As his love rival is gaining points, he's in the background rolling his eyes. It's pretty funny. “After working at a big company for a long time, in getting used to a comfortable but restrictive vibe, you'll become systematic. It's only a matter of time before your inspirations disappear.” Qi's friend is trying to warn him. But the dude doesn't realize that Qi's only in it for his boss.

“You're practically a succubus,” Si teases Xin, when it looks like the much younger Qi has a thing for her much older friend. She's the kind of best friend we all wish we had. That teasing only holds up until the new boss, Jie, shows up. Calvin Li, from Hand in Hand, is Xu Ming “Jie”. He's strict and regimented. He likes the finer things in life. When he sees Xin, he /knows/ what he's looking at. It's all work related stuff, but he's finding ways to take up all her time: Dinners, parties, trips... Qi is going out of his mind.

Rounding out the main players is one of Qi's college friends, Song Zi Yan, who has been working with Xin for about a year. The perky cheerleader type, she's always had a thing for Su, Qi's roommate. So, we've got the beautiful smart but overlooked career woman, the upstart fresh faced recruit, his supportive friend and roommate, and the perky cheerleader (the 2ndary couple), plus the rich and powerful boss as a romantic rival (rounding out the 💘🔺). Let's not forget the toxic mother. Yep this is all looking familiar.

TRL is a 2021 release that is rated 8.2 on MDL. It is 1 season consisting of 35 45-minute episodes. The drama, Find Yourself-8.9, precedes it by a year. It isn't too hard to imagine that this show was made because of FY, which is an exceptional show featuring an older woman and a younger guy. TRL feeds off of it, but it's still its own production. Xin is even wearing a revamped men's shirt in one scene, which is a wardrobe staple for Fan, FL of Find Yourself. Some of Fan's are good, some are passe. Xin's is spectacular.

Office politics and vicious gossip are a topic of the show. Xin has this advice: ”Do you know how to remain undisturbed? Whether you're favored or disliked, remain undisturbed. Don't worry what people say about you. Know your goal. Stay on target and achieve it.” Notice how she says don't believe the good stuff either? Our hearts want to believe the good feedback and discount the negative. Everything should be on the Bell curve. Take the compliments with the grain of salt, and do the same with the criticisms, but never dismiss criticisms out of hand. Always pause and reflect on whether there is some truth to it. Many times there is, and each one of us has room for improvement. That's the key, don't look to the left or the right, look straight ahead, and never stop improving.

The isolation of a successful woman is dissected. “Girls marry high, men marry low. The old saying is true. If a woman has a master's degree, the man should at least have a doctorate.” TRL balks at the idea of having it all. Does anyone actually believe that anymore? Women are always squeezed into a small space. The women in the show are pushed into marriage & having kids or they're denied opportunity /because/ they're married and either have kids, or are expected to get pregnant at any moment. There's as many ways for a woman to live her life as there are women out there. There's no one right answer. Many different people make many different things work. That's the key: Does it /work/? Marriage and children are optional. They're both intended to be lifetime commitments so they shouldn't be taken lightly.

Xin may be the boss at work, but in her private life, she can't shake her mom-boss. Xin did promptly dump that BF, Cui. She never liked him anyway. She broke his heart, but, forget him - She /really/ broke her mother's heart. Her mother is caustic about it and cannot accept the breakup. She keeps pushing Xin to get married. “I feel sorry for any guy that tries to date you.” “/He/ got married. You should be so lucky.” Mom has a 1-track mind! “Time is ruthless for women.” That's how Xin's mom says ‘Happy Birthday’. (Mom don't let up). Once mom learns about Qi, it's: “You are much older than him. You should be more rational.” Mom wants Xin married, but not to a kid! Next, it's:“Don't mistreat my daughter!” Mom freaks out when she finds out that Xin has been harassed by one potential mate. Ironically, no one is hurting & upsetting her daughter more than MOM, though. She pushes and prods, forces and manipulates, she bullies and throws tantrums. This isn't being a good parent. It's fear coming out as poison.

Mom finally forces her into a blind date service. Here's the type of advice she's given before her first blind date event: 1. “PU” means partner’s uncertainty. On blind dates, it's important to lower his PU and pique his attention. The lesser the uncertainty, the stronger the confidence, and he will make more moves. 2. It's unrealistic for those in their 30s to have zero experience. The best answer {as to how many relationships she's been in} is 1-3 relationships. Don't say more than 3. 3. What is “MV”? It's mate value. A woman's MV is not in terms of success at work. It's whether you can be a good wife and mom in the future. So for your hobby, you must mention baking, painting, and flower arranging. These three are the safest. If you say that you're preparing to study child psychology, trust me. I'm sure he'll be attracted to you. 4. Reasons for breakups...That's the most dangerous question that increases PU. It's best to say that it was due to geographical reasons. 5. Don't forget: Don't show your aggressive side. Don't ever say you like going to bars. It's suicide. Not only does it increase PU, but it also clears out MV. “Plooffffff!” Yep, the date counselor said: “Plooffffff!” Xin can't help but wonder if that would still even be her? Why would she put on such a show that she can't keep up indefinitely?

It's not like getting married fixes all of one's problems. Si is married and she's having a tough time. Si admits that she got married to escape her horrible job at the bank. She's been taking it easy at home but that is getting boring. In the first third of the show she's frustrating. She left the workforce and she's now over 30, so nobody wants to employ her. She does find her niche. This is almost always the answer: Don't sit around and wallow in your feelings. Go do something. Better yourself, find something you're interested in, get a hobby, learn something, volunteer.

Si's mother i/l is always nagging the couple to have a baby. She's pushy and controlling. Si and her husband had agreed to not have kids, but he's gone back on his word (probably due to interference from mom) and he is now pressuring her to do so. She thinks she's unhappy with her husband, and she certainly does have valid complaints, but it appears that she's truly unhappy with her empty life and her own emptier self. Chinese shows are very generous to older people who make horrible mistakes and behave terribly. The couple goes to exhaustive lengths to have a sincere discussion with Mom about their feelings on the subject. Frankly, I think a better solution would have been that every time mom asked them to have a baby they leave while saying “You're right Mom we're going to try right NOW.” Eventually, mom will know that mentioning it is only going to make them leave (while leaving the image of them getting-it-on for mom to think about). People who don't have clean motives but still pry in your life aren't entitled to answers. We shouldn't give in to such behavior because we're just emboldening them to do it to the next person. Somebody has to put the brakes on.

TRL drags a tad in the latter half. It would have been better suited for 20-25 episodes. It's simple. Conflicts arise and melt away as if it's kids programming. The romance lacks fire, as well, casting as much heat our way as the stars do. I liked it despite its flaws, but it should have been better. There's more positives than deficiencies, still. The music is very nice.
The “confession scene” in ep27 is pretty good, and later, in ep33, they discuss their relationship with her mother and what they like about e/o. It's lovely. Ep35 sees them acting adorably as a couple. They really do get cute. Two birthday parties are contrasted. One features professionally done decorations and food. It's the best that money can buy. The other one is put together by friends and it comes from the heart. It's not even close, which one the birthday-girl prefers.

The mothers of our leads end up meeting and becoming friends. The first time the four of them eat together it is so warm and lovely. As they're talking and laughing it fades into lilting music and the viewer can sense that this is not the last time they're going to eat together. They'll be eating together as a family. They're already acting like one.


QUOTES📢

What's wrong with kids nowadays?

I feel like the older you get the more aggrieved you are.

Raise your words not your voice.

Love may be the universe's unimaginable miracle.


〰🖍 IMHO

📣7 📝7.2 🎭7.5 💓6 🦋5 🎨6 🎵/🔊7.5 🔚7 ▪ 🌞6 ⚡3 😅3 😭2 😱2 😯1 🤢1 🤔4 💤2.5


Age 12+ for occasional PG language, mild sexual situations

Re-📺? For the romance fan this is worth watching once, but I would like rather check out new content than revisit this crew.


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