Absolutely she was pressuring him, and went about it in not the best way. But in reality, she doesn't know the…
We saw how devastated Dusik was, because we saw the flashback, of how damaged he was. Hye Jin didn't see what us the audience saw, all she is hearing is second hand information.
Hye Jin isn't that versed in relationships, she has had very shallow ones until now. She is not such a deep person that she can see right through Dusik and understand the depth of his trauma.
Think about it, she told Dusik, don't blame yourself for your grandpa's death. She thought that telling him once was enough, she obviously doesn't understand how traumatic it is for Dusik. She naively thought that telling him, "don't blame yourself" will be enough to help him overcome.
The thing is, we keep focusing on Dusik's trauma, and we forget that Hye Jin herself has her own hidden demons and trauma. In fact, the dad even commented, "i'm amazed that eventho I wasn't there for my daughter" she turned out ok. Question is, did she? Did Hye Jin really turn out okay? She has her own emotional baggage, but right now, even though she is not the most stable person mentally to be Dusik's rock, she chooses to be, because she wants to be. But she's not doing the best job of it, but I truly believe she is trying her best considering her mental/emotional state.
I felt, when she said she will be patient, it felt there was so much distance between them. Like they've "made up" from the break, but at the same time they haven't. The distance between them while talking/walking was so huge, it broke my heart. Clearly, she only said she will wait, because she thinks its the right thing to do.
Hye Jin is confused, hurt, and doesn't know what is happening or how she should feel, let us also be patient with her. It's not easy being someone's rock, especially one with such big emotional baggage.
Makes me think a little bit more about Dusik's characterization.
On his free time, he fishes, he reads books, and he surfs. All things he does alone.
On his work time, he does a variety of things.
It makes me wonder, since so many years after his past trauma, he still doesn't know who he is, it makes a lot of sense why he chooses to do all these part time jobs, because for a few hours every day, he can spend time pretending to be someone else.
Today he is Oh Yoon, running the cafe shop. On another day he is Hwa Jeong, running a successful restaurant, On other days, he is running Bora's supermarket.
He survives his daily life, by pretending to be somebody else, even if just for a fleeting moment. He never takes the time to confront who he actually is.
People always say, "you can tell me anything, I can handle any truths you may have". Or, "I want to know everything about you."
But the minute you tell someone the REAL truth, or everything about yourself, you suddenly feel naked to judgement. Suddenly, their perceptions change about you. And once you release those seals, there is no putting them back.
Pray tell you don't break up, otherwise that information is public knowledge now.
I can't agree more. E.g. personally, tell me to be patient? The world may come to an end and I wouldn't sweat.…
And sometimes, it's not even that we don't want to open up. It's just that we feel that person may not be able to emotionally handle the new revelations, or they will judge you harshly when they do hear it.
No, it's not easy.From a rock - been one for years.
And to be honest, what is being portrayed in Homecha is just so realistic and relatable, not sure why people don't see that.
Mental stress, traumatic experience don't come out after the first month of dating, heck, it may not even come out until marriage, or it just never comes out.
Some people are just really amazing at hiding their emotional scars, until the time they aren't. And if your the significant other, your most likely very ill equipped to deal with the new emotional baggage.
And it's entirely the right of the supportive person to know the full breadth of the weight he/she will be bearing.
I don't know is it the writing or Kim Seonho's amazing acting but i can't think about ep 14 beyond those last…
Absolutely she was pressuring him, and went about it in not the best way.
But in reality, she doesn't know the depth of his trauma, nor is she mentally equipped to deal with such thing, when her own mental is quite weak. She's never been shown to have strong convictions, which is why she is still at this point trying to appease her Seoulite friends.
Hye Jin is a person who herself needed Dusik as her rock, so when it turns out her rock needs her to be the rock, she doesn't know how to respond.
At the moment, given the vagueness and lack of information Dusik is giving her, her reaction is not that off field.
Although, to be honest, even with the words she is saying, I can tell, they do lack sincerity, as if she is saying these things, because she feels these are the right things to say, rather than it coming from the heart. I chalk this up to her lack of maturity in relationships. She is not the best person to be Dusik's rock right now, but she can certainly help by at least letting him know that she won't break up with him due to it.
No, it's not easy.From a rock - been one for years.
I could never understand how people never realize that rocks can crack.
Or that sometimes we become rocks, not because we are mentally capable of doing so, but because the other person is even less capable, and so we are forced into it.
"Just open up to me" "Be a rock" "oh just ignore that" "be patient"
Doesn't take into consideration how hard these acts can be for some people. Like Hwa Jeong said, what may come easy to others, is extremely difficult for others.
People assume that being a rock is an easy task. That all you have to do is stand still, and let the other person lean on you.
But when that person leaning on you carries a ton of emotional baggage, you will find yourself sinking into the ground, into the waves, and into nothingness.
It's a fun watch, but nothing I would claim as groundbreaking.
Hye Jin isn't that versed in relationships, she has had very shallow ones until now. She is not such a deep person that she can see right through Dusik and understand the depth of his trauma.
Think about it, she told Dusik, don't blame yourself for your grandpa's death. She thought that telling him once was enough, she obviously doesn't understand how traumatic it is for Dusik. She naively thought that telling him, "don't blame yourself" will be enough to help him overcome.
The thing is, we keep focusing on Dusik's trauma, and we forget that Hye Jin herself has her own hidden demons and trauma. In fact, the dad even commented, "i'm amazed that eventho I wasn't there for my daughter" she turned out ok. Question is, did she? Did Hye Jin really turn out okay? She has her own emotional baggage, but right now, even though she is not the most stable person mentally to be Dusik's rock, she chooses to be, because she wants to be. But she's not doing the best job of it, but I truly believe she is trying her best considering her mental/emotional state.
I felt, when she said she will be patient, it felt there was so much distance between them. Like they've "made up" from the break, but at the same time they haven't. The distance between them while talking/walking was so huge, it broke my heart. Clearly, she only said she will wait, because she thinks its the right thing to do.
Hye Jin is confused, hurt, and doesn't know what is happening or how she should feel, let us also be patient with her. It's not easy being someone's rock, especially one with such big emotional baggage.
Makes me think a little bit more about Dusik's characterization.
On his free time, he fishes, he reads books, and he surfs. All things he does alone.
On his work time, he does a variety of things.
It makes me wonder, since so many years after his past trauma, he still doesn't know who he is, it makes a lot of sense why he chooses to do all these part time jobs, because for a few hours every day, he can spend time pretending to be someone else.
Today he is Oh Yoon, running the cafe shop. On another day he is Hwa Jeong, running a successful restaurant, On other days, he is running Bora's supermarket.
He survives his daily life, by pretending to be somebody else, even if just for a fleeting moment. He never takes the time to confront who he actually is.
Because at this point, the ball is in Dusik's court. It's up to him if he is willing to open up.
But the minute you tell someone the REAL truth, or everything about yourself, you suddenly feel naked to judgement. Suddenly, their perceptions change about you. And once you release those seals, there is no putting them back.
Pray tell you don't break up, otherwise that information is public knowledge now.
And that is real life in my honest opinion.
Mental stress, traumatic experience don't come out after the first month of dating, heck, it may not even come out until marriage, or it just never comes out.
Some people are just really amazing at hiding their emotional scars, until the time they aren't. And if your the significant other, your most likely very ill equipped to deal with the new emotional baggage.
And it's entirely the right of the supportive person to know the full breadth of the weight he/she will be bearing.
But in reality, she doesn't know the depth of his trauma, nor is she mentally equipped to deal with such thing, when her own mental is quite weak. She's never been shown to have strong convictions, which is why she is still at this point trying to appease her Seoulite friends.
Hye Jin is a person who herself needed Dusik as her rock, so when it turns out her rock needs her to be the rock, she doesn't know how to respond.
At the moment, given the vagueness and lack of information Dusik is giving her, her reaction is not that off field.
Although, to be honest, even with the words she is saying, I can tell, they do lack sincerity, as if she is saying these things, because she feels these are the right things to say, rather than it coming from the heart. I chalk this up to her lack of maturity in relationships. She is not the best person to be Dusik's rock right now, but she can certainly help by at least letting him know that she won't break up with him due to it.
Or that sometimes we become rocks, not because we are mentally capable of doing so, but because the other person is even less capable, and so we are forced into it.
"Just open up to me"
"Be a rock"
"oh just ignore that"
"be patient"
Doesn't take into consideration how hard these acts can be for some people. Like Hwa Jeong said, what may come easy to others, is extremely difficult for others.
People assume that being a rock is an easy task. That all you have to do is stand still, and let the other person lean on you.
But when that person leaning on you carries a ton of emotional baggage, you will find yourself sinking into the ground, into the waves, and into nothingness.