The amount of people defending Yi Chen’s mother is honestly concerning.
You can sympathize with Yi Chen without pretending his mother’s request was reasonable. A parent asking their gay child to leave the person they love, marry someone else, and become “normal” is not an act of love. It’s homophobia. You can tell to yourself what you want to sleep good at night but it’s still homophobia.
Also there is a reason why viewers compare Yi Chen and Lulu in the first place.
And it might be a shock, but It’s not because they hate Yi Chen. It’s because the story gives us a direct comparison: both men were asked to give up the person they loved for their families. Lulu refused. Yi Chen didn’t.
That doesn’t make Yi Chen a bad person. It doesn’t mean he didn’t love Lulu. It means that he chose to act in that way. And people are allowed to have an opinion about that.
But please stop acting as if Lulu’s sacrifice was somehow easier, or as if Yi Chen’s mother was justified because she was dying.
A deathbed wish doesn’t automatically become morally right.
The airport videos are genuinely concerning. I was feeling sick while watching them 😭😭
Hopefully with what happened at Zhang Linghe’s event this news will be overshadowed by that one. (But in both cases it’s awful what happened and China should really do something about saesangs)
I don't understand,everybody talk about how many sacrifice Lufeng did for Yichen,sacrifices?. He is not even the…
I don’t think anyone is saying Yi Chen should have abandoned his mother while she was dying.
What many of us struggle with is the idea that his only option was to agree to her demands.
He could have stayed by her side, cared for her, supported her, and still refused to give up his relationship and his identity. Maybe some of you don’t fully realize how serious it is to ask a gay son to stop being gay, and to use a deathbed wish as moral pressure to make him comply. That’s not a small request. That’s asking someone to sacrifice a fundamental part of who they are. A dying parent deserves compassion. That doesn’t mean they are entitled to ask their child to spend years pretending to be someone they’re not.
I can understand why Yi Chen felt trapped. What I can’t agree with is treating his mother’s request as reasonable just because she was dying.
I don’t understand why some people act like it’s mandatory to hate Lu Feng.
Or like having a negative opinion of Yi Chen’s choices automatically means you’re missing the point.
Be honest for a second. If you gave up your family name, your inheritance, your future and your relationship with your family for someone, and they still chose to leave you to appease their mother, would you really be this understanding?
Because I don’t believe most people would.
If we actually put ourselves in Lu Feng’s shoes, a lot more people would understand why he’s angry.
Has he reacted badly at times? Sure.
But let’s look at what happened to him.
He was beaten. Sent away. Threatened. Forced to hide. He lost his father. He spent years being treated like a problem that needed fixing.
And even now, he’s once again being painted as the villain because he’s gay.
That’s literally the accusation being thrown at him. That he “corrupted” Yi Chen. That his homosexuality ruined Yi Chen’s life.
Meanwhile Yi Chen’s brother went from being openly homophobic to openly dating a man and flirting with him in front of his mother, and somehow nobody seems nearly as concerned.
Because the burden of being “normal” in that family has always fallen on Yi Chen.
So yes, I think it’s completely understandable that people don’t approve of what happened.
And let’s not forget the five years that were thrown away. Five years of separation. Five years of loneliness. Five years of a marriage that wasn’t even a real marriage.
Five years.
I’m not saying Yi Chen is evil. I’m saying I don’t understand why sympathy is extended to everyone except Lu Feng.
It’s what I need to know as well, because Yi Chen was adamant about his decision to leave Lu Feng behind and…
I’m on team Lu Feng as well. And I actually agree that Lu Feng deserved better and that he was rarely the one being chosen. He always put Yi Chen first, even when it came at a huge personal cost. That’s why I completely understand why he’s angry now.
My confusion is more about Yi Chen’s current behavior. I can understand why he left back then, even if I don’t agree with how he handled it. What I don’t understand is what he wants now. After five years of being so determined to stay away, seeing Lu Feng on TV suddenly makes him quit his job and go looking for him? That’s the part I’m struggling to make sense of.
Them seeing each other after five years wonder why yichen first instinct is going to meet lufeng after his divorce…
It’s what I need to know as well, because Yi Chen was adamant about his decision to leave Lu Feng behind and hide from him. And now, suddenly, after five years of lies and loneliness, he sees him on TV and quits his job to go find Lulu? Make it make sense 🙄
I’m so curious about the whole revenge plot 😏 because I’m sure Lulu has been thinking about it for years and the meeting between Yi Chen and the son/nephew or whoever he is, it feels like it was orchestrated 👀👀
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You can sympathize with Yi Chen without pretending his mother’s request was reasonable.
A parent asking their gay child to leave the person they love, marry someone else, and become “normal” is not an act of love. It’s homophobia.
You can tell to yourself what you want to sleep good at night but it’s still homophobia.
Also there is a reason why viewers compare Yi Chen and Lulu in the first place.
And it might be a shock, but It’s not because they hate Yi Chen.
It’s because the story gives us a direct comparison: both men were asked to give up the person they loved for their families. Lulu refused. Yi Chen didn’t.
That doesn’t make Yi Chen a bad person. It doesn’t mean he didn’t love Lulu. It means that he chose to act in that way. And people are allowed to have an opinion about that.
But please stop acting as if Lulu’s sacrifice was somehow easier, or as if Yi Chen’s mother was justified because she was dying.
A deathbed wish doesn’t automatically become morally right.
What many of us struggle with is the idea that his only option was to agree to her demands.
He could have stayed by her side, cared for her, supported her, and still refused to give up his relationship and his identity.
Maybe some of you don’t fully realize how serious it is to ask a gay son to stop being gay, and to use a deathbed wish as moral pressure to make him comply. That’s not a small request. That’s asking someone to sacrifice a fundamental part of who they are.
A dying parent deserves compassion. That doesn’t mean they are entitled to ask their child to spend years pretending to be someone they’re not.
I can understand why Yi Chen felt trapped. What I can’t agree with is treating his mother’s request as reasonable just because she was dying.
Or like having a negative opinion of Yi Chen’s choices automatically means you’re missing the point.
Be honest for a second. If you gave up your family name, your inheritance, your future and your relationship with your family for someone, and they still chose to leave you to appease their mother, would you really be this understanding?
Because I don’t believe most people would.
If we actually put ourselves in Lu Feng’s shoes, a lot more people would understand why he’s angry.
Has he reacted badly at times? Sure.
But let’s look at what happened to him.
He was beaten. Sent away. Threatened. Forced to hide. He lost his father. He spent years being treated like a problem that needed fixing.
And even now, he’s once again being painted as the villain because he’s gay.
That’s literally the accusation being thrown at him. That he “corrupted” Yi Chen. That his homosexuality ruined Yi Chen’s life.
Meanwhile Yi Chen’s brother went from being openly homophobic to openly dating a man and flirting with him in front of his mother, and somehow nobody seems nearly as concerned.
Because the burden of being “normal” in that family has always fallen on Yi Chen.
So yes, I think it’s completely understandable that people don’t approve of what happened.
And let’s not forget the five years that were thrown away. Five years of separation. Five years of loneliness. Five years of a marriage that wasn’t even a real marriage.
Five years.
I’m not saying Yi Chen is evil. I’m saying I don’t understand why sympathy is extended to everyone except Lu Feng.
And I actually agree that Lu Feng deserved better and that he was rarely the one being chosen. He always put Yi Chen first, even when it came at a huge personal cost. That’s why I completely understand why he’s angry now.
My confusion is more about Yi Chen’s current behavior. I can understand why he left back then, even if I don’t agree with how he handled it. What I don’t understand is what he wants now. After five years of being so determined to stay away, seeing Lu Feng on TV suddenly makes him quit his job and go looking for him? That’s the part I’m struggling to make sense of.
THIS WAS SOOOO GOOD, I NEED MORE