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i'm not a fan of the poster's layout. if i were in charge, i'd place the gay couple at the top. the forced "straight" one would be more of an afterthought, tucked away in a corner

at first glance, da on's decision to engage with red flags jae min and su hyeon and avoid green flag seong hyeon might be seen as a red flag by some people. however, i'd like to share my take on the subject and invite you to consider a different interpretation of his behavior

da on comes from a family where "love" is conditional and dependent on material gain. his "parents" didn't give him the support he needs and showed interest in him after learning he has a job/is financially stable. they were interested in the benefits they could reap, and not da on himself. he was used and unappreciated. as a result, da on gravitated towards toxicity, subconsciously repeating the familiar patterns of his upbringing and reenacting his traumas. this psychological phenomenon, "repetition compulsion," explains his failure to identify "red flags." the familiarity of toxic dynamics provided a false sense of security, causing him to push away seong hyeon and his healthier love

thanks to seong hyeon's support and guidance, da on has undergone a change, now possessing the insight necessary to identify and cultivate healthy relationships. he rejects jae min and su hyeon, and tries to pursue seong hyeon

jun seo (da on): "i've never followed my heart before. losing something and regretting it, i don't want to do that anymore" (episode 7, 3:26)

da on isn't a red flag, he's a survivor of neglect and manipulation who's becoming a better version of himself for seong hyeon. he deserves to love and be loved

i'd like to share my take on the subject, if that's okay with you

da on comes from a family where "love" is conditional and dependent on material gain. his "parents" didn't give him the support he needs and showed interest in him after learning he has a job/is financially stable. they were interested in the benefits they could reap, and not da on himself. he was used and unappreciated. as a result, da on gravitated towards toxicity, subconsciously repeating the familiar patterns of his upbringing and reenacting his traumas. this psychological phenomenon, "repetition compulsion," explains his failure to identify "red flags." the familiarity of toxic dynamics provided a false sense of security, causing him to push away seong hyeon and his healthier love

thanks to seong hyeon's support and guidance, da on has undergone a change, now possessing the insight necessary to identify and cultivate healthy relationships. he rejects jae min and su hyeon, and tries to pursue seong hyeon

jun seo (da on): "i've never followed my heart before. losing something and regretting it, i don't want to do that anymore" (episode 7, 3:26)

da on isn't a red flag, he's a survivor of neglect and manipulation who's becoming a better version of himself for seong hyeon. he deserves to love and be loved

yes, omegaverse fans are addicted to rape and pregnancy themes

the difference between bl (love between men) and omegaverse is in their respective themes. omegaverse operates on a perversion of human anatomy and a social structure of non-human hierarchy and heat cycles that feels more dystopian than romantic. it turns people into humanoid aliens and breeding machines

actors comfortable with bl/gay roles might not be comfortable with omegaverse roles that demand acting out rut or heat scenarios and unhealthy interdependencies

"Japan already adapted an Omegaverse bl into a live action anime"

japan has adapted many problematic things

"This world keeps on evolving"

true progress comes from moral and logical development. bl deserves to be popular for normalizing gay relationships/promoting acceptance and understanding of gay relationships. omegaverse doesn’t follow that morality or logic, it relies on exaggerated animalistic impulses and homophobic power dynamics that ignore consent. many of us bl fans find its popularity troubling and antithetical to progress

it explains how scary su hyeon is that to prevent danger befalling seung hyeon, da on had to surrender to su hyeon's control and kiss him

later, da on found the courage to reject su hyeon's influence and assert his autonomy. "i can't go back [to you], too much time has passed, and it's too late to return. i'm going to follow my heart," he said, choosing to pursue his love for seong hyeon

it's possible they're using the hints to misdirect the viewers who haven't read the manhwa

i hope the adaptation stays true to the manhwa and has da on end up with seong hyeon. why would they swap the love interest for the crazy man who hurt/assaulted da on multiple times? that’s not a plot twist, that’s bad writing

"It was clear that even though Su Hyeon was aggressively kissing Daon in the beginning of the episode, Daon was clearly kissing back"

this line misrepresents consent. people freeze in situations of forced intimacy, it’s a known psychological response. hesitation, shock, or momentary reciprocation under pressure doesn’t mean it was welcomed or consensual. da on tried to push su hyeon away, that rejection is what matters

"The show itself keeps emphasizing on the fact that they were both deeply in love with each other (you would think that the show runners prefer them as a couple)"

the story is exploring tension, past regrets, and contrast with da on’s current decisions. and "deeply in love" isn’t the same as "good for each other." plenty of toxic relationships have "love" and deep emotions involved

the depiction of violence in the drama isn't intended to glorify or encourage harmful behavior. it's a storytelling device. we're seeing the struggles that da on and seong hyeon face and the obstacles they have to overcome

"I think he is not worth the trouble unless you like them looking very young"

jun seo is a young adult at 23. his youthful appearance is fitting for his age. some people of korean descent retain those youthful features well into their 30s or 40s

"I honestly believe Da On is trying to protect Seong Hyeon in the only way he knows how"

thank you for taking the time to consider da on's point of view. what appears as questionable decision or behavior to us onlookers might be the only realistic option for someone experiencing da on's distressing circumstances

jae min's authority pales in comparison to su hyeon's, whose power over da on is absolute. a single gesture from su hyeon, da on's boss, could jeopardize da on's job and livelihood. he didn't want to risk losing everything

additionally, da on's newfound courage to push jae min away came from his earlier decision to confront su hyeon and reject him. this courage was absent during the kiss

su hyeon is da on's boss. his repeated assertions of power over da on and seong hyeon, combined with the fear he instilled through his previous actions, created a dynamic in which da on was trapped and helpless. he couldn't express his true feelings or resist su hyeon's advances at the time

da on felt responsible for seong hyeon's safety. to separate su hyeon from seong hyeon, he took actions that were contrary to his own well-being

da on was in a compromising position with su hyeon, who displayed the ability to inflict pain upon anyone who crossed his path. he couldn't resist su hyeon's advances for fear of what su hyeon might do to his seong hyeon. he didn't want to kiss or have sex with su hyeon, he was forced to

according to some comments, it's implied su hyeon raped da on. i hate su hyeon more now

we need an emergency evacuation of jae min and su hyeon to the psychiatric hospital. the prognosis for da on and seong hyeon's happiness depends on it

your comment deserves to be seen by more people. would you please consider posting it as a review in addition to your comment?

da on has shown resilience and determination in overcoming his trauma and weaknesses

"i can't go back [to you], too much time has passed, and it's too late to return. i'm going to follow my heart," he said to su hyeon, choosing to pursue his love for seong hyeon. he knew rejecting su hyeon, his boss, might jeopardize his job, and he refused to be swayed by the risk

he'll cut ties with jae min. he just needs time to process the situation

please read @kate's comment, they explain everything in detail: https://kisskh.at/723559-secret-relationship#comment-21169602

the potential for toxicity exists within everyone. the question we should ask ourselves is if our actions harm others

da on and seong hyeon try to control their emotions. they don't hurt others, and characterizing them as "crazy" or "red flags" would be an unwarranted assessment

despite da on's difficulties in expressing his love for seong hyeon, he wants to keep seong hyeon safe. through a relationship with seong hyeon, da on will learn to love and be loved in a way that promotes growth and emotional well-being for both of them. i want them to be endgame