whether it was Anna manipulating him or trauma 27 years back. Anna deserved that slap. Any actions he did after…
I agree. One of the people I work with here in Korea had to fight 10 years to get his name on his son's birth certificate, his wife refused to do it. She's controlling and manipulative, she used the birth certificate it a way to have power over her husband. He finally left after 8 years of abuse. He had to hire a lawyer to get her to agree to attach his name to the birth certificate. She wasn't happy about it.
It's unbelievable to me that fathers in Korea experience this level of injustice if the wife abandons them, which endangers the life of the child and harms the father, but also a wife/girlfriend can withhold the register of a child with the father's name, which prevents the father from seeking rights on behalf of the child. We live in an era when DNA makes it so easy to confirm. The law should protect but in this case, it does create a lot of suffering and financial strain.
whether it was Anna manipulating him or trauma 27 years back. Anna deserved that slap. Any actions he did after…
No matter if it's an accusation, expressed judgments, name-calling, or belittling, it can all be labeled as emotionally abusive behavior. "You daft or something?" I want to thank you for the example.
My profession is to help trauma victims, most of which were physical and emotional abuse by family members or lovers. I speak from 15 plus years of experience of walking people through their past pain and fears and into a restored sense of self-value and hope for their future. Humans are not one-dimensional beings, there are many layers at work within each of us. There is a difference between someone who is reacting suddenly out of suppressed trauma vs a person who is a habitual abuser. You don't have to agree with me. I am ok with it. I don't need to explain it to you any further either. I do hope you find a better way to communicate your frustrations in the future. Blessings.
whether it was Anna manipulating him or trauma 27 years back. Anna deserved that slap. Any actions he did after…
USING PHYSICAL FORCE, IN GENERAL, IS WRONG, but it isn't one size fits all either. His behavior is abusive, but it doesn't make him an abuser. She deeply hurt him. Then he discovers she is who she is, lying about it and toying with his emotions while he is unaware He isn't acting with his head, he is responding out suppressed PTSD, and new trauma at the same time. People commit crimes out of "passion" of emotions, they don't always charge for the crime they commit. The reason behind their behavior is linked only to that one person, and deep-rooted injustice. The court gives leniency because their behavior is only related to emotional trauma, and outside of this situation or the person they wouldn't behave this way. It's the same type of reaction that a sexually abused child suddenly kills an abuser-parent. Is murder acceptable? no. In this instance emotions linked to a trauma override what is considered right or wrong. His reaction is related to the level of pain he has suppressed. The court will often consider it not guilty (at least in most western nations). The question will be how he will respond in the future. A sudden outburst makes him human, it doesn't make him an abuser unless this is the normal way of solving problems.
whether it was Anna manipulating him or trauma 27 years back. Anna deserved that slap. Any actions he did after…
It's not about his ego at all. She left him with his daughter alone. If you know anything about how Korea works, men have NO rights when it comes to their children unless the wife registers them. This means the child can't get medical care or be signed up for public day care. She abandoned them both, he was left with no options to help protect their daughter. Which he was about to take both their lived in the han river.
What she did was cruel. If you watch ASIAN BOSS on youtube they have done a few interviews with single dads. The situation is very grim for men who have been left in the same situation.
whether it was Anna manipulating him or trauma 27 years back. Anna deserved that slap. Any actions he did after…
Is it the way he should behave? NO, HOWEVER...He has 27 years of pent-up pain from her abandonment and betrayal. He snapped. He was in shock, his brain became overwhelmed and he's having an outburst of unexpected emotions. It's not his normal character to react this way. He wasn't this way with Anna when they were together, he deeply loved her. He isn't like this with his current family. He tends to be very passive, quiet, gentle, and kind. He endures challenges and suffering, he carries the burdens of others without complaining . We're seeing how deep and inflamed his wounds, the ones he tried so hard to suppress. He is having a psychological meltdown.
The subs we see on all the drama pirate sites are coming from the Romance & Idol youtube channel. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLRBClVey5BqwVKGBZCVO2hBk8KCkvF28Q They are 100% google translated.... Good luck! I don't think I can stand watching this drama this way. I hope we see a human-translated version come out in the near future.
I shouldn't be shocked by the cliche -annoying ending. If this were real life it wouldn't be romantic. I'd be pissed. (It's a happy ending but how the writer chose to get there is the problem IMO)
I really wish this was a 16-24 episode drama and not 50. I feel like we will be going around the hamster wheel of non-sense over and over and over for the next 3 months.
Why the heck we need to wait till episode 22 for main leads confession
The episodes are only 30 min so it's really not that bad. 22 ep is basically the 11th hour out of 16 total. It's not that much different from when a confession happens in a Korean drama.
I like others I skipped a lot of the side plots and focused on the main couples. Overall it was just an ok experience. I won't remember it in a few months.
In Korean--> http://www.koreadaily.com/news/read.asp?art_id=9853978
It's unbelievable to me that fathers in Korea experience this level of injustice if the wife abandons them, which endangers the life of the child and harms the father, but also a wife/girlfriend can withhold the register of a child with the father's name, which prevents the father from seeking rights on behalf of the child. We live in an era when DNA makes it so easy to confirm. The law should protect but in this case, it does create a lot of suffering and financial strain.
My profession is to help trauma victims, most of which were physical and emotional abuse by family members or lovers. I speak from 15 plus years of experience of walking people through their past pain and fears and into a restored sense of self-value and hope for their future. Humans are not one-dimensional beings, there are many layers at work within each of us. There is a difference between someone who is reacting suddenly out of suppressed trauma vs a person who is a habitual abuser. You don't have to agree with me. I am ok with it.
I don't need to explain it to you any further either.
I do hope you find a better way to communicate your frustrations in the future. Blessings.
People commit crimes out of "passion" of emotions, they don't always charge for the crime they commit. The reason behind their behavior is linked only to that one person, and deep-rooted injustice.
The court gives leniency because their behavior is only related to emotional trauma, and outside of this situation or the person they wouldn't behave this way.
It's the same type of reaction that a sexually abused child suddenly kills an abuser-parent. Is murder acceptable? no. In this instance emotions linked to a trauma override what is considered right or wrong. His reaction is related to the level of pain he has suppressed. The court will often consider it not guilty (at least in most western nations).
The question will be how he will respond in the future. A sudden outburst makes him human, it doesn't make him an abuser unless this is the normal way of solving problems.
She is an abuser. EMOTIONAL ABUSE IS ABUSE.
What she did was cruel. If you watch ASIAN BOSS on youtube they have done a few interviews with single dads. The situation is very grim for men who have been left in the same situation.
It's a classic in the best way.
1 episode a week ...ahhh.
https://www.youtube.com/c/gmmtv/videos
They are 100% google translated.... Good luck!
I don't think I can stand watching this drama this way. I hope we see a human-translated version come out in the near future.
https://v.youku.com/v_show/id_XNTIwMTMwNDMwOA==.html?spm=a2h0c.8166622.PhoneSokuProgram_1.dselectbutton_23&showid=ddbfaafc2339464eadaa
https://v.youku.com/v_show/id_XNTIwMTMwNDI5Ng==.html?spm=a2hbt.13141534.1_3.24&s=ddbfaafc2339464eadaa
You can google translate the header of each video to get a better concept of the content.