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Do-han is called selfish by many users here. I find him selfish, too, but, unlike Ji-han, he has been honest since episode 1. Being selfish is not necessarily bad, in my opinion. It always depends on the context. Ah-jeong is selfish, too. So is Ji-han.

I think the writing in this drama is lacking. If they had given Do-han 1-2 minutes to explain why he's angry or why he makes this or that decision, it would be easier to understand the respective characters, and to relate to them. Due to the lack of information, everybody has to fill the gaps with his own interpretation. I think people are angry because there is so much missing. If you like the JH+AJ couple, DH feels like he's blocking them for no apparent reason. If you like DH, you feel like JH and AJ selfish because they are a couple and do not need him anymore. This drama does not take any time to explain both sides.

FL looking shocked implies that she didn't know about the press conference in advance. Do-han looking surprised when he saw his grandpa in the empty room instead of journalists implies that nobody talked with him either.

Nevertheless, you are right. The remaining episodes will hopefully reveal a proper explanation.

Thanks for clarifying what you meant. I agree with you that he is a badly written main character. He feels like a support role. This is in fact disappointing.

No worries. Whenever I discuss on the internet, I am well aware that people are sharing their personal opinion just like I. If something is a fact, I'm usually able to find a good original source for it. Also, I don't engage in discussions to change the world but to learn about other perspectives on topics I'm interested in, and to reflect on my own arguments. I don't have to agree with you to find yours interesting. :)

You are right. Starting a new relationship with somebody else one year after the husband died is certainly not "too early". However, a lot bad things happened after the husband died. She was in a hospital for quite a time. Work was stressful because of many reasons, and she finally made the decision to become a freelancer. As a freelancer, she has to establish herself and find new clients. There also were lots of negative newspaper articles about her, so we can assume that her private life was not quiet for a long time. Oh, and there were lots of men who exploited and deceived her. Let's not forget the rape. I doubt that a couple of days is enough to get back to a normal life.

FL does accept a second chance. He agreed to wait for her and follow at her pace. She just told the man that she wants to proceed slowly. In the end, she does not know much about the SML because they were mainly collegues. All those episodes, she kept him at distance. To me, it would be very awkward if there was a cut, and they suddenly were married. I need to see how their relationship develops.

In other dramas, people complain that women were "never" allowed to take control over their lives, to stay single for a while or to take their time. If FL takes her time, people complain that she doesn't hurry up. Interestingly, people who use the word misogyny are often the worst misogynists because, in many cases, they just try to control a woman's life and disguise the fact by pointing out that their solution was the solution for other women's problems implying that all women were the same. However, women are individuals.

I read "they are using a gay character like we never get really any sort of representation in the media" and was not sure if you meant that you are gay and feel entitled to see your personal life story on screen.

Do-han being gay is essential to the story. Without him being gay, this whole drama would not work at all. Let's be honest, Ji-han is a cheater. If Do-han was straight, it would be very difficult to sell the oh-so-sweet Ji-han+Ah-jeong couple.

The writing of this drama is lacking in many respects. For instance, Do-han got angry when he learnt that his brother and his fiancée are dating behind his back. The drama did not even allow him to explain anything. Instead, the focus got set on Ji-han, the cheater. The writers obviously tried to make us believe that he was the actual victim. That does not have anything to do with Do-han being gay, though, it's just crappy writing you find in other dramas too.

I have watched quite a few shows where important (straight) characters suddenly got disposed and became filler characters. See, for instance, "My Dearest" (especially part 2). Why is it okay for straight characters to be used in a mediocre drama but not for gay characters?

If you really want to get better gay characters in dramas, be patient and glad that Kdramas now also feature gay characters. It's basically a wonder that there is a gay main role in a mainstram straight romcom. If you join the creepy narcissts who demand that gay characters are supposed to be portrayed with the approved queer™ story and queer approved™ screentime, the producers might refrain from featuring more gay characters at some point if gay characters cause too much trouble.

The worst thing for me is that it is difficult to distinguish between gossip about an actor's private life or project because the headlines often make it look as if it was about the actor's private life.

- "Actor T cheats on actor B who is pregnant with his child ..... in drama ABC".
- "Actor R ran over multiple children with his car .... in drama XYZ".
- "Actor A struggles to keep away from drugs ... in drama OPQ".
- "Actor S dying of colon cancer lives the last days of his life ... in drama LMN".
- "Actor H commited suicide after dramatic plot twist in court".

I would be glad if the DH and JH reflected on themselves just once. They could find solutions for many of their problems.

At the moment, the drama feels ridiculous because we are served "solutions" out of the blue without any explanation. JH was portrayed as the smart planner who controlled everything in his life, then the suddenly tells the journalist that he chased after his brother's financée? He did not discuss this decision with DH and JA. If he had, they certainly would have come up with a solution that did not involve the rest of the world. The grandfather obviously does not want any scandals, so he probably would have agreed to call the marriage off and allow DH to quietly move to NY.

As a side note, where on earth are the PR consultants? There is no way that a cheabol company would work like that in real life.

I did not regurgitate what you wrote in your comment to which I replied. In your comment, you mentioned the tunnel vision in a subordinate clause without any further explanation. The very long rest of your comment consisted of whining about the stuggles of gay people in real life ignoring the fact that Do-han is a fictional character whose only purpose is to entertain. Unlike actual gay people in real life, he does owe us a lot.

Also, you called Do-han "the biggest waste of a gay character in Kdrama". Based on what I read in your very long comment, you seem to have expected him to be an ambassador of the queer community™ with the approved gay life™ and the corresponding lived experience™. You yourself seem to feel that this fictional gay character owes you something.

For a non-BL Kdrama, he's a good character, in my opinion, especially since he is one of the main characters and has a rather complex story. I'm surprised that he still has so much screen time and didn't suddenly move back to New York after Ji-han popped up. We can consider us lucky to see a gay character in a mainstream Kdrama. Korea is still a very conservative country.

I defended Do-han in multiple comments without calling people homophobic. In my opinion, everybody is entitled to hate Do-han for whatever reason. He's a fictional character, not an actual human.
If you meant something else, maybe consider making the point about the tunnel vision more prominent in your initial comment, so it does not read as if you were telling people that they must not hate Do-han because gay people™.

I'm not a consultant but you are right. Some Kdramas clearly aim at an international audience. They usually show way less Korean culture including social habits. I don't think that "Wedding Impossible" was created for an international audience because the gay part makes it impossible to sell the drama in lots of countries, especially China and to African countries.

I agree with you regarding the bad writing. However, I doubt that this has to do with the budget because writers do not get paid billions of won anyway. There are "affordable" but skilled writers who could have made this drama way better. Since the drama has got lots of good ideas and an intriguing conflict, it would have been relatively easy without changing the whole story.

For example, the additional love story with the barista is basically a fill-in in this drama as we learn nothing about the barista and the people around her. Why would we care about their story?

If those scenes were cut, there would have been more time to explain certain things. What I wrote above requires a lot of prior knowledge to interpret the story this way. This shows that the writing is rather bad as this drama obviously does not aim at a gay audience only. If the script had been better, certain things would have been clearer. For example, Ah-jeong and Do-han never discuss the problems of a gay man in Korea or Do-hans specific problems with his family or any problems although they claim to be best friends. This makes it difficult to relate to Do-han's problems and his solution.

Well, it is a Korean drama made by Koreans for Koreans. In this respect, it makes no sense for the Koreans to take the cultural ignorance of the rest of the world into consideration. Africans in the southern part of Africa might not understand the explanations for US-Americans in the USA, and you will also have to explain certain things for the Arabic world, and so on. At some point, you cannot tell a story anymore because you spend most of the time explaining things. The alternative would be to tell some dull story that has been told a million times. In that case, everything that makes a drama Korean would be lost. Asian people speaking Korean is not what makes a drama Korean.

If you watch European content or US-American content, you'll also notice that you are expected to know about certain cultural things. For this reason, when consumating foreign media, it is usually a good idea to learn at least a bit about the respective culture. It makes it easier to interpret the story in the "correct" way. If you only apply your knowledge about your own culture, many things simply do not make sense because they do not make any sense in your own culture.

The word "blackmailing" makes it look as if he did that the whole time. That's not the case, though. In my opinion, it is very understandable that he is shocked and angry because his brother (and Ah-jeong) did this romance thing behind his back. Both Ah-jeong and Ji-han know what marriage means.

It's basically gaslighting to deny people expressing negative emotions making it look as if their negative emotions were invalid and behaviour inappropriate despite having been betrayed.

I also watch this drama for the scenario. I find the conflict still very intriguing despite the poor execution. :)

I would agree with you if the story was different.

We have to keep in mind that the writers try to sell Ji-han and Ah-jeong as a sweet couple. However, unlike the MLs in other romance dramas, Ji-han does some questionable stuff people usually would not forget so easily: He chases after his brother's financée behind his brother's back. If Do-han was straight, I doubt that "♥♥♥Ji-han&Ah-jeong♥♥♥" would ever work.

It would also be a problem if Do-han was more charismatic because if he was, and if he was portrayed as a really good friend for Ah-jeong, most people would probably hope that Ah-jeong stays with her best friend instead of starting a relationship with a toxic guy.

Do-han lacking charisma makes it easy to dispose him. And since there are no alternatives left, people are happy to accept Ji-han.

The actor does not seem to have any charisma at all. At least in my opinion. To me, your initial comment sounds as if he played the gay character with little charisma on purpose to push some agenda or because he doesn't like to portray a gay character while all other actors portrayed gay characters with much more enthusiasm.

Do-han is obviously supposed to have "little charisma" because, while being the ML, he is not supposed to be mistaken for FL's potential love interest. It would be difficult to sell the straight couple if there was a charismatic gay guy right next to FL because the other ML does some questionable things people usually would not ignore so happily if there were some better alternative.

A brief reminder: Ji-han chased after Do-han's fiancée behind Do-han's back because he didn't agree that Do-han marries a woman he didn't approve/select.

This started before Ji-han learnt that his brother is gay, so we can assume that Ji-han thought that Do-han and Ah-jeong were in love with each other. If not for love, it would not have made any sense for a straight Do-han to marry Ah-jeong who is poor and a struggling actress.

If Do-han were more charismatic, most people probably would have felt that FL should rather stay with Do-han instead of starting a relationship with his shady brother.

It is absolutely not hard for gay characters to lack charisma. To put it simply, "gay" means that a naked penis prefers to be near a naked penis. I have yet to meet a man who increases his charisma with cockfights. Real life is not a video game.

The negative comments don't have anything to do with Do-han being gay. You can see comments like that in basically all dramas. If another hot guy shows up, you always have lots of people complaining if the first guy does not step back and applaud if FL and the new guy start a relationship. They call the first guy, who usually happens to be (a bit) uglier than the new guy, selfish for not becoming an NPC.

You also see that in dramas where some "unlikeable" female dares to make the hot ML's life difficult instead of supporting him without scrutinising anything. The good looking female police officer who was praised in the first episodes is suddenly "a selfish bitch" despite not having changed at all and despite doing her damn job as a police officer. The ML is a criminal, by the way, but people on the internet excuse his behaviour because he's so hot. See the comment section of a random thriller/mystery/action drama with a hot ML. In romance dramas, it's the same but with the male characters.

If you read the negative comments regarding Do-han carefully instead of skimming them and filling the gaps with your own experience and stories, you'll notice that many people hate him because he's blocking the latest hot couple on screen, and that those people want simple solutions for complex problems, and to see some cheesy romance even if it does not make much sense.

I neither blame Do-han nor Ah-jeong. Do-han could not have known about Ah-jeong's feelings regarding his brother because she never told him. They had a contract, and both of them are not ignorant but know what society expects of married couples (no cheating), and they are also "good people", so they know about each other's expectations.

Ah-jeong's mistake was that she didn't tell him that she was interested in Ji-han after she agreed to marry him. Do-han had no chance to discuss the problem with her, and to find a solution. It is understandable that Do-han is angry.

You are right, though. Nobody is the perfect innocent victim here as they all made some morally questionable decisions.

The worst character is clearly Ji-han, in my opinion, because he decided to chase after his brother's fiancée behind his brother's back just because he didn't want him to marry Ah-jeong. He not only betrayed his brother but also had bad intentions in the beginning.

Who cares if Do-han is selfish? He's at least honest about the whole fake marriage. He discussed that with Ah-jung, and Ah-jung will get compensated. He is as selfish as Ah-jung who wants to have the money. I don't see any problem here.

As you wrote, Ji-han is the worst character here because he acts as if he was morally superior, flawless and honest. The funniest part was when he complained that FL did not tell him that Do-han was gay. Pinching his brother's fiancée, especially behind his brother's back instead of telling him, but expecting that his brother or, worse, his brother's financée reveals all secrets about his brother. He's such a hypocrite.

Well, it does matter if Ji-han dates a married woman, especially his brother's wife. It is already difficult to be part of the family who either hate them or denies their existence. Only the grandfather accepts Do-han and his brother as grandchildren. There are many angry people around him because he "dared" to not just accept them as grandchildren but to also give them a good position in his company. If the double life was revealed, the situation would be even worse because people would say: "See? The cheater's offspring are cheaters themselves. They cannot be trusted." As powerful as the grandfather might be, nobody would accept a boss who cannot be trusted.

The other thing is jealousy/envy. Do-han might not love Ah-jung like a straight man would but he also does not want to share her, especially not with his brother. If you had a husband and you broke off because you don't love each other anymore but didn't divorce for some reason, how would you feel if your ex-boyfriend suddenly ended up with your sister, brother, single mother or father? (Of course, this is a fictional "you", not the actual you.)

If Do-han and Ji-han were not brother but friends, your idea could have worked. In fact, that kind of fake life is still a typical life for gay people in many parts of this world.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who got confused after episode 8. I checked multiple times whether I accidentally skipped an episode because of the conflicts that did not make much sense, and the sudden romance as if Ji-han and Ah-jung had always been a couple, none of them questioned that she was actually his brother's fiancée but then Ji-han started to act morally superior?

Personally, I enjoy the gay characters. It's refreshing compared to the typical clichés in Western media where characters including actors are supposed to be perfect and morally impeccable representatives of large groups nowadays. In this drama, Do-han and his ex are obviously individuals, not representatives of "the gays" acting like "the gays" to promote that "the gays are very good people who are now on TV" which encourages the mentally ill creeps to harass the actors, writers and the society in general even more because it is easier to find a flaw/mistake when somebody claims to be the ambassador of a whole group on screen.

Do-han and his ex have at least an interesting and somewhat meaningful conflict going on. Unlike the straight couple.

lol, what's "acting gay"? I actually enjoy that K-dramas show normal gay people, not "gay performers". In real life, you cannot tell if somebody is gay unless they act gay on purpose. Only a subset of gay people's personality is "being gay".

Do-han's ex looks hurt, maybe jealous. The actor does a good job portraying this shady(?) character who seems to be taking vengeance for having been deserted by Do-han in a moment when he needed Do-han. The main problem with him is that he only appears once in a while for a few seconds, and does not have any storyline fleshed out. There is no progress.

I agree with you regarding the barista storyline, though. It feels very forced because those characters have no personal life. We know basically nothing about them. They are just there performing some cheesy romance story but it is not clear why we should care about them. This is indeed annoying.