Kaypearl63

I honestly understand you and I feel the exact same way. Take care of you and be happy. 💜

Exactly. Someone mentioned it earlier and it got me thinking. What if this was said by that supporting cast that the fandom hated sometime ago. I don’t remember his name, this would have been a no brainer! The outrage would have been collective.
The world generally lacks empathy. That’s the only thing I’ve taken out of this entire fiasco.

Wow. So let me see if I understand: your support for his hiatus makes you a bad person because he shouldn’t be on hiatus? Or because he should be completely thrown away. I’m so lost.

I was almost swallowed whole for defending someone who left a very polite harmless critic the other day. Scary. It was why I stopped really talking in this comment section for a very long time. It seems that loving a show brings out the worst in some people.

That is news to me because all I’m seeing is outrage. More in the lines of How dare BOC Bench him for something so trivial and something he has apologized for.
So what is the issue? They don’t want him to take some time away or they do? I’m confused.

Reason 123427886 why I will never have a Twitter account.

It honestly isn’t! Be hurt, move past it, forgive him, what ever but don’t dilute or shift the blame. Imagine someone like this as a judge or a police officer for a crime that involves a celebrity or someone they know. People’s reaction to this whole debacle is really the biggest tell of their personality. It tells me more about how y’all think and less about Build. At least his own transgressions date a couple of years/months/weeks from now and he has owned up to them and apologized but y’all?! Right this instant you’re showing what is in your hearts and by heavens, it’s frightening!

Someone said and I quote: all these definitely happened because of some jealousy and people who don’t like to see Build shine. Wise people should see that he was literally a teenager 8 years ago.
An entire essay without a single truth!
I swear, some of y’all really scare me and I hope you’re never in a position of power because the world will turn to shit!
Edit. More shit. The world is already a pile of it.

Basically, some years ago, he was misogynistic and a rape apologist and left some terrible comments on Twitter about these topics.

Like seriously!!
That’s human beings for you: something is bad and evil until it happens to someone you like. Talking about “my poor baby 🥺” “sending you so much love” “what more can he do?! He has already apologized 😩” “please don’t punish him. I know he is a changed man 🥺💜” “let’s trend a hashtag so that he doesn’t feel alone”. Are you fucking serious?? When my mama would try to tell me “pearl, there are different types of people on this earth”, I didn’t believe her but God was she right!

“Empathy and kindness are traits that even a child should have”. This! Because the way people are going about this baffles me. Like did you not see the comments he left? It wasn’t trivial in the least! We all come from different backgrounds and cultures but one thing I used to think brought us all together was basic decency. For example, A lot of people here were raised to be homophobic but even at that, you can ‘hate gay people’ (not that that is good in the slightest) without wishing that they are trampled on when they leave their houses. That takes a while different level of evil. Telling someone to use rape; something so dehumanizing and intrusive as an opportunity is way past being misogynistic and shouldn’t be taken lightly . So please let him take some time off. Let him reflect. Show him love if you will but show more love to whoever this must have triggered by this for God’s sake! Especially those that really looked up to him and found solace in a series that he was in. It’s a different kind of pain.
Funny thing is that I think that if people had just banded together rather than argue if he should or shouldn’t be sorry, this issue would have died down a lot quicker.

Hmm… I don’t know if I should say this but whatever. It scares me. It really does to see some People not show an ounce of empathy for what someone out there might be feeling or going through. I’ve seen a lot of insensitive comments that genuinely make me question where our humanity is headed. It’s okay to be sad for an actor you care about but wanting to sweep it under the rug? Being mad at people that are ‘bringing negative energy into this place by talking about it’? Being more angry at whoever unearthed the comments rather than at the commenter? Is scary.
I cope with it by understanding that people are different and as confusing as some thought processes are, we live in a free world so, they are allowed. My advise to you is to do the same before it overwhelms you. 💜

When you sugarcoat with by saying things like “he made some insensitive statements “ or “he said something bad about SA victims” you forget what he was: a rape apologist. Simple.

For people saying that BOC shouldn’t have suspended him. Let me set a scenario (and this is just an example).
Someone SA you or perhaps your friend. Or said person laughed at you when you were SA. This person is a movie star so his management reaches out to you and says “hey mr A is really sorry for what he said and did to you. Here’s an apology from him. Please accept it because we want him back on air for his latest movie fan meet. Lots of his fans want to meet him”. How’d that make you feel?

Please through all of the let’s keep it in mind that they were people that were really hurt by his statements eight years ago and there are people hurt by it now and it will be difficult for these people to see him right now on the screen. This is more than punishment for Build. It is also a way to protect everyone hurting due to the events of last week.

BOC is trying to protect both their watchers and their actor (that they know much better than anybody watching him through the screen) and I think they’re doing an amazing job at it.

I understand your thoughts but I guess that’s life. Has this somewhat changed the direction his career was on? Probably. Is that a bad thing? Depends on how he chooses to handle it. When he returns after his hiatus, there will be people who will be there waiting for him as well as people who won’t want anything to do with him anymore. It’s just what it is. It’s left to him to do better, prove that his apology was sincere, forgive himself and move on. There’s literally nothing more he can do. If the universe aligns with him, his career will kick back in with full speed.

There was honestly no other way (in my opinion) that they could have handled it better so that both the viewers are somewhat calmed down and Build isn’t completely ostracized.

You’re looking at it the wrong way. Him being left out for sometime, yes it is a punishment but more than that, it’s a way to protect fans of the show who right now might be too overwhelmed to see him live due to the severity of his comments. Through all of this debacle, it is important to remember that it is less about him and remember who the victims are: whoever was in the receiving end of his comments and who else might have been triggered by it. I think BOC did an amazing job with the way they handled it.

You might be a little confused; I had no problem with what you said or how you said it. You write in a very respectful manner and addressed what you didn’t like. It was fine the way it was in my opinion. And I know you’re weren’t trying to ruin any body’s good time; all I have to do was read your comment to know that. Your feeling bad was what I feared and was trying to avoid because I know that the comment didn’t come from an antagonistic place. I was (and still I am) in full support of your comment and the way it wan penned. The reply you got for it was rude and frankly unnecessary. Please don’t ever feel like you cannot come online to this page (or whatever other MDL page out there) and say what you feel. 💜

Alright. Like you said, you can do as you wish. All I’m and still saying is that a little kindness?/consideration goes a long way, longer than you think.
A contrary comment? I welcome. I enjoy hearing varying opinions about things. A negative /rude comment? Unnecessary. The world is stressful enough as is. People need an escape which I believe is the reason they even come to comments sections in the first place or watch movies. I just hate to see someone come in excited about something, say something about it even if it’s criticism and leave deflated. But, to each their own.
Ps. My argument was never anybody should post and comment whatever they want. You omitted a very crucial part: anybody can and should be able to comment what we they want, provided it is done in a respectful manner.
Have a lovely day (and I swear that isn’t me being possible aggressive lol. I genuinely mean that).

Sweetheart, there was nothing rude about your statement, you don’t have to apologize to me or to anyone about your feelings and preferences. They are valid. Just like you 😉😘
Happy KP day!

Randomly venting a critique though isn’t the same as being rude. Anyone can and should be able to randomly vent a critique provided you’re keeping it as that and only that; a critique. And lay of the land? What does that mean? I’m assuming you mean without accessing the general consensus/opinions of the people there (but, I might be wrong). If that is what you meant then my previous comment still stands; it’s not a monopoly. No one has to read the room before they can write what they’re thinking (unless it’s a fan club so you already know that that page is dedicated to only the people that love that movie or actor or etc)
If I misunderstood your statement about the lay of the land, feel free to correct me.
Ps. You had your issues with the original post? What in mine made you also think I was here to antagonize? I just believe people should have space to say what they feel, whatever it is (if they’re being respectful about it).