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in the actress interviews you can see her also admitting that she is scared to eat and gain weight. and I get where you coming from. also in the drama also she is shown being "too careful" of the way she eats. she is constantly exercising multiple times a day in the drama. that's what I remember a lot. so yes I totally get you

I totally agree with you. Many of my friends’ south and East Asian mothers are exactly the same. However I found the mom less conservative but more bitter. I think anyone would be if their husband left them just because they want to pursue their career … I also think that this drama showed the best character development for her mom something which many dramas don’t know. She went from being harsh to being a champion of her daughter and I love this slow transformation

Exactly I agree with you why not state it for what it is. Persons with depression do not get magically cured. Why did they not go there I do not understand

I actually liked Shan Shan’s character arc. I met such people in college who seemingly destroyed their lives because of minor reasons such as boys. Later they were almost always diagnosed with clinical depression. I think this is an Asian thing (south and east both) where people refuse to acknowledge such things. My only wish was that the author was brave enough to openly show it and the perfect ending for Shan Shan would have been counselling with regular therapy on her path to healing

I have also given up on Korean dramas. Weird endings such as dol dol sol, toxic relationships and too much focus on the girl to be self sacrificing paragon of virtue etc etc. and crying. God the crying almost every drama has this formulaic occurrence from episode 9 after the weird kissing scene where the characters keep crying for at least 5 episodes. Then also the weird separation where the hero disappears for years if not a decade. Thanks to netflix and other platforms I now like watching Turkish, British, Swedish and Chinese dramas more.

Also I think this is similar to someone saying they don’t like LGBTQ romance and then going ahead and reading 800 pages of priory of orange tree just because it was the most hyped book of 2019. And then still rating the book one star on goodreads. It’s not fair to the author or the reader right? :D :D

How can you pretend when it is the whole premise of the story? You can watch short video clips on YouTube for LinYi instead of watching this entire story unfold ?. If you like nice looking main leads watch’s go ahead. There is no age gap there

Look I think if you have such a strong feeling about such a story don’t watch it. They do touch about this topic. Also the social prejudice is obvious when no one says anything where the second lead is twenty years older than heroine ! But in the drama people comment when the heroine is only 4/5 years older. Wasting 31 hours on something you don’t inherently like may not be the most constructive use of your time. I for example hate Chaebol type stories with jerky rich guys and self sacrificing poor hardworking heroines. No matter how hyped the story is I would still never watch it

Exactly that’s why I thought she was depressed after ep 25. She is numb all the time, she cannot smile and she cannot eat. It’s almost as if her breakup was the trigger not the cause. I show wish, like you, that she is not miraculously cured

I did too. I loved the slow burn. Also the scenes were gorgeous especially the jungle ones. It kind of showed why a star would fall for an ordinary guy, because those scenes showcased his take charge attitude which clearly the heroine likes

I am loving this drama. The chemistry between the leads is awesome. His best friend the one he keeps bringing everywhere is too good. The drama has also pushed the envelope on so many things. I however wish they showed more of Ma Shan Shan condition since I think she is clinically depressed. I wish they touched a little on mental health too

It’s actually quite ok to not communicate when you are angry. But she did say sorry. Sometimes when couples quarrel they disappear for a week or so. But at least they don’t show abusive ghosting patterns such as in Korean dramas (dr John, clean with passion, true beauty) where the hero disappears for years. I fell in love with drama-land due to k dramas but now I find Chinese dramas or Pakistani dramas more non toxic and real

Yes fingers crossed

Exactly but there is so much beauty in the simple and the mundane :) . This drama is so refreshing to watch. Couples communicate and apologise. Wow who knew they could do that ! :)

I wish more Korean dramas were like this. Regular portrayal of a couple. No over the top scenes and not unnecessary angst. The female lead is acting so well she seems to be in love with her expressions and body language.

This story is awful. It was great initially but then it went t downhill so fast. I don’t understand this time leap concept in k-dramas. I watched Swedish drama love and anarchy and Chinese drama find yourself and in both the female protagonist “found herself” as in she was complete by herself without the hero. Here we have this girl who is still not so mature.
Also, it would have been a better ending if she moved on and found someone in five years. It’s so arrogant of male heroes to assume that the heroines will be waiting endlessly for them and not fulfill any dreams without the hero. I don’t know why Korean dramas do this and it’s this every single time. In doctor John he disappears for three years, in clean with passion he disappears for two years. In real life if someone ghosts like that even for a few months it can have devastating impact on a partners mental health and somehow disappearing and resurfacing is ok. The writers must know it’s not. It’s literally emotional and mental abuse

I actually really liked that fact that the mom does so. Can Yang has been shown to be a bit of a jerk at times. In the beginning when he breaks off with a girl he treats her very shabbily and pushes her when she is crying at the lobby. Just few episodes late he is shown breaking off again rudely by quoting Nietzsche. He also keeps bragging about a Swedish girl. Whilst he is like that he does not even allow his sister to speak to guys and totally sabotages her life leaving her so inexperienced at 32. This is total double standards. In real life more than Lu Ming who was not as bad as others made him out to be, I would totally hate a younger sister or friend of mine date a man like that who appraently has a severe Mary Magdalene or Madonna complex. So it’s good that at least one person in his life that is his mom would put her foot down. She is now my most favourite mom in a Korean or Chinese drama

Agree

Yeah it’s a good drama provided you are fast forwarding :)

Episode 22 to 25 and 33 to 35 are particularly horrible so if you watching on Netflix just keep swiping till the end. I particularly did not like the stories with her gang of friends and these ladies get too much of view time in these episode