This is my second watch of this drama, and I still am a fan of the ML and FL because of it. But there’s one tiny thing I have to point out…there’s an issue with the fire in Ep 1 - it’s on petroleum based products and being put out with water. Water spreads oil fires by pushing the flames across the surface of the oil and does nothing to extinguish it. They should have used foam on the fire to smother it like a oil fire on the stovetop - smother it by depriving it of oxygen with a lid to a pan and never with water.
They don't know how emotionally involved he is. They think he's superficially besotted by a pretty face.They are…
Accountability starts at the beginning. Honesty, regardless of how much ‘face’ you lose when admitting your wrong deeds can stop a lot of trouble. But if dramas were actually based in reality, then no one would watch.
Tang Qi finds out what is going on in episode 21 or 22, IIRC.
He begins to realize shortly after finding out about the lies and deaths that the person being hidden by all 3 of those filtered personas is the FL. It does get better and much less angsty.
Could not agree more. His trauma is played for comedy, and it made me really uncomfortable.
I hope that behavior stops. Considering the controversy that is around a lot of actors having emotional scars from traumatic and abusive situations, I truly hope their behavior toward him changes. I am assuming it will based on the existing reviews.
I am both loving and hating this drama at the same time. The acting is fantastic, endearing, funny and tragic. HOWEVER, I am a bit angry over the fact that these women are constantly doing things that cause this man deep trauma. They screw up and to avoid getting caught they unalive their fictitious character knowing how emotionally involved he is. It’s cruel - even if you aren’t interested in someone, there’s no reason to hurt them because you’ve gone a step too far. Instead of trying to safeguard what they’re secrets, they choose to add lie upon lie. I’m at ep 21, and I hope this pattern changes for the better. Tan Jianci is a master in portraying emotions, and he is definitely worthy of being greatly admired for his skills in this drama.
okay so I kind of want to watch it, and people’s comments got me really excited ! but seeing the amount of episodes…
I am only on episode 8, but it doesn’t feel draggy to me at all. it’s like you’ve moved to a small rural town and been welcomed by everyone you’ve met. Every character is quirky, had their hurts and joys but they are all willing to come to each others side when things go awry.
Depend on what you're looking forIf you love slice of Life and you're okay with Slow pace, This is it. If not,…
This is very true. I also think the ML’s granny is a real gem - so sweet and kind, but she can flip the switch and give her grandson a beating for being foolish. I am only on episode 8 and this has to be one of the best C-dramas I have ever seen.
So. I have read a lot of comments about the ML being less than stellar, and how he was suddenly cured from Bi-polar disorder. I feel I need to defend the chapter of the ML as many of those comments did not include the other issue he had that they called emotional barrier syndrome. This is just a hypothetical defense, since none of what I am about to include in my comment, but is based on personal and observational experience.
The emotional barrier syndrome is also known as emotional dysregulation, and is on the Autism/ADHD spectrum, as is bipolar disorder. Medication does help control the highs and lows of these comorbidities of spectrum disorders and he was taking medication (they even mentioned it a couple of times and showed the FL giving it to him with a reminder it was time to take it). They just didn’t follow through with that in the drama, nor explain that emotional dysregulation combined with bipolar disorder can often be a ticking time bomb because the ability to articulate and process emotions and stress can cause violent outbursts in some people.
Imagine wanting to express something but cannot because your brain is overloaded with stimulation and frustration mounts until you blow up. Or you cry, but hate it when you do and you try to push the tears down, but you can’t and you get angry. This is what is evident to me in the ML’s behavior. A lot of therapy and often immersion techniques to for open the emotional knot (knot in your heart as a lot of C-dramas call it) can cause drastic personality changes.
So maybe rethink the way the ML lead behaves with this in mind.
There’s no excuse for violence toward women however. And his privileged attitude due to his family’s status is very frustrating.
I am only on ep. 6 of this drama, so I can’t attest to anything beyond this point, but I have to say that as someone with a much lighter degree of EDS, I feel bad for the emotions he has suppressed on top of losing a lot of memories that he has lost (this would be a form of immersion in the emotions I mentioned earlier).
Maybe this will help fill a few of the holes in the first few episodes for someone.
We also don’t know how much of the scenes were left on the cutting room floor or were edited out by regulatory sanctions.
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The style suits him though. Unconventional and unfraid of criticism.
“Garden full of spring colors, bidding farewell for now as spring arrives.
Serve the country with splendid plans and continue a new chapter later.”
if that doesn’t say it without actually saying it, nothing will 🤓
The emotional barrier syndrome is also known as emotional dysregulation, and is on the Autism/ADHD spectrum, as is bipolar disorder. Medication does help control the highs and lows of these comorbidities of spectrum disorders and he was taking medication (they even mentioned it a couple of times and showed the FL giving it to him with a reminder it was time to take it). They just didn’t follow through with that in the drama, nor explain that emotional dysregulation combined with bipolar disorder can often be a ticking time bomb because the ability to articulate and process emotions and stress can cause violent outbursts in some people.
Imagine wanting to express something but cannot because your brain is overloaded with stimulation and frustration mounts until you blow up. Or you cry, but hate it when you do and you try to push the tears down, but you can’t and you get angry. This is what is evident to me in the ML’s behavior. A lot of therapy and often immersion techniques to for open the emotional knot (knot in your heart as a lot of C-dramas call it) can cause drastic personality changes.
So maybe rethink the way the ML lead behaves with this in mind.
There’s no excuse for violence toward women however. And his privileged attitude due to his family’s status is very frustrating.
I am only on ep. 6 of this drama, so I can’t attest to anything beyond this point, but I have to say that as someone with a much lighter degree of EDS, I feel bad for the emotions he has suppressed on top of losing a lot of memories that he has lost (this would be a form of immersion in the emotions I mentioned earlier).
Maybe this will help fill a few of the holes in the first few episodes for someone.
We also don’t know how much of the scenes were left on the cutting room floor or were edited out by regulatory sanctions.