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Feng Lin = cockroach, not a termite 😂

I plan on it. Distracting myself with some writing and art. Will be back to another episode in a little bit!

It is a very emotional drama. I had to stop for an emotion break after watching thru ep11. I feel so bad for him, and kinda want to beat people up who have misjudged him because of their obsession with status. This is the 4th time I have had to do this.

I agree, but it’s also interesting that they introduced that most women blame themselves and only cling tighter instead of forcing the truth out and either work on repairing the break in the relationship or ending it.

I agree. What I find interesting is that the FL is facing the things she did and thought of as doing a service has actually brought people a lot of pain - and now that she sees exactly how hurtful her actions were, she’s having a conflict over justifying what was morally wrong. She’s finding her tactics were no less deceptive than those she sought to expose as cheaters.

I just hope she comes clean with the ML and lays all her past “sins” bare, expresses remorse and allows him the opportunity to either accept or reject the truth and love her anyway.

It will be interesting to see how this plays out.

You’d have to read the novel to get more of the ML’s backstory to understand his mischievous but innocent view on a lot of things.

He was an ”oops” baby and neither of his parents paid any intention to him. Instead, they left his education to his siblings who wanted nothing to do with him…basically threw a book at him told him to read it and forgot about him. He was always getting into trouble, and then got beat for misbehaving. By the time everyone in his family realized he was causing trouble they gave up on him, gave him to his grandmother to raise, and she spoiled him but gave him no discipline. Then after his parents were reported and being investigated, his grandma passed away and his mother sold everything out from under him (his grandma left everything to him) and took all the money. He had no money to buy food, which was why he was always borrowing from the FL when he was in school with her. After he was “sent down” for reeducation, he did anything he could to help people, even jobs no one wanted to do. So when he met the FL years later, he couldn’t help but fall for her because she was the only one to give him attention and consideration. He’s actually very smart, and quite gifted artistically (this is played out better in the novel in my opinion, but restrictions in episodes and censoring can be limiting to some story lines.)

I was laughing hard during that scene…and the coworkers face when she asked her to basically have mercy was so worth it.

Elite? 😂😂😂😂😂 What a silly thing to assume of a person you’ve never met. I was one of 3 children raised by a single mother who had to leave us in the care of a neighbor because my alcoholic father abandoned us for a woman he had an affair with. The babysitter ended up being a physically abusive nut job who beat us regularly with a leather razor strap amongst other things. We had no money because housing where I grew up was expensive and any clothing we had was donated to us. Foid was brought by neighbors. I nearly died from a strep infection after an accident and spent months recuperating and trying to stay alive and trying to protect my younger siblings. We ate tge same things everyday because they were cheap and kept our bellies full. Bullied at school because we were poor. And stop making assumptions over generalized statements. I could go on, but since you’ve assumed completely inaccurately, you won’t read more - you’ll just jump to more conclusion. Compared to many countries around the globe the US population was not forced in way to obey the government like the people who lived under tyrannical governments that used them as cheap labor and cared little for their existence. Elite? Laughable. Don’t bother responding, I’ll just block the ignorant comments.

I just started reading the novel (only a few chapters in) because I’m waiting for more episodes to drop.

It’s good to be thankful for what we have 🫶🏻

Below are just a few of the differences. While we struggled with free love, the Vietnam war, women’s lib, flower power and hallucinogenic substances through sit-ins, Hollywood actors denouncing the US and various other social issues, you are correct. The difference was night and day with democracy and communism being polar opposites.

China’s non-elites suffered from the following:

Challenges in 1970s China
Cultural Revolution Aftermath
The Cultural Revolution (1966-1976) caused significant social upheaval.
It aimed to eliminate perceived bourgeois elements and reinforce communist ideology.
Many intellectuals, professionals, and perceived enemies of the state faced persecution, leading to widespread fear and instability.
Economic Hardships
The Great Leap Forward (1958-1962) had already devastated the economy, resulting in millions of deaths from famine.
By the 1970s, the economy was still recovering, with inefficiencies and shortages prevalent.
Agricultural policies were often ineffective, leading to food scarcity.
Political Turmoil
Mao Zedong's leadership was marked by power struggles within the Communist Party.
The Gang of Four, including Mao's wife, Jiang Qing, played a significant role in political repression.
The death of Mao in 1976 created a power vacuum, leading to further instability and conflict among party leaders.
International Isolation
China was largely isolated from the international community during this period.
Diplomatic relations with the West were minimal until the late 1970s, limiting economic opportunities and foreign investment.
Social Strain
The societal fabric was torn due to the radical policies and campaigns.
Many families were separated, and traditional values were undermined, leading to a loss of cultural identity.
These factors combined to create a challenging environment in China during the 1970s, affecting all aspects of life.b

In case anyone wants to read the novel, here is the link for the English version:

https://www.readthedrama.com/novels/love-story-in-the-1970s

The one-child policy in China was implemented in 1980 to control population growth, leading to many families having only one child. Accidental pregnancies were often managed through various means, including forced abortions and sterilizations, as the government enforced compliance with the policy through strict measures.

China's one-child policy was lifted in 2015 and replaced with a two-child policy. This change allowed all couples to have two children, marking the end of the strict one-child restrictions that had been in place. With the economy and other issues in China presently, the government is trying to encourage people to have children, but people in childbearing ages are hesitant to do so because it is increasingly difficult to keep jobs and provide for families. Marriages aren’t happening as often either.

China has implemented several measures to encourage families to have more children, including allowing couples to have up to three children and offering financial incentives such as subsidies for raising children. These efforts aim to address the declining birth rate and support the country's aging population.

Now, financial market downturn and rising property prices have negatively impacted childbirth rates in China. Economic pressures, including high housing costs, have contributed to a decline in birth rates as many young people feel uncertain about their financial futures and the feasibility of raising children. Many are unemployed, living on the streets and rummaging for food because things are so bad. 😢

I was a teenager during the time this drama takes place, and while cultures are different, tge struggle of each generation is hard to imagine by their children and their children’s children. My parents had homes with heaters and running water, while my grandparents had to heat with a wood burning stove, and pull water from the well. TV in my childhood and teenage years was limited to 3 channels, came on at 6am and was off the air by midnight. My grandmother did not have an indoor polite until 1976. Telephones were around, but several homes used the same line. If they wanted to make a call they had to make sure the line was free and the operator had to connect the call and hope no one was on the line they were trying to call. Much has changed in technology and the sciences, but we have lost a lot in the way of relationships with other people and our family. There are blessings and disappointments in every generation. You a right about being fortunate that we struggle less over necessities, but our struggles are different and often just as difficult if not more so now.

I miss the simpler times on occasion, but am also very thankful that we have access to things they never did.

you’re very welcome!

Wow. What a powerful drama.

it’s not in the US version. It is on YouTube though. The icon next to IQiyi is the channel. As of 02/18/26 there are 37 episodes up. Just be aware that you need to verify the caption stays on and in English for each one. Also, some parts of the dialog move very fast or are very slow…and often part of it just does not get translated at all. It’s very good - heavy vibe at the beginning, and really makes you feel the struggles the characters were facing. I hope you enjoy it. BTW Yang Zi rocks this role!

I didn’t think so. I tried it once several years ago and the screen was bombarded with pop-ups. I never used it again.

having not seen any episodes, this a spoiler. but thank you for changing it.

could you please put a spoiler on this? Some of us haven’t seen all of it yet 😢