Thank you for writing this article. It is very brave and courageous of you. Not everyone is able to open up and talk about themselves to others. First of all, sorry if the comment is a bit too long. Reading this article has made me think of the deeper reasons for my drama genre preference. Maybe, all of us use dramas to escape from our own reality and to cope with emotions that we're uncomfortable with, whether we are aware of them or not. And just like you mentioned, it is totally fine, cause it is a functional coping mechanism for us.
For myself, especially lately, I keep watching 'happy chick-flick romance' dramas like Love O2O - to escape from the constant negative news around us now. I'm also rewatching dramas more than watching new ones - cause it gives me a sense of security in knowing the future of the drama, allowing me to escape the insecurity of my own future and ability to resume normal daily life. Then, because I used to think to myself that crying because I'm sad is not acceptable, but crying for a character in a drama seems fine. There will be days when I turn to 'melodramas' when I am feeling extra down and need a reason to cry out my inner sadness. The Smile Has Left Your Eyes & Something In The Rain is definitely a good one for me. (p.s. now I've accepted that it's okay to cry, even without a drama - had a therapist point that out to me)
When you say you "didn't avoid topics that hit too close to home"... wow, how are you able to do that? That sounds like an unattainable level of courage to me. Avoidance has always been my to-go-to reaction to difficult topics. For example, I heard that Sky Castle is about overcontrolling mothers, a sensitive topic for me, and just thinking about me watching it causes some anxiety already. Though I do hope there will be a day where I will be able to watch and enjoy it as any other drama, just maybe not now...? XD
Lastly... I may not know you personally, and I may not know what exactly you have gone through in life. But I would like to say that I'm very very proud of you. Most of us know that the journey to start seeking therapy itself is not easy. But to be able to go through and persevere the therapy process itself, and to bring yourself to continue going to session after session is a whole level of hard work too! :)
He sure is. Though I'm glad he managed to redeem himself at the end. Cause if we try to think in his perspective, deep down he's probably as desperate to settle down as others too especially due to the pressures from his family. Thus resulting in the wrong choices that he made.
On the side note, I really like their chemistry as friends.
Nothing can beat 1 litre of tears in terms of how much tears I shed for a drama. That drama is tragic from start to end TT_TT
And sometimes, I rather they end tragically than to have a happy but unrealistic ending. At least it'll make me feel satisfied in the long run! (aft I survived through the depressing phase) XD Most memorable tragic endings for me: Sign, The Last Empress.
So, i'm currently on episode 6, and i think so far is ok, i have noticed some problems with the edition and the…
It starts to get better after ep10 onwards for me. I suffered through ep5-9, wondering if this is just another overrated drama too - coz the storyline and pacing comes abit too slow and boring in my opinion. But it starts to pick up for the last few episodes.
Though overall i still wouldnt call it a masterpiece. Maybe because i prefer dramas with good character development, and this one didnt really satisfy that need.
- Pain doesn't mean just physical pain. Not feeling any pain doesn't mean they are not in pain. - A person who wasn't experiencing the same 'pain' as you doesn't mean they are not worthy of empathizing with your sufferings - Being vulnerable to another makes the relationship more meaningful - You might feel guilty about burdening the other with your pain, but remember that the other person chose to be there for you. So show them that you're grateful to them.
I know it is based on a true story, but somehow, their portrayal towards the idea of suicide is slightly alarming to me. Wouldn't recommend it to those who's currently battling with suicidal or self-harm ideation.
Damn good chemistry for a 15 year age gap between the leads~ was looking forward when i saw the cast, and they definitely exceed my alrdy high expectations :))
Woah~ and here i thought the korean ending will not torture (good kind of torture :P) my heart too much T_T but now im just as frustrated as i am when i completed the japanese one XD
they should not even bother put in political storyline if the dont know how to end it.... -_-" Though the medical side of the drama makes it worth watching~~ Totally love the surgeries in the drama~ Damn cool! =D
First of all, sorry if the comment is a bit too long.
Reading this article has made me think of the deeper reasons for my drama genre preference. Maybe, all of us use dramas to escape from our own reality and to cope with emotions that we're uncomfortable with, whether we are aware of them or not. And just like you mentioned, it is totally fine, cause it is a functional coping mechanism for us.
For myself, especially lately, I keep watching 'happy chick-flick romance' dramas like Love O2O - to escape from the constant negative news around us now. I'm also rewatching dramas more than watching new ones - cause it gives me a sense of security in knowing the future of the drama, allowing me to escape the insecurity of my own future and ability to resume normal daily life.
Then, because I used to think to myself that crying because I'm sad is not acceptable, but crying for a character in a drama seems fine. There will be days when I turn to 'melodramas' when I am feeling extra down and need a reason to cry out my inner sadness. The Smile Has Left Your Eyes & Something In The Rain is definitely a good one for me. (p.s. now I've accepted that it's okay to cry, even without a drama - had a therapist point that out to me)
When you say you "didn't avoid topics that hit too close to home"... wow, how are you able to do that? That sounds like an unattainable level of courage to me. Avoidance has always been my to-go-to reaction to difficult topics. For example, I heard that Sky Castle is about overcontrolling mothers, a sensitive topic for me, and just thinking about me watching it causes some anxiety already. Though I do hope there will be a day where I will be able to watch and enjoy it as any other drama, just maybe not now...? XD
Lastly... I may not know you personally, and I may not know what exactly you have gone through in life. But I would like to say that I'm very very proud of you. Most of us know that the journey to start seeking therapy itself is not easy. But to be able to go through and persevere the therapy process itself, and to bring yourself to continue going to session after session is a whole level of hard work too! :)
On the side note, I really like their chemistry as friends.
And sometimes, I rather they end tragically than to have a happy but unrealistic ending. At least it'll make me feel satisfied in the long run! (aft I survived through the depressing phase) XD
Most memorable tragic endings for me: Sign, The Last Empress.
I suffered through ep5-9, wondering if this is just another overrated drama too - coz the storyline and pacing comes abit too slow and boring in my opinion. But it starts to pick up for the last few episodes.
Though overall i still wouldnt call it a masterpiece. Maybe because i prefer dramas with good character development, and this one didnt really satisfy that need.
Oh Tae Suk's, "shot."
- Pain doesn't mean just physical pain. Not feeling any pain doesn't mean they are not in pain.
- A person who wasn't experiencing the same 'pain' as you doesn't mean they are not worthy of empathizing with your sufferings
- Being vulnerable to another makes the relationship more meaningful
- You might feel guilty about burdening the other with your pain, but remember that the other person chose to be there for you. So show them that you're grateful to them.