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Is it a crime to be insecure? Do people who feel insecure not deserve understanding and love? She spent the entire episode considering his side and trying to get over herself, and did.

I hope you hold yourself to the same perfect standard you're holding the FL to. Otherwise hush.

I couldn't connect to Can this love be translated, I found it really clunky. I don't think they handled the psychological aspects very realistically, and they celebrated some pretty toxic behaviors as somehow indicating love or true connection when it was more like obsession or trauma bonding. Idk I like this one more and feel it's more grounded and relatable.

Couldn't agree more.

I don't understand why people call the ML a perfect green flag when part of the issue has been him not being honest or open with her about certain things, and him not opening up to her. It's understandable someone who has been through what she has could begin to be fearful. He's def a good person and a will make a good partner, but he's far from perfect. I love how they showed his growth this episode too.

The hate for JY mimics the hate women get in real life for not being accommodating to others needs before their own. Women are expected to push away their own doubts or fears or feelings just to make others comfortable and not upset them, and that's what all the complaints seem to be about. They expected her to ignore her very justified (considering her past and his actions) feeling of insecurity and fear and doubt and just pretend like she's fine because poor oppa will be sad if she doesn't. It's an impossible standard.

Growth esp in relationships isn't one straight linear line, one and done, it's about taking two steps forward and one step back, and growing slowly together over time.

I loved this ep. Si Woo putting his pride aside and putting himself in a vulnerable position so that he wouldn't have regrets, and Ji Yoon facing the reality of things rather than running away again, shows how far they've come in these 9 eps.

And if you think about it, they each gave the other a place to move beyond their past unhealthy habits. By deciding to stay connected even when it would have been easier to just let her go he gave her the confidence to feel courageous enough to re-engage, and by her asking the questions she was afraid to ask it gave him the opportunity to be emotionally vulnerable when he would have held back in the past.

I guess I just relate to both characters and what they're going through and I really like the message about what loving someone looks like in action.

FLs get judged soo harshly in K dramas for having any kind of emotional weakness (kind of like women do IRL). She's fresh off a breakup and scared. She was honest about being insecure and overwhelmed with him.

The thing is, he never really shared any of what he went through with her, and his main character flaw is seeming like he's fine when he's really not inside (aka letting his pride get in the way of true emotional connection). So why are we being so hard on her for not understanding that about him yet? It took a lot of courage for her to ask him the questions she was afraid of the answer to, and in the past kept running away from. Once she did, and gave him the chance to grow by opening up, she realized that her fear was so much worse than the reality, and learned from it herself. She hadn't learned that lesson before, and it's why she pulled away. It's like actual character growth but people are still criticizing her because she didn't start the second relationship of her entire adult life as a perfect cookie cutter emotionally mature person.

Idk man I find this very realistic and I like that they are allowing the female lead to be both mature and imperfect at the same time. Maturity isn't having all the right feelings or the feeling you want, it's not being perfectly secure and never changing your mind or letting fear get the best of you, it's accepting and trying to work with where you're at, and at least trying to do something differently, which is what she did today, but y'all just can't give her a break.

Idk man, some of the best relationship advice I've heard is "don't be afraid to be the one who loves more." He went through his divorce 5+ years ago while she's fresh off a breakup and much more emotionally raw. He was in a better place to understand her than she was him, and so was willing to be the one who was more vulnerable for a time because he knew he could handle it where as she was struggling.

She was also honest about how she felt, she told him outright that she was insecure and overwhelmed, and asked for space. She'd spent the last decade chasing after the same person, this is all very new and challenging for her.

Y'all are so harsh, I don't get it.

Korea loves So Ji Sub, that man always brings in the viewers.

I think this pairing will have a lot of chemistry, they both can be very intense.

I mean... kinda. They still suffered a lot and it was more bittersweet than happy. But I guess all things considered its the best we could hope for in that story lol

I'm still traumatized from Red Sleeve oof

One of the best writers in K drama I will be tuning in regardless of who is starring in it, tho I do like both leads. LJS has good chemistry with strong willed/powerful FLs so the pairing should be good

I feel like I shouldn't like him also, he's not really my cup of tea, but I find him so compelling in dramas so I'm forced to haha. It's hard not to be distracted by his obvious nose job(s) tbh

Beyond Evil wasn't a romcom, tho, I'd say a weightlifting fairy callout would have been better

And you all are obsessed with her

I thought they were setting one up at first but she's got brother/sister vibes with the hot actor dude so far. The main leads already have a ton of emotional baggage to work through they don't need some rando second leads adding to that

I don't like people hate rating, it's super frustrating for sure and makes it so hard to know how good a drama really is. But I also think if someone decides to drop a drama after a couple eps then they're justified in leaving a lower rating this early. I just wish people would only do that when they really don't like the drama versus doing it cause it's not perfect or they don't like the actress or whatever other dumb reason.

Because they didn't like the first two eps so far and decided to drop it?

I don't like horror and didn't find it very scary. There was some gore, though, but it was mild.

Yeah he gives off some unsettling vibes from the getgo. He seems to be much more calculating than he lets on.

Yeah I saw that as her being so worried about touching anyone at any time that even knowing she can touch them with the gloves she still doesn't want to risk it so just draws the line at zero contact.