It's just my opinion, YP dad have full rights to get angry on SD family. But feel the love of his life gone due…
yea I get what you’re saying. he didn’t really come across as a villain to me tho, more just like a roadblock. bc he was SO stuck in his deep grief. unable to budge. like YP said, he built this intense wall around himself - not even his own son could break through it. 🥲don’t even know if it was anger driving him as much as fear in the end.
It's just my opinion, YP dad have full rights to get angry on SD family. But feel the love of his life gone due…
oh I gotcha, yea that’s an interesting perspective and way to look at it. after this episode I realized it was the way they built it up, I felt like this episode did a really good job of showing us YP dads love for his late wife and how much that was the driving force, he didn’t really hate anyone so much as he really missed her and was afraid to forget her. 💔his wife came first in every way.
YP is definitely impressive in how he’s reacted to it all but my heart really broke for him when he got his hopes up that his dad might finally care for him and his feelings 😭. he’s been so understanding toward his dad, so glad his dad was able to come around and be there for his son in the end.
I think judging by the conversation SD had with YP dad at the end of this episode she would have been mature too in her reaction if the roles were reversed. (tho it would certainly be a different situation his dad killing someone out of anger and violence than someone dying as a result of a foolhardy mistake that was never intended to hurt anyone).
SD was very understanding toward him despite everything. it’s hard to say, but her character has definitely demonstrated itself as reasonsble, empathetic, and level in the face of messiness and pain, especially given how she keeps reacting to her old assistant who literally is trying to hurt and upset and tear SD down out of pure spite. I think SD and YP are both very mature. YP is truly impressive though it’s true.
YP relationship with his dad is really between them. nobody is trying to get in the middle of that. SD literally cut ties with YP and all her closest friends for 8 years in effort to spare that relationship with his dad. it killed her to live that way, but that’s how respectful she was of his dad and YP and their relationship. in this episode SD and SD mom both lectured YP to never ever resent his father no matter what happened. they all clearly want them to maintain a good relationship, nobody is doing anything to get in the way of that.
the fact that YP dad and YP relationship was strained was wholly bc YP dad put his wife first in every single way - especially after she died. he didn’t care about his sons feelings and ignored his son’s pain and circumstance in order to focus on his wife and his own love towards her completely. they were all one big family until she died and that shattered suddenly. his son was left to pick up those pieces on his own bc his dad couldn’t see anything else aside from his heartbreak and devotion toward his wife and his pain from losing her. his wife would have been heartbroken herself to see that.
SD mom loved her friend too. she dealt with her grief silently for 20 years. she took all the blame and punishment and begged for forgiveness and never expected anything. she should be forgiven. it’s ridiculous, they were best friends and involved in every major event in each others lives. YP mom death was an accident. it’s time to let go and live.
YP mom wouldn’t hate her she would want her son and husband to live well and be happy with their friends and community. she would want her best friend to continue on in the way they always had. It was so unfortunate, but that is the thing about Mother Nature and life. uncertain things happen and rock our world at times. how ppl react to those situations is what matters most.
how sad for YP that he had to wait 20 years for his dad to care about his happiness and feelings. but he doesn’t resent his dad bc he understood him and loved him. same for SD and SD mom. they’ve all been nothing but worried and understanding to YP dad since the day his wife died. they were heartbroken themselves and also for him. it’s better for them to make amends, I’m so glad he came around and was willing to see that finally. he finally saw their common ground and how they all just want to be with the people they love while they can bc life is short! he himself was so happy too finally to give them his blessing. literally the first time in the entire show that he genuinely smiled I swear. his wife would want him to be happy. it is sweet how much he loved her tho. I think he was acting out of fear more than anything. fear of forgetting the person he promised to love til the day he died. so loyal.
It's just my opinion, YP dad have full rights to get angry on SD family. But feel the love of his life gone due…
I think you have some of the characters swapped…so it’s confusing to read.
killing someone is not the same as what happened. what happened was an accident. nobody was trying to KILL anyone, they both willingly went when it wasn’t safe. SD mom wanted to go alone bc she didn’t have much success last few days. YP mom literally OFFERED to join out of support - nobody asked that of YP mom, she chose to completely on her own. she knew it probably wasn’t best but she loved her friend and they did everything together so it was a natural decision. was it stupid, yes. was SD mom completely clueless in her judgement of what they could handle if the weather turned, absolutely. she genuinely believed (foolishly) that they would be fine and they could swim out quickly if needed. that was the full extent of her folly - poor judgement.
I don’t think either would have done it if they truly understood how dangerous it actually was, especially SD mom. It was a horrible awful MISTAKE. huge difference. it wasn’t murder yet SD mom is being treated as if it was.
the reason for YP moms death - she was in the wrong place at the wrong time - by her own free will and choice. she decided to stay behind with her friend on her own. YP mom didn’t even really fight against it, even though she was reluctant at first. she made a choice. a bad one. SD mom also made a poor choice by deciding to stay behind in the first place. the result was very unlucky and very, painfully, tragic. many people are lucky when they do stupid things thoughtlessly, to not have to experience actual fallout and scrape by unscathed. this was not the case for these two friends.
pretty sure SD mom blames herself deeply regardless — it was her best friend for crying out loud. I might agree with you if she was callous about it and didn’t care or something, but she’s clearly grieving deeply and blames herself deeply. it’s clear this was not something she imagined would happen in her wildest dreams. she didn’t see it coming and regrets it.
free diving is risky and dangerous by nature (I live by the ocean and know first hand). YP mom grew up diving so she would have understood this better than SD mom who grew up in the city and picked up diving later in life. YP dad also grew up on the island and should have been aware of these risks. even if that incident never happened his wife could have died in the ocean because of poor conditions or circumstances - at any time. all the ahjummas talk about the sea taking another person away. SD mom said she lost her sister and another person AND her friend (YP mom) to the sea, so clearly others have died & it’s not uncommon or foreign to this community. So then everyone should have been teaching SD mom this since she was a novice and learning. instead she was taught through the hard, cruel reality of losing her best friend.
YP dad should have opposed diving if he was this devoted to be so absolutely lost without his wife OR he should have understood the risk and possibility that this kind of thing might happen (since it clearly does from time to time and there’s a history of it). her loss would have still been greatly heartbreaking of course, but he also might have been able to accept it for what it was a little easier. but he had no plan and nothing in place. YP dad was completely unprepared for what happened. he had absolutely nothing in place to consider the what ifs or risks. why?
clearly the tragedy could be a lesson learned from for everyone in one way or another. but ultimately YP mom made a decision to put herself in the situation that ultimately led to her death.
SD mom most obviously had to learn from this, bc her naive judgement had the most direct consequences. but YP dad could have been more aware too. maybe even the community at large. what about the weather forecasters and their role?
YP is the only one trying to learn from what happened and use that to prevent more unnecessary tragedies like what happened to his mom. he’s acting out of love for his mom and the community/people she loved.
YP dad needs to realize the world does not revolve around him and his pain. the grief must be truly difficult given his deep attachment and devotion, but it’s still no reason to torment his son and neighbors for literal decades.
YPs dad keeps rubbing salt his own wounds and throwing his pain and problems on everyone else. because he’s not letting go. so his wounds literally won’t heal bc he won’t allow it. he is human so perhaps he needs to be angry at someone, or to some extent it’s understandable.
but this is really going too far. think about it. how is what he’s doing any better than what SD mom did? YP dad is pushing his will to such an extent that he is clueless & careless to the reality and pain his attitudes/actions are inflicting on his own son …and a girl his son literally grew up side by side with and loves (who’s done nothing but be a bystander to all this) who also happens to love his son a lot…and to all her friends who she had to cut off ties to as a result of all this - who love her a lot and were also hurt by this…and to her mother…and her father…and her sisters. etc.
AND it’s intentional. it’s a deliberate choice that YP father is making to hate not just SD mother but her whole family… to cut ties with them in every which way, and FORCE his son to do so as well - which is basically cutting ties with an entire childhood and lifetime of memories and relationships. or else he will threaten to cut off ties with his son himself/push his son away. How is that not considered killing people emotionally?
It’s very selfish. yes he loved his wife dearly, but then if he really loved her he would understand her better too. she loved her friend. she loved her son. she loved her friend’s daughter literally as her own! it was her idea to have their children have two moms legitimately IN THE EVENT OF EARLY DEATH. YP mom wanted her best friend to care for her son if she died. that is serious level trust & bond. all of this just doesn’t mean anything at all now that’s she died? I think that makes her more pitiful than anything. its like her entire life and spirit is erased, with her drowning and being dead the only thing to remember or be emphasized. that’s not love for HER. that’s obsession with feelings of loss and pain from losing her.
YP dad doesn’t understand the need be kinder to his son and her best friend and SD, etc. - who YP mom literally considered as her own daughter when she was alive. YP dad doesn’t see the need to emphasize his late wife’s LIFE and everything she did & accomplished & loved & wished for.
YP dad is thoughtlessly not considering how that is actually showing love to his wife best. because it’s putting himself aside for what his wife would have wanted. it’s remembering her and how she actually lived and loved. he’s too busy focusing on her death which he excuses as his devotion to her when it’s anything but. real love isn’t selfish. I understand the pain and selfishness stems from love and attachment bc of the loss but that isn’t love itself. it’s grief.
I really can’t understand yong pil’s father. His selfishness and hard heart is unreal. This last episode really…
Another thing I don’t understand. If Yong Pil’s father was going to be in this state, why did he let his wife dive at all? It’s risky no matter what - even putting weather conditions aside.
By rights he should be blaming himself too for even allowing it in the first place (with this logic). She also made a choice herself. Her mother too!! If she couldn’t stand the thought of losing her daughter to the sea, then don’t raise her in that occupation maybe? 🤷🏼♀️It clearly is just one of the risks that comes with that kind of work. They should all know that better than anybody.
I don’t understand why everyone is so comfortable with blaming Go Mi Ja wholly for making a poor judgement call. Mi Ja (her best friend that died) ALSO made a poor judgement call by not choosing to seriously push back or draw a harder line with that obvious looming risk (I mean she was the more experienced of the two - she could have put her foot down if she wanted). She also could have let others know they were going out alone, etc. etc. etc. … but she chose to go against her instinct and look out for her friend instead on a whim … and she *consciously* took a big risk in doing so.
Go Mi Ja was certainly foolish for stubbornly ignoring the warning of those more experienced than her, but her best friend also foolishly chose to follow.
So maybe the best way to remember her is to love her son and her friend in the way that SHE CHOSE to right to the end...
Emotionally speaking, I get that they’re grieving and it’s always easier to point the finger of blame and hate someone when something like that rocks your world, but the logic bugs me. 😑
Many people die unexpectedly this way, by underestimating the power and uncertainty of Mother Nature. There are so many people that could have been more involved in preventing this …it’s ridiculous.
Maybe Go Mi Ja wouldn’t have been so compelled to go back into the water against warning in the first place …if the group and leaders weren’t so hard on her for being slow to learn (her not having grown up with it like the rest). Maybe they should be blamed a bit too for their shaming and impatience. Go Mi Ja could have chosen to be been unflappable sure, but they were the elders/leaders. They cast the shadow of example and expectation. And the most consistent message sent was …results results results. Not nearly as much energy was put into communicating safety.
Yong pil’s father is not blameless here either. He also took a conscious risk - by not considering what might happen. NOBODY who grows up right by the ocean & is well acquainted with free diving is naive to that possibility, even if it is practically second nature. It was just as irresponsible of him to be so casual about it all. I have friends that dive and their family members have all sorts of expectations and rules around it, and one of those rules is that they are in constant communication before and after the dives bc they know anything can happen, no matter how experienced someone may be.
Why not learn from the tragedy instead of dwell on who needs to pay for it. Nobody wanted this to happen. And I’m sure many would do things very differently if they could in retrospect. How nice would it be if everyone could allow themselves any space to evolve, just a little bit, so that the conversation could actually move to SOLUTIONS for a change.
It’s so selfish to rob everyone else of a future or of the opportunity to learn from the past out of a stubborn need and desire to never let it go. Yong Pil’s father really doesn’t seem to understand that letting go is not the same thing as forgetting.
Ok, rant over. But seriously Yong Pil’s dad should feel just as guilty with this logic he’s lording around. Makes zero sense to sit around all self righteous like that … when it was just a risky job/hobby to begin with. It does no good and bc of that literally nobody is learning from the mistakes to prevent future tragedy - except Yong Pil. 🤦🏼♀️
Can we just take a moment to appreciate Yong Pil & the abosolute rock of reliability that he is?? His character is so impressive it’s unreal. It’s not a wonder that Sam Dal can’t ever move on from him! How many people like that do you come across in life? Yong Pil is an absolute gem and Sam Dal is not blind to it. I think Sam Dal has a lot of great character in her too, but she had some serious arching & maturing to conquer. Which she was impressively willing to tackle head on, so her arch has turned out really nicely so far imo. Especially when we really see her immense empathy come to the forefront. She was and is a total (albeit crazy) sweetheart. If it weren’t for the whining in the beginning and her way overplayed overthinking, I think people would have appreciated her character much more. Her sisters and friends are *friggin adorable*. I’m so invested in her sisters characters & storylines now I can’t even handle it. Her mom is finally coming around too with the character growth. But let’s be real … Yong Pil is the true MVP of this story. 🙌🏻
I really can’t understand yong pil’s father. His selfishness and hard heart is unreal. This last episode really reminded me of sense and sensibility. Yong pil’s father seems to think that because his son and others aren’t wearing their grief on their sleeve every day or displaying it in a ‘certain’ way, that they aren’t grieving or remembering his wife & the tragedy of her loss at all. Which is SO selfish to assume, not to mention cruel. It’s like he wants everyone to suffer and be in more pain. He needs a rude wake up call imo.
So glad to see that Yong pil is not putting up with his fathers stubbornness tho. And he’s doing it in such a loving and supportive way 🥹. I mean. What character. And Go Mi Ja was right, his mother would be absolutely heartbroken to see this. It’s heartbreaking that his father doesn’t love his son enough to even recognize the suffering he’s causing him and all his wife’s (!!) dearest friends. But he feels so self righteous in his hate - he needs to get a grip. It’s really gut wrenching.
Yong pil’s character is such a star. Go mi ja is finally facing things as well. And what a heartbreaking performance near the end, she is finally speaking up and pushing back appropriately 💔💔. You can feel that her pain must have been so deep for it to take this long to bring it to the surface.
Really this whole episode had me, so well done by everyone all around. This writing is developing so beautifully with these wholesome characters …and the performances just…👏🏻👏🏻
l LOVED this series, but the writing and plot took a really poor turn about 2/3 of the way through. Acting, chemistry…
Too many plot holes. When it was simple it was really good, but they suddenly added too many plot lines that never really came to a head - some of which really had no weight in the end at all.
I thought they would at least wrap up the loose ends by the last episode, but it made no sense right down to the end. The only satisfying bit was her putting to right all the injustice. I thought she was going to change her fate with her first husband and come back with a new fate as her reincarnated modern self … just somehow keeping her memories or something to get back to new Joseon and her husband and life there. Or something that made sense like that to tie back to the whole correcting last fate to make a happy future fate possible. They never resolved the heart issue if he was together with her in the very end either.
The time travel lady disappeared all of a sudden. Grandpa basically disappeared. I was glad they resolved the younger brother storyline a bit (he was such a great character!), but even that could have been better developed.
Idk it felt all over the place in general all to drive at some general message that true love surpasses space and time. Which would have been powerful - if it actually made any sense. The writing just felt lazy or something.
The acting, gorgeous scenery and great plot 2/3 of the way through really saved me from hating this all together.
I was really disappointed in how they developed the first (old Joseon) husband to be so pitiful in the end - it made zero sense. That did annoy me bc it felt like they did his character dirty. It made no sense that she would be so cold to him - since he was just the modern husband before being reincarnated. AND they had some history and love there both ways, it just got cut short before it fully developed. I thought she was trying to avoid him at first bc of the whole — heart failure fate if they’re together thing. But instead it was all about loyalty and love and not crossing lines. Which was super weird since she really gave her heart to the first husband in the first place!! He just died immediately and tragically and she found herself falling in love with his reincarnated self. So weird how they had her character cut him off so harshly after all that development in the beginning. I did really hate his pitiful and futile end.
But because the rest of the relationships and acting was so well done I’m not as annoyed as I probably should be. But truly disappointing end.
l LOVED this series, but the writing and plot took a really poor turn about 2/3 of the way through. Acting, chemistry and cinematography was all on point though. Found the ending very disappointing - mainly just poor writing.
this started off SO slow, but it’s really turned around since episode 6, episode 8 was a real heart wrencher!! really enjoying this light & heartwarming show so far
now that it’s nearing the end kind of disappointed. they should have kept the plot simple - too many plot lines going on, I’ve lost interest. still curious to see end…but I guess I gotta wait a week…maybe I’ll forget lol
It’s been a long time since I’ve been this interested in a kdrama & so genuinely looking forward to more episodes. This is a GEM of a find. I actually am intrigued by all the characters equally, no annoying side characters and so far very tight writing and editing. THIS IS SO GOOD! I’m truly on the edge of my seat, so interested to see where everyone will end up.
Does Gu Won ever actually work? I’m so stressed about this event he has coming up and the fact he’s now managing the entire hotel in order to beat out his awful sister yet it feels like all he does is play and goof off. How does he possibly have time for this? So stressed bc I don’t want these hard-working employees he’s trying to help to have to take the heat bc he’s not focused —ah I just can’t watch. 🙈 Tell me when it’s over…so stressful. I hope this ends well & they don’t drag the competition with his sister around too long.
YP is definitely impressive in how he’s reacted to it all but my heart really broke for him when he got his hopes up that his dad might finally care for him and his feelings 😭. he’s been so understanding toward his dad, so glad his dad was able to come around and be there for his son in the end.
I think judging by the conversation SD had with YP dad at the end of this episode she would have been mature too in her reaction if the roles were reversed. (tho it would certainly be a different situation his dad killing someone out of anger and violence than someone dying as a result of a foolhardy mistake that was never intended to hurt anyone).
SD was very understanding toward him despite everything. it’s hard to say, but her character has definitely demonstrated itself as reasonsble, empathetic, and level in the face of messiness and pain, especially given how she keeps reacting to her old assistant who literally is trying to hurt and upset and tear SD down out of pure spite. I think SD and YP are both very mature. YP is truly impressive though it’s true.
YP relationship with his dad is really between them. nobody is trying to get in the middle of that. SD literally cut ties with YP and all her closest friends for 8 years in effort to spare that relationship with his dad. it killed her to live that way, but that’s how respectful she was of his dad and YP and their relationship. in this episode SD and SD mom both lectured YP to never ever resent his father no matter what happened. they all clearly want them to maintain a good relationship, nobody is doing anything to get in the way of that.
the fact that YP dad and YP relationship was strained was wholly bc YP dad put his wife first in every single way - especially after she died. he didn’t care about his sons feelings and ignored his son’s pain and circumstance in order to focus on his wife and his own love towards her completely. they were all one big family until she died and that shattered suddenly. his son was left to pick up those pieces on his own bc his dad couldn’t see anything else aside from his heartbreak and devotion toward his wife and his pain from losing her. his wife would have been heartbroken herself to see that.
SD mom loved her friend too. she dealt with her grief silently for 20 years. she took all the blame and punishment and begged for forgiveness and never expected anything. she should be forgiven. it’s ridiculous, they were best friends and involved in every major event in each others lives. YP mom death was an accident. it’s time to let go and live.
YP mom wouldn’t hate her she would want her son and husband to live well and be happy with their friends and community. she would want her best friend to continue on in the way they always had. It was so unfortunate, but that is the thing about Mother Nature and life. uncertain things happen and rock our world at times. how ppl react to those situations is what matters most.
how sad for YP that he had to wait 20 years for his dad to care about his happiness and feelings. but he doesn’t resent his dad bc he understood him and loved him. same for SD and SD mom. they’ve all been nothing but worried and understanding to YP dad since the day his wife died. they were heartbroken themselves and also for him. it’s better for them to make amends, I’m so glad he came around and was willing to see that finally. he finally saw their common ground and how they all just want to be with the people they love while they can bc life is short! he himself was so happy too finally to give them his blessing. literally the first time in the entire show that he genuinely smiled I swear. his wife would want him to be happy. it is sweet how much he loved her tho. I think he was acting out of fear more than anything. fear of forgetting the person he promised to love til the day he died. so loyal.
killing someone is not the same as what happened. what happened was an accident. nobody was trying to KILL anyone, they both willingly went when it wasn’t safe. SD mom wanted to go alone bc she didn’t have much success last few days. YP mom literally OFFERED to join out of support - nobody asked that of YP mom, she chose to completely on her own. she knew it probably wasn’t best but she loved her friend and they did everything together so it was a natural decision. was it stupid, yes. was SD mom completely clueless in her judgement of what they could handle if the weather turned, absolutely. she genuinely believed (foolishly) that they would be fine and they could swim out quickly if needed. that was the full extent of her folly - poor judgement.
I don’t think either would have done it if they truly understood how dangerous it actually was, especially SD mom. It was a horrible awful MISTAKE. huge difference. it wasn’t murder yet SD mom is being treated as if it was.
the reason for YP moms death - she was in the wrong place at the wrong time - by her own free will and choice. she decided to stay behind with her friend on her own. YP mom didn’t even really fight against it, even though she was reluctant at first. she made a choice. a bad one. SD mom also made a poor choice by deciding to stay behind in the first place. the result was very unlucky and very, painfully, tragic. many people are lucky when they do stupid things thoughtlessly, to not have to experience actual fallout and scrape by unscathed. this was not the case for these two friends.
pretty sure SD mom blames herself deeply regardless — it was her best friend for crying out loud. I might agree with you if she was callous about it and didn’t care or something, but she’s clearly grieving deeply and blames herself deeply. it’s clear this was not something she imagined would happen in her wildest dreams. she didn’t see it coming and regrets it.
free diving is risky and dangerous by nature (I live by the ocean and know first hand). YP mom grew up diving so she would have understood this better than SD mom who grew up in the city and picked up diving later in life. YP dad also grew up on the island and should have been aware of these risks. even if that incident never happened his wife could have died in the ocean because of poor conditions or circumstances - at any time. all the ahjummas talk about the sea taking another person away. SD mom said she lost her sister and another person AND her friend (YP mom) to the sea, so clearly others have died & it’s not uncommon or foreign to this community. So then everyone should have been teaching SD mom this since she was a novice and learning. instead she was taught through the hard, cruel reality of losing her best friend.
YP dad should have opposed diving if he was this devoted to be so absolutely lost without his wife OR he should have understood the risk and possibility that this kind of thing might happen (since it clearly does from time to time and there’s a history of it). her loss would have still been greatly heartbreaking of course, but he also might have been able to accept it for what it was a little easier. but he had no plan and nothing in place. YP dad was completely unprepared for what happened. he had absolutely nothing in place to consider the what ifs or risks. why?
clearly the tragedy could be a lesson learned from for everyone in one way or another. but ultimately YP mom made a decision to put herself in the situation that ultimately led to her death.
SD mom most obviously had to learn from this, bc her naive judgement had the most direct consequences. but YP dad could have been more aware too. maybe even the community at large. what about the weather forecasters and their role?
YP is the only one trying to learn from what happened and use that to prevent more unnecessary tragedies like what happened to his mom. he’s acting out of love for his mom and the community/people she loved.
YP dad needs to realize the world does not revolve around him and his pain. the grief must be truly difficult given his deep attachment and devotion, but it’s still no reason to torment his son and neighbors for literal decades.
YPs dad keeps rubbing salt his own wounds and throwing his pain and problems on everyone else. because he’s not letting go. so his wounds literally won’t heal bc he won’t allow it. he is human so perhaps he needs to be angry at someone, or to some extent it’s understandable.
but this is really going too far. think about it. how is what he’s doing any better than what SD mom did? YP dad is pushing his will to such an extent that he is clueless & careless to the reality and pain his attitudes/actions are inflicting on his own son …and a girl his son literally grew up side by side with and loves (who’s done nothing but be a bystander to all this) who also happens to love his son a lot…and to all her friends who she had to cut off ties to as a result of all this - who love her a lot and were also hurt by this…and to her mother…and her father…and her sisters. etc.
AND it’s intentional. it’s a deliberate choice that YP father is making to hate not just SD mother but her whole family… to cut ties with them in every which way, and FORCE his son to do so as well - which is basically cutting ties with an entire childhood and lifetime of memories and relationships. or else he will threaten to cut off ties with his son himself/push his son away. How is that not considered killing people emotionally?
It’s very selfish. yes he loved his wife dearly, but then if he really loved her he would understand her better too. she loved her friend. she loved her son. she loved her friend’s daughter literally as her own! it was her idea to have their children have two moms legitimately IN THE EVENT OF EARLY DEATH. YP mom wanted her best friend to care for her son if she died. that is serious level trust & bond. all of this just doesn’t mean anything at all now that’s she died? I think that makes her more pitiful than anything. its like her entire life and spirit is erased, with her drowning and being dead the only thing to remember or be emphasized. that’s not love for HER. that’s obsession with feelings of loss and pain from losing her.
YP dad doesn’t understand the need be kinder to his son and her best friend and SD, etc. - who YP mom literally considered as her own daughter when she was alive. YP dad doesn’t see the need to emphasize his late wife’s LIFE and everything she did & accomplished & loved & wished for.
YP dad is thoughtlessly not considering how that is actually showing love to his wife best. because it’s putting himself aside for what his wife would have wanted. it’s remembering her and how she actually lived and loved. he’s too busy focusing on her death which he excuses as his devotion to her when it’s anything but. real love isn’t selfish. I understand the pain and selfishness stems from love and attachment bc of the loss but that isn’t love itself. it’s grief.
By rights he should be blaming himself too for even allowing it in the first place (with this logic). She also made a choice herself. Her mother too!! If she couldn’t stand the thought of losing her daughter to the sea, then don’t raise her in that occupation maybe? 🤷🏼♀️It clearly is just one of the risks that comes with that kind of work. They should all know that better than anybody.
I don’t understand why everyone is so comfortable with blaming Go Mi Ja wholly for making a poor judgement call. Mi Ja (her best friend that died) ALSO made a poor judgement call by not choosing to seriously push back or draw a harder line with that obvious looming risk (I mean she was the more experienced of the two - she could have put her foot down if she wanted). She also could have let others know they were going out alone, etc. etc. etc. … but she chose to go against her instinct and look out for her friend instead on a whim … and she *consciously* took a big risk in doing so.
Go Mi Ja was certainly foolish for stubbornly ignoring the warning of those more experienced than her, but her best friend also foolishly chose to follow.
So maybe the best way to remember her is to love her son and her friend in the way that SHE CHOSE to right to the end...
Emotionally speaking, I get that they’re grieving and it’s always easier to point the finger of blame and hate someone when something like that rocks your world, but the logic bugs me. 😑
Many people die unexpectedly this way, by underestimating the power and uncertainty of Mother Nature. There are so many people that could have been more involved in preventing this …it’s ridiculous.
Maybe Go Mi Ja wouldn’t have been so compelled to go back into the water against warning in the first place …if the group and leaders weren’t so hard on her for being slow to learn (her not having grown up with it like the rest). Maybe they should be blamed a bit too for their shaming and impatience. Go Mi Ja could have chosen to be been unflappable sure, but they were the elders/leaders. They cast the shadow of example and expectation. And the most consistent message sent was …results results results. Not nearly as much energy was put into communicating safety.
Yong pil’s father is not blameless here either. He also took a conscious risk - by not considering what might happen. NOBODY who grows up right by the ocean & is well acquainted with free diving is naive to that possibility, even if it is practically second nature. It was just as irresponsible of him to be so casual about it all. I have friends that dive and their family members have all sorts of expectations and rules around it, and one of those rules is that they are in constant communication before and after the dives bc they know anything can happen, no matter how experienced someone may be.
Why not learn from the tragedy instead of dwell on who needs to pay for it. Nobody wanted this to happen. And I’m sure many would do things very differently if they could in retrospect. How nice would it be if everyone could allow themselves any space to evolve, just a little bit, so that the conversation could actually move to SOLUTIONS for a change.
It’s so selfish to rob everyone else of a future or of the opportunity to learn from the past out of a stubborn need and desire to never let it go. Yong Pil’s father really doesn’t seem to understand that letting go is not the same thing as forgetting.
Ok, rant over. But seriously Yong Pil’s dad should feel just as guilty with this logic he’s lording around. Makes zero sense to sit around all self righteous like that … when it was just a risky job/hobby to begin with. It does no good and bc of that literally nobody is learning from the mistakes to prevent future tragedy - except Yong Pil. 🤦🏼♀️
Can we just take a moment to appreciate Yong Pil & the abosolute rock of reliability that he is?? His character is so impressive it’s unreal. It’s not a wonder that Sam Dal can’t ever move on from him! How many people like that do you come across in life? Yong Pil is an absolute gem and Sam Dal is not blind to it. I think Sam Dal has a lot of great character in her too, but she had some serious arching & maturing to conquer. Which she was impressively willing to tackle head on, so her arch has turned out really nicely so far imo. Especially when we really see her immense empathy come to the forefront. She was and is a total (albeit crazy) sweetheart. If it weren’t for the whining in the beginning and her way overplayed overthinking, I think people would have appreciated her character much more. Her sisters and friends are *friggin adorable*. I’m so invested in her sisters characters & storylines now I can’t even handle it. Her mom is finally coming around too with the character growth. But let’s be real … Yong Pil is the true MVP of this story. 🙌🏻
So glad to see that Yong pil is not putting up with his fathers stubbornness tho. And he’s doing it in such a loving and supportive way 🥹. I mean. What character. And Go Mi Ja was right, his mother would be absolutely heartbroken to see this. It’s heartbreaking that his father doesn’t love his son enough to even recognize the suffering he’s causing him and all his wife’s (!!) dearest friends. But he feels so self righteous in his hate - he needs to get a grip. It’s really gut wrenching.
Yong pil’s character is such a star. Go mi ja is finally facing things as well. And what a heartbreaking performance near the end, she is finally speaking up and pushing back appropriately 💔💔. You can feel that her pain must have been so deep for it to take this long to bring it to the surface.
Really this whole episode had me, so well done by everyone all around. This writing is developing so beautifully with these wholesome characters …and the performances just…👏🏻👏🏻
I thought they would at least wrap up the loose ends by the last episode, but it made no sense right down to the end. The only satisfying bit was her putting to right all the injustice. I thought she was going to change her fate with her first husband and come back with a new fate as her reincarnated modern self … just somehow keeping her memories or something to get back to new Joseon and her husband and life there. Or something that made sense like that to tie back to the whole correcting last fate to make a happy future fate possible. They never resolved the heart issue if he was together with her in the very end either.
The time travel lady disappeared all of a sudden. Grandpa basically disappeared. I was glad they resolved the younger brother storyline a bit (he was such a great character!), but even that could have been better developed.
Idk it felt all over the place in general all to drive at some general message that true love surpasses space and time. Which would have been powerful - if it actually made any sense. The writing just felt lazy or something.
The acting, gorgeous scenery and great plot 2/3 of the way through really saved me from hating this all together.
I was really disappointed in how they developed the first (old Joseon) husband to be so pitiful in the end - it made zero sense. That did annoy me bc it felt like they did his character dirty. It made no sense that she would be so cold to him - since he was just the modern husband before being reincarnated. AND they had some history and love there both ways, it just got cut short before it fully developed. I thought she was trying to avoid him at first bc of the whole — heart failure fate if they’re together thing. But instead it was all about loyalty and love and not crossing lines. Which was super weird since she really gave her heart to the first husband in the first place!! He just died immediately and tragically and she found herself falling in love with his reincarnated self. So weird how they had her character cut him off so harshly after all that development in the beginning. I did really hate his pitiful and futile end.
But because the rest of the relationships and acting was so well done I’m not as annoyed as I probably should be. But truly disappointing end.