Guys he is not being mean he is trying to make sure their friendship survives because he thinks there is no chance…
Agreed, FL needs boundaries.
It bothered me how he was acting the first time I watched it, but after more thought and rewatching the episode I realized he’s actually behaving rather reasonably.
He’s right they aren’t kids anymore, the dynamic needs to change. And he’s processing everything as best he can. So what if he needs a little more time and space to work things out, it’s really none of her business even though she keeps making it her business with the excuse of but we’re close! I mean she’s been bulldozing him since they were kids let’s be honest. She means well, but even so. Just because that’s been the dynamic between them in the past doesn’t mean it’s always appropriate.
Yea she doesn’t know why he’s suddenly acting cold and distancing himself, but why is that his problem. He could confess, but obviously the timing is not right and he may not want to burden her with it when he’s hearing things like she’s still in love with her ex fiancé. She’s also being kind of thoughtless and is all over the place with him. I guess he’s just supposed to be responsible for everything while treating her like a china doll princess. That’s just unrealistic. She has just as much a part to play in this conflict as him, and she can give him some space for a MINUTE. I mean it won’t kill her.
Also he’s a guy. Guys process things differently from girls and that’s ok.
He’s stuck between a rock and a hard place in a lot of ways, it’s only natural to get frustrated when someone pressures you in that situation - whether they realize what they’re doing or not. He wasn’t mean he was just fed up and conflicted and laying down a boundary. She’s always doing clumsy things and it’s forgiven without any thought. Why can’t he be allowed some messy moments too? The guys not a robot.
Establishing firm boundaries where there were none ALWAYS feels harsh and abusive to those on the other end that struggle to understand or respect healthier boundaries. But it’s a fair thing to ask for given their longstanding relationship and his dilemma.
Can someone explain the timeline to me a bit please? So he liked her since high school and still liked her when…
The FL was on break visiting Korea in that scene where she spotted the ML and Taehui kissing in the car.
She said something to the effect of “things sure have gotten loose in Korea since I’ve been away” before she tapped on the window and realized who it was, implying that the ML starting dating his ex well after the FL had been in the US, probably since he visited her and came to find she was dating in the US
The theories I’ve heard so far are (1) illness (2) failed or secret pregnancy (3) mental health. Isn’t her…
Also they still haven’t revealed what she was up to when out in the morning with that packet … back in ep 2, before her room got remodeled.
If it was a health issue maybe she was working out her will or something. To help the ML $$ wise. Or maybe it was something else entirely.
Her being sick could also explain why she said it was her fault that the engagement broke off despite us being led to believe that the ex simply cheated. Maybe it’s a bit more complicated than we realize.
I know some are hating on SH for the way he's behaving, but I kinda get him. He had feelings for her for so many…
I also think he’s trying to establish boundaries. Which is fair. The FL is kind of all over the place and sometimes people just a little time and space to process things. Plus shes never going to see him as anything other than a friend if the dynamic doesn’t change.
My only beef with the guy is that he’s making mountains out of molehills a little bit and that he keeps avoiding and then placing the blame on poor timing. The real problem is his own timidity and fear…and thinking he can just keep putting this off. That mentality is exactly how he lost her the first time around, so I don’t get why he isn’t more motivated to learn from that and give himself a fighting chance.
it's a normal BUT childish/immature reaction. I feel like i'd expect this from someone in their 20s, but feels…
this is true, just looking at how his parent interact it’s like everyone stuffs and buries emotions in that house … while also acting kind of passsive aggressive bc they’re not communicating. It’s fine so long as his character actually arcs and he does own up fully and learn the lesson. it’ll be annoying if that gets dragged out too much longer tho.
OMFG I HATE IT WHEN THE ML STARTS BEING AN ABSOLUTE A*S TO FL WHEN THEY REALIZE THEIR FEELINGS ✊🏽✊🏽
I totally agree…but to be fair, I think he is subconsciously trying to lay down boundaries which are needed.
They aren’t kids anymore, he’s right about that. He’s not exactly handling this like an adult himself here…but I think he’s just trying - very clumsily - to establish more boundaries which is actually good if they hope to make any progress.
I mean he’s doing it in an immature way for sure, but clearly his parents aren’t very communicative so expressing emotions in a healthy open way seems like a skill he may be struggling to develop.
He could be more reasonable with his reactions but then too like his ex said that’s a sign of his true lingering feelings that hes been avoiding. He can’t seem to get a handle on his feelings no matter how much time, distance, etc. that there is.
If his character doesn’t arc super quickly from here then I’ll be pissed but rn it feels like he’s working through things and almost subconsciously trying to shake up their usual friend-zone, no boundaries, relationship to be different …
That said, I do think it would be better if he would have AT LEAST taken a little more accountability for being in this tough situation in the first place tho. Instead of taking it out on her or throwing a pity party about it. For instance. He could have confessed his feelings to her sooner, before she left for the states. The timing was off when he finally decided to confess partly because he waited so long — until she was settled in a new country going to college and also kind of lonely. I mean…what do you expect to happen? It doesn’t feel like he ever fought very hard for her in the first place, so he really only has himself to blame. I feel like this should push his emotions in a different direction rather than all broody but anyways. His character definitely has some opportunity for growth, I just hope they sort it out quickly and properly…I cannot stand this broody nonsense being dragged out for much longer.
I am with the second female lead on this…why is he making this so hard on himself? Timing and ruining the friendship…
Even his ex girlfriend is trying to help him out 😂😂 bc she finds them both so cute and can’t stand it.
she’s literally like use me however you need we need to get this ball rolling already for pity’s sake … you guys are just too darn cute 😂 even tho she likes him!! she’s sees that he’s so helpless and the girl he likes is a clueless cutie, she can’t even hardly stand to watch as the ex. that was hilarious.
even the ex can’t deny their chemistry 🔥🔥
this ML is so helpless. I mean bless his heart! but also get it together bro!!! sheesh.
FL can’t read your mind. stop staying stuck in the past and move forward, for real! avoiding is still being stuck …doesn’t he realize this.
oh the irony…this guy is killing me with his hesitation. his ex girlfriend and friends are also like - what are you doing 😂😂
I am with the second female lead on this…why is he making this so hard on himself?
Timing and ruining the friendship is just an excuse at this point to avoid getting hurt. And how is pushing her away and avoiding her like that not ruining the relationship? Like either way the relationship can’t be the same bc of his feelings. Might as well be honest and then see where the chips actually fall … then work things out from there.
I understand timidity at first, but you would think 10 years of that pain of missing out would be more motivating when she came back single & his feelings rekindled … not demotivate him completely.
Even if she still hold a flame for her ex…they broke off an engagement. Which is no small thing to do, especially if you still love that person. That should be more telling to him than anything. Like why is he just so content to give up before ever really trying?
It feels like he’s just making excuses bc he doesn’t want to get hurt himself. Which okay…as a teenager that’s one thing. But as 30 year old adult it’s kind of sad. I felt so hopeful at the end of episode 5 too when he actually admitted to himself that he’d been avoiding and running away from his feelings for too long. Like finally he’s going to try and face this! and no…an entire episode later and he’s STILL more committed to avoiding his feelings than anything else.
In real life, I would be wondering if he even really liked this girl.
I sincerely hope they resolve the MLs timidity once and for all next episode bc it’s getting pretty exhausting / frustrating to watch. IMO. Literally all his friends advice is the same too…please just pluck up the courage. 😫
The second female lead has it right … he’s making this unnecessarily difficult on himself and completely creating a self fulfilling prophecy. He can only save himself from unrequited love!!
I just don’t understand why either. How is what he’s experiencing by avoiding any different or better from everything he’s afraid of happening by facing it? It’s literally the same if he doesn’t confess anyway. Might as well go for it! I just don’t get it.
I’m with the 2FL … he’s making this was too hard on himself, just confess! I don’t understand the whole pushing her away thing when that’s exactly what he was trying to avoid by NOT confessing in the past…so as not to ruin the relationship. I really hope the next episode resolves this once and for all bc it’s exhausting. I mean you would think that 10 years of struggling with this would incentivize him more the moment she became single not less motivated. The second female lead is right, he needs to buck up some courage and move on. He’s too obsessed with the timing thing…he just needs to make up his mind, timing or ruining the friendship is just an excuse to avoid getting hurt.
I’m obsessed with this drama. I have been putting this off for so long bc I didn’t really expect much - but this is so unexpectedly good! Run don’t walk. I love this drama!
It bothered me how he was acting the first time I watched it, but after more thought and rewatching the episode I realized he’s actually behaving rather reasonably.
He’s right they aren’t kids anymore, the dynamic needs to change. And he’s processing everything as best he can. So what if he needs a little more time and space to work things out, it’s really none of her business even though she keeps making it her business with the excuse of but we’re close! I mean she’s been bulldozing him since they were kids let’s be honest. She means well, but even so. Just because that’s been the dynamic between them in the past doesn’t mean it’s always appropriate.
Yea she doesn’t know why he’s suddenly acting cold and distancing himself, but why is that his problem. He could confess, but obviously the timing is not right and he may not want to burden her with it when he’s hearing things like she’s still in love with her ex fiancé. She’s also being kind of thoughtless and is all over the place with him. I guess he’s just supposed to be responsible for everything while treating her like a china doll princess. That’s just unrealistic. She has just as much a part to play in this conflict as him, and she can give him some space for a MINUTE. I mean it won’t kill her.
Also he’s a guy. Guys process things differently from girls and that’s ok.
He’s stuck between a rock and a hard place in a lot of ways, it’s only natural to get frustrated when someone pressures you in that situation - whether they realize what they’re doing or not. He wasn’t mean he was just fed up and conflicted and laying down a boundary. She’s always doing clumsy things and it’s forgiven without any thought. Why can’t he be allowed some messy moments too? The guys not a robot.
Establishing firm boundaries where there were none ALWAYS feels harsh and abusive to those on the other end that struggle to understand or respect healthier boundaries. But it’s a fair thing to ask for given their longstanding relationship and his dilemma.
She said something to the effect of “things sure have gotten loose in Korea since I’ve been away” before she tapped on the window and realized who it was, implying that the ML starting dating his ex well after the FL had been in the US, probably since he visited her and came to find she was dating in the US
If it was a health issue maybe she was working out her will or something. To help the ML $$ wise. Or maybe it was something else entirely.
Her being sick could also explain why she said it was her fault that the engagement broke off despite us being led to believe that the ex simply cheated. Maybe it’s a bit more complicated than we realize.
Isn’t her ex-fiancé a lawyer? I wonder if she wasn’t a victim of some sort of accident or scandal.
My only beef with the guy is that he’s making mountains out of molehills a little bit and that he keeps avoiding and then placing the blame on poor timing. The real problem is his own timidity and fear…and thinking he can just keep putting this off. That mentality is exactly how he lost her the first time around, so I don’t get why he isn’t more motivated to learn from that and give himself a fighting chance.
They aren’t kids anymore, he’s right about that. He’s not exactly handling this like an adult himself here…but I think he’s just trying - very clumsily - to establish more boundaries which is actually good if they hope to make any progress.
I mean he’s doing it in an immature way for sure, but clearly his parents aren’t very communicative so expressing emotions in a healthy open way seems like a skill he may be struggling to develop.
He could be more reasonable with his reactions but then too like his ex said that’s a sign of his true lingering feelings that hes been avoiding. He can’t seem to get a handle on his feelings no matter how much time, distance, etc. that there is.
If his character doesn’t arc super quickly from here then I’ll be pissed but rn it feels like he’s working through things and almost subconsciously trying to shake up their usual friend-zone, no boundaries, relationship to be different …
That said, I do think it would be better if he would have AT LEAST taken a little more accountability for being in this tough situation in the first place tho. Instead of taking it out on her or throwing a pity party about it. For instance. He could have confessed his feelings to her sooner, before she left for the states. The timing was off when he finally decided to confess partly because he waited so long — until she was settled in a new country going to college and also kind of lonely. I mean…what do you expect to happen? It doesn’t feel like he ever fought very hard for her in the first place, so he really only has himself to blame. I feel like this should push his emotions in a different direction rather than all broody but anyways. His character definitely has some opportunity for growth, I just hope they sort it out quickly and properly…I cannot stand this broody nonsense being dragged out for much longer.
she’s literally like use me however you need we need to get this ball rolling already for pity’s sake … you guys are just too darn cute 😂 even tho she likes him!! she’s sees that he’s so helpless and the girl he likes is a clueless cutie, she can’t even hardly stand to watch as the ex. that was hilarious.
even the ex can’t deny their chemistry 🔥🔥
this ML is so helpless. I mean bless his heart! but also get it together bro!!! sheesh.
FL can’t read your mind. stop staying stuck in the past and move forward, for real! avoiding is still being stuck …doesn’t he realize this.
oh the irony…this guy is killing me with his hesitation. his ex girlfriend and friends are also like - what are you doing 😂😂
Timing and ruining the friendship is just an excuse at this point to avoid getting hurt. And how is pushing her away and avoiding her like that not ruining the relationship? Like either way the relationship can’t be the same bc of his feelings. Might as well be honest and then see where the chips actually fall … then work things out from there.
I understand timidity at first, but you would think 10 years of that pain of missing out would be more motivating when she came back single & his feelings rekindled … not demotivate him completely.
Even if she still hold a flame for her ex…they broke off an engagement. Which is no small thing to do, especially if you still love that person. That should be more telling to him than anything. Like why is he just so content to give up before ever really trying?
It feels like he’s just making excuses bc he doesn’t want to get hurt himself. Which okay…as a teenager that’s one thing. But as 30 year old adult it’s kind of sad. I felt so hopeful at the end of episode 5 too when he actually admitted to himself that he’d been avoiding and running away from his feelings for too long. Like finally he’s going to try and face this! and no…an entire episode later and he’s STILL more committed to avoiding his feelings than anything else.
In real life, I would be wondering if he even really liked this girl.
I sincerely hope they resolve the MLs timidity once and for all next episode bc it’s getting pretty exhausting / frustrating to watch. IMO. Literally all his friends advice is the same too…please just pluck up the courage. 😫
The second female lead has it right … he’s making this unnecessarily difficult on himself and completely creating a self fulfilling prophecy. He can only save himself from unrequited love!!
I just don’t understand why either. How is what he’s experiencing by avoiding any different or better from everything he’s afraid of happening by facing it? It’s literally the same if he doesn’t confess anyway. Might as well go for it! I just don’t get it.