the suspense and terror i felt when that lady was opening the box. i flinched when the bomb sounded đ„Č
no wonder why jianci started gaining attention with this drama... his acting is just wonderful. when he was in the same room as the bomb detonator guy? the way he perfectly portrayed shen yi's attempt to remain calm in spite of his internal fear? spectacular i love it
the way du cheng referred to shen yi as his "xiongdi" rather than just a friend đ€§
man this show always makes me despise the perpetrators until we find out about their sad backstory smh. like can i please just hate them in peace LMAO but i guess it just goes to show that hurt people hurt people
Bingo. God forbid thereâs a certain attire etiquette. Itâs not like sheâs missing an eye or has a hunchback…
you said âI am not blaming them for feeling that way" but earlier, you literally just said âboth her and the FL have such a victim mentality and seemingly only define themselves by their looks which is on them to be honestâ
i agree with some of your points, like how cheng cheng shouldn't hurt others because of her insecurities. and i understand that cheng cheng and fang jin would benefit if they focused on loving themselves more. but placing all the responsibility and blame on them is unfair and not entirely true.
for cheng cheng: itâs not easy to suddenly think positively about something when youâve been treated negatively about it for almost your whole life. this constant negativity quickly becomes internalized in the person; it takes a long time to heal from it. and telling someone to âjust make an effortâ is practical advice but youâre missing the bigger picture here: why do we have to change ourselves to be accepted or loved?
for fang jin: i know this is a drama but the effects of abuse are very real. even just one incident can completely change a person for the rest of their life. (there are plenty of cases online that you can watch/read to see just how severe abuse has affected their victims.) downplaying her trauma by saying itâs âonly one personâ doesnât change how damaging that relationship was. abuse doesnât need to come from multiple sources to be valid or taken seriously. plus, when abuse comes from someone you love, like her husband, it feels even more painful.
i know very well that the world isnât kind. but by calling a young girl a âclownâ for having acne like a normal teenager, and an abuse victim a âdoormatâ for not being as strong as someone who hasnât suffered abuse, arenât you also part of that society who âisnât that niceâ? it doesnât sound like you want the best for them in this cruel world, it sounds like you just want to squeeze them into those toxic standards and therefore perpetuate the problem.
lastly, just because others go through âworse" or similar things, it doesnât mean their situation is any less valid. itâs giving âall lives matter." everyone deserves to feel the way they feel regardless of where their suffering ranks on whatever imaginary scale.
normal doesn't mean it should be acceptable though. i'm asian myself so i know how awful it is; my parents have…
based on what you said, it sounds like your situation is much more severe than what we see in this drama, and i'm really sorry you had/have to experience that. but in the end, this isn't a competition about who's the best or worst. the mom here IS toxic, regardless of whether she seems "better" or "worse" than other parents.
yes, i know that she does try. but the way she goes about is so hurtful and controlling to chenghuan, intentional or not. take ep 16 for example, when her mom humiliated her by pressuring her to accept jialiang's proposal in front of so many people, and how disheartened chenghuan felt because of that.
neglect IS awful treatment. the mom mostly focused on and prioritized chenghuan, almost never chengzao. even if he doesn't say anything out loud, his expressions already reveal how upset and disappointed he feels.
Bingo. God forbid thereâs a certain attire etiquette. Itâs not like sheâs missing an eye or has a hunchback…
some of your points are very valid. but blaming someone for feeling the way they feel, especially knowing how much they suffered, is so incredibly dismissive and callous. also, just because someone *has* support doesn't mean they *feel* supported.
cheng cheng has her family but that same family made tactless remarks relating to her looks since she was young (they even admit this later). that kind of early emotional damage doesnât just go away. as for the scientist girl â i suppose you're referring to fang jin â she was literally *abused* by her husband. healing from abuse takes a long time and a lot of work. yes, she has su qingli but there are times where even qingli canât fully empathize with how she feels.
tbh after reading your comment, i've been questioning what kind of person you are like in real life.
it'd be really awesome, wouldn't it? if our emotions could just stop or calm down whenever we want it to like a light switch. but that's unfortunately not how trauma works. so rather than calling them a doormat or blaming them for not being mentally stronger, let's be understanding towards those who're still healing from the physical and/or emotional wounds inflicted on them.
Another great case! And a big turning point for the main plot. But yes, it had that 'oh noooooo!' sadness for…
i heard people saying that about s2 âčïž a bit sad because as much as i'd love to see more tan jianci, it's both shen yi and du cheng who make the show worth watching, not just one of them
Same. I realized, its a depthful story. Author foreshadowed from start as Xiaoyao, XiangLiu & Cangxuan are hardworking,…
i think they're mixing up her names: jiu yao and xiao yao.
"(1.) Tushanjing made XiaoYao wait 15 yrs. to not love another man (but XY already in love with XL, proven by Lover's bug)"
and don't forget- in the drama, the scene right after jing tells her not to have other men in her heart during those 15 years is xiang liu coming to save xiao liu. hahaha
Same. I realized, its a depthful story. Author foreshadowed from start as Xiaoyao, XiangLiu & Cangxuan are hardworking,…
in yang zi's livestream, she basically confirmed that xiao yao and xiang liu loved each other but just couldn't be together. she also said that whoever xiao yao ended up with wasn't her choice to make, meaning, it's possible that xiao yao's endgame (jing) wasn't the one she truly wanted to be with.
"at the beginning, they all had a chance. but the most realistic thing is that none of them chose xiao yao. this wasn't something that xiao yao could choose. i feel pitiful for xiao yao because from the beginning to the end, her fate was already arranged. she actually has no way of choosing anyone.
at first, i even thought that maybe cang xuan has a chance, this is just what i thought. but xiang liu has his own national interests. to a certain extent, i think xiang liu completed his ending completely and beautifully. he died on the battlefield and fulfilled the meaning and duty of his life.
in xiang liu's life, he isn't destined to walk with xiao yao. like for ah heng and chi chen (xiao yao's biological parents), their different positions and fates led to a bad ending. so in this generation, xiang liu and xiao yao are not destined to be together. it's just one person takes a step forward and one person takes a step back. from a certain perspective, i think they're all aware. they knew from the beginning that there would be no result between them."
This exact thing happens to me! I have to rewind and watch some scenes repeatedly to capture all of those things.…
so i'm really not the only one who does this! we gotta pause to take in all the beauty in his facial expressions (and handsome visuals but that's self explanatory LOL)
i pay attention to the shows, i really do. but whenever jianci appears on screen, suddenly i can't hear or see anything else but him đ€Ł we're all just like du cheng staring at shen yi, aren't we?
the plot twists in the hehong / xiaoan / tianqi case omgg the writers really know how to keep viewers on their toes!
tianqi's backstory though đ i cried when he saw xiaoan for the last time. can you imagine being in his shoes? robbing stores just because you want to financially support the people you love, go home to find them missing, see them again seven years later but they don't even recognize and acknowledge you AND you find out that your lover has a new partner now, do everything you can to protect them anyway, and then find out that it was all a lie - that person was never your lover, it was someone else using their identity, and you don't even know if your lover is alive or dead... i feel so sad for tianqi. he looked genuinely upset when he found out about everything :(( i hope the show gives us an update about him later. only finished ep 11 so we'll have to see
lastly, i love how du cheng cares so deeply for his team đ„ș that captain title is well-deserved cuz he's the glue holding them together imo
Ppl here hating on the mother so much, I assume r not Asian or did not grow up in a typical Asian household. Yes…
normal doesn't mean it should be acceptable though. i'm asian myself so i know how awful it is; my parents have done many "typical asian parent" things (which, unfortunately, have messed my siblings and i up for life).
this mindset saying that kids should forgive and love their parents despite their toxic behaviors because "it was out of good intentions" or "at least they're better than other parents" needs to be stopped, not sustained and brushed off. what's the point of having good intentions if your actions cause harm? why is it always the children who are expected to be the bigger person and clean up after every mess, instead of the parents, the ones who chose to bring children into the world in the first place?
am i just insanely obsessed or is watching a show with tan jianci in it a whole damn eye workout. have to watch once to read the subtitles and another to appreciate his dynamic facial expressions. if i look at his expressions for even a single second then i'll forget the subtitles LOL but if i focus on the subtitles then i'll miss out on every of his microexpressions đ„Č
- "for most ladies, if they're having allergies like this, they wouldn't even dare to go out. however, you're just being yourself without caring about what others think. you're indeed very brave, very confident, very beautiful." - "you love this world so gently that it becomes a better place because of you." - "don't be afraid. no matter what happens, i'll face it with you."
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no wonder why jianci started gaining attention with this drama... his acting is just wonderful. when he was in the same room as the bomb detonator guy? the way he perfectly portrayed shen yi's attempt to remain calm in spite of his internal fear? spectacular i love it
the way du cheng referred to shen yi as his "xiongdi" rather than just a friend đ€§
man this show always makes me despise the perpetrators until we find out about their sad backstory smh. like can i please just hate them in peace LMAO but i guess it just goes to show that hurt people hurt people
i agree with some of your points, like how cheng cheng shouldn't hurt others because of her insecurities. and i understand that cheng cheng and fang jin would benefit if they focused on loving themselves more. but placing all the responsibility and blame on them is unfair and not entirely true.
for cheng cheng: itâs not easy to suddenly think positively about something when youâve been treated negatively about it for almost your whole life. this constant negativity quickly becomes internalized in the person; it takes a long time to heal from it. and telling someone to âjust make an effortâ is practical advice but youâre missing the bigger picture here: why do we have to change ourselves to be accepted or loved?
for fang jin: i know this is a drama but the effects of abuse are very real. even just one incident can completely change a person for the rest of their life. (there are plenty of cases online that you can watch/read to see just how severe abuse has affected their victims.) downplaying her trauma by saying itâs âonly one personâ doesnât change how damaging that relationship was. abuse doesnât need to come from multiple sources to be valid or taken seriously. plus, when abuse comes from someone you love, like her husband, it feels even more painful.
i know very well that the world isnât kind. but by calling a young girl a âclownâ for having acne like a normal teenager, and an abuse victim a âdoormatâ for not being as strong as someone who hasnât suffered abuse, arenât you also part of that society who âisnât that niceâ? it doesnât sound like you want the best for them in this cruel world, it sounds like you just want to squeeze them into those toxic standards and therefore perpetuate the problem.
lastly, just because others go through âworse" or similar things, it doesnât mean their situation is any less valid. itâs giving âall lives matter." everyone deserves to feel the way they feel regardless of where their suffering ranks on whatever imaginary scale.
yes, i know that she does try. but the way she goes about is so hurtful and controlling to chenghuan, intentional or not. take ep 16 for example, when her mom humiliated her by pressuring her to accept jialiang's proposal in front of so many people, and how disheartened chenghuan felt because of that.
neglect IS awful treatment. the mom mostly focused on and prioritized chenghuan, almost never chengzao. even if he doesn't say anything out loud, his expressions already reveal how upset and disappointed he feels.
cheng cheng has her family but that same family made tactless remarks relating to her looks since she was young (they even admit this later). that kind of early emotional damage doesnât just go away. as for the scientist girl â i suppose you're referring to fang jin â she was literally *abused* by her husband. healing from abuse takes a long time and a lot of work. yes, she has su qingli but there are times where even qingli canât fully empathize with how she feels.
tbh after reading your comment, i've been questioning what kind of person you are like in real life.
it'd be really awesome, wouldn't it? if our emotions could just stop or calm down whenever we want it to like a light switch. but that's unfortunately not how trauma works. so rather than calling them a doormat or blaming them for not being mentally stronger, let's be understanding towards those who're still healing from the physical and/or emotional wounds inflicted on them.
"(1.) Tushanjing made XiaoYao wait 15 yrs. to not love another man (but XY already in love with XL, proven by Lover's bug)"
and don't forget- in the drama, the scene right after jing tells her not to have other men in her heart during those 15 years is xiang liu coming to save xiao liu. hahaha
video: https://v.douyin.com/PECncJpZsek/
(rough translation using google)
"at the beginning, they all had a chance. but the most realistic thing is that none of them chose xiao yao. this wasn't something that xiao yao could choose. i feel pitiful for xiao yao because from the beginning to the end, her fate was already arranged. she actually has no way of choosing anyone.
at first, i even thought that maybe cang xuan has a chance, this is just what i thought. but xiang liu has his own national interests. to a certain extent, i think xiang liu completed his ending completely and beautifully. he died on the battlefield and fulfilled the meaning and duty of his life.
in xiang liu's life, he isn't destined to walk with xiao yao. like for ah heng and chi chen (xiao yao's biological parents), their different positions and fates led to a bad ending. so in this generation, xiang liu and xiao yao are not destined to be together. it's just one person takes a step forward and one person takes a step back. from a certain perspective, i think they're all aware. they knew from the beginning that there would be no result between them."
i pay attention to the shows, i really do. but whenever jianci appears on screen, suddenly i can't hear or see anything else but him đ€Ł we're all just like du cheng staring at shen yi, aren't we?
tianqi's backstory though đ i cried when he saw xiaoan for the last time. can you imagine being in his shoes? robbing stores just because you want to financially support the people you love, go home to find them missing, see them again seven years later but they don't even recognize and acknowledge you AND you find out that your lover has a new partner now, do everything you can to protect them anyway, and then find out that it was all a lie - that person was never your lover, it was someone else using their identity, and you don't even know if your lover is alive or dead... i feel so sad for tianqi. he looked genuinely upset when he found out about everything :(( i hope the show gives us an update about him later. only finished ep 11 so we'll have to see
lastly, i love how du cheng cares so deeply for his team đ„ș that captain title is well-deserved cuz he's the glue holding them together imo
this mindset saying that kids should forgive and love their parents despite their toxic behaviors because "it was out of good intentions" or "at least they're better than other parents" needs to be stopped, not sustained and brushed off. what's the point of having good intentions if your actions cause harm? why is it always the children who are expected to be the bigger person and clean up after every mess, instead of the parents, the ones who chose to bring children into the world in the first place?
- "you love this world so gently that it becomes a better place because of you."
- "don't be afraid. no matter what happens, i'll face it with you."
red flag ML where?? all i see is green!