@songHmmmm. I'm not sure I agree with half of that sentiment, but I do agree about that assessment of XL. And…
It's too bad that Tong Hua doesn't give us clear answers, so we the readers/viewers have to interpret a lot of aspects ourselves 😭 but yep, I believe that XY choosing the safe option is actually true.
But the writer said that XY got what she wanted the most
Yes, it is true love.
The way I see it, XY and XL's love is mainly built on understanding. Their relationship started out rocky but as they continued to confide in each other, they realized how similar they were. This led to them being able to understand and, of course, fall in love with each other.
Meanwhile, XY and Jing's love is mainly built on fears of abandonment. The unhealthy co-dependency. Jing is afraid of losing XY, and XY is afraid of being abandoned. That is why at the end of the story, XY is WILLING to be with and wait for Jing. After all, why wouldn't she? This poor girl spent years trying to find someone who wouldn't abandon her (at least willingly). Now that she's found him, she's not gonna let go of him so easily!
I noticed that we seem to have different definitions for true love. Maybe that's why it's hard for us to agree with each other.
You think true love is the one who XY pursues and shows explicit affection for. I, on the other hand, think true love is the one who XY fell in love with genuinely and wished to be with the most.
I'll tell you right now: if XY was able to, she'd choose XL, not Jing. How do I know? Because XY wished she could go back in time to "save" XL so he could be a free FFB forever. Don't forget, he's also the only person she kept in her mirror! What do you think this says about XY's feelings? If she only loves Jing as you say, then why does she keep thinking about another man?
SGQ: [referring to the food she cooked] Don't mind if they look bad. GYZ: They indeed look bad.
SGQ: Young Master Shangjue, help yourself. There's food in Yuanzhi didi's bowl. GYZ: Don't call me Yuanzhi didi (little brother). Only my elder brother can call me didi. Aren't you polite? Then call me Young Master Yuanzhi from now on. GSJ: After we get married, you can call him didi.
Haha they're so cute 🤣 I wanna see more of this trio. They have such different personalities yet are hilarious when interacting with each other.
But the writer said that XY got what she wanted the most
While everyone is free to have their own interpretations, it's important to keep in mind that LYF isn't your typical basic romance. You can already tell based on the fact that the FL (XY) and ML (CX) don't end up together. Hell, she never even saw him as a romantic partner in the first place!
In my opinion, LYF is a complex story about XY's journey to finding the one person who can stay with her forever. This person doesn't have to be someone she truly loves. Just as long as you choose her over anything — literally — and never abandon her, then congratulations! You're a candidate! That's why there are four male leads ➜ four possible candidates. (Off topic but as I was typing this, I realized that LYF could be adapted into a video game. I'd play it!)
How did I come to that conclusion? First, take note of these key quotes from XY:
"I just want someone to keep me company. Not someone I want to marry – I want someone I can live with, share happiness and sorrow with, fight and make up, I just don’t want to talk to myself anymore.”
"People think I am kind but really I’m just weak. When I’m with those who are weaker than me, I feel like I am in control and am needed so I won’t be abandoned. That is when I feel safe."
"Unless there is a man who, no matter faced with any choice, will always pick me first, who will never abandon me no matter what reason, then I will be willing to spend the rest of my life with him."
Also this conversation after XY discovered that Jing was willing to DIE with her:
"Jing said, 'No, I see you as more important than my life. Xiao Yao, you resented me for saying I wasn’t good enough for you yet I refused to let go. Actually, I know that you can go on just fine without me. I know that Fang Fang Bei is more suitable for you. But I can’t let you go, as long as I am alive then I can’t! I’m sorry, I’m sorry…..'
Xiao Yao clamped her hands over his mouth. 'You idiot! All I want is someone who will hold me tightly and never abandon me no matter what!' Xiao Yao’s forehead was pressed against Jing’s forehead. 'You can’t let me go, I really like that!'"
I wanna clarify that I'm not denying XY's love for Jing. I'm just trying to say that Jing isn't her true love and desire like some people have been claiming. XY only LEARNED to love him — obviously cause he was the only candidate who met all of her requirements. @Tyamn1, those quotes you provided were from chapters where XY had already learned to love Jing.
The one who XY truly loved (without even trying) and wished to be with the most from the beginning was XL. This snake demon who's enemies with her family clearly doesn't meet her ideal person, so XY should completely disregard him, don't you think? Yet from time to time, she finds herself thinking about and missing him even when she already has Jing. Of course she'll never admit it though because she's afraid of what will happen: he'll choose Chenrong over her (not the first choice) and die with them (abandon her) AND her family will be disappointed in her for falling in love with their enemy. That's why XY wished he could be "a free Fangfeng Bei. Owing no one favors or gratitude. Bearing no responsibility, morality, or duty."
Given all this info, doesn't it mean that whoever XY ends up with isn't necessarily the one she truly loves and desires? Remember, she even almost ended up with Fenglong. 💀
XY's actress Yang Zi once said that we shouldn't focus on who XY truly loves. Instead, focus on what worked out and what didn't. Oh! She also said that if XL had confessed, the ending would be different. But wait.... didn't you guys say that XY only loves and wants Jing? How could the ending be different? If XL confessed, then all XY needs to do is reject it because she doesn't love him back, only Jing, right?
But the writer said that XY got what she wanted the most
Yes, XY wanted a companion since she's afraid of loneliness. But who knows whether the companion she got was the one she truly wanted the most or not...
thinking about watching it but I usually hate love triangles cuz I always just feel bad for second male lead cuz…
The love triangle is not that bad. Of course, it's natural to feel pity for Yu Mo (2ML) since he's a great guy, very sweet, and cares for Yan Dan (FL). However, I can't see him as anything more than a friend. Maybe it's cause I saw little to no romantic chemistry between them?
I think the writers could've made Yu Mo not have romantic feelings for Yan Dan and that wouldn't have made a difference, since he doesn't even pursue them anyway. He's not constantly moping around about his unrequited love like typical second leads lol. His love is unconditional and mature from start to end; he respects Yan Dan's feelings for Ying Yuan (ML) and simply wants her to be happy.
But everyone's opinion is subjective so you can take this with a grain of salt. Just try watching and see if you like it!
Just wanted to share a beautiful comment I saw while I was rewatching LYF. Sometimes, what we need is not necessarily what we want. 🥺
"虽然狐狸比较适合小天, 但他就像白开水, 是为了生 存而已。 相柳才是让人觉得活着值得的人, 能让你感 觉到心脏的悸动" Although the fox is more suitable for Xiaoyao, he is like boiled water, just for survival. Xiang Liu is the one who makes people feel that life is worth living, and can make you feel the throbbing of your heart.
Oh yeah I ended up realizing that in episode 3. For the first 2 episodes though, YWS was very eager to fight back haha. I was afraid her identity would get revealed so soon, if not for SGQ and that Wufeng guy who helped her (I forgot his name) reminding her.
Actually, nvm y'all.... I changed my mind lmao. I don't want S2 to drop asap anymore, I don't want LYF to end...
Even though there are aspects of it that I'm salty about, I still love and appreciate LYF as a whole. The story is just too good! I don't want to let go of it anytime soon 😭
If it really does end up airing in the summer, that'd be great ahahaha
Finally... SGQ is going to live in GSJ's residence and YWS in GZY's. Things will get more interesting.
My biggest dislike about this drama right now is GZY. I'm really hoping he undergoes some MAJOR character development. He is so frustrating and such a simp for YWS like- you're the Sword Wielder now! Can you please be more mature and not let love blind you? It should've been GSJ smh. Gong Residence, how are y'all gonna let this guy ru(i)n your place. I wouldn't be surprised if he sacrificed Gong Residence just for YWS.
(And why do I get the vibe that GYZ is going to be killed off later? Because I swear to god, every time there's a wholesome sibling/friend relationship, one of them dies🥲 Please don't spoil me on this. I need to see for myself if this prediction will come true.)
Overall, this drama is okay so far. Just that there's a lot of slow, boring talk about politics and whatnot so I watch on 1.1 - 1.6x speed. I love the scenes with SGQ the most... and yes that's me being biased lmao.
Every man in this drama is a jerk...even the best of men cheated on their partners but were shown as innocent…
That's what I'm saying! The men in this drama are absolute garbage!
Look at Ae/Sawit and Tor/Sila's dad. Man had a mistress and a child with her then DIPPED. Left a bloody mess for others to clean up. But hey! He poppped back up out of nowhere and acted like a justice-seeking hero so he's redeemed now, only because he's supporting our ML of course. What about your wife Sida and son Ae? Did you ever care about them?
And I couldn't wrap around my head that Min's dad cheated. His character is so sweet that I'd sometimes forget and can't believe he even did that. Even the seemingly genuinely nice male characters turned out to be rotten. 😒
Is there a chance of season2 airing in February? Hope so but part 2 maybe come in summer I think.😐
There is a chance. It's just very slim. And by very slim I mean like a 1 in 100000 chance. (T＿T)
February is our hope and wishful thinking but I have a feeling that summer will be the actual date, since the law says you can't release a part 2 until a year after its release.
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No seriously- when? I refuse to believe that they're gonna shelve this forever.
The way I see it, XY and XL's love is mainly built on understanding. Their relationship started out rocky but as they continued to confide in each other, they realized how similar they were. This led to them being able to understand and, of course, fall in love with each other.
Meanwhile, XY and Jing's love is mainly built on fears of abandonment. The unhealthy co-dependency. Jing is afraid of losing XY, and XY is afraid of being abandoned. That is why at the end of the story, XY is WILLING to be with and wait for Jing. After all, why wouldn't she? This poor girl spent years trying to find someone who wouldn't abandon her (at least willingly). Now that she's found him, she's not gonna let go of him so easily!
I noticed that we seem to have different definitions for true love. Maybe that's why it's hard for us to agree with each other.
You think true love is the one who XY pursues and shows explicit affection for. I, on the other hand, think true love is the one who XY fell in love with genuinely and wished to be with the most.
I'll tell you right now: if XY was able to, she'd choose XL, not Jing. How do I know? Because XY wished she could go back in time to "save" XL so he could be a free FFB forever. Don't forget, he's also the only person she kept in her mirror! What do you think this says about XY's feelings? If she only loves Jing as you say, then why does she keep thinking about another man?
GYZ: They indeed look bad.
SGQ: Young Master Shangjue, help yourself. There's food in Yuanzhi didi's bowl.
GYZ: Don't call me Yuanzhi didi (little brother). Only my elder brother can call me didi. Aren't you polite? Then call me Young Master Yuanzhi from now on.
GSJ: After we get married, you can call him didi.
Haha they're so cute 🤣 I wanna see more of this trio. They have such different personalities yet are hilarious when interacting with each other.
In my opinion, LYF is a complex story about XY's journey to finding the one person who can stay with her forever. This person doesn't have to be someone she truly loves. Just as long as you choose her over anything — literally — and never abandon her, then congratulations! You're a candidate! That's why there are four male leads ➜ four possible candidates. (Off topic but as I was typing this, I realized that LYF could be adapted into a video game. I'd play it!)
How did I come to that conclusion? First, take note of these key quotes from XY:
"I just want someone to keep me company. Not someone I want to marry – I want someone I can live with, share happiness and sorrow with, fight and make up, I just don’t want to talk to myself anymore.”
"People think I am kind but really I’m just weak. When I’m with those who are weaker than me, I feel like I am in control and am needed so I won’t be abandoned. That is when I feel safe."
"Unless there is a man who, no matter faced with any choice, will always pick me first, who will never abandon me no matter what reason, then I will be willing to spend the rest of my life with him."
Also this conversation after XY discovered that Jing was willing to DIE with her:
"Jing said, 'No, I see you as more important than my life. Xiao Yao, you resented me for saying I wasn’t good enough for you yet I refused to let go. Actually, I know that you can go on just fine without me. I know that Fang Fang Bei is more suitable for you. But I can’t let you go, as long as I am alive then I can’t! I’m sorry, I’m sorry…..'
Xiao Yao clamped her hands over his mouth. 'You idiot! All I want is someone who will hold me tightly and never abandon me no matter what!' Xiao Yao’s forehead was pressed against Jing’s forehead. 'You can’t let me go, I really like that!'"
I wanna clarify that I'm not denying XY's love for Jing. I'm just trying to say that Jing isn't her true love and desire like some people have been claiming. XY only LEARNED to love him — obviously cause he was the only candidate who met all of her requirements. @Tyamn1, those quotes you provided were from chapters where XY had already learned to love Jing.
The one who XY truly loved (without even trying) and wished to be with the most from the beginning was XL. This snake demon who's enemies with her family clearly doesn't meet her ideal person, so XY should completely disregard him, don't you think? Yet from time to time, she finds herself thinking about and missing him even when she already has Jing. Of course she'll never admit it though because she's afraid of what will happen: he'll choose Chenrong over her (not the first choice) and die with them (abandon her) AND her family will be disappointed in her for falling in love with their enemy. That's why XY wished he could be "a free Fangfeng Bei. Owing no one favors or gratitude. Bearing no responsibility, morality, or duty."
Given all this info, doesn't it mean that whoever XY ends up with isn't necessarily the one she truly loves and desires? Remember, she even almost ended up with Fenglong. 💀
XY's actress Yang Zi once said that we shouldn't focus on who XY truly loves. Instead, focus on what worked out and what didn't. Oh! She also said that if XL had confessed, the ending would be different. But wait.... didn't you guys say that XY only loves and wants Jing? How could the ending be different? If XL confessed, then all XY needs to do is reject it because she doesn't love him back, only Jing, right?
I think the writers could've made Yu Mo not have romantic feelings for Yan Dan and that wouldn't have made a difference, since he doesn't even pursue them anyway. He's not constantly moping around about his unrequited love like typical second leads lol. His love is unconditional and mature from start to end; he respects Yan Dan's feelings for Ying Yuan (ML) and simply wants her to be happy.
But everyone's opinion is subjective so you can take this with a grain of salt. Just try watching and see if you like it!
"虽然狐狸比较适合小天, 但他就像白开水, 是为了生 存而已。 相柳才是让人觉得活着值得的人, 能让你感 觉到心脏的悸动"
Although the fox is more suitable for Xiaoyao, he is like boiled water, just for survival. Xiang Liu is the one who makes people feel that life is worth living, and can make you feel the throbbing of your heart.
— commented by @xinxinjiang9204 (https://youtu.be/AcLeK1YItJE?si=hPTem8jeerWKWSjY)
Even though there are aspects of it that I'm salty about, I still love and appreciate LYF as a whole. The story is just too good! I don't want to let go of it anytime soon 😭
If it really does end up airing in the summer, that'd be great ahahaha
Finally... SGQ is going to live in GSJ's residence and YWS in GZY's. Things will get more interesting.
My biggest dislike about this drama right now is GZY. I'm really hoping he undergoes some MAJOR character development. He is so frustrating and such a simp for YWS like- you're the Sword Wielder now! Can you please be more mature and not let love blind you? It should've been GSJ smh. Gong Residence, how are y'all gonna let this guy ru(i)n your place. I wouldn't be surprised if he sacrificed Gong Residence just for YWS.
(And why do I get the vibe that GYZ is going to be killed off later? Because I swear to god, every time there's a wholesome sibling/friend relationship, one of them dies🥲 Please don't spoil me on this. I need to see for myself if this prediction will come true.)
Overall, this drama is okay so far. Just that there's a lot of slow, boring talk about politics and whatnot so I watch on 1.1 - 1.6x speed. I love the scenes with SGQ the most... and yes that's me being biased lmao.
Look at Ae/Sawit and Tor/Sila's dad. Man had a mistress and a child with her then DIPPED. Left a bloody mess for others to clean up. But hey! He poppped back up out of nowhere and acted like a justice-seeking hero so he's redeemed now, only because he's supporting our ML of course. What about your wife Sida and son Ae? Did you ever care about them?
And I couldn't wrap around my head that Min's dad cheated. His character is so sweet that I'd sometimes forget and can't believe he even did that. Even the seemingly genuinely nice male characters turned out to be rotten. 😒
February is our hope and wishful thinking but I have a feeling that summer will be the actual date, since the law says you can't release a part 2 until a year after its release.