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It's how vividly she wrote about his sex life with her and his comments about his colleagues. Those are taken out of context and basically no one needs to know that stuff. Imagine your colleagues or family coming to know about how you like to have sex, what position is your favourite one. People going to sleep immediately after sex can also be labelled as uncaring by an ex-lover after a bitter breakup. And people would link that to 'ohh there were all these signs already that he didn't love her then'.
That was extremely brutal and unnecessary.

I don't completely agree with the purpose being just venting out...because people can just write in their diaries.... that's rather a healthier way ..you can revisit it and think about a good way of addressing your feelings. And she left so many obvious hints that it was him. If she had even addressed him as 'ex-boyfriend' instead of 'actor K', no one would have payed attention. Once you define it's an actor and reveal the whole history of his last one year including professional history... it's super easy to track down.
This is also not to say she shouldn't have addressed her feelings....infact rather if she had proof enough of gaslighting she could have pressed charges against him.

I respect your opinion if that's what you think after the whole scandal.
Except that his revelation was admitting a personal folly and not revealing intimate out of context information or demeaning the other person. I clearly remember him mentioning that he was desperate at that time and more so because he was serving in the military then. I rather thought he was so naive and no there was no sympathy related to that story for me.
If you still think both of these incidents can be put in the same category, you are free to have that opinion.

You know right that you are being unrealistic here? Can we tell the outcome of a relationship when we are in one?
Have you not experienced a failed relationship of any kind ever in life? Every single person would be guilty then for not being able to keep a promise that was made genuinely once but became empty because the relationship ended.

After the whole translation guffaw at least for the international fans.....It hits very differently...like almost at a very bitter spot in your chest
On the other hand his apology made sense now.
To believe that he got cancelled for 'this' is even more unpalatable....I can't deny I had this vengeful thought that if he was tried for criminal offences, it would have made his downfall at least acceptable.

Wow....I am speechless

So there was no 'forced' abortion in the original post?

As a 2D1N fan this is what has played on my mind since this controversy broke out.

https://mobile.twitter.com/SweetSuinn/status/1450987807002923014

Just as I was gonna put down this issue and stay away from this matter entirely.....I came across this and I don't even know what is happening anymore....it seems knetz nailed down on her identity Choi Young ah or something and apparently she being an influencer ,people found pictures of her drinking when she was supposedly pregnant and now soon enough she is claimed to have backtracked from her initial post saying it was a misunderstanding and lawyered up because fearing her identity will be revealed.
Of course I am not sure if all this true or not. But anyways.....as if this wasn't bad enough.

Wow..
Is this even happening?

I meant 'abortion'* not adoption

I agree with you but my opinions are not yet black and white about it. 'gaslighting the victim' is her version of the story. Who are we to say that his feelings weren't genuine when he said that? we weren't in the relationship with them. And he did have a relationship with her for a good amount of time after that. From the whole situation she seemed to have a problem not with the adoption but that she can't get married to him now. What if they got married? Then would she have claimed that it was forced adoption or a mutual decision?
So one side's version is not the complete version in any case. If she really thinks he wronged her, I think it would be a better idea to actually have a legal and private prosecution rather than this frenzied media/industry and fan prosecution.

Don't you think that those comments are taken out of context even if he made those? We do come home and share our honest thoughts and gossip with our family right. And those comments when taken out of context can really spoil your reputation. It's not like he was influencing directors and PDs or being malicious about it.....is my take on this.

And that was exactly when KSH went to Pohang to shoot HCCC. So all I thought was she could've done it at that time itself or even in June july. But anyways he didn't tackle the relationship properly and who knows even if he had tackled it by the books given the situation, there's no saying that she wouldn't have lashed out later like this.
I am saddened by how this has destroyed his career and this applies to her career as well. Since there's no proven criminal offence, cheating involved it should be kept apart from both of their careers. They should may be even legally try out 'forced abortion' allegation.

Look all I am saying is that he is also an individual. Well I agree his image was crafted in that way and all of his co-stars and staff had always praised his conduct . Even the fans were happy with the way he was treating them. I have been his fan before Start-Up even happened. I have watched him 2D1N for 95 episodes and I not saying he wasn't wrong in his relationship with his ex. But he can't be put on pedestal because of his failed relationships. The good boy persona started from his portrayal of Han Ji Pyeong character and how the public perceived it. It was then on that that persona was built up by his agency. He was always goofy, not shrewd and making tons of mistakes even in 2D1N and he has always displayed accountability for it. Hence it was just solidified. But the expectation that this person is with zero flaws and would never go wrong is not fair. And that's what gives rise to toxic fan culture which is there in south korea.

People gave him that image. He never claimed he was a saint.

The timing of this whole thing is just so manipulated. There are some POVs that she was considerate to the staff and waited to finish. But if that was the case she could've very well come out before HCCC and they would have dropped him. I thought it's more than just jilted feelings. It's also about the her hurt ego because of his rejection and seeing him becoming even more successful now. And that is also not good. Do we know what she was like in the relationship?

I don't agree that he didn't deserve the fame. He very much deserved it because he is an absolutely gifted actor and entertainer.
I very much agree that the relationship failed because of both of their failings but it also had nothing to do with his professional life. The statement is her account of the events from the perspective of a jilted lover.
We will likely never get his account of the story because no matter what he will be blamed for shaming the victim. And there are always two sides to the story.
I understand the agony about the abortion but she had a choice. She is not being accountable for her own mistakes in the relationship like she shouldn't have allowed unprotected sex, then in the end she still had a choice to keep the baby. They were dating for a good 10-11 months after that and if he wants to end the relationship whatever might be the reason, he has a right to...what is the point of being blackmailed into staying in the relationship when it's over for you. Should people be staying in unhappy relationships because they once promised their partner that they wanted to marry. Given how busy he was for the whole of last year there was no way he had time to date at all.
He wasn't abusive, there was no rape or violence that he is alleged for. The manipulation into abortion is also an one sided account. Who are we to say that his feelings of wanting to marry weren't genuine just because they broke up later on? I don't see why he would've stayed in the relationship after the abortion if he had only malicious intent.
Her account of the story is not the full story (the badmouthing part is another one which is taken out of context, like we all crib about our colleagues after a tiring day and for her to accuse him being backstabber is again not correct in this context and just raised out of spite and hatred)
I don't agree with the character crucifixion based on those grounds and his professional career impact for those reasons.

I just want to know, if he was a corporate employee, would she have written this kind of letter to his employer?

Yeah there are consequences but this is a private matter which should've been handled privately.

Yeah I agree in fact. I am extremely sad about 2D1N. Still can't believe this is happening. I absolutely love him in 2D1N. Can't believe how a one sided jaded account of a past relationship has ruined his professional life. No doubt there was a failing from both sides in the relationship. But then who am I to judge who's right and wrong in their relationship when it's all a private matter between them.