Yes that is the case romantic actions are romantic if the person is interested and unromantic and illegal if it's…
What can I do? That’s exactly the issue — shows like Love Alarm and many others blur the lines between sexual assault and romance, just because the guy is conventionally attractive. A kiss without consent magically becomes “romantic” if he looks good and broods a little. And the worst part? Viewers eat it up.
So now we’ve got a generation of self-centered narcissists who believe that as long as they’re good looking, any move they make will be seen as “passion” — not harassment. That’s not just bad storytelling, it’s dangerous messaging.
So yeah, I’m not mad at shows that actually teach consent. I’m mad at the hypocrisy — the double standard that excuses harassment when it’s done by a handsome lead, and then crucifies others for far less when it fits the narrative.
If we’re going to teach consent, then let’s actually teach it — consistently. Not just when it’s convenient or when the guy isn’t wearing a leather jacket and smirking.
Well first get close to a guyGive him wrong signals Then lean on his side when he is asleepAnd then accuse him…
He was literally asleep when she leaned way too close — whether she meant well or not, invading someone's personal space like that is still a choice. He misread it in that moment, thought she was making a move, and the second it was cleared up, he backed off. He never even kissed her — he tried to, because of a misunderstanding. There was no assault. No force. Just a moment of awkward confusion.
Now suddenly she wants to press charges? That feels less like justice and more like revenge. It’s like two coworkers flirt, drink, kiss — date for a month — and when it ends badly, one suddenly rewrites that first kiss as non-consensual. That’s dangerous.
Misunderstandings happen. But reframing consensual or unclear moments after a fallout just to hurt the other person isn’t empowerment — it’s manipulation.
And the irony? You people are out here trying to frame a fictional character for sexual harassment when it didn’t even happen — but turn around and defend actual predators like Lee Geung-young. Make it make sense.
Well first get close to a guyGive him wrong signals Then lean on his side when he is asleepAnd then accuse him…
Funny how everyone says “a married man shouldn't read signals” — yes, that's what he's supposed to do. But what about all those dramas where the married ML is out there catching feelings and having full-blown affairs, and it's all shown with soft lighting and sad music?
Like:
Love Affairs in the Afternoon — both leads married, yet somehow we’re made to root for them?
On the Way to the Airport — emotional cheating dressed up as “deep connection.”
I understand your frustration, but you're placing all the blame on the man as if he's supposed to be a mind reader.…
Well a married man wanted to have an affair outside, many of this man do that... I don't drive my female colleague around unless I know them at personal level, I had called cabs for few of them but I won't give them rides, unless they are friends or I might have any other personal relation with them. He was asleep and when he open his eye he saw her very close to him.. He misunderstanding her fastening seat belt into attempt to kiss...
You are getting it all wrongBut in *The Unwritten*? A male coworker misreads her leaning into his personal space........in…
I understand your frustration, but you're placing all the blame on the man as if he's supposed to be a mind reader. He was asleep when she leaned in, and without any context, physical proximity can easily be misinterpreted—especially when it’s coming from someone who’s been emotionally close for months.
You say she didn’t initiate closeness—but working late consistently, letting him drive her home every night, never setting boundaries, and acting emotionally intimate all send mixed signals. He’s a married man, and she knew that. So why maintain that closeness if not emotionally invested? That’s not how most professional relationships work.
And as for him being a "photocopy of her dead father"—sure, she saw him that way, but how would he know that? There’s no rulebook saying, “if you look like someone’s dad, they see you platonically.” He doesn’t magically know he’s a father figure to her unless she tells him. If anything, it would confuse him more.
He absolutely crossed the line when he framed her—no defending that—but let’s not pretend everything before that was clear-cut or one-sided. Emotional responsibility works both ways.
The main story is pretty basic. A young tutor/nanny and her widower boss fall in love in the most nonsensical way He fell in love with her when she was 12-13 and he was a married man, that is not basic at all
This is true recently I had trouble watching again kdramas tried Japanese but they suck alot u can't even feel…
Whole Dorama can't rely on a single person actor, Kentaro might give his best but it what if others just follow director and do there parts without any emotional investment in character.
whatever that Father did is just obeyed king's order..! you go ask that bastard king..! who told him to go onto…
not directly knocking Jang-gang's own wife only because it's Jang-gang's body..!
Find other woman was hactic when he had a ready wife to do his thing why would he waste time on new woman ? Helping isn't a sin, but being an idiot and then abondaning your son and run away like a cockroach is a sin.
whatever that Father did is just obeyed king's order..! you go ask that bastard king..! who told him to go onto…
not directly knocking Jang-gang's own wife only because it's Jang-gang's body..!
Find other woman was hactic when he had a ready wife to do his thing why would he waste time on new woman ? Helping isn't a sin, but being an idiot and then abondaning your son and run away like a cockroach is a sin.
no i clearly watch what FL did in ep 5,6 and 7 to defend her loser ex. so whatever she do to pretend to be in love with the rich guy now doesn't count as real old shit chef forgive SML(cameo) FL give him a last blow job in car.....
I totally get your frustration with the drama’s nosedive after such a promising start. Shin Hye Sun’s acting was a highlight, but the narrative fumbled hard around episode 5, as you said. The forced romance with Hyun-oh felt off—his “love” reeked of obsession, not affection, and his inability to communicate or justify his actions made him insufferable. Joo-yeon’s arc with Eun-ho/Hyeri had so much more depth and authenticity, and it’s maddening the writers didn’t lean into that chemistry. The handling of Eun-ho’s dissociative identity disorder was a letdown too—Hyeri’s sudden disappearance without resolution felt lazy and disrespectful to the condition’s complexity, especially when compared to Kill Me, Heal Me.Your point about the drama’s potential is spot-on, but I’d argue it was doomed from the start with the baffling choice to cast a main lead with a sexual assault history in what was marketed as a “healing” drama. That framing alone sets up a disconnect—who finds healing in a story centered around someone with such a morally reprehensible past? It taints the narrative’s intent and makes the “healing” label feel like a hollow marketing ploy. The mishandling of serious themes like trauma and mental health, paired with that casting choice, ensured this drama was never going to live up to its early promise or be a contender for best of the year. Low expectations are definitely the way to go if anyone still wants to watch it.
Haha, that “29+ rated K-drama” label definitely sounds like someone mixed up their age ratings with subscription tiers or VIP clubs. Like—what’s next? A drama rated 39+ with lifetime trauma? 😂
Calling something 29+ honestly makes it sound like:
You need to submit your tax returns before you can watch it.
The plot only unlocks once you’ve experienced at least three heartbreaks and a caffeine addiction.
Or yes—maybe it’s so steamy, even R-rated isn’t enough, and now we’re into the “are you emotionally stable enough for this?” territory.
As for the "does it include anal" bit—😅 well, if we’re reaching European arthouse cinema levels of “maturity,” then maybe the censors just threw their hands up and said: “You know what? 29+. No kids, no teens, no 20s—this is for the tax-paying ajummas and Ajhussi's only.”
So now we’ve got a generation of self-centered narcissists who believe that as long as they’re good looking, any move they make will be seen as “passion” — not harassment. That’s not just bad storytelling, it’s dangerous messaging.
So yeah, I’m not mad at shows that actually teach consent. I’m mad at the hypocrisy — the double standard that excuses harassment when it’s done by a handsome lead, and then crucifies others for far less when it fits the narrative.
If we’re going to teach consent, then let’s actually teach it — consistently. Not just when it’s convenient or when the guy isn’t wearing a leather jacket and smirking.
Now suddenly she wants to press charges? That feels less like justice and more like revenge.
It’s like two coworkers flirt, drink, kiss — date for a month — and when it ends badly, one suddenly rewrites that first kiss as non-consensual. That’s dangerous.
Misunderstandings happen. But reframing consensual or unclear moments after a fallout just to hurt the other person isn’t empowerment — it’s manipulation.
And the irony? You people are out here trying to frame a fictional character for sexual harassment when it didn’t even happen — but turn around and defend actual predators like Lee Geung-young. Make it make sense.
Like:
Love Affairs in the Afternoon — both leads married, yet somehow we’re made to root for them?
On the Way to the Airport — emotional cheating dressed up as “deep connection.”
I don't drive my female colleague around unless I know them at personal level,
I had called cabs for few of them but I won't give them rides, unless they are friends or I might have any other personal relation with them.
He was asleep and when he open his eye he saw her very close to him..
He misunderstanding her fastening seat belt into attempt to kiss...
will surely finish it by ignoring that Fake sexual harassment case
You say she didn’t initiate closeness—but working late consistently, letting him drive her home every night, never setting boundaries, and acting emotionally intimate all send mixed signals. He’s a married man, and she knew that. So why maintain that closeness if not emotionally invested? That’s not how most professional relationships work.
And as for him being a "photocopy of her dead father"—sure, she saw him that way, but how would he know that? There’s no rulebook saying, “if you look like someone’s dad, they see you platonically.” He doesn’t magically know he’s a father figure to her unless she tells him. If anything, it would confuse him more.
He absolutely crossed the line when he framed her—no defending that—but let’s not pretend everything before that was clear-cut or one-sided. Emotional responsibility works both ways.
He fell in love with her when she was 12-13 and he was a married man, that is not basic at all
Give him wrong signals
Then lean on his side when he is asleep
And then accuse him of sexual harrasment...
Kentaro might give his best but it what if others just follow director and do there parts without any emotional investment in character.
its like a corpse walking but no soul,
Japanese are best at sucking soul from korean dramas
Find other woman was hactic when he had a ready wife to do his thing why would he waste time on new woman ?
Helping isn't a sin, but being an idiot and then abondaning your son and run away like a cockroach is a sin.
Find other woman was hactic when he had a ready wife to do his thing why would he waste time on new woman ?
Helping isn't a sin, but being an idiot and then abondaning your son and run away like a cockroach is a sin.
so whatever she do to pretend to be in love with the rich guy now doesn't count as real
old shit chef forgive SML(cameo) FL give him a last blow job in car.....
Calling something 29+ honestly makes it sound like:
You need to submit your tax returns before you can watch it.
The plot only unlocks once you’ve experienced at least three heartbreaks and a caffeine addiction.
Or yes—maybe it’s so steamy, even R-rated isn’t enough, and now we’re into the “are you emotionally stable enough for this?” territory.
As for the "does it include anal" bit—😅 well, if we’re reaching European arthouse cinema levels of “maturity,” then maybe the censors just threw their hands up and said: “You know what? 29+. No kids, no teens, no 20s—this is for the tax-paying ajummas and Ajhussi's only.”