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Is she falling too? The story seems interesting but I don't do one sided relationships where one person is way more in love.

Yup, not just cdramas but kdramas nowadays are the exact same way, and like you said it's not a plot point they act like it's completely normal and even how it should be that a relationship is the ML doing literally everything and being crazily in love but the FL barely acts like she tolerates him.... You can barely find a handful of dramas where the women are actually proactive in their relationships.

Thank you, because if we take this actor's other works for example, then I saw a couple of them like I may love you and You are my secret and people said they were equal/mutual and they really weren't even close. IMLY she liked him first before the show started and then almost immediately it flipped and he spent the entire show running after her, YAMS again their whole dynamic was him putting a thousand percent into the rlsp and getting very little back and I don't find that romantic no matter the gender.

Genuine question, is it actually mutual love and understanding? As in they show up and support and love each other just as much with their actions and words or it's the male lead doing 10x more like most dramas. If their roles were reversed would you still feel it's as equal?

I want to watch it but I've noticed a lot of people's definition (not saying that's you necessarily) of mutual means ml doing 80% and fl 15% on her best day as long long as she's not awful to him they call it a day. And as someone who prefers equal, both madly in love ships not just the guy it's caused me to watch a lot of unbalanced relationships which is why I've learned to ask, apologies for the long ass question.

Thank you, I actually like my couples to be as equally obsessed and devoted to eo so I'll pass on this one.

That's totally fine, no matter how innocent it is I just need it to be actually equal and mutually devoted because I'm beyond exhausted of every otp being an obsessed deeply devoted ml and a barely acts like she likes him fl.

I wanted to check this out and I was wondering is the FL as into the ML as he is into her? Because from your comment it seems like another drama where he is a puppy whose whole life is about FL and it's not reciprocated and I am so tired of those rlsps it's all we get in dramas now....

This sounds lovely, can I ask how mutual and devoted the couple is? Is it equal devotion like something like Wanna Be where the FL is as giving and supportive or more from the MLs side like most cdramas?

I think we're at the point where it's almost always like this. Every ml is a completely devoted doting madly in love saint towards the fl, to such extremes that it's just insanely over the top and it's every single one of them and almost every fl is just... there, her participation in the relationship is a blip at best, that's if she's not actively treating him like dog crap and a doormat rolled into one.

I honestly don't think it was the case even before ep 10's ending, sure compared to this fl because that bar is six feet under but their relationship was for the most part him being there for her as she said herself.

Kdrama writers have well and truly forgotten what romance is, that the most fundamental element is that it's TWO in love and devoted to each other. Because what even are these dramas lately, every ml is profoundly and madly in love, always putting the fl first whether it's over his job, life, anything and everything and almost every fl is giving absolutely nothing, asking for 50-50 is a pipe dream, they're not even doing 80-20.

It's baffling, there's always been an imbalance since romance as a genre is aimed at us as women and that requires a heavy dose of fantasy but they used to try to write a romance as an actual love story instead of just self insert fantasy. The last few years they've dropped that pretense, the last couple of months alone we've had To my beloved thief, Positively yours, Our universe, Practical guide to love, Boyfriend on demand and now this drama and it's the exact same thing.

Every single one of these dramas has a ML that falls almost immediately, he's crazy about FL and would move heaven and earth for her; the FL on the other hand seems exerts the barest of minimum effort and her efforts seem to begin and end with saying thank you for being so obsessed with me I'll maybe let you worship me some more. Every drama has a 2ML that FL spends half her time dating or almost dating while ML loses his mind with jealousy. I don't even know what's the point anymore, if any of these dramas were the other around they'd get canceled expeditiously and anyone looking to watch an actual love story instead of a FL and her perfect robot down bad loser is left with 3 dramas a year.

You gotta love kdramas, whenever a ML breaks up with a FL, even when misguided it's always out of love because he doesn't want her to suffer with/because of him for some hidden reason but most of the time when it's a FL doing the break up it's "me me me".

Which is fine people can break up for any reason but this is fiction? This is supposedly romance? We're meant to be rooting for these people and feeling hurt at their separation but how is this in any shape or form worth rooting for ? If a ml did this we'd be calling for his head. And of course we have to have the love triangle with a 2ML, how else would the audience self insert.

Kdramas really be acting like they completely forgot how to do romance, that it takes 2 people deeply in love to tell a good love story and not just a ML always giving and giving and forgiving and loving more. All we get now is love triangles where fl is deciding until ep 10, breakups for no reason, loser in love mls giving a 1000% and geting 2% in return....

Thank you, no you didn't I wanted to know about the actual dynamic to see if I'll watch it. Since most people only care about what the ml is doing for the fl and seeing on twitter most of the tag is filled with posts about the ml and how much he's doing for the fl every episode but nothing about the other way around and that's not my thing. If it's not true equality in care and love and actions then I'm not interested tbh.

Thank you, it seems like a great drama but everything I'm seeing on twitter is posts about him doing things for her and taking care of her in so many ways but it doesn't seem reciprocal and I don't go for that kind of relationship that's why i asked so as to know if the posts were misleading, i.e are we in Hidden love, LBFAD territory where it's 50/50 and the love is actually equal and they adore eo and do for each other just as much or are we in First frost, Serendipity's embrace territory where it's ML 95%/ FL 5%.

Can I ask how's the romance so far? Is it mutual with both of them being as in love and caring for each other or the ml being in love by himself and being read to do anything and everything for fl while she's just there like most kdramas lately.

I wanted to ask how's the romance so far? Is it mutual with both of them being as in love and caring for each other or the ml being in love by himself and being ready to do anything and everything for fl while she's just there which is the dynamic in a lot of kdramas lately and it doesn't feel like love or romance.

Why does he love her though? He just met her... It's all about her choosing but why is he choosing her? This is fiction so it has to actually make sense beyond "love at first sight"...

I would've preferred if she broke it off herself, because wow their relationship is so insanely one sided so far, he's crazy about her and she's just like... whatever. Would've been great to see her as in love with him as he is with her but that looks like it's never happening since we're more than halfway through and everyone is talking about how obsessed he is and the most we can muster up about her feeling is "oh she's starting to realize maybe she likes him"...

Your comment made me interested in this, but a question if you please, is she really as supportive and caring towards him as he is her though? Because the impression I got from the other comments is that he's way more in love with her and even the way you phrased it emphasizing his support and I prefer couples where they're both as supportive and in love.