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Exactly, they are literal teenagers in high school at the start. No teenager is going to be 100% healthy in their actions. It’s part of being a teenager and I guarantee the people commenting were also far from perfect in high school. Btw I like your profile pic. ^_^

In general, like you, I'm not a fan of the word "toxic," but I used it just because it's been thrown around so much that I wanted to address it. There are dramas, including BLs, that contain depictions of abuse, physical and emotional (not naming names), and I think it's just ignorant for people to praise these characters and say their actions are completely fine and then come and throw the word "toxic" around for characters who are not at all abusive. I guess it offends me personally because I know what it actually feels like to be abused.

I know it's pointless to try to change the minds of people, but sometimes it makes me feel better to just speak my mind. <3

Help. I want to continue enjoying this but I kind of have a trauma with strangling/choking (not going into details but a “man I’m related to” tried to end my life this way). I’m not one to get triggered so I don’t know why I’m so disturbed, maybe it’s the acting, like it was a little too good, and made me feel like I was back reliving that memory and it kind of put me in a dark place. Anyway, the point is, I want to continue watching this with enjoyment but I’m not sure I can at this point. Any advice how to get past this? Not looking for comments like “White deserved it because blah blah whatever.” I’m not trying to debate, just genuinely curious if anyone has any ideas how to un-trigger yourself? Like how to separate yourself from the story.

The way people call this completely non-toxic BL toxic and then the BLs that are actually "toxic" and full of emotional and physical abuse are just fine with them make me feel like I AM LIVING in a universe all by myself.

I think “harass” and “humiliate,” are two things that never happened in the drama. And the reason I think this is because neither of those things happened in this drama.

In all honesty, in reality there are people who are simply messed up and no amount of therapy is going to change that, so the only option is to be with someone who can accept you and all your negative qualities and weird mindset. I for one have a fairly debilitating mental illness and therapy has not helped me in the slightest. If I could find someone who understood and accepted that I’m weird and never going to change, that would actually be ideal. It is only in a perfect world where therapy can solve all issues (and this coming from someone with a bachelors degree in psychology, who does strongly believes in therapy and it’s usefulness for SOME individuals).

In terms of older bls, really the only one I could say I enjoyed enough to watch more than once is Itsuka no kimi e, but it’s super short, like an hour long. Bls used to be even shorter than they are these days.

I mean I’ve been watching them but I don’t know that they’re worth recommending. Most of them have been kind of meh for me. Unless you’re really not picky lol

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AVzRk61tvmo

I've been watching BL for like 12+ years and I love it but nothing compares to this one. It's close to perfect. Usually with my favorites I have to "overlook" certain aspects that weren't great, but with this one...nope.

I feel exactly the same <3

I agree, it's like the people calling it toxic were paying absolutely NO attention and totally missed the point. I also love this drama so so much.

OMG me too I love it so much it's crazy!!!!! I feel like I could keep watching it repeatedly forever lol

The Queen’s Thief series is one of my most favorite ever!

It was basically a cliffhanger where they're trying to imply that actually a tengu did appear when sensei was a kid but without them actually saying it just leaving it as a mystery and not explaining ANYTHING. Basically, no ending.

They did not just end it there like that. WHAT HAVE I BEEN WAITING all this time for then???

No point then….I only liked the 1st season because of Song Kang’s portrayal of the character.

I think you will come to understand him. I didn’t at first either.

Yes, give it a go

lmao that was my thought exactly