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Sang Yan isn’t stupid he has matured emotional intelligence, which is why he understands Wen Yi Fan better than anyone else. It’s easy to call his actions foolish, but not everyone reacts to love and conflict in the same way. His patience and understanding don’t make him weak; they show his matured approach to relationships.

I see where you're coming from, but I have to slightly disagree. The dynamics in Hidden Love (HL) and First Frost are quite different, especially when it comes to the female leads. In HL, Duan Jiaxu never had the same kind of trauma or fear that would lead him to push away Sang Zhi, whereas in First Frost, Wei Yifan's trauma is deeply connected to her actions and decisions. The contrast is that Yifan’s behavior isn’t about rejecting Sang Yan’s love, but more about her own fear and inability to open up fully due to past trauma. This makes her relationship with Sang Yan feel more complex and at times, uneven, but not necessarily in a negative way.

Yifan’s struggle is about learning to trust and let someone in, while in HL, there wasn’t as much of a barrier in their relationship. So, while both leads experience trauma, the way it affects the relationships and the balance of power between them is different.

The show has already provided several key moments and interactions that reveal why she behaves the way she does. Her actions, especially leaving Sang Yan, stem from her deep-rooted trauma, and while it’s not always verbalized through monologues, her silence speaks volumes about the fear and pain she’s experiencing. The drama gives us glimpses of her internal struggles, particularly in the moments where she’s faced with tough choices or when her past trauma resurfaces.

Rather than needing more direct monologues, I think the drama has already done a good job of showing Yifan’s complexity through her actions and interactions with others. It’s not always about explaining everything in words, but about showing how her past shapes her present behavior, even when it’s not perfect or understandable at times. This approach allows most of us to read between the lines and interpret her journey in a more nuanced way.

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I see where you're coming from, and I understand your frustration, but I still have a different take on it. While I agree that Wei Yifan’s decision to leave for the second time felt like a big setback, but its better to acknowledge that trauma doesn’t always allow for clear, rational decisions. the drama emphasized how deep Yifan’s struggles were, and that’s why she acted the way she did, even though it hurt Sang Yan.

But I don't think it’s as one-sided as it might seem. Sang Yan did stay by her side, and while that’s incredibly admirable, it doesn’t mean the relationship wasn't a two-way street. Yifan's trauma is what pushed her to make difficult, sometimes hurtful decisions, and she’s not without fault. The problem is that her actions were rooted in a place of fear and vulnerability, not disregard for Sang Yan. If anything, it shows how much she needs to heal before she can fully return to him.

I also understand that it’s frustrating to see her leave again after she promised not to. But leaving for six months, as painful as it was, was part of her journey just as Sang Yan’s patience was part of his. If Sang Yan had left in this situation, it could have disrupted the growth both of them needed to go through. So while it might feel like he’s paying a bigger emotional price, it's also about Yifan needing that time to fight her own battles, even though it hurts him. That’s the reality of a relationship affected by trauma.

This drama isn’t just about simping it’s about showing a different kind of love, one that’s patient, unconditional, and deep. It’s not about expecting something in return but about standing by someone through their most vulnerable moments. Fictional stories allow us to explore these complex emotions and relationships in ways that we might not see as often in real life, but that doesn’t mean they lack value. Plus, it's this kind of deep, unwavering commitment that adds emotional weight to the story and makes it more compelling.

The comments calling the male lead a "simp" seem to be rooted in the idea that such devotion isn’t realistic. But with billions of people in the world, there are absolutely men who stay true to the one they love, no matter the circumstances. If Yifan had broken up with him because she was tired of his dedication, that would’ve been one thing, but in the context of the story, she made decisions based on her own feelings at the time even though it ended up hurting both of them.

Unconditional love isn’t exclusive to any gender, and just because someone shows unwavering support doesn’t make them less deserving of respect. Sang Yan’s character isn’t a "simp" he’s simply someone who’s there for Yifan, deeply understanding her struggles. Her flaws are there, but his patience and support reflect a healthy and committed relationship.

It’s similar to Hidden Love where the female lead stood by the male lead because it was her perspective and her love story. In WFTY, the female lead supported their male counterparts because they didn’t carry the same traumas. On the flip side, in The First Frost , Sang Yan is Yifan's anchor, supporting her as she navigates her own wounds, and this dynamic makes the story better. I love both characters in this drama.

Sang Yan’s development may not be as overtly dramatic or obvious as Wen Yifan’s, but that doesn’t mean it’s non-existent. His growth is shown through his unwavering support, patience, and the way he chooses to deal with his own feelings, even when it’s painful. His character is a quiet one; he doesn’t need to shout for attention or have flashy moments of growth, but he evolves in how he deals with the challenges Yifan presents. His selflessness and ability to love without asking for much in return reflect a deeper, more nuanced growth.

His devotion isn’t about simping it’s about commitment to someone he believes in, even when the road is hard. That’s not a weakness, but a strength that isn’t often highlighted in dramas. Growth doesn’t always have to mean drastic changes; sometimes it’s about endurance, understanding, and patience, which Sang Yan exemplifies.

While I understand the point about both characters suffering in their own ways, it’s better to acknowledge the depth of Wen Yifan’s trauma, which cannot be compared to others like Duan Jiaxu and Zhang Lurang. Wen Yifan’s experiences, especially with the threat of sexual violence, have shaped her actions and her struggles in a much more complex way. It's not just about love; it's about her safety, her sense of self-worth, and her trust in others, which was broken long before Sang Yan came into the picture.

Sang Yan’s pain is valid, but it’s also crucial to remember that his role is not just as someone who supports the female lead. He is given moments to heal, grow, and experience his own emotional struggles. It’s not about one-sided healing. Both characters are dealing with deep, internal conflicts, but they are also allowed to navigate those individually. Just because he’s been supportive doesn’t mean he has to completely forgo his own healing process.

Trauma is not a competition, and expecting both characters to heal equally in the same way is unrealistic. This story isn’t just about romantic love; it’s about a deeper journey of personal growth, and that’s why the focus is on Wen Yifan’s process of healing.

It’s not doing badly here its is mostly just a lot of heated debates. The majority of international fans seem to understand her character better. Ii believe its mainly on Weibo where the discussions are more intense. I just checked Douban, and it’s trending from third to second place, with the ratings still at the same position. In fact, it even increased by 1% from 5.4. The comments on Douban are more positive compared to here, while people tend to complain more on Weibo.

Wei Yifan’s decision wasn’t made with the intention of hurting the male lead. Even with the shift in the plot, her actions are still rooted in a character carrying unhealed wounds and lingering fear. She chose to be with Sang Yan because she felt ready to move forward, unaware that her past would resurface so suddenly. It wasn’t the best choice, and regret will likely follow, but considering the story as a whole, she’s a character who deserves a second chance.

You should take your time and happy watching 💗

Thank you, I will. It's really heartbreaking her decisions weren't the best, but the amount of shaming is just too much, especially for a character like her.

Do not reply to my comment if your intention is to cause heated arguments. I barely comment here, but I’ve been keeping up with the drama and this comment section. Before this scene was even added, Yifan has constantly been criticized, and honestly, I can’t stay quiet anymore.

I read a comment here calling her a failure, but how can that be said after everything she’s been through? She already has so much to carry on her own, and the last thing she wants is for her relationship to revolve around her pain. That’s part of why she feels guilty hurting him was never her intention. But the truth is, no matter how much someone loves another person, unresolved wounds don’t just go away. Until there’s real healing, it’s hard to fully enjoy happiness with someone else.

I haven’t read the novel, but I do understand Yifan here. When she got together with Sang Yan, she truly hoped to be happy with him. She didn’t expect the past she tried so hard to escape to resurface and pull her back down. For people who’ve been through trauma, opening up isn’t easy. There’s fear, shame, and the constant worry that being honest will change how others see them or worse, that their past might be used against them.

What makes a difference here is that Sang Yan is the kind of person who gives her the space to feel safe and supported. In time, Yifan will come to realize that leaving him wasn’t the solution she thought it was. And her decision to change her career and return to ballet might be part of what helps her heal too. Not for him, but for herself. Focusing on something she loves could be exactly what she needs whether it becomes her long-term path or just something that helps her feel whole again until she’s ready for whatever comes next.

So good

Dont mind this toxic user, always finding a way to fight with people

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I don’t know about you, but I did like the plot of the drama except for the last part and I didn’t watch it because of oppa, I actually got to know the cast here. Ratings are subjective.