Lee C

SJ will always be my jam, but his talent is wasted in this effort!

So who did the sis-in -law actually have an affair with?

At least they spared her a bowl cut! 😆

Know what you mean!

Like Little Red Riding Hood’s kindness! 😁

True-but it’s sexier!

No Gummy has big loafers to fill!

You are comparing apples and oranges. One should never keep quiet about physical, emotional or sexual abuse, none of which were present in this situation.

No, it was not the right thing to do, as we had no need to know.

Good people make mistakes.

And that is all I was focusing on.

I have no clue where I conveyed hatred. And if I did it’s towards the media.
His assertion to wait until they are ready and married is a sensible one.
It’s not unusual for couples to go their separate ways after an abortion. They drift apart or do some hard thinking about what they want and don’t want out of life. This couple wanted different things and at different times. If you cannot get what you need from a partner it is best and healthier to move on. I don’t understand the wisdom in suffering…
Since she waited a year before going to the press, she harboured many damaging emotions that only hurt herself. Had she spoken to a professional, she ought to have been well on her way to rebuilding her life and in a good place. Then seeing him onscreen might not have not been such an irritant.
For all we know, he may have been sincere in wanting to marry her but had a change of heart. And I know it takes a great deal of courage to tell someone you don’t feel the same way. And part of that is not wanting to hurt the person in doing so.
You are assuming she was dealing with the situation on her own as we have no concept of what her support system was at the time. And him appearing happy should have little impact or relevance to her life.
It’s almost like saying he is happy for the purpose of hurting her.
Bottom line both parties chose poor ways of dealing with the situation
and each is responsible for dealing with their own emotions.

What’s at issue here is quite specific. That there is a mechanism by which you can destroy a human being and take away their livelihood. And if the accusations are untrue it becomes more of a crime. The person’s reputation is tarnished either way. I have read other posts where people cite other scandals not realizing the accused was acquitted. It remains an albatross to the wrongly accused. What exactly does the media gain by posting the private affairs of others? I would like to see a law where they have to compensate the injured party, regardless of what they printed being true. Maybe then they would pause before releasing such information. Is blackmail passé? 😝 (Clearly I am kidding here.)

This woman has no sense of propriety! She actually revealed their intimate conversations while having sex to justify how she became pregnant. I am stunned.
How does anyone show their face anywhere knowing everyone knows this much about them? He may have to become a recluse or leave town. The punishment does not fit the so-called ‘crime’!
I wish I knew what the answer was to protect celebrities from people threatening their careers by exposing situations that occur regularly to the general public.Unfortunately we don’t have courts overseeing acts of immortality. Does this woman think her scenario was somehow unique?
Unfortunately she unknowingly taught him how she wished to be treated by constantly pandering to his moods. Offering to have the child in secret until he was ready to make an announcement was going too far. Did she think marriage or the child would change him somehow?
If either partner has major hesitations they won’t be a fit parent. So why.set up the child to bear the brunt of the consequences of that reluctance?
It seems to me all three dodged a bullet. The potential child escaping a miserable existence, him for being linked with someone so filled with vengeance and her having a life of disappointment with someone incapable of fulfilling her romantic fantasies.

If only had gone to counselling, instead of the press, the healing for both could have started long ago. I wonder how the media can sleep at night or look itself in the mirror?

Here we go again! At no time did he gaslight her. Find out what the word means.

It would have meant far worse consequences for the child to be brought into the world under these circumstances!

And for how long in a relationship should he have remained a gentleman? Totally unrealistic to expect such a thing! She should have remained a lady and refused him makes as much sense.

Nobody gaslit anyone! Gaslighting involves making someone doubt their sanity to the point where they can no longer distinguish between what is real and what is not. This psychological term is being misused to describe all manners of behaviour now.

This is all so sad. Considering this happened over a year ago, I would have thought this young woman would have recognised the need for counselling to deal with the many emotions churning inside of her. Which are to be expected.
It would have been a far healthier choice than to take something precious away from the person who took something away from her.
When something bad happens in our lives, we need to ask ourselves if we contributed in any way. Only then can we gain perspective and act accordingly.

You cannot ‘gaslight’ someone to get an abortion! This word gets misused all the time! It means to ‘create doubt in a person to the point where they can no longer discern between what is real and what is not, resulting in them questioning their sanity.’ It’s safe to say that never happened!

I'm was questioning the same thing. Any more than you can force a man to get a vasectomy! I read he pleaded with her through tears. So much for forcing...