DramaAndCandy

Ok i just watched 10 mins of ep 9 and i realized I don't want to watch mi-jo and her sadness anymore. I am going to wait until it's over so i can forward her scenes. Every damn episode is all about her feelings. First she was sad because her friend is dying, sadder than the friend herself. Then she was sad and angry that seonwoo's dad said something. Then she was sad for a whole episode after hearing about about biological mother. And now she is sad after meeting the mother when a dying friend, an unemployed friend and a boyfriend having family issues are comforting her. I am sorry but I am beginning to not like her character very much.

Thank you!

Where is this chart? I have seen it mentioned a couple of times. I thought it was the list of cast at firsr.

Yup. I said it a few episodes ago. She is manipulative as hell. Just because the husband is pathetic does not make her any better.

I was going to point out the same thing about daughter being old enough to know about their food allergies and carrying epipen. But i also understand she is barely a teenager in front of strangers, sadly including the father, and chose to get along rather than speak up. Poor kid stuck between not wanting to make unhappy but wanting to bond with the dad.

I am sorry but I am not buying that she is a victim although i agree he was not a great husband either. I am not sure why she stayed in the relationship for 10 long years when she was unhappy with his decisions. She has been passive for 10 years and suddenly found her voice when he decided to return and she clearly had a voice, no mincing words when she was criticizing him for wearing shorts and dropping a cup while trying to help her. If she has a certain way of doing things, she could have easily explained that to him instead of making him feel like an invalid. So she was willing to put up with the marriage as long as he is supporting them financially but without being a bother to them and not taking space in the house? She clearly expressed her resentment of his return and as good as kicked him out. I would leave too if my presence was resented and i was constantly being criticized and belittled. But then she turns around and accuses him of cheating with literally zero evidence and blames his leaving on this supposed cheating of his conveniently excusing her own behavior. Abusive and toxic, not to mention trying to control the daughter's life knowing very well tge daughter wants to bond with the father. I am not saying Um is a victim either but he isn't toxic like her. I think the writer wants us to think she is a victim but this is bad script if that was the goal.

The other assistant director's story is much more sympathetic and relatable. If the purpose of these characters is to show various difficult situations womem face in their marriages, better not write them like Um's wife.

Can the writers please make senior forecaster accept his wife's divorce petition so he can be free of her gaslighting? Oh and at least let AD Shin and Tae-Kyung be together without the angst since we have enough for a 100 dramas through the other couples.
I don't give a damn about the rest. They could be endgames or not for all I care

On that note, I hope any young women or men reading these comments realize that partners are not mind readers. What is a problem for you may not be a problem for your partner and they will not know this until you tell them and give them the opportunity to fix it (as long as there is no abuse, there is no fixing that). Empowerment is not just for achievement in career but also in refusing to be the helpless victim and taking charge of your life - whether it is accepting something for what it is, make adjustments and be prepared for consequences or find a new direction.

Not really. He is a clueless guy who actually believed that sending the money home was enough to be a good husband. As annoying as that is from a middle aged man, he is not playing a victim in his head by resenting the wife and just moping around. He listened to the wife and daughter and was willing to help and be a part of the family if they let him. Even at HK's house, it was irritating that he did not know to clean up after himself but once she made it clear he was being careful. Clueless can be forgiven if he is willing to listen and make the effort.
Unfortunately, the same cannot be said for the wife. She has been resenting him for staying away and she is clearly capable of bursting out at him for breaking a cup and then calling him out for being a bad husband. But she has no solution to offer on how he can fix it for her. She is clearly passive aggressive, they don't want solutions to the problems, they just want to keep making the other person feel guilty.

Honestly, i have a feeling he ran away from the house because he wanted escape, not because he is so in love with work. He is evidently not that ambitious for his career considering he is not worried that someone younger is promoted.

I am not sure I feel the empathy for her. She felt abandoned but somehow she kept the marriage going, for who's sake? She nagged at him for being away but neither was she thrilled that he came back home or was even remotely welcoming. But then she was unhappy he left the house and then probably misunderstood he is having an affair and is now trying to control him to stay away from the daughter against her wish to get to know him. She is a complete mess of a character.

They certainly elevated her from the gutter so the audience can have one bad person to focus on, I suppose. KJ was mainly just going along with anything HK wanted in their relationship from what we know. HK's mom mentioned in the first episode that they never had a single fight in their decade long relationship. This was reiterated by KJ during his argument with HK in the office that he was tired all of those years of trying to please HK, maybe because he needed her help with his work? My guess is his self esteem has taken a beating with a high achieving partner and he married YJ because she admired him and that catered to his ego.

For real she is driving me nuts!! Out of all the couples, this couple us the most baffling to me. She loves to be in the victim role forever without trying to find a solution.

You are right!! She did see that picture and it did not look like she forgot her friends. Hmm... back to the drawing board of theories.
I agree the story line has been good so far. I hope they don't mess it up with some flimsy plot.

Did HD have an injury or trauma that resulted in amnesia? I understand that we all forget some memories as we grow old but this one seemed pretty significant. For a teenager who yearned for a school trip, she got to go on her first (probably the last too) trip with a new friend she admired for so long from afar and also with her first love/crush/friend?

I believe the writers are hinting at something with that conversation right after the episode . My new theory - HD probably heard of YJ being in an accident and the trauma caused amnesia. YJ's name could have become a trigger to episodes and that's YJ coule have changed his name to be with her but not become a trigger. Also, just as HD created history, YR should have been part of history too at least as her fiercest rival. Why isn't the daughter recognizing the name? Maybe they were all together when the accident happened and YR didn't survive?

Your gut feeling could have been so wrong in Reply 1988 lol. Especially, if watched it at the time because the actors were all relatively new. 94 and 97 did not have same mystery, they were kinda obvious.

From what i understand, women don't change their names after marriage in korea but children do get father's lastname.

She intimated somewhere along that his lack of money was her reason to not wanting to be with him anymore. Even when she spilled the beans to HK in that final scene, she says he got nothing to show for but still has high self esteem. Just in general, it shows her lack of respect for someone unless they have "something to show for". For me, she is the worst of the two. KJ is insecure and pathetic but it is his emotions that drive him and he sure acts like a spoilt child with no emotional regulation but she comes off as more calculating and manipulative.

Did not like her from the beginning. She nagged when he away and she nagged when he came back and she is unhappy that he left. I understand they were apart but did they never talk on the phone? Write letters? Why didn't she just divorce him if she has been so unhappy with the situation for all these years? If it is to keep their namesake marriage why bother now that he left? Her character is the most unrelatable and annoying in the series.

That whole second guessing his love for her when registering after a grand wedding in front of family and friends was laughable IMO. That too after knowing her husband is in trouble at work and lost the apartment. She is selfish and her husband is pathetic. No sympathy for either of them.

I think the writers wanted to give characters a depth but it was poorly executed. YJ seemed to look down on SW's lack of money/social standing while they were dating. She practically ignored his efforts and his messages and ultimately cheated on and dumped SW. She supposedly fell in love with KJ, had a grand wedding but is having cold feet when it is time to register it? Not to mention she started second guessing her decision to marry the moment KJ lost the apartment. All of this is making her to be a shallow person. Just because she is unhappy her husband is not paying her attention does not make her a victim when she herself pulled back from registering before any of this happened IMO.

That being said, it is very unclear if SW ever made his views on marriage clear. Going by the fact that he hasn't even thought of talking it through with HK until KJ talked to him, i am guessing he did not have the discussion with YJ either and it must have resulted in conflict and distance in the relationship. Also, it seemed like SW was unaware of her cheating when she left him and she did not seem to voice her concerns even then. It feels as though SW's fear of marriage is almost added as an afterthought to his character that doesn't seem to fit in with the rest of his emotional, almost clingy personality which was a red flag on it's own. Wasn't HK supposed to be the one being overly cautious of jumping into another relationship until last episode? It's all just very inconsistent.