Dana7

You perfectly put my exact thoughts in writing!

as an aside, do you think the little boy is YH's? I don't believe so. I think YY just gave some hints to make QS jealous. There was never any question about paternity, and to be frank, if the boy was YH's, YH would have done what he think is right and stay in their life instead of sending them away back to Australia.

So you're saying she should quit her job, a job she's been working hard for for years? I don't care why she wants to stay ( by the way, I don't agree why she sticks with that awful lady boss but that's beside the point), but the fact is she wanted that position and has been working hard for it. She should not be quitting simply because her ex shows up and her husband is jealous. And also, she probably thought that jealousy was resolved after their talk. And once she really got together with YH, she kept all her interactions with TJH work-related (did she go to his house? Did she have dinner with him? Did she wrestle with him? No)

I don't exactly remember what I wrote but I certainly did not imply that QS is using her ex's feelings for her to get cases. QS was not aware of her ex's feeling for her at first (he was being a total jerk to her). She even told YH that her ex probably hated her guts and thought she was two timing him with YH (due to the baby timeline). She's using him as an acquaintance to build her clientele. She knows that TJH is a decent person, unlike the other chauvinistic pigs that she has for partners. TJH is more likely to share a case with her than the others.

You claim that QS knows that YH only loves her. How would QS know that YH only loves her? Hard to be sure when he never answered the only question she ever asked. He said that he would wait for her to make a decision, but then let her see him leave with YY. If you don't think he needed to clarify his relationship with YY to QS then QS sure didn't need to clarify her relationship with TJH to YH (which she tried to do many times). After all, it was also clear to herself that she wasn't interested in TJH. Also, YH is sure trying to force her into admitting that she loves him. That was his conversation with YY when she said QS needed to be pushed and he agreed. If he didn't agree, he would not have followed YY and gotten into the car with her.

Why all the drama? The drama happens because YH was insecure about QS's love for him. The drama happens because QS has commitment issues and can't bring herself to say that she loves him. The drama also happens because after their divorce, he purposely made her feel insecure about his love for her. I acknowledge that her response about being married and not wanting a divorce was not great as a reason why she won't get back with TJH and I totally understand YH's hurt feelings. QS acknowledged herself that she could have saved her marriage had she been able to voice her love for him. So again, I am not opposed to the divorce and I think YH is a great, great guy and he has a point when he wanted to take a step back and let QS decides what she wants. My problem with YH only and only stems from ep39 when he purposely made her believe that he chose YY over her. When he says that he wants to wait for her, he can't just go and act like he's hooking up with another woman. Also, if he wants a future with QS (and he does), it should matter a great deal to him if QS misunderstand him. If he wants to give her the gift of space and time to think about their future together, then he should not make her think that if she doesn't get her act together quickly, she'll lose him. That's my only beef with him (not giving her a straight answer about YY and ultimately making her think that he chose YY)

Yes, and I find it very admirable for him to let her make her choices, to make sure that her marriage to him is not preventing her from getting back with TJH. That, I really like. I don't have a problem with the divorce. What irks me is then he tries to force her into a decision that he knew she wasn't ready to make by making her feel like she was losing him. He never once reassured her about that issue. How does he expect her to calmly make a decision with that threat over her head?

Also, when I say that QS made it clear that she wasn't interested in her ex romantically, I was referring to the time when he actually straight asked her if she still had feelings for TJH and she took a few seconds to consider it and looked into his eyes and answered no. (I think that was right after she felt asleep in TJH office). I agree that when she said that she wouldn't get back with TJH because she was already married to him is a bit misleading, but what I also think is that his question took her a bit by surprise because she assumed that since they were in a relationship (and she takes that relationship very seriously), why would he even think that she was interested in TJH. She did seem to be taken aback by his question that night.

Unless i missed an important part, I don't think YH ever told her he would not be interested in rekindling his romance with YaoYao, at least he wasn't clear enough. When asked the first time, he answered something about a parallel universe (huh?) and when pressed further, he said it's useless to speculate on hypothetical scenario. Sounds like he was trying to dodge a bullet here. Why not come out and say he wasn't interested (like QS did)? Then the second time she asked (after their divorce when he told her he wanted to give her time to think -so really he should be waiting for her) YH didn't even answer her. We know that YH/YY relationship was not romantic because we were privy to their interactions. QS was not. You can't blame her for doubting his feelings toward her when he refuses to answer a simple question. And YH knew about these doubts (she wouldn't be asking him about YY vs her at the restaurant otherwise) and as a matter fact he probably welcomed them as he agreed to let her see him leave the restaurant with YY.

YH/YY breakup was not a clean one either. She left him because he wanted to go to Canada and she was worried because his boss in Canada wanted to introduce him to his daughter. She didn't trust him enough when he said he would not get entangled with the daughter. So it's not like they fell out of love. YH didn't want to break up with her. That was her decision, and there is always a possibility of them getting back together now that she knows that he actually kept his promise about the boss' daughter. I think he even pointed out to her that he kept his promise about not getting together with the daughter.

QS didn't really make any effort to stay away from TJH because to her, that relationship is over. There is nothing to hide. I don't think she saw her interactions with the ex as problematic with YH because of their talk that night when he came to her and apologize. She interacted with TJH only for the sake of her work. What other ways could she have found to get cases? The other chauvinistic male lawyers would not give her any. Her only chance would be from TJH so she could build up a clientele. Most partners bring their own clientele when they join a firm, but she didn't have any so had to try to get some from TJH (who had plenty thanks to his girlfriend and her rich dad).

YH, on the other hand, lied to her about his past with YY. I mean most of us will think that if someone lies about something, that person has something to hide. QS was open enough to let that lie go, but then things kept on piling up. YH not saying that he would choose her, YY dropping some very subtle hints that her kid was YH's (QS didn't believe it but I'm sure there is always a tiny doubt), YY saying that she knows that they were divorced (so YH confided in her while QS didn't tell anybody because to her, their relationship wasn't over), YH leaving the restaurant with YY. All of these would instill doubts in the most confident woman let alone one with trust issues like QS.

Yes YH only had one bad move, but that one was just so uncharacteristic that it stood out. I do like YH a lot though ant that's why I am so annoyed at the way he was written during the last episodes.

Why do you think YH has always been on the losing end in their relationship? Sure, he helps her more because she just needed more help. He was satisfied with his life while she had more ambitions. But when he needed the help, she was there to support him (boss, sleazy dude). She also said that she would support him regardless of the decision he made about work.

I never felt much outrage on YH's behalf because I never thought QS acted inappropriately toward TJH. She made it clear that she was not interested in him romantically. And I thought YH got over his jealousy pretty quick when he apologized to her ( and she also apologized so it's not a one-way relationship where he always accept the blame). Their pillow talk ( why she likes him, which obviously translates into the fact that she does like him) and intimacy that night and the morning after should have really erase any doubt in his mind.

When did YH make it crystal clear that he is deeply in love with QS? The only time that he came straight out and said that he loved her was when he was drunk. Of course, he did help her a lot with her job but that doesn't necessarily translate into deep love. As a matter of fact, QS was the one who confirmed to him that they were in a relationship (when YH was down because of his past with the stock fiasco/sleazy dude, QS told him that he will never go thru hardship alone and that he had her now, and that's what people in a relationship do for each other). Yes, QS was pretty secure in the fact that he would be here for her, but the only time that she needed confirmation of his love, he was unable or unwilling to give it to her.

As for her job and TJH, what does he expect her to do? Just quit? It's not like she went out of her way to bring TJH into the firm. He was brought in by the crazy/jealous girlfriend and QS had no choice but to work with him if she wanted a case. And, her telling YH that she wasn't interested in rekindling her relationship with TJH should have been enough to squelch YH's doubts. If not, then he's got some trust issues of his own. At least the reassurance she gave him was better than what she received from him as he never verbally gave her any reassurance regarding YY even though he knows that she has trust issues.

I also think there is a huge difference between QS/TJH interactions and YH/YY interactions. The first one always had work in the background. They never interacted outside of work, ie she never went to his house or ate dinner with him. She even refused to go to a school reunion with him even though she was already divorced. In contrast, YH/YY interactions were on a personal level. He goes to her house, ate dinner with her, confided in her about his relationship problems. I know YH/QS were already divorced at that point but he said he was waiting for her to sort out her feelings so in my book his interactions with YY were inappropriate unless he made it clear to QS that he had no romantic feelings for YY ( which he didn't).

Yeah, I meant beside that last minute confession that she was the only one. He never once told her his true feelings about her vs Yao Yao. To be honest, I would have been worried about it too had I not known how cdrama typically works. It was a pretty big deal to her, so it really didn't make any sense that she would run into his arms without at least clarifying that issue. She did ask later, but the writers messed up the sequence. They should have made her ask at the door before she jumped into his arms.

I remember the scene where she told him why she liked him. They were in bed and she said she liked him for his brains and his heart, so it's not like she never told him her feelings for him. She never said she loved him, but he never said it himself either, except that time when he was drunk, but that doesn't count.

Yes, I honestly didn't see what YH was so worked up about, so much that he wanted a divorce. I understand giving her time or canceling the marriage so they can start on the right footing, but completely cutting her off and letting her think that he chose someone else was a jerk (or idiotic) move. So what if she can't say she loves him? He knew she had trust and commitment issues. Wouldn't it be better if he stays and slowly shows her how she can trust him with her heart? Also, she might not have been able to say that she loved him, but she showed it more than once (tried to cook for him, consoled him when he was down, supported him in whatever he wanted to do, agreed to the law firm's plan to trap that sleazy dude so she can take revenge on YH's behalf...)

From the time that they got together as BF/GF, I don't think she ever acted inappropriately with TJH. The one exception, and that's a stretch, was when she fell asleep in TJH's office, but she cleared things up quickly and told YH that night that she had no feeling for her ex. On the night of the break up, all YH saw of the interaction between QS and TJH was QS pushing her ex away. I thought she made herself pretty clear that she's not interested in TJH romantically and only socialize with him for work. YH, on the other hand, for some reason that is a mystery to me, could not bring himself to say that he would choose QS. I don't think he has ever reassured her that Yao Yao was out of the picture.

I think it is. The first 35 or so episodes were really well done. The ending was frustrating but still a happy ending to wrap up the drama.

Let me preface this by saying I really like YH, QS and the drama, but I have to agree with Sylwia's take on the YH in the last few episodes. To me, he was acting so out of character. First, he was so wishy-washy when she straight asked him about Yao Yao the first time and didn't tell her the truth until he was backed into a corner. Then, at the crucial time, when she asked him at the restaurant, he couldn't bring himself to tell her who he wanted to be with and then managed to leave with Yao Yao. I mean, any woman would put 2 and 2 together and assume that he made his choice.

I really don't see why people make such a big deal with the wrestling. To me, it's just that. There was some contact but nothing intimate about it. As for taking care of drunk TJH, all she wanted to do was take him off the street and she did ask for YH's help. It's not like she wanted to take him home, take care of him, clip his nails, and kiss him goodnight (like she did with drunk YH 😍). She has also been clear to YH about why she interacts with her ex (she needed cases and he was her only chance at getting some). Most importantly, she told YH that she wasn't interested in getting back with TJH more than once. During their break up, when she saw that he was serious about the divorce, she even said again that she didn't want to get back with TJH and never will.

YH, on the other hand, never actually told her that he wasn't interested in getting back with Yao Yao. He never said he loved her either, just some flowery things about being her fortress, and on and on. I mean, poems are great and all, but when things get serious, us women, just want a yes or no answer. It's admirable to give her the space to decide what she wants, but then why does he think it's a good idea to pressure her into doing something she wasn't ready for out of fear of losing him? It would have been so much better (and more in line with the original YH) if he answered her question at the restaurant with the truth, that he was there for her and not forYao Yao. That would have given her the confidence in his love for her so she could take her time and come around her fear of commitment and trust issues.

Maybe it's easier to empathize with QS because I get to see her struggles during the break-up. We didn't get to see any of YH's struggles. He just went his merry way with Yao Yao.

The last few episodes were really annoying to me but I won't lower my rating on the drama because I really like it for most part and will chalk up the end to the cdrama curse.

NOOO! I can't take a BE! 😢

It's a happy ending but rushed in my opinion, Still happy ending so i'm okay. Main leads will be together. I enjoyed the drama very much.

The child is not Yang Hua's. It's a happy ending.

Enjoy! All I'm gonna say is there will be some twists and turns 😊

Ah, so you don't enjoy YM's acting. You should have saved yourself the aggravation of watching as the drama mostly focused on her character.

I won't disagree that a harmonic relationship involves partners who are equally focused on one another. However, a solid and mature relationship is not about counting beans, ie who does more than the other, who gives more, or who takes more. It's about realizing that at times your partner might need more and doing your best to help. Yang Hua is content with the life that he has while Qin Shi is ambitious and has goals to reach. So at this exact moment, she needs more and takes while he gives. Their relationship is in no way a one-way relationship however. QS spoke up for him against an overbearing mom and intervened on his behalf against an abusive boss. She consoled him when he had to face his past failures, and she put herself in harm's way to exact revenge on the man who had hurt him.

And of course, characters being relatable doesn't necessarily make them interesting to watch. But if a viewer can't relate to some characters and their issues, there is a fat chance that the viewer will find them boring. You can't relate to this drama's characters, so you find them boring. I can't relate to L&P's characters so I find them boring. Both opinions are valid and totally fine. That's why dramas feature a wide range of characters and topics so everyone can find something that they find interesting.

It's okay if you didn't enjoy the drama. Different taste for different people. A drama can't just please everyone. I think one's enjoyment of a drama somewhat depends on their station in life. I am a bit older than the average posters here and I find the characters in SAHPH very relatable. As I get older, I find myself needing less of the wow factor in romance. I enjoy a couple's easy-going, uneventful relationship much more than the ones full of drama (parents disapproval or when it seems as if the couple has the weight of the world on their shoulders).

There are plenty of very highly rated dramas that I thought were boring. In these dramas, the characters are usually younger and their problems are just not relatable to me. For example, I'm trying to watch Lighter & Princess. I'm at ep 15, and I'm honestly bored. The ML is okay, but I don't like the FL. She is too pouty for me. Their school and parent problems are just not interesting to me.I'm hoping that we're done with the college arc soon and get back to the present time when ML/FL are a bit older and hopefully tackle more mature issues.

I don't know. I'm still not convinced that QS knew YH didn't leave with YY. She saw him leave with YY that night. Even though QS acts self-assured, I'm sure there is a tiny bit of doubt in her about YY's son being YH's. When QS learns about YH's talk with her parents and realizes that YH loved her, she runs to the airport to try to get him back. But when she didn't see him, she must have thought he changed his mind (maybe after he found out that he had a son with another woman?) and left with them. I agree that QS is very smart but she is also very vulnerable during that time, especially when YH refused to answer when asked who he would choose, so the thought that he left her for YY must have at least crossed her mind.

I think it's really funny that we're debating about some fictional characters and their feelings as if they're real people, but I really love QS and YH and they felt just so real to me.

Yes, they were YY's words but QS believed them since she saw YH leave with YY and he wouldn't answer her question on who he would choose. She was so heartbroken that night. Even after her conversation with her mom, I still think that she believed that YH left with YY when she couldn't find him at the airport. She propably thought that he changed his mind about her (which in her mind was very possible especially if YH believed that YY's kid was his). QS said so herself right after they got back together that she thought he left with YY. Ugh, they just need an extra episode to make things clearer! Brother and SIL arc needed to be axed and replaced with main leads' fluff. 😊

QS did ask about YY but that was after she already ran into his arms. I would have clarified all that before. That's what I found weird. If for 7 months, I thought that my relationship with a man was over and that he chose another woman, I would never run back into his arms no matter how much I love and miss the man without asking for clarification first.