There are so many people who are in team Tushan Jing. He brings such emotional depth to the role. How can anyone…
I've read your points about Jing, and it's clear you feel strongly about his actions
Why should I argue he have to with ffyy who was Tushan hous lover. By your saying it willnt prove that he choose reputation if he did in the end he wouldn't became Ye Shiqi. Isn't for us to say what they should do the story was already written we can't change anything about them. There are so many things which people don't love about Jing but they became Jings fan and there are some many things against the law the society the humanity but people liked xiangliu.
Ok as u say I agree that Jing's choices were often frustrating and led to pain, especially for Xiaoyao framing him as unilaterally wrong and dissecting his every move with such a critical lens oversimplifies the immense he suffered.
Jing nearly died for Xiaoyao( for you-hes doing high drama to be a hero by dying ) Not enough / Confusion of Context You dismiss his near-death experiences and claim I'm confusing context with excuses. But how can you separate Jing's attempts to protect Xiaoyao from his love for her? His near-death in the assassination attempt was directly related to his position and the threats to their relationship. His later suicidal tendencies were explicitly about not wanting to live without Xiaoyao,,,,,,, that's a direct reflection of his devotion, however tragically expressed. To say it had nothing to do with staying true to her is to ignore the emotional core of his character. He couldn't risk his clan's power without bringing disaster upon Xiaoyao, too. His path was about finding a way for them to be together within his responsibilities, not simply abandoning everything. Which was normal for me but somehow some people couldn't accept this process they sometime claim why he didn't abandon everything sometime say why he stay .
Not freeing himself from engagement you assert he "chose reputation over love" and should have "dumped all the expectations of society." This is a deeply anachronistic view for the world of Lost You Forever. When he is thinking he's wrong why shouldn't he stay true to Xiaoyao. if he did run away with her than all of Jing hater will say how can he run away at least he's not aware he's not wrong. And wht abot Xiaoyao she should run away like this with him.
Jing wasn't some free spirited modern man. He was the future clan leader of a powerful, ancient family, bound by sacred contracts and generational responsibilities. Dumping those expectations wasn't just about his personal reputation it would have meant the ruin of his entire clan, and by extension, putting Xiaoyao directly in the path of their enemies. His attempts to slowly dismantle the engagement and find a way out were his struggle to reconcile love with duty, not a lack of effort. He wasn't simply being selfish,,, he was operating within a brutal political reality where breaking such a contract could lead to war or the destruction of his family.
U state marrying FFYY and Not staying true to xiaoyao and that's . This is an incredibly harsh and, again, modern interpretation. He was forced to marry her to save Xiaoyao's life and the lives of those around them. He didn't marry her out of love or choice. He wasn't aware of the truth so he feel guilty free her for her better . It was a political sacrifice, a desperate move. His loyalty and heart remained with Xiaoyao, even if his body was legally bound. The promise he kept to Ffyy was to protect her life, a promise he was coerced into to save others. To equate this forced political marriage with a "cheater" in a relationship of love and loyalty completely misses the dire circumstances and the powerlessness he felt.
You claim he didn't give a f for his clan" and was "happy to abandon them. This is a selective reading. He was enslaved and tortured for decades. His six years in Qingshui Town were years of recovery from unimaginable trauma, where he was essentially reborn. He wasn't happy to abandon his clan; he was a broken man, stripped of his identity and power. His return and subsequent efforts were for his clan's stability, which was intrinsically linked to his ability to eventually protect Xiaoyao.
While Jing himself admitted his love could be selfish, this is a common human trait, especially in intense relationships. If Xiaoyao could do anything for becoming happy why Jing couldn't...?Every character in Lost You Forever makes decisions that prioritize their own desires or perceived needs, even if it impacts others.
His actions, which you label as running away, were often strategic retreats or periods of forced recovery, not acts of cowardice or abandonment. Jing's path to protecting Xiaoyao was never through brute force like Xiangliu or political maneuvering like Cang Xuan in their early stages. His fight was to survive, regain his standing, and then use his influence and resources to create a stable and safe life for them both
To accuse Jing of 'abandoning' his nephew completely misrepresents his family situation and his long-term goals. Jing was not simply shirking responsibilities he was actively fighting to reclaim his clan's power and stability after his own family nearly destroyed him. His nephew's safety and future were entirely dependent on Jing first securing his own position and the clan's survival, which was a monumental task after his brother's usurpation and his own trauma. You can't expect a man who was literally resurrected from the dead and fighting for control of his own life to immediately assume full guardianship without first re-establishing his foundation. His every move was calculated to ensure a lasting future for his lineage, which inherently included his nephew.
Cang Xuan's ::::::entire life is a calculated pursuit of power, often at Xiaoyao's expense, driven by his own desire for control and to protect her on his terms.
Xiang liu's ::::::refusal to live for himself, not for any one even for Xiaoyao, was a choice that brought her immense pain, prioritizing his loyalty to a doomed cause over a shared future.
Even Xiaoyao makes choices based on her own need for security and fear of abandonment, sometimes pushing away those who genuinely love her. Jing's passivity, as you call it, was often a reflection of his trauma and his attempts to meticulously navigate an impossible situation without resorting to open rebellion that would harm Xiaoyao. He didn't have no choices, but he had a series of terrible choices, each with devastating consequences. His efforts in Dragonbone Prison were about regaining control and power precisely so he could protect Xiaoyao and build a future where they could be together, not simply for prestige. Ultimately, Lost You Forever thrives on characters making flawed, human choices under extraordinary pressure. To single out Jing as wrong ignores the complex moral landscape and the very real constraints of their world. He loved Xiaoyao deeply and fought for her in the only ways he knew how, even if those ways were indirect, painful, and often misunderstood.
Honestly, Tushan Jing (Deng Wei) deserve the love. He’s the quiet strength, Tushàn Jing is gentle calm kind…
I appreciate your view. If a person like Jing who are getting so many claims than what about the other cx xl fl they also have thousand of flaws. But some people are so jealous they are always against Jing. Even withhis walk his move every single thing they had problems
Honestly, Tushan Jing (Deng Wei) deserve the love. He’s the quiet strength, Tushàn Jing is gentle calm kind…
I m saying he run away from everything not from his marriage is this was a marriage! how funny . FFYY was already Tushan Hous lover.
I think your analysis, while detailed, seems to fundamentally misunderstand Jing's character and the societal constraints he operated under. After all in this drama and real life everything goes in a system. If it's possible to do anything people wouldn't have suffered. In the end he became theYe Shiqi he was. You're literally saying he did a wrong thing by coming to his clan . Even Xiaoyao also come back to her family why shouldn't he. Why should he ran away with her he should stay and do all things right and prove his Innocence.
Ex that can't let go... ZERO to offer Xiaoyao. This couldn't be further from the truth. Jing offered Xiaoyao the only thing she truly craved and needed a stable, peaceful and unconditionally loving home. He wasn't offering power or ambition, but genuine warmth and a safe haven from the trauma that defined her life. He was the very safe harbor she deserved. His "zero to offer" was precisely his greatest strength he offered himself, fully and without agenda.
if Xioayao couldn't recover from her trauma, Feng Long would have been the best choice. This is a harsh mischaracterization. Jing didn't want a "Stepford Wife." He wanted a partner he could cherish and heal with. Feng Long, while a good man, would have kept Xiaoyao entangled in the very political and power struggles she consistently tried to escape. Jing's path, while difficult, was the only one that truly promised Xiaoyao a life of normalcy and genuine happiness, free from the heavy burdens of royalty and war.
His marriage wasn't political.Tushan policy was to stay out of politics. This is a naive view of the Tushan clan's position. While they aimed to be neutral, their immense wealth and influence made them a political force. Jing's arranged marriage was absolutely political, a means to solidify power and influence within the intricate web of clans. To dismiss it as merely parental is to ignore the larger forces at play. His struggle to break free from it, risking everything, highlights his commitment to Xiaoyao, not a lack thereof. You're talking out of this topic and about the drama you are the one I m not watched it. Every drama has its own story. It was Jings story he didn't write it you also can understand it's a drama where he act accoyhis character , the author tong hua portrayed him like this. some people said Jing character hasn't written nicely some actor even refused to do this character. They even praised Deng Wei actually give a life to this character which was unacceptable. I do think the same way , in this drama I wasnt familiar with these actors nor o was fan of them but slowly I became Jings fan, but it doesn't mean I don't like Cang Xuan Xiang Liu Feng Long Ah nian Chenrong Xinye. Every character was beautiful but they also have so many flaws.
You said Jing dump his nephew in end just abandons him to the clan elders... This simplifies a complex and agonizing decision. Jing was caught in an impossible situation, manipulated by a scheming family. Tushan Hous kid/nephew was a pawn in a larger game meant to trap him. His ultimate choice, while heartbreaking, was a desperate measure to free himself and protect Xiaoyao from the very machinations that sought to bind him. It's not abandonment, but a brutal sacrifice made under extreme duress. Compare this to the Emperor, who, while loving, was still complicit in the systems that caused Xiaoyao so much pain.
About Jing making Xiaoyao promise not to give other men a chance for 15 years. False promises that end up broken promises. This is a distorted interpretation of the Dragonbone Promise. It was born from a place of deep insecurity and a desperate plea for time to clean up the mess his familyu had created. It was a flawed request, yes, but it stemmed from his love and desire to be worthy of her, not a manipulative one. And while he struggled, he did consistently try to honor his commitment to her, unlike others who made promises that were more easily broken or never truly intended to be kept.
Yes no one get excuses just because Jing fell in love, doesn't give him the excuse to do whatever he wants and ignore what Xiaoyao tells him to his face. Jing almost always prioritized Xiaoyaos feelings and well-being, often to his own detriment. His refusal to leave was often because he was trying to resolve his complicated family situation in a way that wouldn't further harm Xiaoyao or himself. To say he ignored her is to ignore the countless instances where he put her needs above his own.
Okay Jing wasn't protecting Xiaoyao in the Merlin assassination attempt. He believed she had died. Jing's attempts to protect Xiaoyao, even when flawed or seemingly passive, were constant. His repeated near-death experiences and self-sacrifices were testament to his love, not his weakness. He may not have been the most overtly powerful, but his quiet strength and unwavering devotion were what ultimately saved Xiaoyao and allowed her to find peace. This is a normal scene where he believed she died so he also want to. He thanked Why should he live he had only Xiaoyao in his life.
The flaw in your argument is an overemphasis on action and power as the sole measures of love and worth. Jing's strength lay in his resilience, his kindness, his unwavering loyalty, and his willingness to sacrifice his own position and even his life for the woman he loved.
Every character has flaw I do understand and I know . Every single person do bad,, wrong choices. There are some xianglius Cang Xuan fan who actually through out their tantrums to Jing . Yes u r actually right Xiaoyao don't deserve Jings love with her heart as u say she didn't choose him. He wasn't a thoroughbred race horse in the same way the other male leads were, because Xiaoyao didn't need another horse or snake or greedy in the race. She needed a gentle, steady presence, a haven, and that was always Jing. His flaws made him" human" and his struggle to overcome them made his eventual happiness with Xiaoyào all the more earned and poignant. Not like another toxic snake . I think donkey is okay it's better than a snake.Jings fan are not a author or story writer they are normal person and human beings so they said what they watched.
Jing does have a large fanbase, mostly from the drama, I think.We all say Jing, but often what we really mean…
Jing never deliberately broke promises to Xiaoyao in Qingshui Town. His promises were made honestly to stay by her side and resolve obstacles but his clan responsibilities and marriage politics forced him into a corner, not cowardice or deception. Hiding wasn't a betrayal it was a protective move when the Chishui clan was threatening him and putting both him and Xiaoyao in danger.
Jing did not manipulate or use dirty methods to break her marriage to Feng Long. He made it clear his marriage to FFYY was a political arrangement, not a love match, and when his marriage fell, it fell due to a conspiracy against him, not because of manipulations. His main conflicted action staying close to her while honoring responsibilities wasn't a trick it was a painful choice made under pressure.
Jing never physically or mentally tortured Xiaoyao. But someone did!!! Jings sacrifices were made to keep her safe, not to harm her. He was willing to protecting her happiness.
Xiangliuis love for Xiaoyao was protective, but more possessive and tragedy-tinged. He made choices for her without her consent, didn't even asked herkept her from certain truths, and put his mission above their happiness. His love wasn't pure submission; it was a warrior's love fierce but flawed.
Xiaoyao valued both she cared for Xiang Liu profoundly but her heart chose peace and companionship, which Jing represented. If we follow the story’s trajectory, her eventual happiness wasn't a dramatic love-on-the-run, it was a calm, loving partnership something Jing provided.
Jing made numerous sacrifices for her from letting her go when it seemed best for her, to nearly losing his life to protect her happiness. His love wasn't about ignoring her it was about honoring her choices. But some people willnt understand this.
Jing fell victim to clan politics and marriage obligations. His happiness was stripped away by schemes and duty, not by his own desires. There were moments of deep suffering feeling powerless and contemplating suicide but these were the result of losing nearly everything that mattered to him. His eventual peace came from choosing love and patience over destruction. If he didn't done suicide u will say why didn't he died with with her if he leaved her and than also some people will became sad. Ah! 😀
Who is the main couple in the story Xiang Liu and Xiaoyao or Jing and Xiaoyao? The main couple, in a narrative and logical sense, is Jing and Xiaoyao. They grow together,(don't again come to quarrel with this grow tog😄) suffer together, resolve their obstacles, and find peace in each other's love. The story highlights their deep bond and eventual happiness a contrast to Xianglius tragedy which underscores Jing's role as the true counterpart for Xiaoyao. About lover bug she even wasn't aware of this but later xiangliu removed this . Okay she was in love with him than it's like she cheated Jing it's really sad for Jing.
I also disagree with Xiangliu (3rd male lead)and Xiaoyao main couple. Jings eventual peace with Xiaoyao underscores their deep, enduring bond in contrast to the tragedy of Xianglius love which, while profound, was a love of sacrifice and tragedy, not the happy ending that Jing and Xiaoyao find together. I also don't want to you agree with me every one has own view . There is one say we behold e reflections ourselves through others....
There are so many people who are in team Tushan Jing. He brings such emotional depth to the role. How can anyone…
Jing nearly died for Xiaoyao that's sacrifice, not cowardice.
Your claim that “Jing gave up nothing” disregards all the moments Jing put his life on the line just to be there for her. His marriage was already ruined what will hedo with this marriage. He's the main lead bro why u are arguing he has to be with a lead who is his brotherslover. His marriage to FFYY was a political arrangement made under pressure not a loving relationship and it's unfair to say he chose reputation over love when, in reality, he risked everything his health, his future, his clan’s power just to stay true to Xiaoyao.<
Your view disregards context.Jing wasn't sneaking around his marriage was already a formality without feeling or loyalty from either side. Everyoner knew it was falling apart, and Jing fought hard to resolve it gracefully, honoring promises while honoring his own happiness.
He wasn't cowardly he was responsible. Jing didn't just break promises and destroy his clan's future on a whim. He tried to minimize harm to everyone involved including FFY while honoring his love for Xiaoyao. That kind of maturity isn’t cowardice it's a deep understanding of the people around him and their responsibilities.
Your view about selfish love is unfair.Jing's love wasn't about power or prestige it was about choosing happiness and peace in a world filled with political pressure. He walked away from privilege and safety to be true to his own heart. That’s not weak that's brave.
He never manipulated or forced Xiaoyao.Is she a child ??? She was the most cunning person in thedrama. She lived alone in her life she didn't give up always survived by her intelligence.Jing's motives were pure. He supported her choices and stood by her side even when it meant putting himself in danger or losing everything. His love wasn't a convenient match; it was a deep, painful, hard-won bond. So be clear Jing wasn't cowardly, manipulative, or weak. He was a man forced into impossible choices who chose love, loyalty, and conscience over power and prestige. This was his clan if he established what's the problem. When xl tortured her when he needed blood he drinked her blood without even her permission he choose his foster father over Xioyao it's not becaming matter but Jings one single line is mistake cunningness selfishness...😀
Your view disregards all the sacrifices, patience, and maturity that defined his character. I don't know about novel what I watched I m saying that . You're always claiming Hous child as his even u clearly know who's child is he. He loved her how can he abandon her!!!
After all in Xiaoyaos life one person didn't abandon her stay with her stay for her when her heart wasnt pure to him. What will I do with this all logic or claims even everyone in this drama was cunning selfish self centered.
Honestly, Tushan Jing (Deng Wei) deserve the love. He’s the quiet strength, Tushàn Jing is gentle calm kind…
I didn't said he run away from his marriage this marriage was already ruined. U are saying after believingin ffyy's scheme he shouldnt stay with her.! if he was cunning why didn't he breaked why didn't he shout at ffyy and return to Xiaoyao but he stayed he didn't abandon this ffyy and he also think better for Xiaoyao and stayed away from her bcz of her betterlife .
Jing stayed in a marriage that was already a sham . He wasn't choosing it ,it was a political trap. His marriage was a formality to keep peace, not a true bond of love or loyalty. So it's unfair to say he gave up when in reality the marriage was already a corpse.
Jing risked death countless times for Xiaoyao from nearly losing his life protecting her, to poisoning himself trying to find a way back to her. That’s not cowardice or passivity, it’s pure sacrifice.
He made promises to Xiaoyao under impossible conditions. It wasn't a betrayal; it was a vow to be true to her once the obstacles were gone. Staying committed to a political marriage isn’t a choice it’s a cage. His promises were made to the woman who truly mattered to him.
He never abandoned FFYY’s child he treated him nicely, loving and protecting him, It was only after the scandal when it was clear the child wasn't his that their bond was forced apart.
He ruined her marriage don't you think it was good after all it was a political marriage. What didn't he do when she was burninyin the fire he burned himself but protected her . It's the story where Xiaoyao is his strength his love where she helped him what's wrong with this!!! I totally don't understand.
Accusing him of “manipulating” Xiaoyao is unfair. He fell in love and fought for her in a hostile world. Staying in her clinic wasn't a trick it was a refuge, a place where their bond deepened honestly. His actions in Dragon Bone Prison were to aid and protect her, not to manipulate.
I watched the drama with two eyes I think some people have three eyes sl they watch some thing else.
So when you say Jing gave up he's cunning u ignore the context. I already watched the whole drama and I seen everyone's plotting everyones selfishness but some people always see wrong Jing. And now I understand why
When you say he stayed in marriage you ignore it was a political cage, not a loving bond and a distant relationship.
His promises, sacrifices, and choices were all made in service of protecting and honoring the person he truly cared about Xiaoyao.
If she choosed Xl or Cang Xuan I think she will not get a happy life like her mother and fathe4 .
I didn't read the novel and now I feel so sad that Xiaoyaos love toward Jing wasnt real although I feel it was reall while watching the drama.
She was awesome I didn't denied also Jing , Cang Xuan Xiang liu Feng long everyone was awesome. If she didn't choose what was the all episodes they should given àn ending without Jing and Xiaoyaos marriage.
In14 th June Deng Weis Su Yishui first ever character breaked 300million heat index in iQyi... He was also first to break Tencent historys 2 billion records as Tushan Jing.... Keep going Deng Wei Best of luck....
The whole drama was wonderful they was sometime so funny sometime so serious . after 30 episode it was really hard for me they made me cry. but I didn't thought Zhao Yanzhous wish of death and Zhuo Yichens promise to slay Zhao Yanzhou with his sword it will become true!!!!!! This really break my heart 💔
Jing does have a large fanbase, mostly from the drama, I think.We all say Jing, but often what we really mean…
You're missing key context and painting Jing unfairly. He didn’t repeatedly break promises he was manipulated and trapped by his clan and FFYF’s pregnancy scheme. When forced into a marriage he never wanted, he still tried to protect XY, risking his life multiple times (like at the wedding rescue and again when he was tortured saving her). That’s not cowardice that’s devotion under duress.
Misunderstandings between Xioyao and Jing came from real world stakes, not lack of love. Jing didn't ghost her over wine bottles he was literally detained and unable to send messages. Once free, he explained everything and never gave up on her, unlike Xiangliu who never even tried to claim her.
As for Xioyao never choosing Jing , if she didn't choose him or love him than what was all this YAOJINGS scenes and she did choose him over Feng Long twice. She left Feng Long the moment Jing returned. Even when she thought he was engaged to FFYY, her heart never truly moved on. Even she breaked her heart Jing didn’t selfishly destroy her engagemen ,he rescued her from a political marriage she never wanted.
And it was Yang Zis choice of view like majority of people it's okay to choose but there are many whom are in YAOJINGS team.
Selfless love? Jing sacrificed his power, status, and even his health for her. If that’s not selfless, what is? Yes it all not about Jing bit in the whole drama they was main couple and in end their life journey begins.
There are so many people who are in team Tushan Jing. He brings such emotional depth to the role. How can anyone…
Tushan Jing absolutely has emotional depth his conflict between love, duty, and survival is what makes him real.
He didn’t just stand still he made choices under brutal constraints, including giving up status for Xiaoyao and nearly dying for her.
And yes, they did date. He wasnt in love with FFYY it was an arrange marriage but she already was in love with other person. They lived like a couple in Qingshui Town calling each other husband/wife, making promises, risking everything. Just because he was stuck in a forced engagement doesn’t erase that.
It wasn't that Jing didn’t act it’s that his world punished him for doing so. He wasn't a man who can do whatever he want. Human worls are like this. If I can do whatever u want then life was was easygoing for everyone. No one has to bear sadness responsibility .He was trapped by clan politics, not apathy. If anything, he fought harder than anyone without power.
As for FFYY, he didn’t abuse her he was emotionally unavailable, yes, but respectful. She was the one manipulating and cheating.
Jing didn’t care only for reputation he cared deeply for Xioyao and risked it all for her, especially at the end. The novel and drama both show this clearly.
You can dislike him, but calling him shallow or selfish ignores everything he endured and sacrificed.
Honestly, Tushan Jing (Deng Wei) deserve the love. He’s the quiet strength, Tushàn Jing is gentle calm kind…
Jing didn’t lack virtue he was trapped in a political marriage and still ran away, gave up everything, and risked death just to be with XY. That’s not weakness that’s loyalty in a rigid, oppressive system. His engagement to FFYY wasn’t his choice, he wasn't committed with her ,he did neither loved her or like her it was his gm choice not his and breaking it wasn’t simple. He literally got imprisoned and tortured for it. and there was not any child you're claiming Jings son you haven't watched it properly or don't understand it was Tushan hous child his nephew.
He never manipulated Xiaoyao. In fact, he constantly protected her and backed off when she needed space. He loved her quietly, not possessively. And yes, he admitted he was selfish but he acted selflessly every time, even when it hurt him. That’s emotional maturity, not hypocrisy.
They didn’t give Jing the stink eye because he was morally wrong they did it because he was politically inconvenient. CX and the Emperor were navigating power and marriage alliances. Jing being with Xiaoyao disrupted their plans. This was never about virtue but control. Jing was seen as a threat, not a sinner
Saying he gave up is unfair he endured betrayal, loss, and still chose love over bitterness. He rebuilt himself not out of greed, but to be someone who could stand by Xiaoyao side in a world that only values power. Unlike Xiangliiu, who pushed Xioyao away and constantly hurt her for so called he4 good, Jing stayed, waited, and never stopped believing in her. He was her choice not like you're saying that he only pursued her.
I am not saying xianglius love or never understood Xianglius love In the whole drama he seem like always running before her and he like he4 or maybe loved her but at last they seem like friend to me. Every one has own views . Also, not forget Xiangliiu literally poisoned, imprisoned, and emotionally tortured Xioyao while refusing to give her a future. If Jing is selfish, what exactly was Xiangliu? If Xiangliu had a choice he'd also do what Jing did. Every one is in love see the world differently.
Jing wasn’t perfect, but he loved her in a way that was patient, respectful, and constant. That’s real strength.
Every person have own views some like toxicity some like simplicity. if liking simplicity like a human being and it's call attacking than I m not in it. i respect ever character as they are it's just I m fan of Ye Shiqi and Tushan Jing.
Honestly, Tushan Jing (Deng Wei) deserve the love. He’s the quiet strength, Tushàn Jing is gentle calm kind…
Tushan Jing is one of the most misunderstood characters in the drama, not because he lacks depth or virtue, but because his strength isn’t loud, flashy, or soaked in bravado. His story isn’t about domination or power it’s about quiet resilience, unwavering loyalty, and the deeply human struggle of self-worth in the face of betrayal and loss.
It’s easy to admire a character who fights with swords and roars with courage like xiangliu. But Jing’s strength lies in something far more difficult endurance. He lost everything: his identity family’s recognition, security, even the woman he loved and yet, he never betrayed who he was. He didn’t grow bitter or hateful. Instead, he tried to build himself back up with what little he had left, while continuing to love Xiao Yao selflessly. That’s not weakness. That’s profound emotional courage.
People say Jing is surface, but that’s projection. What’s ironic is that those calling him shallow often miss how deeply internal his struggle is. He may have had the appearance of a fairy tale prince, but his journey was about reclaiming his worth not through status or power, but through love and inner strength. Even after being stripped of everything, ,,,,,,he still tried to be there for Xiao Yao in every way he could.
Not every character needs to dominate the screen or win every argument to be admirable. Jing represents a different kind of love the kind that stays, that listens, that sacrifices without needing recognition. And if some viewers can’t respect that, maybe it's not Jing who lacks depth but their understanding of what real strengthj and love can look lik
Jing does have a large fanbase, mostly from the drama, I think.We all say Jing, but often what we really mean…
It wasn't just convenience or a dream of a husband as some claim. What Xiaoyao and Jing shared was real, raw, and deeply rooted in years of companionship, shared trauma, and silent yearning. It was the kind of love built not on grand gestures, but on trust, protection, and understanding without words.
Xiaoyao didn’t just fall for Jing — she chose him, time and time again, despite knowing his flaws. She risked her heart, waited in hope, and even endured heartbreak not because she was chasing a fantasy, but because she loved him for who he truly was. And Jing? He loved her too, but was caught between duty and his own emotional restraint. Together they share love forged in fire not fantasy!!!!
If that’s not love, then what is? Tushan Jing was 2nd male lead not third!!!!! It's okay Xl was her soulmate but she didn't end up witth him. her journey, romance, rest of life was with Jing so I think at last he's the main lead for her( not for the author , production team) Dismiss them and you miss the most human story of all.
There are so many people who are in team Tushan Jing. He brings such emotional depth to the role. How can anyone…
It's important to differentiate between a character's limitations set by the script and the actor's performance. Jing is a complex and layered character navigating personal and societal conflicts a trait that reflects emotional depth, not the lack of it.
To say Jing can't bring emotional depth is unfair and dismissive of the nuance shown in his internal struggles, especially when torn between duty and love. If anything, Jing is not just by the writing, but through the actor’s performance.
As for his relationship with XY in the first season, it's not about sneaking around or reducing XY to the other woman. It's about two people trying to find love in a system that constantly works against them. Jing didn’t choose his circumstances; he tried to navigate them without hurting people around him and yes, he made mistakes. That’s what makes him human, not unworthy.
If Deng Wei 's appeal is subjective, so is criticism. Many fans see Jing as a beautifully tragic character deeply emotional, restrained, and incredibly compelling.
I’m almost done season 1 and can’t understand how anyone can be team Tushan Jing.. she doesn’t love him…
There are so many people who are in team Tushan Jing. He brings such emotional depth to the role. How can anyone not root for him.
After getting many objections that she didn't loved Tushan Jing but I don't understand in the novel or drama they dated each other they waited for each other what was this! Ah xiaoyao...
But one thing I understand life is not a fairy tale sometime people meet right person in wrong time ! So many people in this world don't get the person they wish for but they get at least a person who is gentle kind loyal to him/ her. Its xiaoyaos fate she get Tushan Jing who always cared for her who will stay with her in her all lifetime.
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Why should I argue he have to with ffyy who was Tushan hous lover. By your saying it willnt prove that he choose reputation if he did in the end he wouldn't became Ye Shiqi. Isn't for us to say what they should do the story was already written we can't change anything about them. There are so many things which people don't love about Jing but they became Jings fan and there are some many things against the law the society the humanity but people liked xiangliu.
Ok as u say I agree that Jing's choices were often frustrating and led to pain, especially for Xiaoyao framing him as unilaterally wrong and dissecting his every move with such a critical lens oversimplifies the immense he suffered.
Jing nearly died for Xiaoyao( for you-hes doing high drama to be a hero by dying ) Not enough / Confusion of Context You dismiss his near-death experiences and claim I'm confusing context with excuses. But how can you separate Jing's attempts to protect Xiaoyao from his love for her? His near-death in the assassination attempt was directly related to his position and the threats to their relationship. His later suicidal tendencies were explicitly about not wanting to live without Xiaoyao,,,,,,, that's a direct reflection of his devotion, however tragically expressed. To say it had nothing to do with staying true to her is to ignore the emotional core of his character. He couldn't risk his clan's power without bringing disaster upon Xiaoyao, too. His path was about finding a way for them to be together within his responsibilities, not simply abandoning everything. Which was normal for me but somehow some people couldn't accept this process they sometime claim why he didn't abandon everything sometime say why he stay .
Not freeing himself from engagement you assert he "chose reputation over love" and should have "dumped all the expectations of society."
This is a deeply anachronistic view for the world of Lost You Forever. When he is thinking he's wrong why shouldn't he stay true to Xiaoyao. if he did run away with her than all of Jing hater will say how can he run away at least he's not aware he's not wrong. And wht abot Xiaoyao she should run away like this with him.
Jing wasn't some free spirited modern man. He was the future clan leader of a powerful, ancient family, bound by sacred contracts and generational responsibilities. Dumping those expectations wasn't just about his personal reputation it would have meant the ruin of his entire clan, and by extension, putting Xiaoyao directly in the path of their enemies. His attempts to slowly dismantle the engagement and find a way out were his struggle to reconcile love with duty, not a lack of effort. He wasn't simply being selfish,,, he was operating within a brutal political reality where breaking such a contract could lead to war or the destruction of his family.
U state marrying FFYY and Not staying true to xiaoyao and that's . This is an incredibly harsh and, again, modern interpretation. He was forced to marry her to save Xiaoyao's life and the lives of those around them. He didn't marry her out of love or choice. He wasn't aware of the truth so he feel guilty free her for her better . It was a political sacrifice, a desperate move. His loyalty and heart remained with Xiaoyao, even if his body was legally bound. The promise he kept to Ffyy was to protect her life, a promise he was coerced into to save others. To equate this forced political marriage with a "cheater" in a relationship of love and loyalty completely misses the dire circumstances and the powerlessness he felt.
You claim he didn't give a f for his clan" and was "happy to abandon them. This is a selective reading. He was enslaved and tortured for decades. His six years in Qingshui Town were years of recovery from unimaginable trauma, where he was essentially reborn. He wasn't happy to abandon his clan; he was a broken man, stripped of his identity and power. His return and subsequent efforts were for his clan's stability, which was intrinsically linked to his ability to eventually protect Xiaoyao.
While Jing himself admitted his love could be selfish, this is a common human trait, especially in intense relationships. If Xiaoyao could do anything for becoming happy why Jing couldn't...?Every character in Lost You Forever makes decisions that prioritize their own desires or perceived needs, even if it impacts others.
His actions, which you label as running away, were often strategic retreats or periods of forced recovery, not acts of cowardice or abandonment. Jing's path to protecting Xiaoyao was never through brute force like Xiangliu or political maneuvering like Cang Xuan in their early stages. His fight was to survive, regain his standing, and then use his influence and resources to create a stable and safe life for them both
To accuse Jing of 'abandoning' his nephew completely misrepresents his family situation and his long-term goals. Jing was not simply shirking responsibilities he was actively fighting to reclaim his clan's power and stability after his own family nearly destroyed him. His nephew's safety and future were entirely dependent on Jing first securing his own position and the clan's survival, which was a monumental task after his brother's usurpation and his own trauma. You can't expect a man who was literally resurrected from the dead and fighting for control of his own life to immediately assume full guardianship without first re-establishing his foundation. His every move was calculated to ensure a lasting future for his lineage, which inherently included his nephew.
Cang Xuan's ::::::entire life is a calculated pursuit of power, often at Xiaoyao's expense, driven by his own desire for control and to protect her on his terms.
Xiang liu's ::::::refusal to live for himself, not for any one even for Xiaoyao, was a choice that brought her immense pain, prioritizing his loyalty to a doomed cause over a shared future.
Even Xiaoyao makes choices based on her own need for security and fear of abandonment, sometimes pushing away those who genuinely love her.
Jing's passivity, as you call it, was often a reflection of his trauma and his attempts to meticulously navigate an impossible situation without resorting to open rebellion that would harm Xiaoyao. He didn't have no choices, but he had a series of terrible choices, each with devastating consequences. His efforts in Dragonbone Prison were about regaining control and power precisely so he could protect Xiaoyao and build a future where they could be together, not simply for prestige.
Ultimately, Lost You Forever thrives on characters making flawed, human choices under extraordinary pressure. To single out Jing as wrong ignores the complex moral landscape and the very real constraints of their world. He loved Xiaoyao deeply and fought for her in the only ways he knew how, even if those ways were indirect, painful, and often misunderstood.
I think your analysis, while detailed, seems to fundamentally misunderstand Jing's character and the societal constraints he operated under. After all in this drama and real life everything goes in a system. If it's possible to do anything people wouldn't have suffered. In the end he became theYe Shiqi he was. You're literally saying he did a wrong thing by coming to his clan . Even Xiaoyao also come back to her family why shouldn't he. Why should he ran away with her he should stay and do all things right and prove his Innocence.
Ex that can't let go... ZERO to offer Xiaoyao. This couldn't be further from the truth. Jing offered Xiaoyao the only thing she truly craved and needed a stable, peaceful and unconditionally loving home. He wasn't offering power or ambition, but genuine warmth and a safe haven from the trauma that defined her life. He was the very safe harbor she deserved. His "zero to offer" was precisely his greatest strength he offered himself, fully and without agenda.
if Xioayao couldn't recover from her trauma, Feng Long would have been the best choice. This is a harsh mischaracterization. Jing didn't want a "Stepford Wife." He wanted a partner he could cherish and heal with. Feng Long, while a good man, would have kept Xiaoyao entangled in the very political and power struggles she consistently tried to escape. Jing's path, while difficult, was the only one that truly promised Xiaoyao a life of normalcy and genuine happiness, free from the heavy burdens of royalty and war.
His marriage wasn't political.Tushan policy was to stay out of politics. This is a naive view of the Tushan clan's position. While they aimed to be neutral, their immense wealth and influence made them a political force. Jing's arranged marriage was absolutely political, a means to solidify power and influence within the intricate web of clans. To dismiss it as merely parental is to ignore the larger forces at play. His struggle to break free from it, risking everything, highlights his commitment to Xiaoyao, not a lack thereof. You're talking out of this topic and about the drama you are the one I m not watched it. Every drama has its own story. It was Jings story he didn't write it you also can understand it's a drama where he act accoyhis character , the author tong hua portrayed him like this. some people said Jing character hasn't written nicely some actor even refused to do this character. They even praised Deng Wei actually give a life to this character which was unacceptable. I do think the same way , in this drama I wasnt familiar with these actors nor o was fan of them but slowly I became Jings fan, but it doesn't mean I don't like Cang Xuan Xiang Liu Feng Long Ah nian Chenrong Xinye. Every character was beautiful but they also have so many flaws.
You said Jing dump his nephew in end just abandons him to the clan elders... This simplifies a complex and agonizing decision. Jing was caught in an impossible situation, manipulated by a scheming family. Tushan Hous kid/nephew was a pawn in a larger game meant to trap him. His ultimate choice, while heartbreaking, was a desperate measure to free himself and protect Xiaoyao from the very machinations that sought to bind him. It's not abandonment, but a brutal sacrifice made under extreme duress. Compare this to the Emperor, who, while loving, was still complicit in the systems that caused Xiaoyao so much pain.
About Jing making Xiaoyao promise not to give other men a chance for 15 years. False promises that end up broken promises. This is a distorted interpretation of the Dragonbone Promise. It was born from a place of deep insecurity and a desperate plea for time to clean up the mess his familyu had created. It was a flawed request, yes, but it stemmed from his love and desire to be worthy of her, not a manipulative one. And while he struggled, he did consistently try to honor his commitment to her, unlike others who made promises that were more easily broken or never truly intended to be kept.
Yes no one get excuses just because Jing fell in love, doesn't give him the excuse to do whatever he wants and ignore what Xiaoyao tells him to his face. Jing almost always prioritized Xiaoyaos feelings and well-being, often to his own detriment. His refusal to leave was often because he was trying to resolve his complicated family situation in a way that wouldn't further harm Xiaoyao or himself. To say he ignored her is to ignore the countless instances where he put her needs above his own.
Okay Jing wasn't protecting Xiaoyao in the Merlin assassination attempt. He believed she had died. Jing's attempts to protect Xiaoyao, even when flawed or seemingly passive, were constant. His repeated near-death experiences and self-sacrifices were testament to his love, not his weakness. He may not have been the most overtly powerful, but his quiet strength and unwavering devotion were what ultimately saved Xiaoyao and allowed her to find peace. This is a normal scene where he believed she died so he also want to. He thanked Why should he live he had only Xiaoyao in his life.
The flaw in your argument is an overemphasis on action and power as the sole measures of love and worth. Jing's strength lay in his resilience, his kindness, his unwavering loyalty, and his willingness to sacrifice his own position and even his life for the woman he loved.
Every character has flaw I do understand and I know . Every single person do bad,, wrong choices. There are some xianglius Cang Xuan fan who actually through out their tantrums to Jing . Yes u r actually right Xiaoyao don't deserve Jings love with her heart as u say she didn't choose him. He wasn't a thoroughbred race horse in the same way the other male leads were, because Xiaoyao didn't need another horse or snake or greedy in the race. She needed a gentle, steady presence, a haven, and that was always Jing. His flaws made him" human" and his struggle to overcome them made his eventual happiness with Xiaoyào all the more earned and poignant. Not like another toxic snake . I think donkey is okay it's better than a snake.Jings fan are not a author or story writer they are normal person and human beings so they said what they watched.
Jing did not manipulate or use dirty methods to break her marriage to Feng Long. He made it clear his marriage to FFYY was a political arrangement, not a love match, and when his marriage fell, it fell due to a conspiracy against him, not because of manipulations. His main conflicted action staying close to her while honoring responsibilities wasn't a trick it was a painful choice made under pressure.
Jing never physically or mentally tortured Xiaoyao. But someone did!!! Jings sacrifices were made to keep her safe, not to harm her. He was willing to protecting her happiness.
Xiangliuis love for Xiaoyao was protective, but more possessive and tragedy-tinged. He made choices for her without her consent, didn't even asked herkept her from certain truths, and put his mission above their happiness. His love wasn't pure submission; it was a warrior's love fierce but flawed.
Xiaoyao valued both she cared for Xiang Liu profoundly but her heart chose peace and companionship, which Jing represented. If we follow the story’s trajectory, her eventual happiness wasn't a dramatic love-on-the-run, it was a calm, loving partnership something Jing provided.
Jing made numerous sacrifices for her from letting her go when it seemed best for her, to nearly losing his life to protect her happiness. His love wasn't about ignoring her it was about honoring her choices. But some people willnt understand this.
Jing fell victim to clan politics and marriage obligations. His happiness was stripped away by schemes and duty, not by his own desires. There were moments of deep suffering feeling powerless and contemplating suicide but these were the result of losing nearly everything that mattered to him. His eventual peace came from choosing love and patience over destruction. If he didn't done suicide u will say why didn't he died with with her if he leaved her and than also some people will became sad. Ah! 😀
Who is the main couple in the story Xiang Liu and Xiaoyao or Jing and Xiaoyao?
The main couple, in a narrative and logical sense, is Jing and Xiaoyao. They grow together,(don't again come to quarrel with this grow tog😄) suffer together, resolve their obstacles, and find peace in each other's love. The story highlights their deep bond and eventual happiness a contrast to Xianglius tragedy which underscores Jing's role as the true counterpart for Xiaoyao. About lover bug she even wasn't aware of this but later xiangliu removed this . Okay she was in love with him than it's like she cheated Jing it's really sad for Jing.
I also disagree with Xiangliu (3rd male lead)and Xiaoyao main couple. Jings eventual peace with Xiaoyao underscores their deep, enduring bond in contrast to the tragedy of Xianglius love which, while profound, was a love of sacrifice and tragedy, not the happy ending that Jing and Xiaoyao find together.
I also don't want to you agree with me every one has own view . There is one say we behold e
reflections ourselves through others....
Your claim that “Jing gave up nothing” disregards all the moments Jing put his life on the line just to be there for her. His marriage was already ruined what will hedo with this marriage. He's the main lead bro why u are arguing he has to be with a lead who is his brotherslover. His marriage to FFYY was a political arrangement made under pressure not a loving relationship and it's unfair to say he chose reputation over love when, in reality, he risked everything his health, his future, his clan’s power just to stay true to Xiaoyao.<
Your view disregards context.Jing wasn't sneaking around his marriage was already a formality without feeling or loyalty from either side. Everyoner knew it was falling apart, and Jing fought hard to resolve it gracefully, honoring promises while honoring his own happiness.
He wasn't cowardly he was responsible. Jing didn't just break promises and destroy his clan's future on a whim. He tried to minimize harm to everyone involved including FFY while honoring his love for Xiaoyao. That kind of maturity isn’t cowardice it's a deep understanding of the people around him and their responsibilities.
Your view about selfish love is unfair.Jing's love wasn't about power or prestige it was about choosing happiness and peace in a world filled with political pressure. He walked away from privilege and safety to be true to his own heart. That’s not weak that's brave.
He never manipulated or forced Xiaoyao.Is she a child ??? She was the most cunning person in thedrama. She lived alone in her life she didn't give up always survived by her intelligence.Jing's motives were pure. He supported her choices and stood by her side even when it meant putting himself in danger or losing everything. His love wasn't a convenient match; it was a deep, painful, hard-won bond. So be clear Jing wasn't cowardly, manipulative, or weak. He was a man forced into impossible choices who chose love, loyalty, and conscience over power and prestige. This was his clan if he established what's the problem. When xl tortured her when he needed blood he drinked her blood without even her permission he choose his foster father over Xioyao it's not becaming matter but Jings one single line is mistake cunningness selfishness...😀
Your view disregards all the sacrifices, patience, and maturity that defined his character. I don't know about novel what I watched I m saying that . You're always claiming Hous child as his even u clearly know who's child is he. He loved her how can he abandon her!!!
After all in Xiaoyaos life one person didn't abandon her stay with her stay for her when her heart wasnt pure to him. What will I do with this all logic or claims even everyone in this drama was cunning selfish self centered.
Jing stayed in a marriage that was already a sham . He wasn't choosing it ,it was a political trap. His marriage was a formality to keep peace, not a true bond of love or loyalty. So it's unfair to say he gave up when in reality the marriage was already a corpse.
Jing risked death countless times for Xiaoyao from nearly losing his life protecting her, to poisoning himself trying to find a way back to her. That’s not cowardice or passivity, it’s pure sacrifice.
He made promises to Xiaoyao under impossible conditions. It wasn't a betrayal; it was a vow to be true to her once the obstacles were gone. Staying committed to a political marriage isn’t a choice it’s a cage. His promises were made to the woman who truly mattered to him.
He never abandoned FFYY’s child he treated him nicely, loving and protecting him, It was only after the scandal when it was clear the child wasn't his that their bond was forced apart.
He ruined her marriage don't you think it was good after all it was a political marriage. What didn't he do when she was burninyin the fire he burned himself but protected her . It's the story where Xiaoyao is his strength his love where she helped him what's wrong with this!!! I totally don't understand.
Accusing him of “manipulating” Xiaoyao is unfair. He fell in love and fought for her in a hostile world. Staying in her clinic wasn't a trick it was a refuge, a place where their bond deepened honestly. His actions in Dragon Bone Prison were to aid and protect her, not to manipulate.
I watched the drama with two eyes I think some people have three eyes sl they watch some thing else.
So when you say Jing gave up he's cunning u ignore the context. I already watched the whole drama and I seen everyone's plotting everyones selfishness but some people always see wrong Jing. And now I understand why
When you say he stayed in marriage you ignore it was a political cage, not a loving bond and a distant relationship.
His promises, sacrifices, and choices were all made in service of protecting and honoring the person he truly cared about Xiaoyao.
If she choosed Xl or Cang Xuan I think she will not get a happy life like her mother and fathe4 .
I didn't read the novel and now I feel so sad that Xiaoyaos love toward Jing wasnt real although I feel it was reall while watching the drama.
She was awesome I didn't denied also Jing , Cang Xuan Xiang liu Feng long everyone was awesome. If she didn't choose what was the all episodes they should given àn ending without Jing and Xiaoyaos marriage.
Good luck keep going
Misunderstandings between Xioyao and Jing came from real world stakes, not lack of love. Jing didn't ghost her over wine bottles he was literally detained and unable to send messages. Once free, he explained everything and never gave up on her, unlike Xiangliu who never even tried to claim her.
As for Xioyao never choosing Jing , if she didn't choose him or love him than what was all this YAOJINGS scenes and she did choose him over Feng Long twice. She left Feng Long the moment Jing returned. Even when she thought he was engaged to FFYY, her heart never truly moved on. Even she breaked her heart Jing didn’t selfishly destroy her engagemen ,he rescued her from a political marriage she never wanted.
And it was Yang Zis choice of view like majority of people it's okay to choose but there are many whom are in YAOJINGS team.
Selfless love? Jing sacrificed his power, status, and even his health for her. If that’s not selfless, what is?
Yes it all not about Jing bit in the whole drama they was main couple and in end their life journey begins.
He didn’t just stand still he made choices under brutal constraints, including giving up status for Xiaoyao and nearly dying for her.
And yes, they did date. He wasnt in love with FFYY it was an arrange marriage but she already was in love with other person. They lived like a couple in Qingshui Town calling each other husband/wife, making promises, risking everything. Just because he was stuck in a forced engagement doesn’t erase that.
It wasn't that Jing didn’t act it’s that his world punished him for doing so. He wasn't a man who can do whatever he want. Human worls are like this. If I can do whatever u want then life was was easygoing for everyone. No one has to bear sadness responsibility .He was trapped by clan politics, not apathy. If anything, he fought harder than anyone without power.
As for FFYY, he didn’t abuse her he was emotionally unavailable, yes, but respectful. She was the one manipulating and cheating.
Jing didn’t care only for reputation he cared deeply for Xioyao and risked it all for her, especially at the end. The novel and drama both show this clearly.
You can dislike him, but calling him shallow or selfish ignores everything he endured and sacrificed.
He never manipulated Xiaoyao. In fact, he constantly protected her and backed off when she needed space. He loved her quietly, not possessively. And yes, he admitted he was selfish but he acted selflessly every time, even when it hurt him. That’s emotional maturity, not hypocrisy.
They didn’t give Jing the stink eye because he was morally wrong they did it because he was politically inconvenient. CX and the Emperor were navigating power and marriage alliances. Jing being with Xiaoyao disrupted their plans. This was never about virtue but control. Jing was seen as a threat, not a sinner
Saying he gave up is unfair he endured betrayal, loss, and still chose love over bitterness. He rebuilt himself not out of greed, but to be someone who could stand by Xiaoyao side in a world that only values power. Unlike Xiangliiu, who pushed Xioyao away and constantly hurt her for so called he4 good, Jing stayed, waited, and never stopped believing in her. He was her choice not like you're saying that he only pursued her.
I am not saying xianglius love or never understood Xianglius love In the whole drama he seem like always running before her and he like he4 or maybe loved her but at last they seem like friend to me. Every one has own views . Also, not forget Xiangliiu literally poisoned, imprisoned, and emotionally tortured Xioyao while refusing to give her a future. If Jing is selfish, what exactly was Xiangliu? If Xiangliu had a choice he'd also do what Jing did. Every one is in love see the world differently.
Jing wasn’t perfect, but he loved her in a way that was patient, respectful, and constant. That’s real strength.
Every person have own views some like toxicity some like simplicity. if liking simplicity like a human being and it's call attacking than I m not in it. i respect ever character as they are it's just I m fan of Ye Shiqi and Tushan Jing.
It’s easy to admire a character who fights with swords and roars with courage like xiangliu. But Jing’s strength lies in something far more difficult endurance. He lost everything: his identity family’s recognition, security, even the woman he loved and yet, he never betrayed who he was. He didn’t grow bitter or hateful. Instead, he tried to build himself back up with what little he had left, while continuing to love Xiao Yao selflessly.
That’s not weakness. That’s profound emotional courage.
People say Jing is surface, but that’s projection. What’s ironic is that those calling him shallow often miss how deeply internal his struggle is. He may have had the appearance of a fairy tale prince, but his journey was about reclaiming his worth not through status or power, but through love and inner strength. Even after being stripped of everything, ,,,,,,he still tried to be there for Xiao Yao in every way he could.
Not every character needs to dominate the screen or win every argument to be admirable. Jing represents a different kind of love the kind that stays, that listens, that sacrifices without needing recognition. And if some viewers can’t respect that, maybe it's not Jing who lacks depth but their understanding of what real strengthj and love can look lik
Xiaoyao didn’t just fall for Jing — she chose him, time and time again, despite knowing his flaws. She risked her heart, waited in hope, and even endured heartbreak not because she was chasing a fantasy, but because she loved him for who he truly was. And Jing? He loved her too, but was caught between duty and his own emotional restraint. Together they share love forged in fire not fantasy!!!!
If that’s not love, then what is?
Tushan Jing was 2nd male lead not third!!!!! It's okay Xl was her soulmate but she didn't end up witth him. her journey, romance, rest of life was with Jing so I think at last he's the main lead for her( not for the author , production team)
Dismiss them and you miss the most human story of all.
To say Jing can't bring emotional depth is unfair and dismissive of the nuance shown in his internal struggles, especially when torn between duty and love. If anything, Jing is not just by the writing, but through the actor’s performance.
As for his relationship with XY in the first season, it's not about sneaking around or reducing XY to the other woman. It's about two people trying to find love in a system that constantly works against them. Jing didn’t choose his circumstances; he tried to navigate them without hurting people around him and yes, he made mistakes. That’s what makes him human, not unworthy.
If Deng Wei 's appeal is subjective, so is criticism. Many fans see Jing as a beautifully tragic character deeply emotional, restrained, and incredibly compelling.
After getting many objections that she didn't loved Tushan Jing but I don't understand in the novel or drama they dated each other they waited for each other what was this! Ah xiaoyao...
But one thing I understand life is not a fairy tale sometime people meet right person in wrong time ! So many people in this world don't get the person they wish for but they get at least a person who is gentle kind loyal to him/ her. Its xiaoyaos fate she get Tushan Jing who always cared for her who will stay with her in her all lifetime.