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Xiaoyao only truly loved Tushan Jing.

She had a complicated bond with Xiang Liu (mutual unspoken feelings), cared for Cang Xuan as family (possibly with a blurry line), and considered Feng Long only as a practical choice for marriage.

She wasn’t romantically involved with all of them. Each man loved her in his own way, but her heart always returned to Jing. And she ended up with him.

Xiaoyao – The Broken yet Resilient Heroine
Flaws: Emotionally distant, cold, avoids love, self-destructive.
Why fans love her: She's a realistic trauma survivor who went through abandonment, torture, and loss. Despite everything, she grows stronger, becomes a healer, protects her loved ones, and learns to trust again. Her emotional depth and personal growth make her powerful and relatable.

Tushan Jing – The Gentle Devotion hero
Flaws: Passive, hesitant, poor communication, over sacrifice.
Why fans love him: His love for Xiaoyao is loyal, quiet, and selfless. He endured torture and humiliation just to stay alive for her. He never betrayed her emotionally, and when the time came, he was willing to give up everything to be with her. His tenderness and sacrifice are unforgettable.

Xiang Liu – The Tragic Antihero
Flaws: Ruthless, killer, cold, emotionally repressed.
Why fans love him: His love is silent, forbidden, and full of sacrifice. Despite being on the opposite side of the war, he secretly protects Xiaoyao. His dual identity adds depth, and his tragic fate tugs at the heart. He never asked for love, but gave everything anyway.

Cang Xuan The Ambitious Brother
Flaws: Power-hungry, emotionally cold, neglectful, puts ambition over relationships.
Why fans love him: He’s a complex, realistic ruler. His love for Xiaoyao is buried under responsibility and guilt. Fans admire his ambition, loyalty to his throne, and the sadness of winning everything but ending up alone. A perfect portrayal of power vs personal loss.

Ah Nian The Spoiled but Insecure Princess
Flaws: Jealous, entitled, petty, self-centered.
Why fans love her: She’s immature, but not evil — just desperate for love and attention. Her actions come from insecurity and lack of emotional support. She has moments of growth, and fans appreciate her emotional honesty and potential for redemption.

Feng Long – The Smart and Strategic Suitor
Flaws: Calculating, prideful, treats love like politics, emotionally distant.
Why fans love him: He respects Xiaoyao’s choice and never forces her. He’s confident, reliable, and clear in his intentions. His political ambition is admirable, and many see him as the stable, safe option who could’ve given Xiaoyao a respected place beside him.

Fangfeng Yiying– The Tragic Wife
Flaws: Jealous, obsessive, emotionally unstable, manipulative.
Why fans love her: She’s not a villain — just a woman consumed by love and insecurity. Her story is heartbreaking: married to a man who never loved her, used as a pawn in family politics. Fans see her as a tragic mirror of Xiaoyao, full of pain, not evil.

U're focusing on what Xiaoyao suffered (which is valid), but you're ignoring why Jing made the choices he didand the consequences he paid for them.


You're just saying example when he risked his life. If u can't remember u can watch this During the Chishui clan banquet. When an assassin fired an arrow aimed at Xiaoyao, Jing jumped in front of her and took the hit himself. That was a clear, life-threatening moment he didn’t hesitate. He put her life above his own, without any thought of reward or recognition.

After escaping and reuniting with Xiaoyao, Jing chose to return to Hou’s clan, knowing full well that they had poisoned him before and would likely punish him again. Why? To protect Xiaoyao from being dragged into Hou's internal power struggles. That was a death sentence disguised as duty a silent sacrifice.


Jing was constantly under slow-acting poison, administered by his own clan to control him. He accepted it quietly, just so he could keep protecting Xiaoyao in court politics and clan affairs. That’s living in constant danger, for her sake.

Jing may not have died, but he risked many things to shield Xiaoyao. If that’s not love, loyalty, and sacrifice, what is?

Jing didn’t vanish in Qingshui to abandon Xiaoyao he stepped back because showing up would’ve worsened her position. She was already under pressure, and him confronting Cangxuan directly would've escalated clan tensions and endangered her more.

Hiring Fang Feng Bei wasn’t about sabotaging her happiness it was about protecting her from being politically exploited in a marriage she didn’t choose freely. It wasn’t pretty, but it was effective. Xiaoyaos own heart wasn’t in marrying Feng Long. So you're suggesting that she would marry Feng Long.?

And yes Jing did risk his life. Going back to FFYY and Hou’s camp after defying them wasn’t safe. He endured surveillance, manipulation, and threats, all to keep Xiaoyao out of their grasp. That was self sacrifice, not selfishness.

As for the emotional damage absolutely, Xiaoyao suffered. And it proves she was in love with him you already said she didn't loved her than why now you're claiming about spitting blood. Her heart was broken she suffered. But Jing did too. He never wanted to hurt her. He just kept choosing her safety over being with her. That’s why he kept letting her go not to abandon her, but to protect her the only way he could.

You say he didn’t honor her choicesbut which ones? The ones she made under pressure? Jing didn’t trust the world around her to let her be free. So he acted in his way, but always for her. Xiaoyao did things for Jing bt don't have any problem to this but I think many of Jing haters have. Isn't this story is like this .?

For example.....In legend of anle Liu yunnig did many things he always was there for dilraba rather than gong jun. In LYF everyone know the author and production teamfavoured which character .

Lastly I can say everyone has liked every person with their acting, appearance their flaws. So don't be serious it's just a drama with so many flaws.

I've read your points about Jing, and it's clear you feel strongly about his actions

Why should I argue he have to with ffyy who was Tushan hous lover. By your saying it willnt prove that he choose reputation if he did in the end he wouldn't became Ye Shiqi. Isn't for us to say what they should do the story was already written we can't change anything about them. There are so many things which people don't love about Jing but they became Jings fan and there are some many things against the law the society the humanity but people liked xiangliu.


Ok as u say I agree that Jing's choices were often frustrating and led to pain, especially for Xiaoyao framing him as unilaterally wrong and dissecting his every move with such a critical lens oversimplifies the immense he suffered.

Jing nearly died for Xiaoyao( for you-hes doing high drama to be a hero by dying ) Not enough / Confusion of Context You dismiss his near-death experiences and claim I'm confusing context with excuses. But how can you separate Jing's attempts to protect Xiaoyao from his love for her? His near-death in the assassination attempt was directly related to his position and the threats to their relationship. His later suicidal tendencies were explicitly about not wanting to live without Xiaoyao,,,,,,, that's a direct reflection of his devotion, however tragically expressed. To say it had nothing to do with staying true to her is to ignore the emotional core of his character. He couldn't risk his clan's power without bringing disaster upon Xiaoyao, too. His path was about finding a way for them to be together within his responsibilities, not simply abandoning everything. Which was normal for me but somehow some people couldn't accept this process they sometime claim why he didn't abandon everything sometime say why he stay .


Not freeing himself from engagement you assert he "chose reputation over love" and should have "dumped all the expectations of society."
This is a deeply anachronistic view for the world of Lost You Forever. When he is thinking he's wrong why shouldn't he stay true to Xiaoyao. if he did run away with her than all of Jing hater will say how can he run away at least he's not aware he's not wrong. And wht abot Xiaoyao she should run away like this with him.


Jing wasn't some free spirited modern man. He was the future clan leader of a powerful, ancient family, bound by sacred contracts and generational responsibilities. Dumping those expectations wasn't just about his personal reputation it would have meant the ruin of his entire clan, and by extension, putting Xiaoyao directly in the path of their enemies. His attempts to slowly dismantle the engagement and find a way out were his struggle to reconcile love with duty, not a lack of effort. He wasn't simply being selfish,,, he was operating within a brutal political reality where breaking such a contract could lead to war or the destruction of his family.

U state marrying FFYY and Not staying true to xiaoyao and that's . This is an incredibly harsh and, again, modern interpretation. He was forced to marry her to save Xiaoyao's life and the lives of those around them. He didn't marry her out of love or choice. He wasn't aware of the truth so he feel guilty free her for her better . It was a political sacrifice, a desperate move. His loyalty and heart remained with Xiaoyao, even if his body was legally bound. The promise he kept to Ffyy was to protect her life, a promise he was coerced into to save others. To equate this forced political marriage with a "cheater" in a relationship of love and loyalty completely misses the dire circumstances and the powerlessness he felt.


You claim he didn't give a f for his clan" and was "happy to abandon them. This is a selective reading. He was enslaved and tortured for decades. His six years in Qingshui Town were years of recovery from unimaginable trauma, where he was essentially reborn. He wasn't happy to abandon his clan; he was a broken man, stripped of his identity and power. His return and subsequent efforts were for his clan's stability, which was intrinsically linked to his ability to eventually protect Xiaoyao.


While Jing himself admitted his love could be selfish, this is a common human trait, especially in intense relationships. If Xiaoyao could do anything for becoming happy why Jing couldn't...?Every character in Lost You Forever makes decisions that prioritize their own desires or perceived needs, even if it impacts others.

His actions, which you label as running away, were often strategic retreats or periods of forced recovery, not acts of cowardice or abandonment. Jing's path to protecting Xiaoyao was never through brute force like Xiangliu or political maneuvering like Cang Xuan in their early stages. His fight was to survive, regain his standing, and then use his influence and resources to create a stable and safe life for them both

To accuse Jing of 'abandoning' his nephew completely misrepresents his family situation and his long-term goals. Jing was not simply shirking responsibilities he was actively fighting to reclaim his clan's power and stability after his own family nearly destroyed him. His nephew's safety and future were entirely dependent on Jing first securing his own position and the clan's survival, which was a monumental task after his brother's usurpation and his own trauma. You can't expect a man who was literally resurrected from the dead and fighting for control of his own life to immediately assume full guardianship without first re-establishing his foundation. His every move was calculated to ensure a lasting future for his lineage, which inherently included his nephew.


Cang Xuan's ::::::entire life is a calculated pursuit of power, often at Xiaoyao's expense, driven by his own desire for control and to protect her on his terms.

Xiang liu's ::::::refusal to live for himself, not for any one even for Xiaoyao, was a choice that brought her immense pain, prioritizing his loyalty to a doomed cause over a shared future.

Even Xiaoyao makes choices based on her own need for security and fear of abandonment, sometimes pushing away those who genuinely love her.
Jing's passivity, as you call it, was often a reflection of his trauma and his attempts to meticulously navigate an impossible situation without resorting to open rebellion that would harm Xiaoyao. He didn't have no choices, but he had a series of terrible choices, each with devastating consequences. His efforts in Dragonbone Prison were about regaining control and power precisely so he could protect Xiaoyao and build a future where they could be together, not simply for prestige.
Ultimately, Lost You Forever thrives on characters making flawed, human choices under extraordinary pressure. To single out Jing as wrong ignores the complex moral landscape and the very real constraints of their world. He loved Xiaoyao deeply and fought for her in the only ways he knew how, even if those ways were indirect, painful, and often misunderstood.

@Phyteos Thanks....

I appreciate your view. If a person like Jing who are getting so many claims than what about the other cx xl fl they also have thousand of flaws. But some people are so jealous they are always against Jing. Even withhis walk his move every single thing they had problems

I m saying he run away from everything not from his marriage is this was a marriage! how funny . FFYY was already Tushan Hous lover.

I think your analysis, while detailed, seems to fundamentally misunderstand Jing's character and the societal constraints he operated under. After all in this drama and real life everything goes in a system. If it's possible to do anything people wouldn't have suffered. In the end he became theYe Shiqi he was. You're literally saying he did a wrong thing by coming to his clan . Even Xiaoyao also come back to her family why shouldn't he. Why should he ran away with her he should stay and do all things right and prove his Innocence.

Ex that can't let go... ZERO to offer Xiaoyao. This couldn't be further from the truth. Jing offered Xiaoyao the only thing she truly craved and needed a stable, peaceful and unconditionally loving home. He wasn't offering power or ambition, but genuine warmth and a safe haven from the trauma that defined her life. He was the very safe harbor she deserved. His "zero to offer" was precisely his greatest strength he offered himself, fully and without agenda.

if Xioayao couldn't recover from her trauma, Feng Long would have been the best choice. This is a harsh mischaracterization. Jing didn't want a "Stepford Wife." He wanted a partner he could cherish and heal with. Feng Long, while a good man, would have kept Xiaoyao entangled in the very political and power struggles she consistently tried to escape. Jing's path, while difficult, was the only one that truly promised Xiaoyao a life of normalcy and genuine happiness, free from the heavy burdens of royalty and war.

His marriage wasn't political.Tushan policy was to stay out of politics. This is a naive view of the Tushan clan's position. While they aimed to be neutral, their immense wealth and influence made them a political force. Jing's arranged marriage was absolutely political, a means to solidify power and influence within the intricate web of clans. To dismiss it as merely parental is to ignore the larger forces at play. His struggle to break free from it, risking everything, highlights his commitment to Xiaoyao, not a lack thereof. You're talking out of this topic and about the drama you are the one I m not watched it. Every drama has its own story. It was Jings story he didn't write it you also can understand it's a drama where he act accoyhis character , the author tong hua portrayed him like this. some people said Jing character hasn't written nicely some actor even refused to do this character. They even praised Deng Wei actually give a life to this character which was unacceptable. I do think the same way , in this drama I wasnt familiar with these actors nor o was fan of them but slowly I became Jings fan, but it doesn't mean I don't like Cang Xuan Xiang Liu Feng Long Ah nian Chenrong Xinye. Every character was beautiful but they also have so many flaws.

You said Jing dump his nephew in end just abandons him to the clan elders... This simplifies a complex and agonizing decision. Jing was caught in an impossible situation, manipulated by a scheming family. Tushan Hous kid/nephew was a pawn in a larger game meant to trap him. His ultimate choice, while heartbreaking, was a desperate measure to free himself and protect Xiaoyao from the very machinations that sought to bind him. It's not abandonment, but a brutal sacrifice made under extreme duress. Compare this to the Emperor, who, while loving, was still complicit in the systems that caused Xiaoyao so much pain.

About Jing making Xiaoyao promise not to give other men a chance for 15 years. False promises that end up broken promises. This is a distorted interpretation of the Dragonbone Promise. It was born from a place of deep insecurity and a desperate plea for time to clean up the mess his familyu had created. It was a flawed request, yes, but it stemmed from his love and desire to be worthy of her, not a manipulative one. And while he struggled, he did consistently try to honor his commitment to her, unlike others who made promises that were more easily broken or never truly intended to be kept.

Yes no one get excuses just because Jing fell in love, doesn't give him the excuse to do whatever he wants and ignore what Xiaoyao tells him to his face. Jing almost always prioritized Xiaoyaos feelings and well-being, often to his own detriment. His refusal to leave was often because he was trying to resolve his complicated family situation in a way that wouldn't further harm Xiaoyao or himself. To say he ignored her is to ignore the countless instances where he put her needs above his own.


Okay Jing wasn't protecting Xiaoyao in the Merlin assassination attempt. He believed she had died. Jing's attempts to protect Xiaoyao, even when flawed or seemingly passive, were constant. His repeated near-death experiences and self-sacrifices were testament to his love, not his weakness. He may not have been the most overtly powerful, but his quiet strength and unwavering devotion were what ultimately saved Xiaoyao and allowed her to find peace. This is a normal scene where he believed she died so he also want to. He thanked Why should he live he had only Xiaoyao in his life.


The flaw in your argument is an overemphasis on action and power as the sole measures of love and worth. Jing's strength lay in his resilience, his kindness, his unwavering loyalty, and his willingness to sacrifice his own position and even his life for the woman he loved.

Every character has flaw I do understand and I know . Every single person do bad,, wrong choices. There are some xianglius Cang Xuan fan who actually through out their tantrums to Jing . Yes u r actually right Xiaoyao don't deserve Jings love with her heart as u say she didn't choose him. He wasn't a thoroughbred race horse in the same way the other male leads were, because Xiaoyao didn't need another horse or snake or greedy in the race. She needed a gentle, steady presence, a haven, and that was always Jing. His flaws made him" human" and his struggle to overcome them made his eventual happiness with Xiaoyào all the more earned and poignant. Not like another toxic snake . I think donkey is okay it's better than a snake.Jings fan are not a author or story writer they are normal person and human beings so they said what they watched.

Jing never deliberately broke promises to Xiaoyao in Qingshui Town. His promises were made honestly to stay by her side and resolve obstacles but his clan responsibilities and marriage politics forced him into a corner, not cowardice or deception. Hiding wasn't a betrayal it was a protective move when the Chishui clan was threatening him and putting both him and Xiaoyao in danger.


Jing did not manipulate or use dirty methods to break her marriage to Feng Long. He made it clear his marriage to FFYY was a political arrangement, not a love match, and when his marriage fell, it fell due to a conspiracy against him, not because of manipulations. His main conflicted action staying close to her while honoring responsibilities wasn't a trick it was a painful choice made under pressure.

Jing never physically or mentally tortured Xiaoyao. But someone did!!! Jings sacrifices were made to keep her safe, not to harm her. He was willing to protecting her happiness.

Xiangliuis love for Xiaoyao was protective, but more possessive and tragedy-tinged. He made choices for her without her consent, didn't even asked herkept her from certain truths, and put his mission above their happiness. His love wasn't pure submission; it was a warrior's love fierce but flawed.

Xiaoyao valued both she cared for Xiang Liu profoundly but her heart chose peace and companionship, which Jing represented. If we follow the story’s trajectory, her eventual happiness wasn't a dramatic love-on-the-run, it was a calm, loving partnership something Jing provided.

Jing made numerous sacrifices for her from letting her go when it seemed best for her, to nearly losing his life to protect her happiness. His love wasn't about ignoring her it was about honoring her choices. But some people willnt understand this.

Jing fell victim to clan politics and marriage obligations. His happiness was stripped away by schemes and duty, not by his own desires. There were moments of deep suffering feeling powerless and contemplating suicide but these were the result of losing nearly everything that mattered to him. His eventual peace came from choosing love and patience over destruction. If he didn't done suicide u will say why didn't he died with with her if he leaved her and than also some people will became sad. Ah! 😀

Who is the main couple in the story Xiang Liu and Xiaoyao or Jing and Xiaoyao?
The main couple, in a narrative and logical sense, is Jing and Xiaoyao. They grow together,(don't again come to quarrel with this grow tog😄) suffer together, resolve their obstacles, and find peace in each other's love. The story highlights their deep bond and eventual happiness a contrast to Xianglius tragedy which underscores Jing's role as the true counterpart for Xiaoyao. About lover bug she even wasn't aware of this but later xiangliu removed this . Okay she was in love with him than it's like she cheated Jing it's really sad for Jing.


I also disagree with Xiangliu (3rd male lead)and Xiaoyao main couple. Jings eventual peace with Xiaoyao underscores their deep, enduring bond in contrast to the tragedy of Xianglius love which, while profound, was a love of sacrifice and tragedy, not the happy ending that Jing and Xiaoyao find together.
I also don't want to you agree with me every one has own view . There is one say we behold e
reflections ourselves through others....

Jing nearly died for Xiaoyao that's sacrifice, not cowardice.

Your claim that “Jing gave up nothing” disregards all the moments Jing put his life on the line just to be there for her. His marriage was already ruined what will hedo with this marriage. He's the main lead bro why u are arguing he has to be with a lead who is his brotherslover. His marriage to FFYY was a political arrangement made under pressure not a loving relationship and it's unfair to say he chose reputation over love when, in reality, he risked everything his health, his future, his clan’s power just to stay true to Xiaoyao.<

Your view disregards context.Jing wasn't sneaking around his marriage was already a formality without feeling or loyalty from either side. Everyoner knew it was falling apart, and Jing fought hard to resolve it gracefully, honoring promises while honoring his own happiness.

He wasn't cowardly he was responsible. Jing didn't just break promises and destroy his clan's future on a whim. He tried to minimize harm to everyone involved including FFY while honoring his love for Xiaoyao. That kind of maturity isn’t cowardice it's a deep understanding of the people around him and their responsibilities.

Your view about selfish love is unfair.Jing's love wasn't about power or prestige it was about choosing happiness and peace in a world filled with political pressure. He walked away from privilege and safety to be true to his own heart. That’s not weak that's brave.

He never manipulated or forced Xiaoyao.Is she a child ??? She was the most cunning person in thedrama. She lived alone in her life she didn't give up always survived by her intelligence.Jing's motives were pure. He supported her choices and stood by her side even when it meant putting himself in danger or losing everything. His love wasn't a convenient match; it was a deep, painful, hard-won bond. So be clear Jing wasn't cowardly, manipulative, or weak. He was a man forced into impossible choices who chose love, loyalty, and conscience over power and prestige. This was his clan if he established what's the problem. When xl tortured her when he needed blood he drinked her blood without even her permission he choose his foster father over Xioyao it's not becaming matter but Jings one single line is mistake cunningness selfishness...😀

Your view disregards all the sacrifices, patience, and maturity that defined his character. I don't know about novel what I watched I m saying that . You're always claiming Hous child as his even u clearly know who's child is he. He loved her how can he abandon her!!!


After all in Xiaoyaos life one person didn't abandon her stay with her stay for her when her heart wasnt pure to him. What will I do with this all logic or claims even everyone in this drama was cunning selfish self centered.

I didn't said he run away from his marriage this marriage was already ruined. U are saying after believingin ffyy's scheme he shouldnt stay with her.! if he was cunning why didn't he breaked why didn't he shout at ffyy and return to Xiaoyao but he stayed he didn't abandon this ffyy and he also think better for Xiaoyao and stayed away from her bcz of her betterlife .

Jing stayed in a marriage that was already a sham . He wasn't choosing it ,it was a political trap. His marriage was a formality to keep peace, not a true bond of love or loyalty. So it's unfair to say he gave up when in reality the marriage was already a corpse.

Jing risked death countless times for Xiaoyao from nearly losing his life protecting her, to poisoning himself trying to find a way back to her. That’s not cowardice or passivity, it’s pure sacrifice.

He made promises to Xiaoyao under impossible conditions. It wasn't a betrayal; it was a vow to be true to her once the obstacles were gone. Staying committed to a political marriage isn’t a choice it’s a cage. His promises were made to the woman who truly mattered to him.

He never abandoned FFYY’s child he treated him nicely, loving and protecting him, It was only after the scandal when it was clear the child wasn't his that their bond was forced apart.

He ruined her marriage don't you think it was good after all it was a political marriage. What didn't he do when she was burninyin the fire he burned himself but protected her . It's the story where Xiaoyao is his strength his love where she helped him what's wrong with this!!! I totally don't understand.

Accusing him of “manipulating” Xiaoyao is unfair. He fell in love and fought for her in a hostile world. Staying in her clinic wasn't a trick it was a refuge, a place where their bond deepened honestly. His actions in Dragon Bone Prison were to aid and protect her, not to manipulate.

I watched the drama with two eyes I think some people have three eyes sl they watch some thing else.

So when you say Jing gave up he's cunning u ignore the context. I already watched the whole drama and I seen everyone's plotting everyones selfishness but some people always see wrong Jing. And now I understand why

When you say he stayed in marriage you ignore it was a political cage, not a loving bond and a distant relationship.

His promises, sacrifices, and choices were all made in service of protecting and honoring the person he truly cared about Xiaoyao.

If she choosed Xl or Cang Xuan I think she will not get a happy life like her mother and fathe4 .

I didn't read the novel and now I feel so sad that Xiaoyaos love toward Jing wasnt real although I feel it was reall while watching the drama.

She was awesome I didn't denied also Jing , Cang Xuan Xiang liu Feng long everyone was awesome. If she didn't choose what was the all episodes they should given àn ending without Jing and Xiaoyaos marriage.

The ending is the best happy ending don't worry keep going

Congratulations Deng Wei. Su Yishui is first ever character breaked 300 million heat index on iQyi.
Good luck keep going

In14 th June Deng Weis Su Yishui first ever character breaked 300million heat index in iQyi... He was also first to break Tencent historys 2 billion records as Tushan Jing.... Keep going Deng Wei Best of luck....

The whole drama was wonderful they was sometime so funny sometime so serious . after 30 episode it was really hard for me they made me cry. but I didn't thought Zhao Yanzhous wish of death and Zhuo Yichens promise to slay Zhao Yanzhou with his sword it will become true!!!!!! This really break my heart 💔

miss them

their journey was so hard but they always made it easy . so strong team. Their was less scenes of ml and fl but overall it was awesome.

You're missing key context and painting Jing unfairly. He didn’t repeatedly break promises he was manipulated and trapped by his clan and FFYF’s pregnancy scheme. When forced into a marriage he never wanted, he still tried to protect XY, risking his life multiple times (like at the wedding rescue and again when he was tortured saving her). That’s not cowardice that’s devotion under duress.


Misunderstandings between Xioyao and Jing came from real world stakes, not lack of love. Jing didn't ghost her over wine bottles he was literally detained and unable to send messages. Once free, he explained everything and never gave up on her, unlike Xiangliu who never even tried to claim her.

As for Xioyao never choosing Jing , if she didn't choose him or love him than what was all this YAOJINGS scenes and she did choose him over Feng Long twice. She left Feng Long the moment Jing returned. Even when she thought he was engaged to FFYY, her heart never truly moved on. Even she breaked her heart Jing didn’t selfishly destroy her engagemen ,he rescued her from a political marriage she never wanted.

And it was Yang Zis choice of view like majority of people it's okay to choose but there are many whom are in YAOJINGS team.

Selfless love? Jing sacrificed his power, status, and even his health for her. If that’s not selfless, what is?
Yes it all not about Jing bit in the whole drama they was main couple and in end their life journey begins.