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I defend JH so passionately because people excuse DH just on the basis of his sexuality. I do not agree with everything JH does. I do not even agree with people that say "a boyfriend like JH is great" because to me, he still has things to sort out and has some growing up to do. In the beginning of this show, I could have smacked him several times. He more than deserved it gosh. But to heap all the blame on him and think everything he is doing is from a bad place is what I do not like.
I also do not hate DH and I do not belittle his pain, but the problem is that he is too wrapped up in it. And when your problems start causing problems for others, it's time to re-evaluate. He has to stop running away. Someone in his position cannot get away with it forever because of the family he is from. If nothing else, his grandfather will drag him back or make him pay if he makes huge mistakes.

The step I need DH to take is to say that it is not true that he is getting married. That she is just his best friend. After all, only their families know about the marriage. The wedding cards have not been printed or distributed yet. So the main issue is to sort it out with their families. They only have to say that it was a fake marriage because DH wanted to be able to flee to NY without inheriting the company and it would have been a new start for AJ. He gets to protect his secret and himself, and his brother and AJ are safe too. Why does he have to tell the world his secret when it is really not their business? They do not need to know.
Honestly, if DH and JH had an honest conversation years ago, or even now, a lot of this could have been avoided.

LOOOOL You're reading without comprehension AGAIN! The point is that if you claim to love someone, you do not abandon them, whether the person is a minor or an adult. That is why there is an example with parents and one with friends. I NEVER said DH needed to be responsible for JH. By the way, there are responsibilities shared in families to make things work. The system whereby we have to stand as individuals that do not care about others is terrible. It leads to many issues. DH like I SAID, did not have to nanny his brother, but he should not have abandoned him, especially when he knew what he was going through. JH's behaviour is a trauma response, and while that is bad, it is something that is fixable, same as DH being a selfish coward. He just needs to stop running away, because he cannot run forever. If DH had opened up more, had taken a step towards being brave, he and his brother would have a better relationship. He does not even need to tell his brother about his sexuality for that to happen. JH said he never knew what his brother wanted to do with his life, and so he knew nothing else than to plan it for him because of the guilt he feels, because of the need he feels to make restitution for what he did as a child.
In all TEN episodes, DH has always basically said he fled because of the issue with his ex. Not because of JH or really even his grandpa, but because he was a coward and could not confront the issue. He practically said that all this time. So what you are saying about being tired of JH is moot.
You are being hypocritical. You say that JH was being selfish for not marrying CW whom he does not love, for the sake of the company, in order to protect his love. But JH was a terrible person for trying to get CW and DH to get married for the sake of establishing DH in the company?

But that would be very unfair to him. And would mean like I said, he still doesn't like JH. JH has been doing his best in obscurity and disdain from his family since. No way that man will tell me he loves him when he's sending him off to be a sacrificial lamb.

If this theory is right, it would explain why grandpa does not want the legitimate siblings to inherit the company. Their father's greed caused many problems and giving his child the management rights would be rewarding him some more for what he did. He already took her shares and property, and the grandpa already covered for him with the accident, so that's enough.
On the other hand, either grandpa was also fooled by JH with the press con, or he let it happen because he still dislikes him for having to save him over his daughter.

I'm waiting for that half-sister to get what is coming for her. It seems that it was her father that caused the accident. And that would make perfect sense because I always wondered why the person chasing the mother's car was being so aggressive. It did not make sense for the reporter to do so because it was night time and it was raining. What kind of scoop could he have gotten by pushing the car off the road? Just patiently wait some distance from their house, since JH already took him there, and you'd be able to get pictures for daysss.

For those saying DH did not have to be responsible for JH because he was an adult, think about this, is it okay for parents to abandon their children once they reach the age of 18? Is it okay for people you consider dear to you to ghost you and run away to protect themselves, when they know you are struggling too and you both have been supporting each other?
DH did not have to stay in Korea, and he did not have to nanny his brother. But he could have at least been genuinely worried about him, visit a few times, or at the very least, allow JH to visit, which he would have. He did none of that. He fled the country because he was a coward, never once visited his "only" family, and did not give him his address either for him to visit.
This episode showed that everyone cared about DH and tried to protect him, but he was so focused on his pain and did not care what they went through, and that is terrible. See how easy it was for him to try to persuade AJ to run to NY with him after finding out about her and his brother. He basically said let's continue with this plan that is about protecting me even though you want out for something more important to you.

At least, in the end, he tried to protect them. This is the beginning of his character development. Hopefully, next week, he'll finally be able to do damage control so that things will end well.

BRUHHH! I'm screaming

Lol. Then stop accusing him.

That's somewhat different because this case involves her. He needs to know too to plan his next steps. This is not a grave secret like his sexuality.

This is incomparable because it's not his secret share. Meanwhile her marriage fake is hers to share. She just has to keep the main reason, on DH's side, to herself because again, it's not her secret to share.

I now fully believe you are watching DH with rose coloured glasses. Everyone has told DH that he is a coward, and he even called himself that. Has admitted to running away for his own sake and not anyone else's. And was talking to AJ about his grandpa's offer and how he could protect himself with the position because it'd be hard to reach him there. No where in this story have they EVER said he was doing it for the family. If it was really for his family, he would have told his brother. He would have a plan in place to counter the bad press it would bring and to prevent it from coming out. Right now, he has been afraid that his ex told somebody in his family or something, like he said to AJ.

Me too. I wrote a whole essay on grandpa's involvement in all this last week.

It's true. And that's why I've been defending JH since. JH has his flaws and DH has valid fears, but JH has been the most misunderstood and villainized.

They really didn't. They didn't think of a lot of things.

I'm counting on grandpa to put a stop to this reporter because he's the one that actually has me uneasy.

Anyway, the moral lesson is that you should not sign a contract for a fake relationship and start introducing each other to your family and friends, because you may find true love in the process and regret it when it gets messy lol.

Someone said JH should have just sat DH down and talked to him about his secret and stuff and I get why he can't really do that. That ex already took away DH's choice and chance to be the one to open up to his brother about something so important. JH does not want to take that away from him twice. He wants him to be able to tell him himself. Also, his doing that for his feelings. That it'd be nice for DH to trust him enough to share it with him. He has been waiting for his brother to trust him enough to share his secrets and plans with him.

I honestly can't believe that people watched episode 8 and still called JH selfish. That people watched it and concluded that he does not care about his brother.
DH has always been running away and everyone has told him this and he says nothing to defend himself because he knows it's true. He's been so fixated on pitying himself and trying to keep his secret that he did not really care about the people around him. He ran away to NY five years ago because of what happened with his ex. And he came back for the first time in 5 years because he was afraid of being exposed because of those pictures he received. Imagine that he never even told JH where he lived so he was not able to visit him there in FIVE YEARS.

And finally, JH said a reason he has been so pushy. He has no idea what his brother plans on doing with his life. He knows absolutely nothing because his brother won't communicate. And so he does not even know how to properly support him. Sacrificing himself to give him the company is the only thing he knows to do for his brother and so he is hyper-fixated on it. And this is fuelled by guilt and trauma.

It is like changing wigs. She's changing to match her outfits and mood. Feels rich. She got extensions dyed in the exact colour of her real hair and she can keep doing it with whatever colour she dyes her hair. I actually find it cool. And she has to have a personal stylist or a reserved spot in the salon or something.

I just realised that what grandpa is doing to DH is the same as what JH was doing to him. There is a reason grandpa insists on giving DH the company, and we know it is not to cause him harm. Maybe we'll get his pov in ep 10. I really hope so. I have been waiting for it.

So pity for being gay is more understandable than guilt, which everyone in your family makes you feel too, for both your parents dying?
They both have valid reasons for their feelings and this statement is belittling one.

And it's true. DH is selfish. From the beginning, he's just been trying to protect himself without really caring about the feelings of others. JH has been trying to redeem his childhood mistakes and trauma by doing what he thinks is best for those he loves. Working hard to get DH the company, and taking all the hate thrown at him from the rest of his family without fighting back. But he's been overbearing and really pushy about it.
They both have valid issues, & it's part of their character development to overcome them.